Current Events > Would you be able to stay with your partner if they gained 300 lbs?

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Yeah... I got inspired by that other topic. I think there's a difference between dumping your partner for gaining a few lbs and 300 lbs. I think a lot of people will pretend they would stay because they don't want to look shallow, but would not even consider dating someone 400 lbs+

Fuck no.
If youre not gonna even try to take care of yourself, I sure as hell aint.
Hell I left a girl and told her to her face it was because she got so fat and wasnt doing anything about it.

Im not fatphobic, but you know who is? The human body.
The only FAMOUS fat person who lived past 90 is Santa Claus, and hes not real.

No fatties.

Nah

Nah, I like to work out and stay in shape. If I'm taking care of myself I hope my significant other can do the same for herself.

No, a certain level of self-respect and self-preservation is required.

depends on how they are and how exactly they got there

if they are just lazy and even after discussing their weight/potential health issues, nothing changes, then yeah i'm out

but if they make the effort to change and keep going then i'm not going to abandon them and potentially make things worse for them, i'm going to stick by them and help them get back to and stay at a healthy weight

also wouldn't leave them if the cause of the weight gain is more medically serious in nature and can't be fixed with "lose the weight lol".

I would prevent them from getting there in the first place. Rapid gain like that is usually from depression..

Hell no! I'm out if she gained 100 lbs >_>

Nope. Gaining 300 pounds is a changed person.

Yeah, Id cheat on her though

nope. gaining 300 pounds is more than just an aesthetic change.

ElleRagu posted...

depends on how they are and how exactly they got there

if they are just lazy and even after discussing their weight/potential health issues, nothing changes, then yeah i'm out

but if they make the effort to change and keep going then i'm not going to abandon them and potentially make things worse for them, i'm going to stick by them and help them get back to and stay at a healthy weight

also wouldn't leave them if the cause of the weight gain is more medically serious in nature and can't be fixed with "lose the weight lol".

Gaining 300 lbs.... is incredibly rare even for medical reasons

No.

The issue of physical attractiveness aside, someone that size is going to have a lot of restrictions when it comes to doing even menial day to day tasks. You'd end up having to do so much to take care of them and it would cause a huge strain on the relationship.

It would be different having to take care of a partner who got sick, but I couldn't be with someone who is morbidly obese.

Lack of self care is an insult to their partner, so anyone who thinks that they deserve love in that situation is silly. Its not a one size fits all kind of thing, but giving up on yourself is a clear indication that the relationship can be over at any time. If someone wants to set up a real moral dilemma kind of situation, the better question would be if someone would stay with their partner long-term if they suffered extraordinary third-degree burns all over their body.

Pass.

My husband and I both acknowledged that if either of us went full Chungus, it was fair to consider breaking up over it. Staying together would be a cute Hallmark moment, but we both said we wouldn't be comfortable with the other suffering through forced attraction and stress over preventable medical issues. You know why we hypothetically discussed it after watching cringey obesity reality shows on the Learning Channel..? To incentivize both us to avoid letting something like that happen in the first place; to let each other know that what we saw on TV was abhorrently cringey and a turn off.

I can't see myself attracted to a 300lb+ fat man. Most people can't see me staying in a relationship with a partner like that. I'm active and hit the gym on a regular basis. I disciplined myself to maintain a lifting routine and cut back on unhealthy foods. I sweat through all that and get praised for the results socially and professionally. Why should I accept and invest in a partner who's made it clear they would never do the bare minimum of fitness to mutually stay physically attractive for me? Key word there: mutual.

If you're not being mutual with your standards towards your partner, that's not a healthy relationship. It barely qualifies as love. A loving partner would not settle for you putting up with a raw deal like that. They would want better for you. They would want the longevity of the relationship to last as long as possible. Neglectfully getting obese and adopting a host of critical health conditions is counter intuitive to that...

Theres people that would leave and people who are lying and saying theyd stay.