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Why did you start seeing another barber ?

Men tend to treat women differently, unfavorably, when they find out they're taken.

Men tend to treat women differently, unfavorably, when they find out they're taken.

. Now I see another barber.

Why did you start seeing another barber ?

Men tend to treat women differently, unfavorably, when they find out they're taken.

Youve answered your own question.

The reason she didnt tell you is because you kept coming back because she didnt tell you.

In certain jobs, its just simpler (and sometimes more profitable) to appear to be single. I always used to be the same way when I worked in bars (increase tips and sales) and when I worked in recruitment (loads of the clients would flirt).

This is literally the most toxic board Ive ever seen.

Literally. I cant even believe a topic this innocent is being spun against you. I can easily name a half dozen examples of female coworkers and even female friends who failed to mention or barely discuss their relationship while remaining flirty. Obviously Ive observed the same exact thing with men as well.

This board projects so much about this incel shit when its actually they themselves who live under a rock and cant fathom a man or woman hiding their relationship with the purpose of potentially cheating, whether theyre your friend or professional barber.

Literally. I cant even believe a topic this innocent is being spun against you. I can easily name a half dozen examples of female coworkers and even female friends who failed to mention or barely discuss their relationship while remaining flirty. Obviously Ive observed the same exact thing with men as well.

There are tons of people out there that are flirty as a part of their personality, and it got nothing to do with sex.

This sounds dangerous for women.

Leading on men you know nothing about?

Leading men on? By doing things like talking to them and keeping aspects of their private life private? Oh those poor, poor men. Theyre the real victims here.

Obviously Im being sarcastic.

What's the biggest flirty line she actually said to you?

And then touch my shoulder.

I wasnt arguing about the mens feelings in that example but kudos to you I guess? If you care to take another crack at understanding my point feel free.

What's the biggest flirty line she actually said to you?

Youre making a point?

, explain what you mean if this isnt it.

Leading men on? By doing things like talking to them and keeping aspects of their private life private? Oh those poor, poor men. Theyre the real victims here.

Obviously Im being sarcastic.

Also how it seems like some people think theyre arguing for womens safety with
they have no obligation to tell you anything

but yetencourage women to hide those details, which SHOULD deter menso they can get more money from them based on bigger tips or repeated visits or whatever the nature of the business relationship is.

When also arent women also encouraged in dangerous situations with strange men trying to take them somewhere, or get into their hotel room (lots of those stories around lately) arent they encouraged to say something like my boyfriend is on his way even if they dont have one??

I've been accused of flirting with people uncountable times by partners when I simply wasn't; it's just how I behave. Don't make a big deal of it. Reading in to "flirty" behaviour is absolutely 100% on you

Then don't be a flirt.

I mean I already did in my other post. So Ill just re-quote what you said:

Im arguing: it seems like dangerous behaviour for a woman to let a man assume shes at all interested, because thats better for her bankroll. Meanwhile this chump thinks he might actually have a chance? And that hes buying her time? Is he owed something? Idk I dont care. Im not arguing for the mans feelings, but this is how some men then and Im just saying that woman is playing a dangerous game imho. Doesnt seem smart to me but shes free to do what she likes.

I dont care one iota I was the chump in my example, if that is what this hairdressers thought process is.

But why you are arguing this doesnt make any sense.

You have to remember that youre on CE. That does shape how I think about you when you talk about women. Maybe its not fair, but youve seen the kind of crap takes that are posted here all the time.

As for it being dangerous, maybe it is, but not because of the women. Its the men in those scenarios who are at fault and thats why my previous response was the way it was, because what youre saying sounds dangerously close to victim blaming, on a board where that kind of thing happens all the time.

If youre sincerely just making an observation, then fair play. I have no quarrel with that. But surely you can understand how it might come across differently?

I cant be held responsible for the shitheads here though.

Im making reasonable points, I think and arguing for the womans safety here completely. Thats all that is.

This sounds dangerous for women.

Leading on men you know nothing about?

Eh. Sometimes we gotta put the daggers away because it makes dagger sales skyrocket as everyone needs a dagger to protect from everyone else you may think has a concealed dagger

That paranoia isnt healthy for the betterment of this board.

I actually have a concealed dagger tbh

If Ill sharpen my daggers at all in regards to this board as a wholeyall literally need to just get out and talk to more people. Your ideas of what dating is or how people think is actually kinda scary to how far from reality you may be.

yall literally need to just get out and talk to more people.

i'm married, you thought your barber was flirting with you. i have achieved what you could not.

you and i are not the same.

I mean when this board has nothing better to do than to litigate the most briefest description of a series of events about two people who had dozens and dozens of interactions?

Aaaand for the summation of those litigations be so far out it fucking lunch that it makes you wonder if they ever have talked to another human being in their life.

Glad youre happily married. Though thats not the flex you may think it is I guess. Like you havent met two happily married weirdos who you thought glad yall found each otheryikes if notThen you and your significant other may need to get out more. Imho.

I don't think you're wrong for reading more out of her actions than she may have intended

And I don't think she's wrong for being friendly/flirty.

You misread the situation, realized you (probably) did, and felt it was a little weird that she never once mentioned a long term bf. You didn't harass or harangue her over it. You went "huh, that's a bit odd" and moved on with your life.

I also don't think it's wrong to have some level of expectation of someone to at least mention their SO at some point of a months/years long relationship, unless it's strictly business transactionary.