Current Events > Guy on Tinder gets 3 matches out of 5,000 swipes, no dates.

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StealThisSheen posted...

Remember when the TC atleast pretended he wasn't a troll? That didn't last very long.

Facts aren't trolling.

Tinder sucks

Inohira posted...

Facts aren't trolling.

You purposely repeated a topic that already existed once... One you took part in, and were on the obviously controversial side of arguing. You knew what you were doing, here. THAT is trolling. And the fact that you haven't posted in this topic since until getting called out is also very telling.

For all we know, it could be a very good thing this particular guy isn't getting any dates.

Every time I see this Liberal guy mention having no friends through choice, it becomes increasingly clear that he's just bitter and trying to cover that fact that no one irl can stand him. Trying desperately to act like he's above all this.

splodeymissile posted...

Every time I see this Liberal guy mention having no friends through choice, it becomes increasingly clear that he's just bitter and trying to cover that fact that no one irl can stand him. Trying desperately to act like he's above all this.

Yeah, that seems clear

Sounds about right if you're ugly. I'm pretty good looking and I get a decent amount of matches but trying to get those matches to conversate is just as difficult as getting those matches and then furthermore getting the conversations to fall through into a date might be harder than any of the other two before that combined.

Inohira posted...

Facts aren't trolling.

One bozo struggling with dating doesn't make it a "fact" that men struggle with dating.

Thats not how inference and logic work.

dioxxys posted...

Sounds about right if you're ugly.

I mean yea thats pretty much the ugly truth. If you're not attractive, overweight, broke, etc. then thats pretty much what you can expect out of your partner. Just be happy with that and live. Real life isn't a fairy tale or a kevin james sitcom.

dioxxys posted...

Sounds about right if you're ugly. I'm pretty good looking and I get a decent amount of matches but trying to get those matches to conversate is just as difficult as getting those matches and then furthermore getting the conversations to fall through into a date might be harder than any of the other two before that combined.

@dioxxys

Maybe you need some help on your messaging? First, make sure to ask a question at the end of every single message to keep them responding. Also, messaging too long can be an issue. Just 5 or so messages each and ask them out. I would just say something like: "I have been enjoying getting to know you, and would like to keep the conversation going in person. How about we meet for happy hour after work sometime next week? I am open Monday, Tuesday and Thursday." Sounds pretty casual and also is specific but not too specific so they can't just so "no" to a specific time or place. Iron out the details after they say yes. I never got a "no" from this. I reached that point about 25 times.

Also, I have seen your pics, and you are good looking,

Gladius_ posted...

What facts? One person had trouble with online dating? That men are massively outnumbered because woman are filtered out of dating sites? We already know this. It's a tired argument and the very definition of beating a dead horse.

Thing is these rates are low ecen accounting for the 4-to-1 gender split on Tinder.

Conflict posted...

You posted a topic of one person, whose profile and circumstances (i.e. what city he lives in, what his preferences are) we know nothing about, for what? So people who are struggling with dating apps can feel more demoralized and inclined to give up? A blind person can see the agenda you're trying to push with this one.

To illustrate the fact that online dating is nigh impossible for some people.

Conflict posted...

So people who are struggling with dating apps can feel more demoralized and inclined to give up? A blind person can see the agenda you're trying to push with this one.

You cannot simply make stuff up and then associate it with someone else.

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Using women as objects and tying your self worth to dating aren't mutually exclusive. Part of that red pill "success" ideal involves getting to the poitn where women supposedly throw themselves at you and you swap between them.

But that's backwards, putting the objectification fo women aside, relying on a relationship to be successful and happy isn't good, one should feel succesful and happy before they even start looking for relationships.

Using women as objects and tying your self worth to dating aren't mutually exclusive. Part of that red pill "success" ideal involves getting to the poitn where women supposedly throw themselves at you and you swap between them.

But that's backwards, putting the objectification fo women aside, relying on a relationship to be successful and happy isn't good, one should feel succesful and happy before they even start looking for relationships.

As more and more are not able to find successful jobs thanks to AI and the rest of the changes to society more and more are going to find unable to themselves in a place where others would see them as succesful, leading to more and more bitter populations, I guess we seen how that works in the Middle East and other places...not well.

Inohira posted...

Thing is these rates are low ecen accounting for the 4-to-1 gender split on Tinder.

To illustrate the fact that online dating is nigh impossible for some people.

You cannot simply make stuff up and then associate it with someone else.

the vast majority of adults are in or have been in longterm relationships and most don't use dating apps.

andel posted...

the vast majority of adults are in or have been in longterm relationships and most don't use dating apps.

But I also know quite a few people in long term relationships who met through dating apps. I had a relationship last 2 years through Bumble, plus a bunch of short term stuff and flings.

andel posted...

the vast majority of adults are in or have been in longterm relationships and most don't use dating apps.

Last I checked data revealed 2/3 new relationships from the past couple years started on apps.

So meeting people the old fashioned way is just that now.

Weird you bring up the middle east when many of those countries men have all the power and women have none. They're oppressed and have to rely on men so your example doesn't even make sense.

Its that many of these nations that have little to give men purpose, so they join these aggressive repressive groups because its the only way they have any pride in life, leading to repression. Its a vicious cycle.

Will_VIII posted...

Last I checked data revealed 2/3 new relationships from the past couple years started on apps.

So meeting people the old fashioned way is just that now.

it's 40% total and 60% of lgbt couples so the majority overall still meet the normal way and that study was done shortly after covid so the actual current numbers are probably even less

splodeymissile posted...

Every time I see this Liberal guy mention having no friends through choice, it becomes increasingly clear that he's just bitter and trying to cover that fact that no one irl can stand him. Trying desperately to act like he's above all this.

bsp77 posted...

Yeah, that seems clear

Lol no. You see, it's perfectly fine and acceptable for people to want friends. This desire stems from childhood and continues even to adulthood. The longing to want to be accepted, to be in multiple groups, to talk to people. If you had talked to me 10 years ago about this, that would have still been a huge desire. Ask conflict on old threads from years ago

However, I have experience on my side. I have
-Had plenty of friends in middleschool and highschool
-Been through situations where I got completely isolated and everyone disliked me
-Been Rejected.
-Longed to make friends in college but felt out of place
-went to "meet up" groups and felt out of place
-Met people who wanted financial gain only
-Met people who were compulsive liars and manipulators(these are the worst)
-Almost faced death myself(had a gun pulled on me)

I've been through it all. Heart break. Isolation. Made fun of for being introverted. manipulated for personal gain or money in my 20's. Backstabbed. Been in the situation where I acted clingy. But instead of sulking, I use that as fuel to drive me. I use all the anger and rage from my past to make me stronger. I dont "long" or look to make friendships with people. Rather, I place value on my close family, and the pets that I take care of and the wildlife outside my place.

I have no friends, and I need none of them. Im not some 20 year old child who doesn't know how the world works . Im a 30 year old grown man who has seen the utter evils of humanity. I know that to get far in life, it's all about what value you have that can be an asset to them(job market). I've been through trials and tribulations and despite many bad things happening in my life, I will always stay true to my convictions.

Thats why I have no problem arguing this subject. Now, if you want to bring up ad hominem and all. By all means, do so. But I stand firm on my beliefs!

Shadow_Don posted...

One bozo struggling with dating doesn't make it a "fact" that men struggle with dating.

Thats not how inference and logic work.

The rise of social media raises standards considerably. Why go for normie, when you can post an instagram pic and get a bunch of people complimenting you. Or get flown out to cities or countries. Onlyfans also gives people a platform to make money and profit(some people have made 6 figures, others enough to quit their day job).

andel posted...

the vast majority of adults are in or have been in longterm relationships and most don't use dating apps.

Yeah, they meet in school or at work, but if it isn't that, apps it is.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Lol no. You see, it's perfectly fine and acceptable for people to want friends. This desire stems from childhood and continues even to adulthood. The longing to want to be accepted, to be in multiple groups, to talk to people. If you had talked to me 10 years ago about this, that would have still been a huge desire. Ask conflict on old threads from years ago

However, I have experience on my side. I have
-Had plenty of friends in middleschool and highschool
-Been through situations where I got completely isolated and everyone disliked me
-Been Rejected.
-Longed to make friends in college but felt out of place
-went to "meet up" groups and felt out of place
-Met people who wanted financial gain only
-Met people who were compulsive liars and manipulators(these are the worst)
-Almost faced death myself(had a gun pulled on me)

I've been through it all. Heart break. Isolation. Made fun of for being introverted. manipulated for personal gain or money in my 20's. Backstabbed. Been in the situation where I acted clingy. But instead of sulking, I use that as fuel to drive me. I use all the anger and rage from my past to make me stronger. I dont "long" or look to make friendships with people. Rather, I place value on my close family, and the pets that I take care of and the wildlife outside my place.

I have no friends, and I need none of them. Im not some 20 year old child who doesn't know how the world works . Im a 30 year old grown man who has seen the utter evils of humanity. I know that to get far in life, it's all about what value you have that can be an asset to them(job market). I've been through trials and tribulations and despite many bad things happening in my life, I will always stay true to my convictions.

Thats why I have no problem arguing this subject. Now, if you want to bring up ad hominem and all. By all means, do so. But I stand firm on my beliefs!

I'm 46. Been married, had kids, got divorced, overcome my autistic tendencies, made friends, learned how to actually date (didn't learn for before my marriage), and am engaged again. In comparison, you are a child in your experience.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Lol no. You see, it's perfectly fine and acceptable for people to want friends. This desire stems from childhood and continues even to adulthood. The longing to want to be accepted, to be in multiple groups, to talk to people. If you had talked to me 10 years ago about this, that would have still been a huge desire. Ask conflict on old threads from years ago

That desire is part of being a well adjusted adult. We're social creatures, even the introverted among us, so, we're naturally going to gravitate towards people as a general rule. Losing it is a problem.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

However, I have experience on my side. I have
-Had plenty of friends in middleschool and highschool

Doubtful l

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

-Been through situations where I got completely isolated and everyone disliked me
-Been Rejected.
-Longed to make friends in college but felt out of place
-went to "meet up" groups and felt out of place

Sounds about right

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Met people who wanted financial gain only
-Met people who were compulsive liars and manipulators(these are the worst)
-Almost faced death myself(had a gun pulled on me)

Plausible, but irrelevant.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

I've been through it all. Heart break. Isolation. Made fun of for being introverted. manipulated for personal gain or money in my 20's. Backstabbed. Been in the situation where I acted clingy. But instead of sulking, I use that as fuel to drive me. I use all the anger and rage from my past to make me stronger. I dont "long" or look to make friendships with people. Rather, I place value on my close family, and the pets that I take care of and the wildlife outside my place.

So, bitter and too scared to admit to it.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

I have no friends, and I need none of them. Im not some 20 year old child who doesn't know how the world works . Im a 30 year old grown man who has seen the utter evils of humanity. I know that to get far in life, it's all about what value you have that can be an asset to them(job market). I've been through trials and tribulations and despite many bad things happening in my life, I will always stay true to my convictions.

And an edge lord, too.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Thats why I have no problem arguing this subject. Now, if you want to bring up ad hominem and all. By all means, do so. But I stand firm on my beliefs!

Interesting that you bring up ad hominem, as though I've lost the argument by committing a fallacy. Fact is, none of my posts were intended to seriously engage with your drivel. Mockery of your "beliefs" is the only point.

bsp77 posted...

I'm 46. Been married, had kids, got divorced, overcome my aut tendencies, made friends, learned how to actually date (didn't learn for before my marriage), and am engaged again. In comparison, you are a child in your experience.

Being 46 means absolutely nothing to the points I brought up. And with that same logic, you'd be a child compared to other people who are in their 60's-70's who have had longer relationships.

When your 30 years old, you are a fully grown adult who has gone through experiences that shape you to be who you are. While people older tend to be more successful, thats more so how the world works and isn't really a dig at people who are younger.Infact, Ideally it would be best to stay in your mid 20's forever as the 20's is often when the prime of a man is(physically).

As far as the health issues, you think you're the only one? I have ADHD and chronic health issues for over a decade. If we're comparing trauma, I can assure you I could go on and on.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

The rise of social media raises standards considerably. Why go for normie, when you can post an instagram pic and get a bunch of people complimenting you. Or get flown out to cities or countries. Onlyfans also gives people a platform to make money and profit(some people have made 6 figures, others enough to quit their day job).

Yea. Redpill incel confirmed.

This dude thinks every woman is an only fans model that gets flown out to Dubai to get gang fucked by non-white dudes.

Close down the Andrew tate and fresh&fit podcasts and try being a normal person instead.

I have found that being a normal and fun and interesting person is a good dating strategy.

splodeymissile posted...

That desire is part of being a well adjusted adult. We're social creatures, even the introverted among us, so, we're naturally going to gravitate towards people as a general rule. Losing it is a problem.

Doubtful l

Sounds about right

Plausible, but irrelevant.

So, bitter and too scared to admit to it.

And an edge lord, too.

Interesting that you bring up ad hominem, as though I've lost the argument by committing a fallacy. Fact is, none of my posts were intended to seriously engage with your drivel. Mockery of your "beliefs" is the only point.

Not Bitter. Acceptance and peace.

In terms of social..I mean..im interacting with you on here...right? The internet pretty much proves you don't even need a "social life" or to "constantly meet people irl" as gamefaqs, reddit, or other boards serve that purpose of interaction you place a lot of importance on

I don't have friends atm and I'm fine with that tbh

Shadow_Don posted...

I have found that being a normal and fun and interesting person is a good dating strategy.

Being fun and interesting is a broad spectrum up to interpretation.

Someone who plays games, watches certain tv shows or movies can be considered "fun and cool" to someone else.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Not Bitter. Acceptance and peace.

Then go out in peace instead of spreading the doomerism

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Not Bitter. Acceptance and peace.

In terms of social..I mean..im interacting with you on here...right? The internet pretty much proves you don't even need a "social life" or to "constantly meet people irl" as gamefaqs, reddit, or other boards serve that purpose of interaction you place a lot of importance on

Interacting all the time on Gamefaqs & Reddit sounds much more depressing than just having an actual social life IRL

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There's absolutely nothing wrong with being single. This is another thing people are constantly shamed for.

You don't need to be in a relationship 24/7. You dont need to have something serious going on. You can simply put your focus on other aspects, or do other things rather than relying on happiness from someone else. Or you can have a hook up. Or casually date/see someone without taking the next important step.

Shaming me for my preferences on not being in a relationship atm won't work because I place no dependence on people for my happiness.

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You didn't have to Agidyne him like that damn

See, it's blatantly obvious to everyone that when you claim to be at peace, you're lying. Spouting far too much redpill rhetoric for it to be anything other than a furious attempt to justify being completely maladjusted.

As for Gamefaqs being social interaction, no doubt you also consider wanking over porn as equivalent to actual sex. (Its evidently the only action you're getting, so, I guess it'll have to make do).

BloodMoon7 posted...

You didn't have to Agidyne him like that damn

She didn't do anything, because there's absolutely nothing wrong with being single or not being in a long term relationship.

Infact, trying to force the ideology that you should be in a relationship is what drives men crazy. Because it puts them in a situation where they feel like they have to keep seeing someone.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

Shaming me for my preferences on not being in a relationship atm won't work because I place no dependence on people for my happiness.

But it's not a preference, is it? It's an inability that you dress up as an enlightened philosophy

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

She didn't do anything, because there's absolutely nothing wrong with being single or not being in a long term relationship.

Infact, trying to force the ideology that you should be in a relationship is what drives men crazy. Because it puts them in a situation where they feel like they have to keep seeing someone.

I don't disagree but you're arguing too hard for someone who claims you're fine being single. I haven't even held hands with anyone and I don't go on about how fine I am.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being single. This is another thing people are constantly shamed for.

Nobody is shaming you for being single.

Being single is fine.

You are the one who is mad about your life circumstances.

Get a therapist.

splodeymissile posted...

See, it's blatantly obvious to everyone that when you claim to be at peace, you're lying.

Okay. Please provide evidence to your claims.

Spouting far too much redpill rhetoric for it to be anything other than a furious attempt to justify being completely maladjusted.

Nothing mentioned is rp

As for Gamefaqs being social interaction, no doubt you also consider wanking over porn as equivalent to actual sex. (Its evidently the only action you're getting, so, I guess it'll have to make do).

Your main problem is thinking that the world isn't evolving(social media, internet) , and that life is the same as it was in the 80's-90's. When you don't adapt to the current times, you're doomed to fail. It's why the ideology of "dating apps don't work" is a common misconception that gets spouted out. It's not that they dont work. But you typically have to spend effort into it to maximize results(have decent pictures, have a decent bio, constantly reach out to people, have platforms other than tinder)

BloodMoon7 posted...

I don't disagree but you're arguing too hard for someone who claims you're fine being single. I haven't even held hands with anyone and I don't go on about how fine I am.

If you respond or disagree with what I say, I will respond appropriately.

Arguing too hard as a talking point makes no sense. This is gamefaqs. You're allowed to respond and disagree with people. And you're allowed to defend yourself or what you believe.

It's why "thats y your single" isn't the burn you think it is. Because there are moments where some people can, should, or want to be single.

splodeymissile posted...

But it's not a preference, is it?

You can choose not to pursue relationships or dating

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

If you respond or disagree with what I say, I will respond appropriately.

Arguing too hard as a talking point makes no sense. This is gamefaqs. You're allowed to respond and disagree with people. And you're allowed to defend yourself or what you believe.

You can choose not to pursue relationships or dating

You could also just not. If you're truly fine alone, there's no need to defend your lifestyle. Do something more fun. Just an idea.

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This analogy doesn't work because being single isn't the same as someone who has never dated or been in a relationship. The logic is the equivalent to saying that someone who has had two long term relationships that ended in divorce(which led to them being single) means that their opinion is disregarded.

The combat analogy makes little sense, because if you learn combat: Then those skills will stay with you for life. If you have an unsuccessful relationship and are single, you still learn what you could have done better.

A successful happy person doesn't live on gamefaqs

Huh? There are literally people here who make 6 figures who have a wife and kids that constantly post on gamefaqs

No. You are not happy, successful, or at peace with your life.

You have been shaming me and others for our preferences while crying if anyone "shames" yours. You talk about how you are 30 and grown but have the emotional depth of someone far younger. You can't even empathize with people's positions or see things outside of your own perspective.

You lack the maturity to be in a relationship.

In terms of lack of friendships: I'm pretty content with that . In terms of where I want to be, there are definitely still things I am working on and plan on doing. The latter is what everyone goes through and isn't a "haha you haven't done this, you are fail xd" point. Everyone has a means to improve their life and the ultimate goal should be that you constantly work on improving your QOL.

I was an infant in the 90s, so I grew up in this changing world and, to the shock of literally no one except those too bitter to leave the house, pubs, nightclubs, concerts, more specialised spaces for any hobby you care to mention, all still exist. Me and my mates are out doing something every weekend and there is never a shortage of opportunity, so, long as you don't have the vibe of a serial killer. Vast majority of my dates and relationships came through people I've met in person. Dating apps are a supplement and one that is rarely needed. Your philosophy is bollocks.

As for providing evidence for you being a thoroughly miserable individual, the greatest justification you were able to muster for your "beliefs" was an extended sob story about people betraying you and only wanting your money and how you struggle to fit in anywhere. Someone who truly accepted being asocial would find such situations effortless, but pointless. You straight admitted you could never compete, so, now you've become a Pingu meme out of spite.

LiberalAgenda8 posted...

You can choose not to pursue relationships or dating

I don't think you're choosing, though. I think the rest of the world finds you so unpleasant that they're making the choice for you