Poll of the Day > What's worse: VERBAL or PHYSICAL Bullying???

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According to statistics, 55% of people say "verbal" bullying is worse..which is mostly done by females...let's see what people will vote.

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Anybody who says verbal has never been properly physically bullied.
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mrduckbear posted...

According to statistics, 55% of people say "verbal" bullying is worse..which is mostly done by females...let's see what people will vote.

Again, not sure where you get that shit from. Probably APU -- Ass Pull University. When done in equal measure, physical is *always* worse than verbal and physical is almost always accompanied by verbal.
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physical. i've been verbally abused since I was a child. by middle school it didn't effect me anymore. where as physical abuse will never not hurt.
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Obviously physical abuse is worse. This isn't even a question.

Verbal is worse, physical you can fight back and kick ass but verbal is done behind your back where you can't.

minervo posted...

Verbal is worse, physical you can fight back and kick ass but verbal is done behind your back where you can't.

thing is with physical abuse, they rarely go after the ones they think are going to fight back, and then sometimes its multiple people on one.

and i'll always stand by if you let mere words "scar" you from some random dipshit at school then you got some problems. I could see it maybe if it was your mother/father doing it to you.
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How about fucking all forms of bullying?
How hard is it to just be excellent to each other?

knivesX2004 posted...

How about fucking all forms of bullying?
How hard is it to just be excellent to each other?

both are bad, but one is clearly worse. why is that hard to realize?

I mean if I was standing there and witnessing two incidents going on at once, in one a group of kids is beating up another, and the other group is just picking on a kid. i'm going to prioritize stopping the fight first, then dealing with the others.
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mooreandrew58 posted...

minervo posted...

Verbal is worse, physical you can fight back and kick ass but verbal is done behind your back where you can't.

thing is with physical abuse, they rarely go after the ones they think are going to fight back, and then sometimes its multiple people on one.

and i'll always stand by if you let mere words "scar" you from some random dipshit at school then you got some problems. I could see it maybe if it was your mother/father doing it to you.

You're reading my mind, my parents are my worst bullies but I'm also a psycho so if some random idiot started a physical fight with me, one of us is going in the morgue the other one to jail. I hate all bullying tho

minervo posted...

Verbal is worse, physical you can fight back and kick ass but verbal is done behind your back where you can't.

That's social bullying, acting to damage your reputation and social life. (You don't necessarily have to communicate at all to get this done.)

Verbal bullying is saying vile, vicious things and trying to hurt you verbally even as far as to make you want to hurt yourself.

Physical bullying is basically directly destroying anything that matters to you, whether that be stealing your phone or smashing out your teeth.

Verbal and social bullying can be ignored or cancelled out but a fight is going to hurt you whether you block or not and can basically scale until somebody gets killed.
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Why do we need to decide which is worse?

They're both bad, and are a tricky problem to solve
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Mead posted...

Why do we need to decide which is worse?

They're both bad, and are a tricky problem to solve

Because when you have limited resources, splitting your focus means nerfing your ability to help.

How are you on a gaming forum when you don't even understand basic management?
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minervo posted...

Verbal is worse, physical you can fight back and kick ass but verbal is done behind your back where you can't.

Except it wouldn't be verbal bullying if it were just done behind your back. This is about the kind said directly to you. And, if something is said to you, you can respond in kind. Or, if you're a brute, you can respond with violence.

More importantly, most of the physical bullying -- as others have noted -- involve situations were the bullied is at a severe disadvantage either in size, strength, or numbers.
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Easily physical. Sticks and stones, you know
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Verbal is worse. The actual attack is not as bad as heavy physical bullying, but society is so confused as to what is and is not verbal (really, psychological, which is what I think was the actual intent of the question here) bullying that all the wrong people are punished. The stuff that really hurt is often considered harmless. Yet people go batsh.. crazy about stuff that seriously doesn't matter.

So the real victims are forced to endure, while often being accused of being bullies themselves. That's seriously bad.

ShadosAtPhoenix posted...

So the real victims are forced to endure, while often being accused of being bullies themselves. That's seriously bad.

You know what's worse? A kid in a Japanese school being forced to repeatedly jump out of a second floor window by other students to practice killing themself. And they eventually did. Physical bullying can be just as psychologically damaging as verbal bullying, except it always has physical harm too.
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That's somewhat subjective. Situationally, each one can be worse in its own way and neither is conclusively worse, as in, there's no situation you can name where I can't think of something worse from the other, and I've experienced both growing up in school.
This is not something we should try to say one is worse than the other, they're both terrible and need to be stopped, but as responding will never be as fact as reacting it's better to teach people to defend themselves. Again, I'm not saying we shouldn't act, but the chances of people who can intervene being present when someone is being abused is slim to none, and even if they're called, they can never act as fast as the target of abuse. If we can teach them to defend themselves, at least enough to escape, and not punish them for doing so (as often happens in schools nowadays) it will work far better for the future.

Im loling thinking about the people saying verbal in this situation:

mooreandrew58 posted...

I mean if I was standing there and witnessing two incidents going on at once, in one a group of kids is beating up another, and the other group is just picking on a kid. i'm going to prioritize stopping the fight first, then dealing with the others.

Verbal person ignores the kid being punched in the face for the group of boys calling another one a c***.

The reason why verbal abuse is voted by some people as being worse is because often times, it's not done by random people. It's done by the people we love and who mean the world to us. It creates a feeling of betrayal. And because it's from the ones we love, the abuse becomes believable to the abused. The victim loses confidence and it creates dependency that again results in more abuse.

And then these things just escalate to physical abuse too.

Verbal abuse from a family member is not easy to escape. It's not as if you can just run away and hide somewhere. No. In this case, you live with the tormentor. The home where you're supposed to feel safe becomes a minefield. It's toxic and the effects are longlasting. And that's because the words stick and inevitably shape one's personality, attitude and choices in life.
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Alexandra_Trent posted...

And then these things just escalate to physical abuse too.

That alone shows physical is worse.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

And then these things just escalate to physical abuse too.

That alone shows physical is worse.

Not really.
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ShadosAtPhoenix posted...

Verbal is worse. The actual attack is not as bad as heavy physical bullying, but society is so confused as to what is and is not verbal (really, psychological, which is what I think was the actual intent of the question here) bullying that all the wrong people are punished. The stuff that really hurt is often considered harmless. Yet people go batsh.. crazy about stuff that seriously doesn't matter.

So the real victims are forced to endure, while often being accused of being bullies themselves. That's seriously bad.

So you're arguing that the real bullies aren't the name-callers, but instead the person called names? What?

Alexandra_Trent posted...

The reason why verbal abuse is voted by some people as being worse is because often times, it's not done by random people. It's done by the people we love and who mean the world to us. It creates a feeling of betrayal. And because it's from the ones we love, the abuse becomes believable to the abused. The victim loses confidence and it creates dependency that again results in more abuse.

And then these things just escalate to physical abuse too.

Verbal abuse from a family member is not easy to escape. It's not as if you can just run away and hide somewhere. No. In this case, you live with the tormentor. The home where you're supposed to feel safe becomes a minefield. It's toxic and the effects are longlasting. And that's because the words stick and inevitably shape one's personality, attitude and choices in life.

Sure, in the case of verbal abuse among family members it does usually become physical. And it's really a more a problem when it becomes physical. If you're a kid, you can't really do much. If you're a romantic partner, you can leave which people frequently do. Granted, it's easier with a good support network -- lots of friends and family -- which is why some abusers try to isolate the person.
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The real answer is "it depends." It's going to vary from situation to situation. One case of physical bulling may be worse than one case of verbal bullying. A different case of verbal bullying may be worse than a different case of physical bullying, though. Any answer that's a flat "one is always worse than the other" is wrong, though, like that worse-than-useless "sticks and stones" saying.
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I would say that generally verbal abuse is worse. That shit can easily stay with you for life. Most physical abuse is temporary unless you get a serious injury.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Anybody who says verbal has never been properly physically bullied.

You can fight back against physical bullying. You can't really respond to verbal without fueling the fire or being the bad guy in the situation when you make it physical.

But enough verbal bullying seems to be able to convince people of false truths about themselves, based on what I'd seen when I was in school. Plus, verbal bullying usually means a lot of people are doing it, versus one or two jackasses.
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PKMNsony posted...

I would say that generally verbal abuse is worse. That shit can easily stay with you for life. Most physical abuse is temporary unless you get a serious injury.

What? You don't seem to understand physical bullying in the least.

Krow_Incarnate posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Anybody who says verbal has never been properly physically bullied.

You can fight back against physical bullying. You can't really respond to verbal without fueling the fire or being the bad guy in the situation when you make it physical.

But enough verbal bullying seems to be able to convince people of false truths about themselves, based on what I'd seen when I was in school. Plus, verbal bullying usually means a lot of people are doing it, versus one or two jackasses.

No, you really can't "fight back" in physical bullying because usually the bully picks on you *because* you're smaller or weaker than him and has friends backing him up. Trying to fight back usually just results in a much harder beating. And, just like verbal, physical bullying usually isn't just one guy. Likewise, fighting back just fuels the fire and ups the ante, especially in urban areas where you might face random retaliation on the street. There are an absurd number of physical bullying incidents so bad that students had to transfer schools, which doesn't really ever happen with verbal.

And, more importantly, almost ALL physical bullying is accompanied by verbal bullying.
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PKMNsony posted...

I would say that generally verbal abuse is worse. That shit can easily stay with you for life. Most physical abuse is temporary unless you get a serious injury.

I agree on verbal having a longer effect, but the thing is almost always physical abuse is accompanied by verbal. never met a bully who just beats up a kid and never says derogatory shit to them before during or after (at least during one of those times)
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Anybody who says verbal has never been properly physically bullied.

Wounds heal. Mental abuse can stay with someone the rest of there life.
The worst would be something that is both physical and mental abuse.

Physical - Causes physical harm and can cause mental harm too.
Verbal - Can cause mental harm

By default physical is much worse.
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Playsaver posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Anybody who says verbal has never been properly physically bullied.

Wounds heal. Mental abuse can stay with someone the rest of there life.
The worst would be something that is both physical and mental abuse.

as said 99% of physical abuse is accompanied by verbal. and the physical part can be mental too. you start becoming scared of people you think might bully you, your habits will change in hopes of avoiding situations that may get you bullied, etc etc.
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