Current Events > Today I had the closest thing I've ever had to a date

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Expected "an unusually large, plump raisin".

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DarthAragorn posted...

Still like 6+ months, then all I have is still being fuckin balding at 27 and a horrid worthless personality

i was balding at 27. Why do you think your personality is bad?

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DarthAragorn posted...

Still like 6+ months, then all I have is still being fuckin balding at 27 and a horrid worthless personality

your personality will change drastically with a splash of confidence. you can't really visualize it until it actually starts to happen. get over the hurdle of how long it will take to lose weight and start trying. balding doesn't matter if you shave it or go completely cueball. I rocked the bald look for like 2 years and that was when I easily had 60 lbs on your current weight, and I got attention

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jon1012 posted...

i was balding at 27. Why do you think your personality is bad?

As in why do I think that, or what aspects make it bad?

DarthAragorn posted...

Still like 6+ months

Honestly not if you really apply yourself. Cut back to 1500 calories per day and start doing cardio. Even just walking on an incline if you don't want to run, that shit will melt off fast. Especially in the early part of it.

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I had grey hair since 14, I'm 31 and 3/4th of my hair is grey and they don't care. You know what they care about? You constantly degrading yourself all the damn time. Like in all honestly, if you truly believe that then fine feel that way, but if this girl thinks otherwise then does it matter what you feel about yourself? Go and try to enjoy her company for her sake

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Phynaster posted...

Honestly not if you really apply yourself. Cut back to 1500 calories per day and start doing cardio. Even just walking on an incline if you don't want to run, that shit will melt off fast. Especially in the early part of it.

Dude Im like 50 pounds overweight, theres no way that goes quickly

DarthAragorn posted...

Dude Im like 50 pounds overweight, theres no way that goes quickly

:shrug:

You can definitely do 2 pounds per week. And like I said, at the start it might be more than that.

The best time to start is a month ago, the second best time is today.

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Maybe

the biggest problem for me by far is gonna be diet, I dont enjoy healthy foods at all aside from maybe grilled chicken, and even that gets old real fast

Well. You should still eat healthier because it's better for you in general, but the most important thing for weight loss is just calorie reduction. 1500 of ice cream is gonna lose you weight, 3000 of kale is gonna gain you weight.

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has anyone here popped the question.

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DarthAragorn posted...

Maybe

the biggest problem for me by far is gonna be diet, I dont enjoy healthy foods at all aside from maybe grilled chicken, and even that gets old real fast

The skinniest people I know eat like garbage. It isn't about eating healthy foods necessarily. It's about your caloric intake. And remember that muscle burns more than fat, so exercise helps out a lot.

ibu1996 posted...

has anyone here popped the question.

The answer is probably no

DarthAragorn posted...

Yeah ok I think were actually fine

except she said bye to me and I didnt hear because I had music on so I had to pause it and be like sorry what did you say like a dumbass and it ended up being nothing important

Told you so

And don't worry, we're all awkward from time to time
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Shit I just realized if I do ask her out soon I have no idea what we could do

i mean even less than usual, thanks covid

Go for a walk?
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Possible. Was hoping for something a little more involved or whatever but I guess thats a good cheap date at least.

Grab some sick food from a local grease trap and just walk around town or the park while talking

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There's a lot you can do with her.

-Walks
-Parks
-Netflix and chill
-Drive her to a location that over looks your city at night(if there is a place like that near you, have dinner with you)
-Coffee
-Lunch/Dinner eaten at a location other than the restaurant.
-Boba tea if you like that
-Video games if she is into that

There is tons of stuff to do, don't limit yourself, and try to find out what she likes then do some stuff that aligns with what you both like.

You got this man!

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I definitely do not think Ive got this but I may try to ask her out this weekend or next so Ill at least know for sure soonish

Just be aware that dating a co-worker can go horribly wrong.

If you break up thats bad. When you see the girl is dating someone else and you have to hear about it or worse see it. thats soulcrushing. Can lead to you quitting after so much heartbreak.

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ManaYuka posted...

Just be aware that dating a co-worker can go horribly wrong.

If you break up thats bad. When you see the girl is dating someone else and you have to hear about it or worse see it. thats soulcrushing. Can lead to you quitting after so much heartbreak.

Not worried about that, this job only lasts about another month

more worried that my self esteem cant handle the rejection

DarthAragorn posted...

Not worried about that, this job only lasts about another month

more worried that my self esteem cant handle the rejection

What do you do for work?

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ibu1996 posted...

has anyone here popped the question.

I have. I'm not with her anymore though. You need tips?

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vbty3 posted...

What do you do for work?

Just an intern at an accounting place

You know what, I shouldnt bother asking her out

Im clearly not mentally able to deal with any of this at all right now plus shed 100% say no anyway

Just ask for her number. doesnt have to be asking her out. just give her your phone and be like yo gimme your number

if you're REALLY uncomfortable with it you can give her yours

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

Just ask for her number. doesnt have to be asking her out. just give her your phone and be like yo gimme your number

if you're REALLY uncomfortable with it you can give her yours

Bro I dont even know how to do that, I dont think Ive gotten a girls number except for mandatory group stuff in college in like 7 years

I told you how, don't overthink it. Someday this month just be like, "hey so my internship is almost thru, gimme your number" and hand her your phone. If you guys leave work at the same time do it then, otherwise do it when you guys leave from lunch one day. It's real casual, people do it all the time. If you're uncomfortable with it, write your number down and give it to her while basically saying the same thing "hey so I'm almost outta here, here's my number kid"

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DarthAragorn posted...

Bro I dont even know how to do that, I dont think Ive gotten a girls number except for mandatory group stuff in college in like 7 years

Pretend its mandatory then lol your mind is overthinking a lot man, for all you know she could very well be into you and you wouldnt know that because you dont extend the arm to find out

Be cool with rejection and just be yourself, the worst thing she can do is say a bunch of whatever but after that youll either be hanging out or be on your path to something new

its like a rollercoaster ride, just get on it and by the time you know it its too late to get off the machine


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RedJackson posted...

Pretend its mandatory then lol your mind is overthinking a lot man, for all you know she could very well be into you and you wouldnt know that because you dont extend the arm to find out

Be cool with rejection and just be yourself, the worst thing she can do is say a bunch of whatever but after that youll either be hanging out or be on your path to something new

its like a rollercoaster ride, just get on it and by the time you know it its too late to get off the machine

She absolutely isnt lmao, no woman has ever been into me

and be yourself is terrible advice, cant you tell from this board what my personality is

DarthAragorn posted...

She absolutely isnt lmao, no woman has ever been into me

and be yourself is terrible advice, cant you tell from this board what my personality is

Nah, youre overthinking it - see?

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I mean maybe but I still think being myself is a bad idea

"Be yourself" is just a meaningless thing people say when they have nothing else to say. Be whomever it is she enjoys talking to and laughing with (obviously that's still you, just be "on")

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Chewtarch posted...

"Be yourself" is just a meaningless thing people say when they have nothing else to say. Be whomever it is she enjoys talking to and laughing with (obviously that's still you, just be "on")

Did you really feel the need to point that out in some weird passive way? Lol like you even agree with me there

Being that person IS being yourself - thats being yourself for someone else

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You best be sitting next to her today dawg

don't go thinkin I forgot

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I did and she talked to me a lot when we first came in

my man

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

my man

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She actually mentioned lunch today so she hasnt forgotten about it, maybe next week

Im not sure shes really my type though, shes kinda religious n shit

No one's expecting you to get married and shit, just keep chilling and getting a feel for her. Plenty of people say and act like they're religious then their actions say otherwise

I'd still aim for outside-of-work contact tbh

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DarthAragorn posted...

She actually mentioned lunch today so she hasnt forgotten about it, maybe next week

Im not sure shes really my type though, shes kinda religious n shit

You'll just have to talk to her and find out really

also wtf @Eyeratosthenes lol bruh you going all out with it, like how do you hate the religious to the point you say throw out a random comment like that about someone you don't even know

you just told the guy 'be open minded, but remember the religious are crazy - trust me pal'

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Idk she mentioned watching some movie based on the Bible and a week or two ago said she was reading or had finished reading some other book about religion and mentioned she was catholic

that seems like way too religious for me

jeffhardyb0yz posted...

Checking in. why havent you asked her out yet?

The religion thing is giving me some pause

Also I'm probably just using it as an excuse to do nothing and not risk the rejection