Current Events > Been single for 27 years lol

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I'll likely die alone. It's...interesting.

I quit dating forever 9 years ago because my ex was an abusive headcase

Just gotta learn to be happy alone

Unironically this tbh. Smartest thing I ever did was learn how to be happy being alone and actually living for myself.

I guess it helps that I learned at a fairly young age (high school age) that I just wasnt made for dating so now in my mid-30s, its just been how my life is.

Ive tried, for sure, but any girl that I dated dropped me after a couple of weeks or months (maximum). Or any girl I felt like I was vibing with would literally just stop talking to me without notice. Ive never had any of those moments where friends would be like oh yeah btw this girl likes / liked you.

My friends have told me plenty of stories about how theyd recommend me to any of their female friends who were looking to date someone and the girls reactions would be making a disgusted face.

Soooo yeah some people just arent made for romantic relationships. I know its nEvEr ToO LaTe but at this point I really cant picture any woman having the patience to deal with some dude in his mid-30s like me who has the dating experience of a middle schooler

You guys are too pessimistic.

The right one will come and everything will be alright. It's better to wait for someone you really love them be stuck with someone you're just okay with or are unsatisfied with

I'm fat and currently unemployed, and I've had a girlfriend for the last 4 years. And several times before that.

Y'all are being too hard on yourselves in here. Women are just people. They've got problems and insecurities too. Nobody's perfect, and the sooner you understand that flaws are just flaws, you can realize there's a likeable person behind them, even when it's you.

Men and women aren't the same. Woken are raised and treated drastically different from men

In society, its socially acceptable for a woman to have high standards. Man must be tall, not bald, decEnt looking, have a personality, have a good career. A man must have several things going on to be considered

"im different"

I quit dating forever 9 years ago because my ex was an abusive headcase

You have blue pilled users who still seriously claim that the "right woman will come"

We're men. Women don't come to us. Life doesn't "come to us". We take initiative and action.And true, women are people but women live vastly different lives compared to men in the USA. For better or worse

In society, its socially acceptable for a woman to have high standards. Man must be tall, not bald, decEnt looking, have a personality, have a good career. A man must have several things going on to be considered

This is such bad advice lol. Men aren't women. Men don't have the luxury of waiting for 'the one'

This is the equivalent to saying that one day you'll get a good job despite sitting at home watching Netflix all day. Men approach(IRL or online) to get what they want

Women have it just as bad in different ways. Men, even born ugly and bald, can actually compensate through other means. They can some unique talent, or wealth, or a killer sense of humor, or just come across as a very good father. Not saying all ugly guys can do this, just that a decent number can.

Women who fail the genetic lottery in the looks department (are very ugly) dont have much recourse. The standard tactic of wait for men to approach doesnt mean squat to them because no men have ever approached some of them, and its a social stigma for them to approach, especially being unattractive.

The first woman I dated after my divorce most definitely came after me at a bar. Happened other times as well. And to most of my guy friends too at some point.

The exception isn't the rule. There are plenty and plenty and plenty of cases where men approach women at clubs, bars, on the internet, streets(for better and worse) and more. As men, we are taught to approach. Waiting doesn't work because our looks aren't as valued compared to a woman. A hot woman will get far more attention compared to any hot guy, and this is shown even on online dating where women, even average looking ones, will get far more matches

I can't go to a bar, sit down and wait for some rando woman to "approach me" and think that works. I do however, have a higher chance of getting a date(or potentially getting laid) if I take initiative, approach, and introduce myself. Women get tons of men hitting them up or cat calling them. As a result, their standards will be higher and thus get to a position where they don't have to approach men. meanwhile men have to approach women

As a result, their standards will be higher and thus get to a position where they don't have to approach men. meanwhile men have to approach women

This is exactly the mindset I'm talking about, though. This just isn't true as a general rule. There are examples of this being the case, sure, but it's not even close to a universal truth. You must spend a lot of time talking to shallow girls on tinder or something.

Women are women. Doesn't matter the platform they are on. Just like how men are men

It increasingly seems that you have never really known any women in your life. Whether this is through dating or close friendships. If you did, you would know that your Internet warrior bullshit is wrong.

Most Men and women are incapable of having close friendships. Often times, guys will fall for her, catch feelings. Or at other points if the girl has a BF: The BF will get angry or wonder why his GF is continuously talking to her guy "friend" instead of him. Or on the flipside, the guy's GF will get insecure and question why he is talking to X, instead of her. Jealously exists and is a legit feeling.

A lot of men and women tend to have different hobbies and different things that happen in their life to where commonality is rare. Men and women are not the same

Most Men and women are incapable of having close friendships. Often times, guys will fall for her, catch feelings. Or at other points if the girl has a BF: The BF will get angry or wonder why his GF is continuously talking to her guy "friend" instead of him. Or on the flipside, the guy's GF will get insecure and question why he is talking to X, instead of her. Jealously exists and is a legit feeling.

A lot of men and women tend to have different hobbies and different things that happen in their life to where commonality is rare. Men and women are not the same