LogFAQs > #971019816

Pass.

My husband and I both acknowledged that if either of us went full Chungus, it was fair to consider breaking up over it. Staying together would be a cute Hallmark moment, but we both said we wouldn't be comfortable with the other suffering through forced attraction and stress over preventable medical issues. You know why we hypothetically discussed it after watching cringey obesity reality shows on the Learning Channel..? To incentivize both us to avoid letting something like that happen in the first place; to let each other know that what we saw on TV was abhorrently cringey and a turn off.

I can't see myself attracted to a 300lb+ fat man. Most people can't see me staying in a relationship with a partner like that. I'm active and hit the gym on a regular basis. I disciplined myself to maintain a lifting routine and cut back on unhealthy foods. I sweat through all that and get praised for the results socially and professionally. Why should I accept and invest in a partner who's made it clear they would never do the bare minimum of fitness to mutually stay physically attractive for me? Key word there: mutual.

If you're not being mutual with your standards towards your partner, that's not a healthy relationship. It barely qualifies as love. A loving partner would not settle for you putting up with a raw deal like that. They would want better for you. They would want the longevity of the relationship to last as long as possible. Neglectfully getting obese and adopting a host of critical health conditions is counter intuitive to that...