Current Events > Wtf she broke up with me. Why am I not sad?

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I'm a little freaked out right now about how little I care. She just called it quits on a six year relationship only a few hours ago. Currently have Tenet on in the background.

Uh Is this normal?

probably havent processed it yet

Either you were more ready for it to end than you were acknowledging and/or

Fam_Fam posted...

probably havent processed it yet

That.

It always hits more the next day imo

it's not TC's fault. it was her. sometimes things don't work out :(.

Sada_Pop posted...

Uh Is this normal?

People shrug through getting knocked down all the time. Gives you a chance to block the aftershock.

You most likely haven't processed it yet. Maybe you're in denial? If you're like me, you over think so at first it seems fine but then you start asking yourself questions and it becomes a huge bother for the next 12 years >_>

dameon_reaper posted...

You most likely haven't processed it yet. Maybe you're in denial? If you're like me, you over think so at first it seems fine but then you start asking yourself questions and it becomes a huge bother for the next 12 years >_>

This is more accurate than it seems.

Sada_Pop posted...

I'm a little freaked out right now about how little I care. She just called it quits on a six year relationship only a few hours ago. Currently have Tenet on in the background.

Uh Is this normal?

She didn't give you a reason why? Why don't you ask her yourself?

Did it feel like it was going to happen? Were you putting enough effort into the relationship?

I mean it could take a while to hit you, but if it doesn't, it's not a bad thing. You can move on faster.

Maybe you already knew it was over and have been mentally preparing yourself for a while

Yeah - when I went through a shitty traumatic thing last year, I was initially pretty okay because I was convinced that I had been making it up and that I was on the verge of losing my mind. I was outright chipper once I was told the bad news, because I felt like at least I had a concrete answer and I hadn't just made a massive ass of myself for no reason. From there, I reasoned, I could build on that bad news as a base and bounce back with less outright baggage than other situations where I had been in a bad way.

I spent the next week in bed. I woke up the next morning, it sunk in, and I spent the entire next week in a room, getting up to eat and shower once a day, and then going back to bed until I fell asleep.

I think that's one way this could go - I think it's likely, even. For the next few days, try and arrange a safety net in the event of you spiralling. Do whatever you can do to get that safety net.

The other option is that whether you've realised or not, aspects of your relationship have been bothering you more and more, and amidst any sadness this breakup could impart there may be a bittersweet sort of release or freedom. But that's extremely personal conjecture about somebody I don't even remotely know, so don't take my word for it.

If nothing else, keep a safety net in mind. Get some friends, irl or online, who can help you weather the storm. Think of some places that you love to eat at, preferably who do delivery. And allow yourself to process how you feel - not how you think you should feel, but how you actually feel. Don't worry about being the bigger person, just focus on surviving whatever might come next. Even if you don't feel particularly bad now, I urge you - make a worst case scenario survival plan, think about a safety net to help you weather this, and if you end up needing it you'll know what you need to do. If you end up being okay? Excellent. If you don't end up being okay, you've got that safety net in mind.

I'm sorry about your breakup TC, and I hope that you're gonna be alright.

maybe you're angry

nfearurspecimn posted...

angry

i have to channel it so my walls don't end up with a hole in it :(.
apartment manager wouldn't be pleased and i don't want to be on her bad side.

she would kick me out. 1200+ dollar rentals in my future.

Either it hasn't fully hit you yet, or you're finally free and secretly like it >_>

Depends on the context of the breakup honestly. I've had amiable breakups where we still kinda kept in touch after that really didn't bother me at all. Mutual ones too where we both agree it just kinda wasn't working. If that's the, in my personal experience, I would say it secretly doesn't bother you.

Otherwise, it'll probably hit you in a day or so.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/0/1/5/AAGiTSAAC8ev.jpg

I've seen this happen all too often.

dameon_reaper posted...

You most likely haven't processed it yet. Maybe you're in denial? If you're like me, you over think so at first it seems fine but then you start asking yourself questions and it becomes a huge bother for the next 12 years >_>

Bargaining

Adrenaline hasn't worn off yet.