Current Events > It would be so much easier if I could actually match with women

(+) Yeah! (+)

My standards arent high so I'd probably have a gf within 10 matches if they genuinely liked something about me

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I wonder what the very obvious red flag on my profile is

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

I wonder what the very obvious red flag on my profile is

Me too

Socrawheeze posted...

Me too

Dont you have normal relationship luck

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Dont you have normal relationship luck

Relationship, not really I have bad luck in those. Meeting people I guess my luck is alright

I meant I wonder about ur profile as well

Socrawheeze posted...

Relationship, not really I have bad luck in those. Meeting people I guess my luck is alright

I meant I wonder about ur profile as well

Yeah, idk, I think I'm just not super attractive. You can tell exactly what I look like from my pics but they're not flattering I guess

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That alone shouldn't explain a complete lack of matches imo

Socrawheeze posted...

That alone shouldn't explain a complete lack of matches imo

Being ugly? Totally does

Even average guys have this issue

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you should let CE design your profile
you'll be rolling in relationships

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Simp posted...

you should let CE design your profile
you'll be rolling in relationships

Sure, what should my bio be? I'm using tinder

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Being ugly? Totally does

Even average guys have this issue

You said "not super attractive", not "ugly"

also it does depend on how ugly. even when i was a mondo fat I could match

Socrawheeze posted...

You said "not super attractive", not "ugly"

also it does depend on how ugly. even when i was a mondo fat I could match

Yeah also I'm not white I guess

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You're approaching a dangerous territory friendo

Socrawheeze posted...

You're approaching a dangerous territory friendo

I mean, there are only so many things it could be my dude, and we went over being ugly already

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Sure, what should my bio be? I'm using tinder

Well, the pictures are the most important part. Show us at least 20 pictures so we can figure out which ones best show you off.

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Simp posted...

Well, the pictures are the most important part. Show us at least 20 pictures so we can figure out which ones best show you off.

I dont even have 20 pictures of me from the last 2 years

Just take my word when I say I have a few physical flaws lol

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the way youre talking about yourself in this topic is pretty clear indication of why you arent doing great in the dating world. Love yourself bro.

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Simp posted...

Well, the pictures are the most important part. Show us at least 20 pictures so we can figure out which ones best show you off.

Anyway just pick my bio because personality is more important for me, it's what I swipe for.

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Simp posted...

Well, the pictures are the most important part. Show us at least 20 pictures so we can figure out which ones best show you off.

Anyway just pick my bio because personality is more important for me, it's what I swipe for.

That may be the case for you, but that doesn't mean it is for the average person
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J03can posted...

the way youre talking about yourself in this topic is pretty clear indication of why you arent doing great in the dating world. Love yourself bro.

People love saying this. I look fine but I know I have flaws. Also I'm being neutral at worst here because it's more candid

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

I mean, there are only so many things it could be my dude, and we went over being ugly already

We really didn't

teepan95 posted...

That may be the case for you, but that doesn't mean it is for the average person

Women focus on pics because they will post 7 pics of their face where you can't tell what's what

My pics are straight forward and you know pretty much exactly what I look like. I just need an open mouth smile pic.

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Socrawheeze posted...

We really didn't

Ok, now we did. I'm not UGLY but I do have some features that are anathema for a lot of women

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It seems like you just made this thread to feel bad about yourself

Socrawheeze posted...

It seems like you just made this thread to feel bad about yourself

It seems like there arent many good reasons for me to be getting -near zero- (I got one initially) matches, so yes I am mad and feel bad

I'm not even mad I just feel bad

Even if I have a bad attitude here, that explains so little

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How big is the population where you live? If it's a small area then I can see why it'd be hard but if you live in a densely populated area you should be able to get matches. I actually met my current gf on tinder and I got a lot of matches beforehand on there and I mean I'm not exactly the best looking guy either. I would change my bio a lot though between random funny phrases or jokes, I feel like that helps. I also have a dog so I got a lot of cheap matches just for that. :P

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WaterLink posted...

How big is the population where you live? If it's a small area then I can see why it'd be hard but if you live in a densely populated area you should be able to get matches. I actually met my current gf on tinder and I got a lot of matches beforehand on there and I mean I'm not exactly the best looking guy either. I would change my bio a lot though between random funny phrases or jokes, I feel like that helps. I also have a dog so I got a lot of cheap matches just for that. :P

I live in Toronto, lol

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@Orlando_Jordan

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Orlando_Jordan

Is TC a troll that I've just never noticed before or something

He's never come across as a troll to me
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Socrawheeze posted...

Is TC a troll that I've just never noticed before or something

I want attention, got a problem?

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Try a different app? What are you using, Tinder?

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teepan95 posted...

He's never come across as a troll to me

Ok why is he summoning one of the worst posters ever who obviously only posts lies and insults to make people like tc feel bad about themselves

smoke_break posted...

Try a different app? What are you using, Tinder?

I'm on okcupid too but havent been using it, I only have 90 questions answered. But eventually I will start putting time into that. Mostly tinder. I swipe conservatively on people I actually care for for an hour then just right swipe everyone after that.

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Cause he thinks he's genuine?

Or maybe he just doesn't care
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Hard to say much without seeing the pictures. Are you smiling in them? Are they flattering? What do you have in your bio? Does it sound negative?

Also TC, at least you're putting yourself out there

Some of us aren't even doing that >_>
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MedeaLysistrata posted...

I live in Toronto, lol

Then yeah there's gotta be something on your profile that's really wrong, no way you should be coming up empty in such a cosmopolitan city like Toronto.

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Need pics, its not hard to get a match

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Cleo_II posted...

Hard to say much without seeing the pictures. Are you smiling in them? Are they flattering? What do you have in your bio? Does it sound negative?

Yeah, I dont have an open smile pic which might be the one thing that is the issue. >_>;

I do need a few more decent pictures. But basically zero matches is kinda bullshit regardless since the three I do have are pretty summary

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

I'm on okcupid too but havent been using it, I only have 90 questions answered. But eventually I will start putting time into that. Mostly tinder. I swipe conservatively on people I actually care for for an hour then just right swipe everyone after that.

Yeah I think you would have better luck on OKCupid. Tinder is just about looks.

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My bio is just a shitty joke then some emojis for my hobbies

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You need to look like you're having fun in your pics

Wow, 40 posts, this blew up

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Tinder is more of a meat market. OKcupid seems more your speed.
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Notti posted...

Tinder is more of a meat market. OKcupid seems more your speed.

The same thing happens, I've tried before

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

My bio is just a shitty joke then some emojis for my hobbies

I've never used Tinder, but just speaking for myself, I'd never bother with anyone unless I knew they were capable of talking about themselves. If they can't tell me what makes them interesting, they probably aren't. Put in the effort.

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

My bio is just a shitty joke then some emojis for my hobbies

When's the last time you changed it? I used to change it every few days to avoid remaining stale. I didn't change pictures as often but I still did that too. If whatever you're doing isn't working it's probably time to do a makeover on your profile.

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Pus_N_Pecans posted...

I've never used Tinder, but just speaking for myself, I'd never bother with anyone unless I knew they were capable of talking about themselves. If they can't tell me what makes them interesting, they probably aren't. Put in the effort.

I dont buy "interesting". Do you think anyone cares about my hobbies or interests, or is it more like there is a list of pre approved things people want to see? What makes someone interesting?

WaterLink posted...

When's the last time you changed it? I used to change it every few days to avoid remaining stale. I didn't change pictures as often but I still did that too. If whatever you're doing isn't working it's probably time to do a makeover on your profile.

I shortened it a bit today. What's in your profile?

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

I dont buy "interesting". Do you think anyone cares about my hobbies or interests, or is it more like there is a list of pre approved things people want to see? What makes someone interesting?

I would. Having a personality, passions, hopes, and dreams are what makes a person interesting. I wouldn't even care if they were passionate about something I wasn't, as long as they had SOMETHING.

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