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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:03:40 PM #1: |
Bit of back story. Female I was seeing wants to move in. She finally left her partner and coming to stay with me. I was getting worried a few weeks back when people said shed never leave him but here we are. Is it fair to expect her to cover half the rent and bills? Im going to end up needing to pay it regardless of if shes here or not so it seems weird to ask her to contribute but Ive not been in this situation before. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TaylorHeinicke 11/10/22 6:04:42 PM #2: |
It's definitely fair. --- St. Louis Battlehawks (1-1) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CellBlock7 11/10/22 6:05:20 PM #3: |
Did you break up a relationship? --- A Medicore Time with Tom & Dan BDM 4 Life ... Copied to Clipboard!
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s0nicfan 11/10/22 6:05:27 PM #4: |
That is 100% something you should have worked out before she decided to move in. Now it doesn't really matter what's fair, it's going to come down to what was assumed and what was communicated. --- "History Is Much Like An Endless Waltz. The Three Beats Of War, Peace And Revolution Continue On Forever." - Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Smackems 11/10/22 6:05:39 PM #5: |
And what about when she does that to you --- Common sense says it may not taste good, but it'll make a turd. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FL81 11/10/22 6:05:57 PM #7: |
SHRlKE posted... Is it fair to expect her to cover half the rent and bills?Yes. If she can't pay it, be prepared to kick her out. --- Thanks to Proofpyros for the sig images https://i.imgur.com/Nv4Pi1v.jpg https://i.imgur.com/N43HJYv.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:07:55 PM #8: |
CellBlock7 posted... Did you break up a relationship? No. The dude was an ass apparently so he deserved it. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DoesntMatter 11/10/22 6:09:16 PM #9: |
so, you were seeing a women who was already in a relationship, i'm guessing living with her partner, and she cheats on them with you, and then "finally" leaves them and wants to immediately move in with you, without you guys even discussing how the split of living expenses would work first? yikes. just yikes. --- It don't matter. None of this matters. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:09:51 PM #10: |
DoesntMatter posted... so, you were seeing a women who was already in a relationship, i'm guessing living with her partner, and she cheats on them with you, and then "finally" leaves them and wants to immediately move in with you, without you guys even discussing how the split of living expenses would work first? weve been talking about it for a while its not a sudden thing. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TeaMilk 11/10/22 6:10:45 PM #11: |
SHRlKE posted... Female I was seeing --- (they/them) | http://large.horse/ Show Icons on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MarcoRubio 11/10/22 6:11:12 PM #12: |
Dumb as fuck topic --- Vote for me, 2016! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Flockaveli 11/10/22 6:11:58 PM #13: |
Is this another one of your Joke Topics. Yes. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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AngelsNAirwav3s 11/10/22 6:12:57 PM #14: |
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/8/4/2/AANRQlAAD3hS.jpg --- Hello world! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TheGoldenEel 11/10/22 6:13:29 PM #15: |
SHRlKE posted... Femalelol @ tc --- BLACK LIVES MATTER Games: http://backloggery.com/wrldindstries302 \\ Music: http://www.last.fm/user/DrMorberg/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Schwarz 11/10/22 6:13:52 PM #16: |
TeaMilk posted... --- Punk ass rat boy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kitt 11/10/22 6:14:47 PM #17: |
This is totally a thing that's happening. --- What is up, my sister? https://m.imgur.com/pmc9XsI https://m.imgur.com/hfzvdPe ... Copied to Clipboard!
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cjsdowg 11/10/22 6:16:57 PM #18: |
You talk to her about this before she movies in. This isn't something to talk about later. --- To be a poor man is hard, but to be a poor race in a land of dollars is the very bottom of hardships. W.E.B. Du Bois ... Copied to Clipboard!
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12amMadman 11/10/22 6:24:54 PM #19: |
You should propose first tbh --- Hey it's me ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Setfree 11/10/22 6:32:10 PM #20: |
ok first of all this situation is HILARIOUS, i wish you consulted me first before it got to this point. secondly idk is she paying the bills at her current bf's place? bet she's not. bet she's not gonna want to pay bills at your place either. i really hope that this situation isn't as bad as it sounds ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:33:10 PM #21: |
Setfree posted... ok first of all this situation is HILARIOUS, i wish you consulted me first before it got to this point. secondly idk is she paying the bills at her current bf's place? bet she's not. bet she's not gonna want to pay bills at your place either. i really hope that this situation isn't as bad as it sounds yeah should have spoken about it first but shes moving in at the weekend so its a bit late now sigh. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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cuttin_in_farm 11/10/22 6:33:56 PM #22: |
SHRlKE posted... yeah should have spoken about it first but shes moving in at the weekend so its a bit late now sigh. No, its not too late actually. Shes not on the lease. --- A show of kindness may not do much help, but a show of cruelty may do much harm. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:34:56 PM #23: |
What should I do then? I dont want her to get cold feet and not move in. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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cuttin_in_farm 11/10/22 6:37:55 PM #24: |
SHRlKE posted... What should I do then? I dont want her to get cold feet and not move in. You should do what you want to do. Not follow some assumed norm. If youre cool with her paying nothing, thats fine. If you want her to chip in on only utilities, do so. Etc. Just dont ever try to hold it against her in a future conflict if you didnt establish her having to pay half or something. --- A show of kindness may not do much help, but a show of cruelty may do much harm. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MixedRaceBaby 11/10/22 6:38:17 PM #25: |
SHRlKE posted... FemaleUH OHHH --- For the mixed race babies! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Solid_Sonic 11/10/22 6:39:14 PM #26: |
You're asking NOW? Have you run this by her at some point? --- I can't enjoy myself unless I know the decisions I made were good in the eyes of others. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Phantom36 11/10/22 6:39:18 PM #27: |
s0nicfan posted... That is 100% something you should have worked out before she decided to move in. Now it doesn't really matter what's fair, it's going to come down to what was assumed and what was communicated. Accurate tbh --- The Phantom has spoken! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mr_hulk88 11/10/22 6:39:23 PM #28: |
SHRlKE posted... What should I do then? I dont want her to get cold feet and not move in. I think whats right at this point is not bring it up now, frankly I find it weird and not romantic. After a month has passed I am very sure this matter will come up. Then you can "discuss" it. Basically not pressure coming from you directly but a talk that will organically start. The apartment was yours already and you have to pay for it regardless. In short, don't do anyhting now. Let things settle and wait for her to bring up paying the expenses electricity or something in the next days or weeks. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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WrestlinFan 11/10/22 6:42:24 PM #29: |
This situation seems a bit unstable TC. Better knock her up and have a kid with her, I think that will simplify things. --- https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Random ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DoesntMatter 11/10/22 6:43:15 PM #30: |
WrestlinFan posted... This situation seems a bit unstable TC. Better knock her up and have a kid with her, I think that will simplify things.lol --- It don't matter. None of this matters. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mr_hulk88 11/10/22 6:43:31 PM #31: |
WrestlinFan posted... This situation seems a bit unstable TC. Better knock her up and have a kid with her, I think that will simplify things.Plus adopt 2 aditional babies and 2 dogs. I think that would also help. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Blue_Inigo 11/10/22 6:43:38 PM #32: |
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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:43:54 PM #33: |
Mr_hulk88 posted... I think whats right at this point is not bring it up now, frankly I find it weird and not romantic. probably the option Ill end up going with tbh ... Copied to Clipboard!
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noisetank 11/10/22 6:44:17 PM #34: |
yikes --- Grim Reaper: "Your time has come" Xsquader: "sir whats your badge number?" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Strider102 11/10/22 6:44:40 PM #35: |
This is the quality content that keeps me coming back to CE. --- "I dreamt I was a moron." ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Aressar 11/10/22 6:45:45 PM #36: |
Would you allow your live-in female to pay part of your bills? --- One time, CE triggered me so hard with their objectively wrong opinions that I accidentally punched myself in the balls. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Aridi 11/10/22 6:46:12 PM #37: |
You should at least inform her that she's dating CE, apparently. --- When do you stop growing up and start dying? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SHRlKE 11/10/22 6:47:04 PM #38: |
Aressar posted... Would you allow your live-in female to pay part of your bills? yeah of course. Tbh I barely make rent and bills as it is so it will be useful if she would start contributing if things go well ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Pitlord_Special 11/10/22 6:47:13 PM #39: |
Vague expectations and ambiguous communication is the foundation of a prosperous relationship --- Posted from my iPhone 13 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Naysaspace 11/10/22 6:47:49 PM #40: |
unless you earn like 3x as much, then yeah split everything. Just make sure she isn't....yknow, "Staying with you" rather than "moving in with you". but based on the topic thus far, sounds like she's going to assume she's "staying with you" and pay nothing then one day she'll go to the store for cigarettes you know how that story goes ... Copied to Clipboard!
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creativeme 11/10/22 6:58:22 PM #41: |
not gonna tell us the rest of the story? like are you together? plan to be together? or is this just a friend and not gonna be more than that? like just because you dated before doesn't mean she's still interested but probably likely unless she pretty much had nowhere else to go. then depends on her job and stuff. half should be expected but she could just think she's moving in with you for free. definitely should have been discussed ahead of time. --- This is a sig ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dan_Haren- 11/10/22 7:06:55 PM #42: |
s0nicfan posted... That is 100% something you should have worked out before she decided to move in. Now it doesn't really matter what's fair, it's going to come down to what was assumed and what was communicated. I agree with this. If its your fiance or long-term partner where there is a mutual understanding that you're headed to the path of marriage...then I think its okay for her to move in and not pay costs. Otherwise I would charge her according to how close we are. Still a fresh couple, it might be a more even split...but she pay 40% of rent + no bills. If we're an more stable long term couple it might be 33% + no bills. But of course this is with the asterisk that you are vigilant on whether you are getting taken advantage of. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DCinGA 11/10/22 7:07:55 PM #43: |
She have a job TC? As alluded to earlier, it's a Red Flag if she wasn't paying her part with the previous dude ... Copied to Clipboard!
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I4NRulez 11/10/22 7:19:22 PM #44: |
Strider102 posted... This is the quality content that keeps me coming back to CE. My favorite part about these topics is that there's always 1 or 2 people that always say stuff like "HEY OP DONT LISTEN TO THESE PEOPLE DO WHAT YTOU WANT!" when its just people giving sane and rational advice. Good luck TC. These always end badly. --- The night brims with defiled scum,and is permeated by their rotten stench. Just think. Now you're all set to hunt and kill to your heart's content. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Smackems 11/10/22 7:21:51 PM #45: |
This board's obsession with people saying female is fucking weird --- Common sense says it may not taste good, but it'll make a turd. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Slaya4 11/10/22 7:37:09 PM #46: |
Don't let this bitch move in. Don't be a simp bro. You cant be this dry for some wet. --- Am I going too hard? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Prismsblade 11/10/22 7:43:58 PM #47: |
Assuming this isnt a troll topic does she have a decent job? If so idk why you wouldn't. But if not then either be prepare to care for her, or give her a grace period to find some kind and work and just pay what she can for the time being. --- 3DS FC:3368-5403-9633 Name: Kaizer PSN: Blackkaizer ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zonbei 11/10/22 7:50:51 PM #48: |
SHRlKE posted... Bit of back story. Female I was seeing wants to move in. She finally left her partner and coming to stay with me. I was getting worried a few weeks back when people said shed never leave him but here we are. calls women females other person left partner to move in this is going to go well. --- It's a luscious mix of words and tricks, that let us bet, when we know we should have folded. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Trumpo 11/10/22 7:58:49 PM #49: |
Congratulations on your freeloader --- Lancool II | Z690 Tomahawk |12700K | Fuma 2 | RTX 3070Ti | 16GB 3600MHz | FireCuda 530 1TB | Inland NVMe 1TB | RM750x ... Copied to Clipboard!
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GreenMario 11/10/22 8:05:48 PM #50: |
The first step is not calling her a female, that's weird --- Mario and his best friend Green Mario were introduced in Super Mario Bros for the NES in 1982. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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