Poll of the Day > Do you think it's ok for a 45 yr old to be in a serious relationship w/ an 18

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do you think so

It's legal, but it's fucking weird.

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Every situation is different but for the most part I would say no

It may not be illegal but it doesnt really seem right to me

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Mead posted...

Every situation is different but for the most part I would say no

It may not be illegal but it doesnt really seem right to me

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Serious relationship no.. for a 45 year old guy to be interested in a 18 year old girl.. that guy has serious issues.

My wife's youngest sister started seeing a 25 year old guy when she was 18 and let's just say that 25 year old doesn't come around me or the wife's dad anymore. Disgusting.

Now if it's just nsa sex eh.. what ever then.

There are definitely specific situations where it's fine, depending on the people involved. I feel like that's probably the exception though. As a rule it's creepy.

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Dunno. Why should anyone care? I've never had one so if there are rules I wouldn't know about it.

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It's pretty weird, maybe even a little suspicious, but if they're both okay with it and there's no clear indication that the younger is being manipulated, it's nobody's business but their own to decide who to love.

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No, it signals to me there's something wrong or stunted in the man.

Or woman I guess but usually men are the ones dating much younger.

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Of course not. Under 18 would be different.
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not particularly. it's on the creepy side, and raises a red flag or two, but that's just my opinion.

if that's the kind of thing that makes both happy, than so be it. I suppose it could be the same with cougars going for younger men

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Of Course its fine. If an 18 yo man has a thing for milfs who am I to say its wrong?

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i could never be with someone that much younger than me. when i was younger, i thought that anyone more than 2 years younger than me was too young. but my current gf is 4 years younger than me. i think 4 is my max. i mean 5. 5 is my max.

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As long as they both truly love each other and no one is doing it for alternative reasons and is treating the other as an equal. Then I see 100% no problem with it.


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Sequiro posted...

As long as they both truly love each other and no one is doing it for alternative reasons and is treating the other as an equal. Then I see 100% no problem with it.

That doesnt even describe most of my normal relationships smh

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When I was 22 I felt as if I was in a different place than chicks that were 18 and 19.

So what the fuck can an 18 year old and a 45 really have in common?

Babe, my 30s were the best years of my life.

Oh really? I cant wait until I reach my 30s!

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Its fine...relationships are all different. Just find someone you enjoy hanging out with that shares your values. Depends on how you met.

if they are both happy and not hurting anyone why not!

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if a meth person wants to do meth and it makes him happy and hes not hurting anyone why not!

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boy scouts leader: love is love! age does not matter!!

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Sequiro posted...

As long as they both truly love each other and no one is doing it for alternative reasons and is treating the other as an equal. Then I see 100% no problem with it.

This. If they love each other and nothing bad is happening, I see no reason why they can't be in a relationship...
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There are plenty mature, intelligent, and respectful 18 year old girls. But even if she's a bit immature and naive, so what? At least she won't be crazy and jaded from years of uninhibited sexual experiences.

And if you maintain a healthy relationship, it'll work out nicely over the years. If you look at it in the long term, after several years she'll be in mid 20s which is literally the apex of femininity in a women.

Women mature/peak quickly, usually 20, 25. Men vary a lot more, some hit peak maturity at 25, others at 45.

All that said, I do think it would be rather unusual, especially in social settings. Are you going to hang out with her college friends? Or she is going to go to dinner parties with you and married couples with kids her own age? If that doesn't matter to you, then who gives a fuck? Personally, I prefer to keep my social life seperate from girls im seeing, so that wouldn't be an issue.

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VVingless_____ posted...

There are plenty mature, intelligent, and respectful 18 year old girls. But even if she's a bit immature and naive, so what? At least she won't be crazy and jaded from years of uninhibited sexual experiences.

And if you maintain a healthy relationship, it'll work out nicely over the years. If you look at it in the long term, after several years she'll be in mid 20s which is literally the apex of femininity in a women.

Women mature/peak quickly, usually 20, 25. Men vary a lot more, some hit peak maturity at 25, others at 45.

All that said, I do think it would be rather unusual, especially in social settings. Are you going to hang out with her college friends? Or she is going to go to dinner parties with you and married couples with kids her own age? If that doesn't matter to you, then who gives a fuck? Personally, I prefer to keep my social life seperate from girls im seeing, so that wouldn't be an issue.

You sound like a neckbeard who has never been in a relationship.

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VVingless_____ posted...

Women mature/peak quickly, usually 20, 25. Men vary a lot more, some hit peak maturity at 25, others at 45.

Get this garbage out of here

For the topic question:
It's legally fine and socially/emotionally questionable (see: power dynamics)

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RCtheWSBC posted...

Get this garbage out of here

It's just the truth, why do almost never see older women with younger men? Why do you think Leo DiCaprio only dates women 25 and under?

Jen0125 posted...

You sound like a neckbeard who has never been in a relationship.

What did I say that you specifically disagree with? And actually, I would have said the exact opposite of everything I said above when I was sexually inexperienced.

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VVingless_____ posted...

It's just the truth

Nah

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VVingless_____ posted...

There are plenty mature, intelligent, and respectful 18 year old girls. But even if she's a bit immature and naive, so what? At least she won't be crazy and jaded from years of uninhibited sexual experiences.

And if you maintain a healthy relationship, it'll work out nicely over the years. If you look at it in the long term, after several years she'll be in mid 20s which is literally the apex of femininity in a women.

Women mature/peak quickly, usually 20, 25. Men vary a lot more, some hit peak maturity at 25, others at 45.

All that said, I do think it would be rather unusual, especially in social settings. Are you going to hang out with her college friends? Or she is going to go to dinner parties with you and married couples with kids her own age? If that doesn't matter to you, then who gives a fuck? Personally, I prefer to keep my social life seperate from girls im seeing, so that wouldn't be an issue.

you need to leave your moms basement

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Bulbasaur posted...

you need to leave your moms basement

Again more insults instead of actually addressing points. Sry but Jen and RC aren't going to e-**** you because you are supporting them.

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VVingless_____ posted...

but Jen and RC aren't going to e-**** you because you are supporting them.

Lmao yawn, pathetic. Helly's actually got a wife and kid, dumbass.

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VVingless_____ posted...

Again more insults instead of actually addressing points. Sry but Jen and RC aren't going to e-**** you because you are supporting them.

you really need to leave your moms basement

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Bulbasaur posted...

you really need to leave your moms basement

RCtheWSBC posted...

Lmao yawn, pathetic. Helly's actually got a wife and kid, dumbass.

You know you've won the argument when people just resort to insults.

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you don't have an argument

you have the ramblings of someone who hasn't ever even been looked at by a woman

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You literally just insulted helly though? So you aren't winning shit either. There is nothing to win here. Go live out your truth alone, honey.

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Bulbasaur posted...

you don't have an argument

you have the ramblings of someone who hasn't ever even been looked at by a woman

As much as I am tempted to show you what I look like and tell you stories of my experiences, I won't, because that has nothing to do with anything. I wrote a big paragraph and your only response is insults which tells me you don't have a counter argument.

RCtheWSBC posted...

You literally just insulted helly though? So you aren't winning shit either. There is nothing to win here. Go live out your truth alone, honey.

How else can I response to someone who only spews insults?

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It's just not worth arguing with misogynists who devolve a woman's worth into how many men she's slept with

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Jen0125 posted...

It's just not worth arguing with misogynists who devolve a woman's worth into how many men she's slept with

??? Where did you get that? I never said that women sleeping around is bad nor did I say it had anything to do with their worth. I prefer women who have a moderate sexual experience.

I was referring more to the type of women who sleep around excessively and indiscriminately and get messed up from not learning how to maintain long term healthy relationships.

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Jen0125 posted...

It's just not worth arguing with misogynists who devolve a woman's worth into how many men she's slept with

Men seem to value themselves that way...

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VVingless_____ posted...

As much as I am tempted to show you what I look like and tell you stories of my experiences

go ahead and browse aff, i'll wait

VVingless_____ posted...

I wrote a big paragraph and your only response is insults which tells me you don't have a counter argument.

because

Bulbasaur posted...

you don't have an argument

lets break it down

>There are plenty mature, intelligent, and respectful 18 year old girls.
>Women mature/peak quickly, usually 20, 25.

so which is it.

> At least she won't be crazy and jaded from years of uninhibited sexual experiences.

citation needed, and no, anecdotal evidence does not count.

> If you look at it in the long term, after several years she'll be in mid 20s which is literally the apex of femininity in a women.

the apex of femininity, or rather, sexual prime, is completely made up. because what it's really meaning, is libido, which is something that varies wildly in all women, at all ages after puberty. a 20 year old woman can have the same libido as a woman in her 80s.

so no, you have no argument. you have the inane mentality of someone who has never actually been in a relationship and and based your entire reasoning from just watching porn.

the mere fact you said this

VVingless_____ posted...

Again more insults instead of actually addressing points. Sry but Jen and RC aren't going to e-**** you because you are supporting them.

speaks volumes. and not good volumes, either.

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Bulbasaur posted...

go ahead and browse aff, i'll wait

because

lets break it down

>There are plenty mature, intelligent, and respectful 18 year old girls.
>Women mature/peak quickly, usually 20, 25.

so which is it.

> At least she won't be crazy and jaded from years of uninhibited sexual experiences.

citation needed, and no, anecdotal evidence does not count.

> If you look at it in the long term, after several years she'll be in mid 20s which is literally the apex of femininity in a women.

the apex of femininity, or rather, sexual prime, is completely made up. because what it's really meaning, is libido, which is something that varies wildly in all women, at all ages after puberty. a 20 year old woman can have the same libido as a woman in her 80s.

so no, you have no argument. you have the inane mentality of someone who has never actually been in a relationship and and based your entire reasoning from just watching porn.

I saw some shit on Twitter last week that can confirm this.
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Bulbasaur posted...

so which is it.

Some women peak/mature at 18 (in that context, by "peak" I meant their feminine spirit, intelligence, liveliness, looks, or whatever, in a general sense), others do at 20,25. I was merely addressing TCs question by pointing out that yes, some 18 year old women are in the prime of their life.

citation needed, and no, anecdotal evidence does not count.

There are no scientific studies I know of that examine the effects of women having sex with 100+ men before they're 30. So of course something like that is based on observation/anecdote.

the apex of femininity, or rather, sexual prime, is completely made up. because what it's really meaning, is libido, which is something that varies wildly in all women, at all ages after puberty. a 20 year old woman can have the same libido as a woman in her 80s.

I'm not talking about libido in that context. In that context I was specifically talking about peak fertility, which is when a women is most vibrant, youthful, and beautiful, though I am not saying that older women aren't sexy, because they definitely can be, and some women actually look better in their 30s than their 20s.

so no, you have no argument. you have the inane mentality of someone who has never actually been in a relationship and and based your entire reasoning from just watching porn.

Porn is poison, I do not watch it.

the mere fact you said this
speaks volumes. and not good volumes, either.

That was a joke, but obviously the white knight phenomonen is a very real thing.

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That is about the age difference between my partner and myself.

xjayguyx posted...

Serious relationship no.. for a 45 year old guy to be interested in a 18 year old girl.. that guy has serious issues.

My wife's youngest sister started seeing a 25 year old guy when she was 18 and let's just say that 25 year old doesn't come around me or the wife's dad anymore. Disgusting.

Now if it's just nsa sex eh.. what ever then.

dont mean to be rude but this sounds like your family has the biggest problem. Thats not even a big age gap

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I am 26 and would feel weird dating an 18 year old, but its legal so whatever

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As long as your both happy what's it matter? And 18 is legal so whatever. Most of the guys Ive dated have been at least 10 years older then me.

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Ohioguy1980 posted...

That is about the age difference between my partner and myself.

You dirty dog, you.

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xjayguyx posted...

Serious relationship no.. for a 45 year old guy to be interested in a 18 year old girl.. that guy has serious issues.

My wife's youngest sister started seeing a 25 year old guy when she was 18 and let's just say that 25 year old doesn't come around me or the wife's dad anymore. Disgusting.

Now if it's just nsa sex eh.. what ever then.

I agree 45 is weird... but honestly I feel like you are way too judgmental if you panick for 18-25

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Lil_Bit83 posted...

As long as your both happy what's it matter? And 18 is legal so whatever. Most of the guys Ive dated have been at least 10 years older then me.

I am currently in a relationship with someone who is 23 and I am 31. I swear outside of this board I never seen people saying so much shit about people with an age difference. Like how does it affect them if both person are consensuals and no position of authority is involved? Why do they even care? They should just mind their business(btw there is nothing wrong with wanting to date someone the same age as you, I am not referring to people who want a max 3 years difference, but those who are judgmental toward the other couples)

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epik_fail1 posted...

Like how does it affect them if both person are consensuals and no position of authority is involved?

Once the age difference becomes more than a generation, that kinda becomes a form of authority.

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Nichtcrawler X posted...

Once the age difference becomes more than a generation, that kinda becomes a form of authority.

I mean 18-45 is weird I admit, but I know a lesbian couple that met in a bar at those age and so far they have been together for 7 years.

I would personally not date a 45 years old, but what they are doing with their life and their bodies is none of my business. Do I find is odd? Yes, but I respect their choice as it's their bodies and lives, not mine.

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