Poll of the Day > my wife wants an open relationship... sort of...

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ReturnOfFa
01/17/21 4:24:27 PM
#51:


My advice:

Could be terrible, could be what works. But any advice you're receiving here is useless. Go talk it out with a counselor.

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LinkPizza
01/17/21 4:30:28 PM
#52:


grimhilde00 posted...
Or she'll divorce you once she has someone else solid.

This is what I'd figure she's do, tbh... Open for her means she gets to keep looking for someone she thinks is better, while having you in case it doesn't work out... Doesn't mean she will, but the chances are high that she'll do that...

ReturnOfFa posted...
But any advice you're receiving here is useless.

I wouldn't say that. The advice is fine. They would just need to figure out which piece would work for them. I agree that they should probably talk to someone, but that doesn't mean everything we said here is useless...

TheOkHornedRat posted...
you'll be just as disappointed as you would if i exposed my wiener to you

I mean, I don't mind looking at wieners, so...
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deoxxys
01/17/21 4:32:42 PM
#53:


FatalAccident posted...
lmao who are u dude

this cannot be da real
TBH I imagine theres many guys irl like this, though obviously with a new account with only a few active posts brings into question the legitmacy of their individual case, though this could as easily could have been made to hide their identity.


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ReturnOfFa
01/17/21 4:33:57 PM
#54:


LinkPizza posted...
This is what I'd figure she's do, tbh... Open for her means she gets to keep looking for someone she thinks is better, while having you in case it doesn't work out... Doesn't mean she will, but the chances are high that she'll do that...

I wouldn't say that. The advice is fine. They would just need to figure out which piece would work for them. I agree that they should probably talk to someone, but that doesn't mean everything we said here is useless...
No, it's basically pointless. Unguided 'help' where you're forced to purvey a smoothie of advice is literally a waste of time. You could check unpersonalized advice that could he good on WebMD, or it'll be completely inappropriate for your situation. Or you could go to Quora. Or you could go to PotD.

Or you could cut all the middleman bullshit, and actually start the path to finding the right professionally trained person for you. There's still trial and error here, but there's far less of it than the shitmix you're served online.

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ReturnOfFa
01/17/21 4:35:48 PM
#55:


Reading a bunch of blended advice will keep you treading water in a situation obviously causing some anxiety.

I spent years of my life trying to get advice from PotD, Reddit, online forums...all I ended up with was a lot of hours logged online.

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LinkPizza
01/17/21 4:36:51 PM
#56:


ReturnOfFa posted...
No, it's basically pointless. Unguided 'help' where you're forced to purvey a smoothie of advice is literally a waste of time. You could check unpersonalized advice that could he good on WebMD, or it'll be completely inappropriate for your situation. Or you could go to Quora. Or you could go to PotD.

Or you could cut all the middleman bullshit, and actually start the path to finding the right professionally trained person for you. There's still trial and error here, but there's far less of it than the shitmix you're served online.

I agree he should talk to a person trained for this. But I still stand by what I said. They would have to know what works for them. The advice still isn't bad. Even a trained professional could give the same advice. What I'm saying is it's still up to him to choose who to listen to, or what advice to take. The advice itself still isn't bad. But we don't know enough to say if the advice would work for him. So, I'm not changing my response... I think the advice on it's own is fine. It just may not be what works for them... They might not even be able to see a professional. Not everyone has money to spend on stuff like that...
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deoxxys
01/17/21 4:39:53 PM
#57:


@SoftClock

If you arent troll posting then never accept that. It should be obtusely obvious why that is unfair. Also if she is so shallow as to leave you if you arent okay with this then its obvious she doesnt love you enough to care about your feelings.

Furthermore if my significant other ever wanted to do an open relationship with me I would push one rule forward beyond that. I would say "you cant sleep with someone new until you help find me a partner". This is due to the fact that a man finding a woman to sleep with is WAY more difficult then a woman finding a man to sleep with (lmao tbh women dont even have to look because they will get offers regardless). That topped with the fact that if you are being honest as a man about your relationship, woman will be further repelled once they learn you arent being exclusive with them.

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ReturnOfFa
01/17/21 4:41:21 PM
#58:


LinkPizza posted...
I agree he should talk to a person trained for this. But I still stand by what I said. They would have to know what works for them. The advice still isn't bad. Even a trained professional could give the same advice. What I'm saying is it's still up to him to choose who to listen to, or what advice to take. The advice itself still isn't bad. But we don't know enough to say if the advice would work for him. So, I'm not changing my response... I think the advice on it's own is fine. It just may not be what works for them... They might not even be able to see a professional. Not everyone has money to spend on stuff like that...
Fair enough, I see where you're coming from. I completely agree with you that the financial barrier for professional advice is absolutely the largest deterrent. I stand by what I feel to be a valid response as well :) I am speaking from my own experience, of course.

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levelshooter
01/17/21 5:07:52 PM
#59:


Divorce her or be a cuck, your choice...

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Syntheticon
01/17/21 5:11:25 PM
#60:


SoftClock posted...
she wants to open up on her side only tho, she said she is not fulfilled enough and needs more and that we can either try this or it's divorce....

i don't really want to do this... but i don't want a divorce... guess anything's worth a try once...

If it's only on her side that's not an open relationship, it's asking permission to have an affair. If you're not ok with it, the jealousy will drive you batshit and she'll leave because "she's having a great time and doesn't know what your problem is" or you say no, she cheats anyway because it sounds like she's going to see other people whether she's with you or not and things go crap and you'll break up anyway. If you want to have any chance of this working, you have to demand it be completely open on both sides or you're out-it's the only way it could be a semi happy ending imho.

Worst case, she's already cheated and looking for an easy way but either way you just have to start getting used to idea of this relationship being over because it sounds like she already has. You'll probably ignore all this and hang in there or agree to being a cuck (but not in the fun way) and be miserable for a year or two but I hope you prove me wrong, guy.

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TheOkHornedRat
01/17/21 5:46:39 PM
#61:


TC never returned to the topic and yall are still biting on this shit

I may be a low karma alt, but I'm not up in here blatantly trolling like this

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ReturnOfFa
01/17/21 7:24:31 PM
#62:


TheOkHornedRat posted...
TC never returned to the topic and yall are still biting on this shit

I may be a low karma alt, but I'm not up in here blatantly trolling like this
im just talking bruh bruh don't tell me I'm biting

now you're biting and trollin

OH!

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Revelation34
01/17/21 7:37:54 PM
#63:


TheOkHornedRat posted...
TC never returned to the topic and yall are still biting on this shit

I may be a low karma alt, but I'm not up in here blatantly trolling like this


It's been less than 24 hours.
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BlackScythe0
01/17/21 7:46:16 PM
#64:


TheOkHornedRat posted...
TC never returned to the topic and yall are still biting on this shit

I may be a low karma alt, but I'm not up in here blatantly trolling like this
This board revolves around gimmick posters.
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SoftClock
01/17/21 7:46:56 PM
#65:


thanks all for the input....

its tough but i think the only option here is to end it... i don't want to i still love her but i can see how one sided this is now....

thanks again...

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J Sasaki
01/17/21 7:49:55 PM
#66:


CarefreeDude posted...
Therapy

If she wanted to divorce outright, she would've divorced outright.
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JigsawTDC
01/17/21 7:58:26 PM
#67:


Possible theories thus far:

TheOkHornedRat and SoftClock are the same user. This seems likely since the former is weirdly concerned with the latter even though none of us know who either of these people are.

Sunny is SoftClock. He seems to be defensive of OP from his posts here. In this scenario HornedRat is likely one of our local "ok?" boys aka Ziggy. Makes sense since he's got Ok in the username and his sole distinguishing trait so far is attempting to troll Sunny (I mean just look at the sig and almost all their posts).
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BlackScythe0
01/17/21 8:01:46 PM
#68:


The fact that the dude posted right after hornedrat is... suggestive.
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SunWuKung420
01/17/21 8:03:44 PM
#69:


I'm done canning

JigsawTDC posted...


Sunny is SoftClock.
Then by your logic I'm also okrat. But okrat hates me.

Also I'm neither but jigsaw is both, softclock and okrat confirmed.

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JigsawTDC
01/17/21 8:06:05 PM
#70:


I proposed two possible theories that are independent of each other, and didn't purport either as definitive truth. Why are you getting so defensive over one of them?
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DDirtyDastard
01/17/21 8:27:45 PM
#71:


I haven't read a word of this topic outside the title, and I already know TC is fucked.
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SunWuKung420
01/17/21 8:34:24 PM
#72:


JigsawTDC posted...
I proposed two possible theories that are independent of each other, and didn't purport either as definitive truth. Why are you getting so defensive over one of them?
But your theories collided.

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LinkPizza
01/17/21 8:53:51 PM
#73:


J Sasaki posted...
If she wanted to divorce outright, she would've divorced outright.

Unless she's trying to find a new guy first...
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DrunkCaveman
01/17/21 9:03:39 PM
#74:


She wants a divorce and wants to appear like she's trying. Just do the divorce, it'll be so much less painful if you just admit she's unhappy and leave
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ReturnOfFa
01/17/21 11:40:30 PM
#75:


BlackScythe0 posted...
This board revolves around gimmick posters.
this board actually revolves around posts and reacting to them with posts.

poasts.

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pvegeta
01/17/21 11:41:13 PM
#76:


SoftClock posted...
she wants to open up on her side only tho, she said she is not fulfilled enough and needs more and that we can either try this or it's divorce....

i don't really want to do this... but i don't want a divorce... guess anything's worth a try once...

It's over. Get a divorce.

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Revelation34
01/18/21 12:00:10 AM
#77:


SunWuKung420 posted...
I'm done canning

Then by your logic I'm also okrat. But okrat hates me.

Also I'm neither but jigsaw is both, softclock and okrat confirmed.


I thought you used fresh ingredients at your restaurants.
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wwinterj25
01/18/21 12:04:49 AM
#78:


Revelation34 posted...
I thought you used fresh ingredients at your restaurants.
Nah. His Pizzas are probably frozen too.

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FrndNhbrHdCEman
01/18/21 3:40:54 AM
#79:


wwinterj25 posted...
Nah. His Pizzas are probably frozen too.
Cold as ice. Like his marital bed.

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SunWuKung420
01/18/21 7:08:31 AM
#80:


Revelation34 posted...
I thought you used fresh ingredients at your restaurants.
You know beer goes into cans, right?

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JigsawTDC
01/18/21 2:51:22 PM
#81:


SunWuKung420 posted...
But your theories collided.

"two possible theories that are independent of each other"
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Revelation34
01/18/21 3:03:08 PM
#82:


SunWuKung420 posted...

You know beer goes into cans, right?


Shit beer maybe. Good beer comes in bottles.
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SunWuKung420
01/18/21 3:16:04 PM
#83:


Revelation34 posted...
Shit beer maybe. Good beer comes in bottles.
Another point in rev's "I'm completely ignorant about a subject" column.


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Metalsonic66
01/18/21 6:07:43 PM
#84:


Revelation34 posted...
Shit beer maybe. Good beer comes in bottles.


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wwinterj25
01/18/21 6:14:24 PM
#85:


Revelation34 posted...
Shit beer maybe. Good beer comes in bottles.
Nah. Good beer comes in a pint glass. A can is alright as a substitute.

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grimhilde00
01/18/21 6:14:33 PM
#86:


SunWuKung420 posted...
Another point in rev's "I'm completely ignorant about a subject" column.

Maybe like he's in the middle of nowhere so the only canned beers he's seen is like Coors and thinks that's all canned beer?

Cause there's definitely craft canned beer that's delicious out there.

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SunWuKung420
01/18/21 6:54:14 PM
#87:


grimhilde00 posted...
Maybe like he's in the middle of nowhere so the only canned beers he's seen is like Coors and thinks that's all canned beer?

Cause there's definitely craft canned beer that's delicious out there.
If he is getting good beer in bottles, he's capable of getting good beer in cans.

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Black_Crusher
01/18/21 7:01:52 PM
#88:


SoftClock posted...
she wants to open up on her side only tho, she said she is not fulfilled enough and needs more and that we can either try this or it's divorce....

i don't really want to do this... but i don't want a divorce... guess anything's worth a try once...
I'd say no way or otherwise enjoy your herpes.

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ReturnOfFa
01/18/21 7:24:35 PM
#89:


good beer and bad beer come in a variety of vessels and the vessel does not indicate quality lol

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ReturnOfFa
01/18/21 7:25:00 PM
#90:


also, I slept with a stripper with herpes for a while

it's pretty easy to not get herpes

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deoxxys
01/18/21 9:04:17 PM
#91:


ReturnOfFa posted...
also, I slept with a stripper with herpes for a while

it's pretty easy to not get herpes
most of the population has dormant herpes

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Muscles
01/18/21 9:27:03 PM
#92:


When I see topics like this it makes me feel better about being single

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ReturnOfFa
01/18/21 9:35:04 PM
#93:


deoxxys posted...
most of the population has dormant herpes
yup. I also worked in pharmacies for 5 years and it took my a while to figure out what valacyclovir was for, ha.

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JigsawTDC
01/18/21 9:54:15 PM
#94:


According to my test results I have herpes, but I have never had an outbreak.
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chandlermbing
01/18/21 10:14:16 PM
#95:


Get divorced and get free man. Wish I had done that before the baby came, now I'm trapped or I'd lose my friends and family. I'm Marley , you are Scrooge. I'm already fucked but there is still time for you...

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wwinterj25
01/18/21 10:29:23 PM
#96:


chandlermbing posted...
Wish I had done that before the baby came, now I'm trapped

Divorce your family.


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LinkPizza
01/19/21 12:12:30 AM
#97:


chandlermbing posted...
Get divorced and get free man. Wish I had done that before the baby came, now I'm trapped or I'd lose my friends and family. I'm Marley , you are Scrooge. I'm already fucked but there is still time for you...

Fake your death...
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ReturnOfFa
01/19/21 12:47:34 AM
#98:


JigsawTDC posted...
According to my test results I have herpes, but I have never had an outbreak.
You're part of the sexy people club.

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