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FelineCyborg posted...

being alone isnt bad. if you are with the wrong person youll feel way more lonely than you ever did by yourself.

Starving isn't bad. If you eat the wrong food you'll feel way worse than you ever did while hungry.

KogaSteelfang posted...

Starving isn't bad. If you eat the wrong food you'll feel way worse than you ever did while hungry.

nobody said to starve...thats why meet ups ans friendships exist. men rely way too much on women to feed general kinds of needs. which is why a lot of relationships fail because men expect their partner to be best friend/life coach/ mom...goes both ways though when women want a boy toy on call to spend time with and get taken out but offer no support

FelineCyborg posted...

nobody said to starve...

Within the first 5 posts, there's a combined 85 years of being alone. Even those guys have had relationships/sex/companionship though. Then there are others, like myself, who add another 40 years into that without those other experiences.

No one said to starve, but some of us are. Then we just get told to learn to be happy hungry, and that having a bad meal is worse than starving.

KogaSteelfang posted...

Within the first 5 posts, there's a combined 85 years of being alone. Even those guys have had relationships/sex/companionship though. Then there are others, like myself, who add another 40 years into that without those other experiences.

No one said to starve, but some of us are. Then we just get told to learn to be happy hungry, and that having a bad meal is worse than starving.

i get where youre coming from, im not telling you to learn to be happy. just saying dont expect a relationship to solve your unhappiness

I'm not reading this entire thread cause after the first few posts I feel like this advice will suffice: clean your room, wash your ass, and go to therapy. There are an insane amount of people on Earth, somebody will like you.

KTG2 posted...

I'm not reading this entire thread cause after the first few posts I feel like this advice will suffice: clean your room, wash your ass, and go to therapy. There are an insane amount of people on Earth, somebody will like you.

i keep seeing wash your ass as advice in these type threads...do dudes not really wash their ass? lol

I love these threads on here because it just ends up with incels whining about being forever alones lol

FelineCyborg posted...

i get where youre coming from, im not telling you to learn to be happy. just saying dont expect a relationship to solve your unhappiness

And if the unhappiness is from being unwanted?

I4NRulez posted...

I love these threads on here because it just ends up with incels whining about being forever alones lol

i hate the term incel because it means different things these days. a lot of people identify as incels but they arent mysognistic or toxic they just resigned to being alone. then theres others who view incels as radicalized terrorists who want to kill all women , and then when the people from group 1 are talked to like they are in group 2 , its pretty much alienating people who were already alienated even more, now instead of awkward and lonely, they are deemed as violent and villianous

KogaSteelfang posted...

And if the unhappiness is from being unwanted?

thats fair but you dont have to view yourself as unwanted because you arent in relationship. love yourself, want yourself to be happy. dont measure your happiness on somebody else "wanting" you

tons of people are unwanted IN a relationship....now those are the sad fucks that truly deserve pity (lol i was one of them)

I4NRulez posted...

I love these threads on here because it just ends up with incels whining about being forever alones lol

Are you aware that statistically speaking, men are more likely to be more lonely?

It's because society looks down on men. Men being forever alone is becoming a big epidemic. Men don't have the luxury of talking about their feelings irl. Which is why you have multiple men in how complain on the internet.

FelineCyborg posted...

i keep seeing wash your ass as advice in these type threads...do dudes not really wash their ass? lol

Listen

Unless you're hideously deformed (big oof, sorry bout your luck, but even then there's probably somebody for you), or simply not actually trying, there's literally zero excuse to go 10/20/30+ years without a relationship

So when you read these stories, remember that; and realize you might be dealing with...unreliable narrators to say the least. They're definitely not being 100% honest about themselves or what they're doing.

KTG2 posted...

I'm not reading this entire thread cause after the first few posts I feel like this advice will suffice: clean your room, wash your ass, and go to therapy. There are an insane amount of people on Earth, somebody will like you.

What is therapy supposed to do

MyBirthRight posted...

Are you aware that statistically speaking, men are more likely to be more lonely?

It's because society looks down on men. Men being forever alone is becoming a big epidemic. Men don't have the luxury of talking about their feelings irl. Which is why you have multiple men in how complain on the internet.

lonely women exist too. they just arent as vocal about it , or they fucking do something about it because they dont assume they are OWED a relationship

MyBirthRight posted...

What is therapy supposed to do

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It might help you not act like this, honey

KTG2 posted...

Listen

Unless you're hideously deformed (big oof, sorry bout your luck, but even then there's probably somebody for you), or simply not actually trying, there's literally zero excuse to go 10/20/30+ years without a relationship

So when you read these stories, remember that; and realize you might be dealing with...unreliable narrators to say the least. They're definitely not being 100% honest about themselves or what they're doing.

i meant that one specific point of washing your ass. i even see reddit threads that i THOUGHT were jokes about dudes not even wiping because touching their own ass makes them gay....i didnt think it was real but god damn if the bar is so low theres dudes out there with partners and they have shitty dirty asses from not wiping thats something else

MyBirthRight posted...

What is therapy supposed to do

yea i dont agree with the therapy as a magic cure all. therapy kind of sucks ass tbh. they make you dredge up a bunch of trauma , shrug it off, perscribe you a bunch of shit that will cause manic episodes, makes you fat, lower your sex drive and describe it as a "process"

in all these help tips replace therapy with exercise. maybe i just havent ever found a good therapist but working out was way more productive then wasting money and time on therapist

KTG2 posted...

Listen

Unless you're hideously deformed (big oof, sorry bout your luck, but even then there's probably somebody for you), or simply not actually trying, there's literally zero excuse to go 10/20/30+ years without a relationship

Welp...there goes my chances.

But see, I don't look at it in terms of being "forever alone". I prefer it to be called mgtow

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There's literally nothing about yourself you can't fix in that time period, outside of permanent disabilities. Being awkward and unfuckable isn't a disability. I'm sorry, I try really hard to be understanding, but at some point you need to acquire the necessary skills through whatever means (I recommend telling a therapist at an intake appointment that you would like to explore why you haven't had a date in 10+ years) and have to actually try.

If you're actually cool being alone, go your own way man. But to sit here and bitch like the world is somehow magically stacked against you is nonsense, go *try*

I'm a 35 year old autistic person who would like nothing more than to play videogames for 18 hours a day sometimes. I've been happily married for 5 years. I promise you can do it.

FelineCyborg posted...

tons of people are unwanted IN a relationship....now those are the sad fucks that truly deserve pity (lol i was one of them)

How did they end up in a relationship in the first place? Certainly not by being unwanted and undatable. They are several steps above those without options. Sure, the relationship didn't work out, but they had the option to be in one. >_>

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KTG2 posted...

I'm a 35 year old autistic person who would like nothing more than to play videogames for 18 hours a day sometimes. I've been happily married for 5 years. I promise you can do it.

Because at some point I sat down and decided I wanted people in my life, so I fucking worked on myself, dude. There is no grand conspiracy to keep you lonely. Do the work.

FelineCyborg posted...

maybe i just havent ever found a good therapist but working out was way more productive then wasting money and time on therapist

everyone i know who started going to the gym has had an easier time with women than before they started working out. i know it's anecdotal but make of it what you will.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

everyone i know who started going to the gym has had an easier time with women than before they started working out. i know it's anecdotal but make of it what you will.

makes sense. working out gives you a goal, builds confidence and self esteem, makes you feel better about yourself, even if your physical gains arent visible your mental gains are

MedeaLysistrata posted...

everyone i know who started going to the gym has had an easier time with women than before they started working out. i know it's anecdotal but make of it what you will.

People who know how to speak and have a conversation, have a far easier time. All those muscles mean nothing in a fight or in regards to a social situation

KogaSteelfang posted...

How did they end up in a relationship in the first place? Certainly not by being unwanted and undatable. They are several steps above those without options. Sure, the relationship didn't work out, but they had the option to be in one. >_>

lot of it is luck and being in the right place at the right time. there is nothing about these people that inherently make them more lovable than you.

what makes you feel you are unwanted and undatable to the point no amount of effort can overcome that?

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Hi! Thanks, man.

Not married though. Currently engaged. First marriage... was not the best

MyBirthRight posted...

People who know how to speak and have a conversation, have a far easier time. All those muscles mean nothing in a fight or in regards to a social situation

its not about being a muscle man with chiseled abs. exercise is a form of self care. most people who exercise dont look like the rock. they just do it as a good habit to be healthy and motivated

KTG2 posted...

Because at some point I sat down and decided I wanted people in my life, so I fucking worked on myself, dude. There is no grand conspiracy to keep you lonely. Do the work.

I went over this so many times on this board. I'm a 5'2" guy with balding spots. And my face looks like shrek. Do what work? You're gonna tell me just working out or be confident or whatever crap there is then everything is good?

FelineCyborg posted...

its not about being a muscle man with chiseled abs. exercise is a form of self care. most people who exercise dont look like the rock. they just do it as a good habit to be healthy and motivated

Lifting weights is boring. And I say this as someone who used to lift heavily in his late teens and up to late 20's

FelineCyborg posted...

lot of it is luck and being in the right place at the right time.

Sure, that's all it takes for most people. It also takes both people to see something in the other that they like and agree to date. Without that, no amount of luck will do.

FelineCyborg posted...

there is nothing about these people that inherently make them more lovable than you.

There is. The fact that they can find someone is proof.

FelineCyborg posted...

what makes you feel you are unwanted and undatable to the point no amount of effort can overcome that?

40 years of experience.

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Congrats!

crayola555 posted...

I went over this so many times on this board. I'm a 5'2" guy with balding spots. And my face looks like shrek. Do what work? You're gonna tell me just working out or be confident or whatever crap there is then everything is good?

It will be tougher for you, but still feasible. Practicing social skills and hanging out with mixed gender groups who share your interests can help a lot. Are you in a decent enough sized city for Meetup to be a possibility? Simply becoming friends with women can really help. Sometimes things happen or if not, they can be your biggest advocates.

MyBirthRight posted...

Are you aware that statistically speaking, men are more likely to be more lonely?

It's because society looks down on men. Men being forever alone is becoming a big epidemic. Men don't have the luxury of talking about their feelings irl. Which is why you have multiple men in how complain on the internet.

Sounds like something someone who lives in their parents basement would say.

FelineCyborg posted...

i hate the term incel because it means different things these days. a lot of people identify as incels but they arent mysognistic or toxic they just resigned to being alone. then theres others who view incels as radicalized terrorists who want to kill all women , and then when the people from group 1 are talked to like they are in group 2 , its pretty much alienating people who were already alienated even more, now instead of awkward and lonely, they are deemed as violent and villianous

thats not my problem. Thats their problem. Most of these topics always end up turning into mens right BS and weird incel talk.

I've been on this board enough to see all the overlap from the dudes who have never been with a woman sexually or in a relationship. Its the same dudes who will post in the topics about hair or clothes talking about how they dont take care of themselves like its ok.

Its a bunch of dudes who wont tackle their mental issues or hygiene and want the world to throw them a pity party.

KogaSteelfang posted...

Sure, that's all it takes for most people. It also takes both people to see something in the other that they like and agree to date. Without that, no amount of luck will do.

There is. The fact that they can find someone is proof.

This is the stuff you are unquestionably wrong about. I have been telling you this for a couple years but you won't listen. There is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are a likeable, good looking dude, but you need to be willing to open yourself up and socialize.

Honestly, if youre single and dont want to be youre either not really trying or you have unrealistic standards.

I4NRulez posted...

thats not my problem. Thats their problem. Most of these topics always end up turning into mens right BS and weird incel talk.

they still deserve empathy just like anybody else in pain. nobody here is being mysognistic or hateful so theres no need for toxic labels condemning them

FelineCyborg posted...

they still deserve empathy just like anybody else in pain. nobody here is being mysognistic or hateful so theres no need for toxic labels condemning them

Empathy has its limits. I've seen enough of these topics spanning years and its the same users with the same story. If youre gonna come in here and whine and not try to make a change then it runs its course.

Ive seen BSP give so much advice in these topics to users. These are grown men in their 30s. At some point you cant blame the world for your woes and make a change.

KogaSteelfang posted...

40 years of experience.

well good news, while women after 35ish are more guarded and no nonsense, their standards are extremely low. i impressed the last woman i with just by scheduling appointments to things we did together , she said dudes before her never called and scheduled their own appointments. im talking bare minimum effort impresses these women. you got this

Solid_Snake07 posted...

Honestly, if youre single and dont want to be youre either not really trying or you have unrealistic standards.

Yea. For every foreveralone male there is a foreveralone female. But the former contributes to the issue because although he complains about women not being attracted to him he also doesnt ask out any woman who is only 2/10. Those women are dying for dates but no one had approached them in their lives. Not even 2/10 males.

I4NRulez posted...

Ive seen BSP give so much advice in these topics to users. These are grown men in their 30s. At some point you cant blame the world for your woes and make a change.

i dont see a lot of these posters blaming the world ( except that one guy spouting redpill shit but lets just ignore him )
the contrary, they are blaming themselves and directing a lot of hate inward which is just sad. nobody deserves to feel that way about themselves , and sometimes it feels like they live in a world that just keeps punching down. its hard (not impossible). its fair to acknowledge that

FelineCyborg posted...

i dont see a lot of these posters blaming the world ( except that one guy spouting redpill shit but lets just ignore him )
the contrary, they are blaming themselves and directing a lot of hate inward which is just sad. nobody deserves to feel that way about themselves , and sometimes it feels like they live in a world that just keeps punching down. its hard (not impossible). its fair to acknowledge that

I will acknowledge that but even you have to acknowledge at some point if someone isn't willing to help themselves they need to stop throwing these pity parties.

I4NRulez posted...

I will acknowledge that but even you have to acknowledge at some point if someone isn't willing to help themselves they need to stop throwing these pity parties.

People have been attacking them like this for the same amount of time and that hasn't helped them either. So maybe just ignore them instead of shitting on them if you're tired of this stuff? I mean, you can do what you want to do, but it seems like you're just being awful to people for your own pleasure. Aside from the known redpill troll Crow000, I don't see a reason to attack anyone when they are feeling down. It really doesn't help them, so what's the point?

35 year old forever alone here. Doubt it will ever change. I've leaned to accept it now.

At least i have video games.

Im 33 and never been in a relationship. I think Im aromantic. Im not interested in dating.

I4NRulez posted...

Ive seen BSP give so much advice in these topics to users. These are grown men in their 30s. At some point you cant blame the world for your woes and make a change.

I have actually helped 3 people on this site in the last 2 years. Not many, but something. Admittedly, they were open to trying to new things and seeking advice.

I have also helped 2 people in real life.