Current Events > You ever not say something even tho you know for a fact you're 100% correct?

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Like in a discussion /disagreement/argument/whatever? Like something painfully obvious, like idk the earth has mass or something.

You dont say anything because you dont feel like it. You dont wanna go through it or you dont wanna upset someone, even tho clearly the earth has mass. You just think to yourself you know what? I dont have to be right. Id just rather be peaceful than be right this time.

You ever just concede and let someone win? You just dont feel like fighting or making a big deal out of it.

It's not a good thing. I want to be more aggressive like my boss who even when wrong gets all up in your face and utterly convinced of his own lies its crazy.

But I just dont care enough to go through the hassle of an argument. I can't help feeling that way

Of course. Here. Every day.

People who thinking speaking your mind is a positive quality are buffoons.

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It's not a good thing. I want to be more aggressive like my boss who even when wrong gets all up in your face and utterly convinced of his own lies its crazy.

But I just dont care enough to go through the hassle of an argument. I can't help feeling that way

That doesnt sound too good either. Thats not alpha Chad or whatever people may think. Thats delusional and just asshole behavior. I would definitely not want to exhibit that behavior consistently.

im not talking about being a door mat that people walk on. But occasionally you dont wanna fight so you just let it slide. You understand that you being right isnt going to change their mind or do any good anyway, so you just drop it.

Of course, sometimes you need to forgo the truth to spare someone's feelings.

Rosstin316 posted...

Of course. Here. Every day.

If youre speaking about politics or religion on here, those are dead ends. People are HEAVILY entrenched and will defend to the death. To. The. Death.

Those topics usually go one of two ways: a circle jerk or endless argument that usually ends with someone being banned/modded.

All too often.

Dyinglegacy posted...

But occasionally you dont wanna fight so you just let it slide. You understand that you being right isnt going to change their mind or do any good anyway, so you just drop it.

Psychologists have been hammering this point home for years. Learn when to pursue things and when to let them slide. Sweating the small stuff is bad for your mental health at best, and potentially (self) destructive at worst.

As soon as you figure it out, you can teach me.

Yeah. Especially on Reddit. I start typing a comment and I'm halfway through thinking "you know what I didn't actually give a shit about this" and I just leave.

Of course I don't use Reddit much these days anyway.

Yeah, Ive grown more comfortable with letting things go over the years. Sometimes that self-congratulatory pat on the back just isnt worth the fuss.

Yeah because sometimes it's not worth the aggravation of trying to cut through a lack of understanding.

Dyinglegacy posted...

That doesnt sound too good either. Thats not alpha Chad or whatever people may think. Thats delusional and just asshole behavior. I would definitely not want to exhibit that behavior consistently.

im not talking about being a door mat that people walk on. But occasionally you dont wanna fight so you just let it slide. You understand that you being right isnt going to change their mind or do any good anyway, so you just drop it.

Agreed. But also I fear developing the habit of dropping things too often because there's just so much stupid shit people say and do.

KiwiTerraRizing posted...

People who thinking speaking your mind is a positive quality are buffoons.

Oh man this so much

When someone mistakes tact for weakness I want to just stop talking to them

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Agreed. But also I fear developing the habit of dropping things too often because there's just so much stupid shit people say and do.

I try to think that they are probably thinking the same about me. That I said something stupid that they are certain is wrong, but they let it slide. Sometimes that helps.

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that is excellent. But not really if he has like dementia or something. Not sure of age.

Yes, but only with people who I don't really care to argue with (strangers and most co-workers) or if I know it'll turn into a 3 hour debate.

Definitely happens during casual conversations at work. I typically just let the person talk and feign ignorance on the topic.

Uhhhh yeah, it's called being married. Or "domestic partners" if you wanna be right about it

BuzzKilljoy posted...

Uhhhh yeah, it's called being married. Or "domestic partners" if you wanna be right about it

lol, was gonna put this in my opener but figured people would say you just have a bad marriage, unlike my perfect marriage where we never disagree

I actually believe that no disagreement EVER in a marriage is unhealthy. If you NEVER disagree on anything ever, it probably means that someone is always giving in or you just dont care.

Dyinglegacy posted...

lol, was gonna put this in my opener but figured people would say you just have a bad marriage, unlike my perfect marriage where we never disagree

I actually believe that no disagreement EVER in a marriage is unhealthy. If you NEVER disagree on anything ever, it probably means that someone is always giving in or you just dont care.

Neck no disagreement in any relationship is more a bad sign than good. Including between friends, and maybe even coworkers.

I work with a flat earthen and conspiracy theorist. I was told day one of the job do not engage him if he says something about those kinda things because if you don't he will say his peice and be done. You engage him it's gonna become a whole ass thing.

Plenty often. It's fairly evident when a person isn't actually considering the logic or evidence you've presented, and so there's no point in further engaging. Unless you feel like a bit of trolling.

Actually, in real life, it's more that I don't have the will to explain something more than twice, so unless it's really important, I just go "yeah sure whatever".

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Plenty often. It's fairly evident when a person isn't actually considering the logic or evidence you've presented, and so there's no point in further engaging. Unless you feel like a bit of trolling.

And apparently were not allowed to point out that behaviour here.

Dyinglegacy posted...

You dont wanna go through it or you dont wanna upset someone, even tho clearly the earth has mass. You just think to yourself you know what? I dont have to be right. Id just rather be peaceful than be right this time.

pretty much, I only put that effort with people who matter to me. If it's some random then who the fuck cares, won't change my life either way.

And most things also aren't important enough to argue about, unless you're both doing it for fun.

Dark_Arbron posted...

And apparently were not allowed to point out that behaviour here.

I mean, I do it sometimes, and I don't think I've gotten in trouble for it. The pointing out thing, not the trolling thing.

Yes. I have a couple of coworkers who are very problematic. I don't want to say that they're dumb, but they are very far from smart.

They both have the attitude that they're better than anyone else too, and that they cannot be wrong. Ever. About anything. The thing is, they're totally and absolutely and very obviously wrong about most things. I'm not saying their opinions are wrong, but like actual facts about stuff. And they somehow convinced most other people around them that they are as smart as they act.

So, if I ever notice they're wrong about something, unless it's really important, I won't bother saying anything. It's pointless to try.

In real life, the last time I tried to correct someone was around 7ish years ago. It was on the death of Christopher McCandless (from Into the Wild book and movie). A real person.

My friend/coworker was telling me it was unfortunate that he died from eating those potato seed things. I tried to correct him by stating that he mainly died from starvation (dude was around 80 pounds at like 5'6-5'8 iirc) but ofc the seeds didn't improve matters. He would have died even if he hadn't ate the seeds since he wasnt eating enough calories off rabbits + other meager food sources and his most calorie-dense food source (the uhh moose iirc?) rotted.

Anyway my friend wasn't convinced at all so I just stopped the convo lol. He is the type to argue for a long while. Anyway rip Christopher McCandless

In real life scenarios, like work, Im usually able to manipulate and adjust my person to suit the room.

Not sure if that makes me psychotic, sociopathic or just normal. Like at my job, the day guys are pro trump, right wingers and the (I work midshift so I spend time with both) overnight guy is far left. I adjust my personality as needed.

Tyranthraxus posted...

Yeah. Especially on Reddit. I start typing a comment and I'm halfway through thinking "you know what I didn't actually give a shit about this" and I just leave.

Of course I don't use Reddit much these days anyway.

This is YouTube comments for me.
Seeing someone say "wow this Republican thing that happened is really bad."
Someone flies in by the seat of their pants: "OH, so Joe Biden would do better?!"

Three people looking around, no one else even mentioned the name of him before that, but clearly the person is arguing with their schizophrenia demons so might as well just not bother after that.

Yes, of course. It's called choosing your battles. It doesn't really matter how correct you are if you know the other person isn't receptive, and plenty of people will never be receptive.

Too often to remember.

My current motto irl is "just nod and say yes to get it over with".

Philip027 posted...

Yes, of course. It's called choosing your battles. It doesn't really matter how correct you are if you know the other person isn't receptive, and plenty of people will never be receptive.

Yep.

The amount of times ive felt justified enough to "say my piece" only to have the other person be dismissive of it/give an insincere non apology far outweighs the times it's resulted in a productive change

Sometimes you just have to push all your chips on the table and go all in

Kurt_Russel posted...

Sometimes you just have to push all your chips on the table and go all in

Using that logic can definitely increase the "grieving process" or if that sounds too dramatic, the time spent feeling sad, after a breakup or dating situation ending

Sometimes, as justified as you might feel, it's better to just move on

most of the time. in real life, I try not to talk and am generally really quiet/reserved.

then I get drunk and then spew word vomit in the form of poorly constructed posts on CE.