That's been the case at every job I've had. I've certainly been friendly with coworkers and had good relationships, but my work friends are never equivalent to my real friendsThis
I've only had maybe 2-3 coworkers that I did stuff with outside of work (not counting just going for a drink after work), but once one of us left the company that died off real quick. So I think there's some truth to it. Granted I've been working remotely since covid and haven't lived anywhere near my direct coworkers since.
That's not universally true, but it can be true.
That's not universally true, but it can be true.This, but I do have one person at work who I do consider a homie. Anytime I feel like my usual friendly coworkers are pissed at me over their shitty moods he makes an effort to reach out to me and let me know hes got my back.
When I was a W2 and working for someone else, my colleagues were not my friends even though I was friendly with them. I have no interest in being actual friends with people I work with.
So are classmates also not friends? Who even constitutes as friends?People you meet outside of 'obligations' of work/education/living together I guess?
If you need to put a qualifier in front of "friend," I agree.This reminds me of a funny story about my boys.
If a co-worker was someone you hung out with outside of work as well, you'd just call them a friend.
"online friends are not real friends"They're not if there's a lot of anonymity between them, IMO.
Same energy.
They're not if there's a lot of anonymity between them, IMO.
CountCorvinus posted... "online friends are not real friends"Not really. Online friends can absolute fit the general definition of a "real friend" since they can absolutely meet all the criteria described above.
Same energy.
So are classmates also not friends? Who even constitutes as friends?Apparently classmates are not friends either.
Wasn't said directly to me, but the newest hot take from my mom.don't really get it though, why wouldn't or couldn't they be?
Your thoughts?
Apparently classmates are not friends either.An example of someone being partially right but overly cynical. It is possible many people do care, but the process of work and school is often "going through the motions" and when you are no longer a part of that motion, you no longer matter. Not because that person doesn't like you or have fun around you, but because your only link was that interaction and life moves forward.
It was just some conversation my mom and sister were having at dinner about their shithead co-workers, that are overly talkative to a fault and have terrible relationship history, and turned to "You shouldn't be friends with co-workers. Like in school, they aren't your friends, just people you have to be friendly to. None of them actually care."
LincolnDuncan posted... I met my wife at a job we both worked at. Is she not my real wife?That doesn't make any sense. A co-worker can transition into something else. They are not bound to be a co-worker only for eternity.
I met my wife at a job we both worked at. Is she not my real wife?yeah i don't get the quote or sentiment , at all either
Apparently classmates are not friends either.
It was just some conversation my mom and sister were having at dinner about their shithead co-workers, that are overly talkative to a fault and have terrible relationship history, and turned to "You shouldn't be friends with co-workers. Like in school, they aren't your friends, just people you have to be friendly to. None of them actually care."
An example of someone being partially right but overly cynical. It is possible many people do care, but the process of work and school is often "going through the motions" and when you are no longer a part of that motion, you no longer matter. Not because that person doesn't like you or have fun around you, but because your only link was that interaction and life moves forward.That's how I see it. I'm not gullible enough to think everyone who says hi to you is your best friend, but I just can't go through each day assuming everyone will stab me in the back if I no longer benefit them.
Co-workers and friends have been separated for a long time for a reason, and the reason ain't some random "online ain't real" bullshit. The two, while sometimes capable of offering the same thing, carry very different risks and scenarios surrounding how they interact with you.
I mean, they can be, but never share anything with them that they can use against you later, no matter how friendly you are. I've seen what happens when work friendships break down.use against you later? what do you mean?
Work friends can be real friends but not all work friends are real friends.and the same applies for school/etc.