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SPE 01/12/21 2:21:41 PM #101: |
I am glad us Koroks do not have a gender, it sounds too complicated TBQH
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Vladimir 01/12/21 2:22:27 PM #102: |
My co-workers and I called each other chief, boss, captain, etc.
Do people say that where any of you work? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darkphoenix181 01/12/21 2:23:08 PM #103: |
Vladimir posted...
My co-workers and I called each other chief, boss, captain, etc. No ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jiggy101011 01/12/21 2:25:22 PM #104: |
Vladimir posted...
My co-workers and I called each other chief, boss, captain, etc. Boss all the time, chief yes when I lived in New Jersey. Never worked on a boat so never heard captain before lol --- XBL: F1RE v2 PSN: F1REx ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SPE 01/12/21 2:25:32 PM #105: |
Vladimir posted...
My co-workers and I called each other chief, boss, captain, etc. My co workers call each other by name. But we call Link Mr. Hero --- Welcome to the Spore Store! My shrooms are delicious, suspicious, but never malicious! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 01/12/21 2:26:05 PM #106: |
CyricZ posted...
Because of people like NOM who will take it as a personal insult that they can't call you whatever they want.Yes thats what I dont know about him. If hell get butthurt and make things weird or not. Like I said, hes new and I barely know him. My instinct is to deflect and hope he adjusts his behavior. If he continues then Ill be direct and if he STILL doesnt stop then its HR. Vladimir posted... My co-workers and I called each other chief, boss, captain, etc.No, not unless theyve become friends and know each other well. Its not common for anyone to throw out terms of endearment where Im from either. I cant remember the last time any coworker male or female has used terms like that with me. Our company is very big on using respectful language in the work space and are huge on training people on it, its a Californian tech company lol ... Copied to Clipboard!
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im not 13 01/12/21 2:26:21 PM #107: |
Thousands of women and children are being trafficked every day
TC is upset someone used a warm term towards her Can't make this stuff up --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NOM 01/12/21 2:26:47 PM #108: |
CyricZ posted...
Because of people like NOM who will take it as a personal insult that they can't call you whatever they want.WTF do you mean "people like NOM?" why you stereotyping me bro that's offensive! lol I actually never have any problems with this stuff IRL. If someone were to ask me not to call them dear or hon, or anything really, I would do it and apologize if they took offense. But its never happened because its never been an issue IRL. It's just stuff like this really irks me how someone can be so upset over nothing. Makes you worry for the next generation when this one is already so fragile. --- I dream broken dreams I make them come true ... Copied to Clipboard!
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hockeybub89 01/12/21 2:27:18 PM #109: |
im not 13 posted...
Thousands of women and children are being trafficked every dayWhy are you posting here when there are children to save? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darkphoenix181 01/12/21 2:27:32 PM #110: |
Post 107 I suspect is 13 year old person
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Axiom 01/12/21 2:28:03 PM #111: |
im not 13 posted...
Thousands of women and children are being trafficked every dayPosts like this are dumb as fuck. Also lol at warm term. That really says it all ... Copied to Clipboard!
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iPhone_7 01/12/21 2:29:52 PM #112: |
I know the feeling, I have a female coworker who frequently refers to me as my dear.
Can you help me with something my dear. Like I have a name. Very disrespectful. --- Sig User Logic https://imgur.com/lA5fm7w ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Veggeta X 01/12/21 2:31:29 PM #113: |
People call me Fake Vegy at work
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Cleo_II 01/12/21 2:32:20 PM #114: |
im not 13 posted...
Thousands of women and children are being trafficked every dayNice selective reading youve got there. Ive mentioned time and time again it wasnt just the term but the combination of context, which seems lost on you and a few others for some reason. But then again with the kind of men that frequent this board, Im not surprised by some of the responses. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Prestoff 01/12/21 2:34:52 PM #115: |
darkphoenix181 posted...
She may not like that but never told you. If that's true, she wouldn't be calling me 1920's slangs either. --- DI MOLTO! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BaphometFlux 01/12/21 2:35:50 PM #116: |
I used to call my Army co workers douchebags.
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im not 13 01/12/21 2:35:55 PM #117: |
Cleo_II posted...
Nice selective reading youve got there. Ive mentioned time and time again it wasnt just the term but the combination of context, which seems lost on you and a few others for some reason. But then again with the kind of men that frequent this board, Im not surprised by some of the responses. If "dear" triggers you then don't walk down a local market in the UK Someone might even refer to you as "luv" Rage inducing I'm sure. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Esrac 01/12/21 2:37:08 PM #118: |
Cleo_II posted...
Dont do that. That is the dumbass shit chicks do that just complicates things. Hell, this trope is ancient. Woman vents because she's frustrated the guy doesn't understand what she wants. Because instead of just saying it plainly, she just drops a few stupid hints and expects him to read her mind. Just keep it simple and tell him plain what you want him to stop doing. Hell, making joking banter like that is just going to risk more drama, because it can be indistinguishable from flirting. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darkphoenix181 01/12/21 2:38:43 PM #119: |
Veggeta X posted...
People call me Fake Vegy at work How much does gamefaqs pay? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrankJaegr 01/12/21 2:39:36 PM #120: |
DuranOfForcena posted...
i don't understand this post. why are you saying "no offense"? what would i take offense from? bringing it up to the dude so he can apologize is literally what i am advising TC to do. and what would be not professional about that? Mostly cause I threw a jab at TCs expense over the whole DONT work in a professional setting - I couldnt resist but then I thought eh, I mean - if youre really feeling that way I guess the solution is there should you wish it prompting my second post >_> CyricZ posted... Because of people like NOM who will take it as a personal insult that they can't call you whatever they want. Lots of people think lots of things, but yeah - I mean, some people arent receptive to being told what they cant or cannot do More often than not conflict resolution is possible, people just dont really opt for that for whatever reason ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NOM 01/12/21 2:40:01 PM #121: |
Cleo_II posted...
Nice selective reading youve got there. Ive mentioned time and time again it wasnt just the term but the combination of context, which seems lost on you and a few others for some reason. But then again with the kind of men that frequent this board, Im not surprised by some of the responses.Yeah judging by the type of women that frequent this board, I could properly guess what their responses were going to be, too. --- I dream broken dreams I make them come true ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NoxObscuras 01/12/21 2:41:20 PM #122: |
Cleo_II posted...
Yes thats what I dont know about him. If hell get butthurt and make things weird or not. Like I said, hes new and I barely know him. My instinct is to deflect and hope he adjusts his behavior. If he continues then Ill be direct and if he STILL doesnt stop then its HR.Weird. I work in Los Angeles and have been called terms of endearment by multiple people. Had a few guys that call everyone boss. And one guy called everyone "my guy" but he wasn't an LA native. Also worked with women that called every guy sweetie, hun, or honey. But yeah, you have to explain to him that you don't want to be called dear. I hate to say it, but us guys are dense lol. He may not even realize he's being condescending. If he doesn't stop, then go to HR (but obviously don't tell him you're going to HR). --- PSN - NoxObscuras i7-7700K | EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra | 32GB DDR4 | 4TB SSD ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 01/12/21 2:42:54 PM #123: |
Esrac posted...
Dont do that. That is the dumbass shit chicks do that just complicates things.You say that but you dont have experience with being direct with men as a woman either. Ive been politely direct with men before and got called names or had meltdowns over it . Men will say they want you to be direct but many get butthurt and confrontational after (of course not all or even a majority). He could act nice to me then go around and tell the whole team behind my back that Im such an uptight bitch, etc. That is why I plan on just taking it lightly for now and direct if he does it again. I dont know enough about him personally to gauge what sort of reaction hell have. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Smackems 01/12/21 2:43:27 PM #124: |
Better than being his deer
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Twin3Turbo 01/12/21 2:44:54 PM #125: |
Esrac posted...
Dont do that. That is the dumbass shit chicks do that just complicates things.Agreed. TC, if this makes you uncomfortable thats understandable. Being direct with something like this would be your best option: Sure Ill take a look at this. Just as an aside I have one request for you, could you please refrain from using terms like dear in reference to me? I understand that it is probably not your intention but being referred to like that makes me uncomfortable. Thanks for understanding If he is a jackass after that then yeah Id report him to HR --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 01/12/21 2:49:11 PM #126: |
NoxObscuras posted...
Weird. I work in Los Angeles and have been called terms of endearment by multiple people. Had a few guys that call everyone boss. And one guy called everyone "my guy" but he wasn't an LA native. Also worked with women that called every guy sweetie, hun, or honey.What kind of company do you work for? Ive been in CA for 10 years now and Ive rarely ever been called that by someone I havent already established a friendly relationship with. But Ive always worked office jobs. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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im not 13 01/12/21 2:59:04 PM #127: |
TC if he said "be a dear and get that for me" would you find that offensive ?
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ColdOne666 01/12/21 3:00:47 PM #128: |
TC having a meltdown, i get called pet names all the time, who cares.
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voldothegr8 01/12/21 3:03:15 PM #129: |
Total power move and it seems it's working
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AzurexNightmare 01/12/21 3:08:18 PM #130: |
roos1046 Reborn posted...
over react much?Random wussy: YIKES --- Latest Game Completed 100% Resident Evil VII ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lord_Wombat 01/12/21 3:08:50 PM #131: |
Jesus christ is this a real topic?
If so, stay away from the southern US or your delicate little sensibilities may be in for a rude awakening. --- Night will come and I will follow For my victims, no tomorrow ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Choco 01/12/21 3:10:24 PM #132: |
Choco posted...
i dunno about "cultural" but if he's ESL it may just be a language mistake?@Cleo_II is this not a possibility? people who only speak english never seem to realize that language barriers are a thing? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lord_Wombat 01/12/21 3:11:30 PM #134: |
hockeybub89 posted...
I disagree, but even if you were correct I'd rather be an idiot than a snowflake. --- Night will come and I will follow- For my victims, no tomorrow Koroks are f***ing stupid in every way, shape, or form. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 01/12/21 3:18:22 PM #135: |
Lord_Wombat posted...
Jesus christ is this a real topic?Lmao Im a woman and a minority. Why on earth would I even want to be in a southern state? You can keep your ingrained racism and sexism for all I care. Choco posted... @Cleo_II is this not a possibility? people who only speak english never seem to realize that language barriers are a thing?Sure, definitely possible. But as I mentioned, if it was just the term Id be more understanding. But the combination of coming across like giving me an order when hes just the new guy that started a couple of months ago is what bothered me. And I can fully recognize that I might be overly angry being 6 months pregnant and incredibly sleep deprived (4 hours a night). So its not like I went screaming to HR. I vented to the board and feel a lot better. Some people are just really bored and making this topic to be something much different. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pauIie 01/12/21 3:20:13 PM #136: |
this shouldn't have ever been a thread let alone have 136 posts as of mine.
who cares. chill out. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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nothanks1 01/12/21 3:23:08 PM #137: |
Cleo, as someone who has worked heavily with people who have English as second/third/fourth language, they can really get the short end of the stick in terms of what is and isn't ok
I get you're (understandably) annoyed but if he does it again ask him to stop and explain that you don't feel comfortable. At worse he'll keep doing it and you have to go to HR at best he'll stop doing it to any other women and probably correct any of his friends too --- for the alcohlics https://www.aa.org/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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hockeybub89 01/12/21 3:24:49 PM #138: |
Lord_Wombat posted...
I disagree, but even if you were correct I'd rather be an idiot than a snowflake.Yeah here they'll just cry if you try to do something while gay. So much better. The South can't even get over racist rich people losing an insurrection after 150 years. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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thronedfire2 01/12/21 3:25:14 PM #139: |
Lord_Wombat posted...
I disagree, but even if you were correct I'd rather be an idiot than a snowflake. youre both, though --- I could see you, but I couldn't hear you You were holding your hat in the breeze Turning away from me In this moment you were stolen... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Choco 01/12/21 3:25:35 PM #140: |
thronedfire2 posted...
youre both, thoughLMAO --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NoxObscuras 01/12/21 3:26:55 PM #141: |
Cleo_II posted...
What kind of company do you work for? Ive been in CA for 10 years now and Ive rarely ever been called that by someone I havent already established a friendly relationship with. But Ive always worked office jobs.Right now I work for Social Services and only the one manager that I'm close to, calls me by pet names. Before though, I did office work in a police station. That was where the pet names happened the most. One woman was calling me sweetie the moment she introduced herself. --- PSN - NoxObscuras i7-7700K | EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra | 32GB DDR4 | 4TB SSD ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SpaceBear_ 01/12/21 3:28:08 PM #142: |
I run a bar and I call everyone "my dear", wtf. Mostly female customers.
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harley2280 01/12/21 3:29:45 PM #143: |
im not 13 posted...
Thousands of women and children are being trafficked every day Found the Qanon supporter. --- Posted with GameRaven 3.6.0_B3 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Atarifanboy1977 01/12/21 3:31:15 PM #144: |
What is so bad about this exactly? I'm often called Honey, Dear, Sweetie, and even Darling by random women and men.
If you don't like it. politely ask him to refrain from calling ;you dear. Its not a big deal. More than likely your co-worker meant nothing by it. --- Consoles I own, ps1-4, PSP, PSVITA, NeoGeo Cd, famicom disk system, Sega nomad, master system, Xbox 360, Xbox one, Sega cd, PC engine cd, cdi, 3do, wiiu, ngc ... Copied to Clipboard!
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harley2280 01/12/21 3:31:38 PM #145: |
hockeybub89 posted...
Lord_Wombat posted...Jesus christ is this a real topic?Yes we know the southern US is full of idiots Live in the Southern US. Can confirm. --- Posted with GameRaven 3.6.0_B3 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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nothanks1 01/12/21 3:31:41 PM #146: |
How is it even hard to understand, like he just fucking met her
If Russian Lady had started calling me her husband at work when we just met it would be fucking weird It was only after months of working together as work friends she was using pet names for me and even then it was clearly fucking ok with me You people need to fucking like... adult --- for the alcohlics https://www.aa.org/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tequilawhatitdo 01/12/21 3:33:40 PM #147: |
Baby woulda been weird.
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Cleo_II 01/12/21 3:35:06 PM #148: |
SpaceBear_ posted...
I run a bar and I call everyone "my dear", wtf. Mostly female customers.Ok. Say youre serving a long ass line of customers and some woman who started a couple of months ago came up to you and said Hey, the person in the back of the line wants your attention. Please get to them now. Thanks dear that would not bother you? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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kinetika_ 01/12/21 3:36:38 PM #149: |
Cleo_II posted...
You say that but you dont have experience with being direct with men as a woman either. Ive been politely direct with men before and got called names or had meltdowns over it . Men will say they want you to be direct but many get butthurt and confrontational after (of course not all or even a majority). He could act nice to me then go around and tell the whole team behind my back that Im such an uptight bitch, etc. That is why I plan on just taking it lightly for now and direct if he does it again. I dont know enough about him personally to gauge what sort of reaction hell have. My GF (might as well be my wife) outright tells men to not call her "sweetie" or "dear" or whatever. She's a manager at Walmart and deals with a bunch of truck drivers that do that, and she'll just say "Don't call me that, I'm not your ___." It'll catch them off guard, too, because she's just so blunt and up front about things. Sometimes they'll give her some sass or back talk, and she'd tell them pretty rudely to shut up, so she can unload the truck. Just say things matter-of-factly and with confidence, and a man will respect you (more likely to think you're a bitch, too, but who cares -- you're there to work). If they act like a crybaby, then ignore the bitch fit and redirect it back to the task at hand. This is how my GF has dealt with men all her life, at the workplace, and why she's always in a power position. --- PSN: PurifyNothing ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lord_Wombat 01/12/21 3:37:53 PM #151: |
Cleo_II posted...
Lmao Im a woman and a minority. Why on earth would I even want to be in a southern state? You can keep your ingrained racism and sexism for all I care. Do you need me to explain the irony here, or should I just post this to r/selfawarewolves my dear? hockeybub89 posted...
Cool, but we're discussing pet names used politely in a professional manner, not the morons the media presents that make all southerners look like your stereotypical slack jawed yokel. nothanks1 posted... How is it even hard to understand, like he just fucking met her So is offensive that my go to term for males I don't know is "boss" or "my guy"? If not, how is "dear" offensive? --- Night will come and I will follow- For my victims, no tomorrow Koroks are f***ing stupid in every way, shape, or form. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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