Poll of the Day > Should a 23 year old man date a 19 year old woman?

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My friend (23M) just started dating a 19 year old girl and I think it's so weird. We hang out at bars, he can't bring her into a bar. There's just something weird about it! I know it's only a 4 year difference but I think it's only acceptable for there to be an age gap that wide after a certain amount of years. Like idk, when he's 25 and she's 21? Maybe even that is too weird.

Nothing is wrong with this, they are both adults.
4 years isnt alot in the grand scheme of things.
Now if he was 18 dating a 14 year old sure.

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its only 4 years who cares
mind ya buisness

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It's not weird at all but it is inconvenient if you wanna go for drinks

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thats fine, but he should probably find things to do besides hanging out at bars
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yeah sure who cares

It's fine. 4 years is fine. I'm 5 years older than my wife. You guys will need to find new spots to hang out if you don't want to be inconvenienced

My wife is in charge of a 21 year old (long story) and it's not uncommon for her to need to chase away guys in their late 30's trying to date her. But every guy is obviously not trying to date her and only trying to get a hook up or take advantage of her. Almost 20 years is not fine

Maybe you have a problem if all you do is hang out at bars and him having a gf well in range of normal is "interfering" with it.

Metalsonic66 posted...

It's not weird at all but it is inconvenient if you wanna go for drinks

Pretty much. It abides by the golden rule (23/2+7=18.5), which is only ever a rough guideline anyway, but it presents a problem if hanging out in bars with SO's tagging along is your primary mode of spending time with your friends. That is pretty easy to circumvent, though (don't bring her along, or just hang out at somebody's home instead and enjoy cheaper drinks), so even that isn't much cause for objection.

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Are you one of those guys that insists anything not within 2 years is creepy?

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19, dating a literal teen, what a pedo.

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Seems alright to me. Could just not go to a bar

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I was 21 and my gf ( now wife ) was 17. I'm now 33 and she's 29. Meh

My coworker and her husband are 15 years apart (25 and 40)

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SilentSeph posted...

My coworker and her husband are 15 years apart (25 and 40)

Is he like, a good looking 40? or rough 40?

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I mean, I'm 5 years older than my wife, but we met at 33 (almost 34) and 28 so 4 years is nothing, its just mostly inconvenient with where you can go at that age.

They're both adults and he's not old enough to be her dad. It's fine.


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darcandkharg31 posted...

Is he like, a good looking 40? or rough 40?

Well he looks......40 lol I thought he was her dad at first

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THEGODDAMNBATMA posted...

My friend (23M) just started dating a 19 year old girl and I think it's so weird.

Well you would do. Nothing wrong with it as both are adults. As for the bar thing? Surely she could go into them as you don't need to drink alcohol to be in a bar. Even if she can't believe it or not but folk do other things than hang out at bars. Crazy I know! Seems to me you're jealous of your "friend".

CTLM posted...

Almost 20 years is not fine

Providing both are adults I wouldn't care.

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Yellow posted...

Are you one of those guys that insists anything not within 2 years is creepy?

No, I just don't think a big age gap is appropriate until a little later on. Like if it was 26 and 21 I would be fine with it.

THEGODDAMNBATMA posted...

Like if it was 26 and 21 I would be fine with it.

Thankfully they don't live their lifes seeking your approval.


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When I was 23, I thought it was a little awkward to date a 19 y/o. Then years later, I was much more okay with dating 19 y/os. Like they say, with age comes perspective.

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I always find it weird that people think its odd to date someone you could have gone to the same Highschool/College with. Four years is nothing, if you are looking for someone you want to be with for the rest of your life.

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The old rule was don't date someone younger than half your age plus seven. By that metric, he's in the clear.

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THEGODDAMNBATMA posted...

My friend (23M) just started dating a 19 year old girl and I think it's so weird. We hang out at bars, he can't bring her into a bar. There's just something weird about it! I know it's only a 4 year difference but I think it's only acceptable for there to be an age gap that wide after a certain amount of years. Like idk, when he's 25 and she's 21? Maybe even that is too weird.

Theres something weird about your drinking laws, not their difference in age. Ive worked with eighteen-year-olds who go out drinking all night then go to high school the next day. Your friend and his gf can go to pubs that serve food as well as drinks.

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deoxxys posted...

I always find it weird that people think its odd to date someone you could have gone to the same Highschool/College with. Four years is nothing, if you are looking for someone you want to be with for the rest of your life.

4 years at that age feels a lot more than 4 years at a later age, considering the percentage of life.

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not for free

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I've been to certain bars that allow 18 year olds in, but they can't drink. Almost like club. But it depends on the bar. I also know that Texas (and maybe other places as well) has a law that you can drink under 21 provided you are married to someone over 21 who is there. You do have to have the marriage certificate. I had friends who have used this rule. So, I've seen it multiple times.

As for the dating, it's not weird. Like many others have said, 4 years is nothing. Provided that they are both adults, it doesn't matter. Not to mention, it seems like they could have gone to school together. Also, They shouldn't have to wait a few more years before dating just so it can be ok with you.
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Why would it be weird for a collage senior and collage freshman to date each other? What kind of stupid question is this?

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I was 23 when I married my then 19 year-old wife. We've been married almost two decades now. The age difference was never enough to be an issue.

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Just a reminder that famous people in their 50-60s+ are dating people half their age. Young women in other countries are attempting suicide because they dont want to marry some old geezer. No girl is at the bar looking to date the same way as they did before 21. You should rethink how the world works.

JoseAAV posted...

Young women in other countries are attempting suicide because they dont want to marry some old geezer.

Where is this a major issue these days?

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zebatov posted...

Theres something weird about your drinking laws, not their difference in age.

This too. I mean 18 year old can drink alcohol legally over here so there isn't anything a 18 year old can't when compared to any other adults for the most part. Although if you can drink alcohol or not legally seems a weird thing to base this off but here we are.

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I think TC is jealous of his friend.

https://youtu.be/qYkbTyHXwbs

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I heard the age difference can be dealt with by dating multiple 18-19 year olds. So if your like 40, just date 2 of them, and if your 60, just date 3 and it's fine.

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No problem there.

He just needs to be sure to protects himself from the false #metoo claims that might come in 20 years.

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Don't really see a problem with it im 23 and dated an 18 year old she could come in the bar just couldn't order any alcohol.

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The_tall_midget posted...

No problem there.

He just needs to be sure to protects himself from the false #metoo claims that might come in 20 years.

*eye roll*

You cant drink or smoke together so whats the point of even existing.

Zeus posted...

4 years at that age feels a lot more than 4 years at a later age, considering the percentage of life.

It also means they're at different stages of life, in many cases. The aforementioned 21 and 17 one is kind of weird to me, because 18-22 (typical university age) is an age range where people often mature quite dramatically due to being out on their own and making concrete decisions about their careers and futures. Being in a relationship with somebody who's still in high school therefor just seems odd to me. Of course, individuals vary and there's no shortage of couples in those ages ranges for whom the maturity difference isn't present, so that's hardly an absolute thing.

Im of the strong belief that that growing done is from life experiences not simply growing older. Numbers don't just make you wiser. People shouldn't be sheltered because experiences help them grow. Better to make mistakes younger then to make those same mistakes instead when you are in your mid/late twenties, like me lol.

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I have never dated someone younger than me.

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wolfy42 posted...

I have never dated someone younger than me.

i didn't know wolves hunted cougars

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wolfy42 posted...

I heard the age difference can be dealt with by dating multiple 18-19 year olds. So if your like 40, just date 2 of them, and if your 60, just date 3 and it's fine.

I like the way you think!

_AdjI_ posted...

It also means they're at different stages of life, in many cases. The aforementioned 21 and 17 one is kind of weird to me, because 18-22 (typical university age) is an age range where people often mature quite dramatically due to being out on their own and making concrete decisions about their careers and futures. Being in a relationship with somebody who's still in high school therefor just seems odd to me. Of course, individuals vary and there's no shortage of couples in those ages ranges for whom the maturity difference isn't present, so that's hardly an absolute thing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nPZEVmCnRI

deoxxys posted...

Im of the strong belief that that growing done is from life experiences not simply growing older.

Pretty much, although you also have intellectual and emotional development that's a byproduct of aging

wolfy42 posted...

I have never dated someone younger than me.

Ew

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TheSlinja posted...

its only 4 years who cares
mind ya business

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wolfy42 posted...

I have never dated someone younger than me.

Huh. Is that just the way things worked out? Like you've had 5 girlfriends in your life and they just happened to be all older?

I've dated 5 years older (my first wife) and as much as 8 years younger. My wife is 5 years younger than me.

It wasn't dating but was hooking up with someone 12 years older than me at point on a regular basis. That was pretty fun

They're both adults, and 4 years doesn't seem like a very big age difference, so I see no problem with this. However, if I were the guy, I'd feel weird going onto her college's campus to hang out with her and her college friends; I'd just feel like an invader. It's simply a feeling I have; I'm not sure where it came from.

OmegaM posted...

They're both adults, and 4 years doesn't seem like a very big age difference, so I see no problem with this. However, if I were the guy, I'd feel weird going onto her college's campus to hang out with her and her college friends; I'd just feel like an invader. It's simply a feeling I have; I'm not sure where it came from.

they go to the same college.

I don't see it as a problem. I was 18 or 19 and I dated a 24 year old guy.

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Rule I've always heard is half your age plus 7

23/2 = 11.5 + 7 = 18.5

But when the younger person gets to like 25 then who cares really

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