Poll of the Day > It's a year now since our friend stopped talking to us

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FatalAccident 01/03/21 11:26:38 PM #1:	I made this topic back in March. My friends dad died in Jan last year and he went silent, me and my other friend gave him some space at the time before reaching out so as not to overwhelm him, which Im starting to think is what pissed him off but idk because he hasnt said anything. So maybe that was our mistake. So anyway, we reached out in Jan and heard nothing back. Some missed phone calls and ignored texts every few weeks/months later and were in June/July halfway through the year and still nothing back. So anyway me and this guy are two of his closest friends, and we have a group chat with 4 people in it and hes been silent. But were all also in a group chat with 20 or so other people and hes very active there, even laughed at a joke that I made then deleted the message for some reason. Its strange, I know people grieve in different ways but hes singled out the two of us to freeze out inexplicably. Hes still going to birthday parties and dinners with our other friends and shit so idk lol. The only thing I can think is cause we didnt reach out straight away at the time, but he didnt even tell us himself we only happened to find out from a third by chance. So yeah I really dont know what to do - the guy is just silent. --- walks away <cite>FatalAccident posted [p:949076956] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>I made this topic back in March. My friends dad died in Jan last year and he went silent, me and my other friend gave him some space at the time before reaching out so as not to overwhelm him, which Im starting to think is what pissed him off but idk because he hasnt said anything. So maybe that was our mistake. So anyway, we reached out in Jan and heard nothing back. Some missed phone calls and ignored texts every few weeks/months later and were in June/July halfway through the year and still nothing back. So anyway me and this guy are two of his closest friends, and we have a group chat with 4 people in it and hes been silent. But were all also in a group chat with 20 or so other people and hes very active there, even laughed at a joke that I made then deleted the message for some reason. Its strange, I know people grieve in different ways but hes singled out the two of us to freeze out inexplicably. Hes still going to birthday parties and dinners with our other friends and shit so idk lol. The only thing I can think is cause we didnt reach out straight away at the time, but he didnt even tell us himself we only happened to find out from a third by chance. So yeah I really dont know what to do - the guy is just silent. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 01/03/21 11:31:52 PM #2:	Move on. Clearly he isn't your friend. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/YvP6isz <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:949077134] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Move on. Clearly he isn't your friend. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JigsawTDC 01/04/21 12:07:19 AM #3:	wwinterj25 posted... Move on. Clearly he isn't your friend. This is good advice. I've been in a similar situation to yours and I know it's not easy feeling like a friend has dropped you out of the blue, but at the end of the day it's their decision to make and they don't owe anyone an explanation. It sucks, especially if it's someone you were close with, but you're better off without people who don't want you. <cite>JigsawTDC posted [p:949078143] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>wwinterj25 posted... </cite> <quote>Move on. Clearly he isn't your friend.</quote> This is good advice. I've been in a similar situation to yours and I know it's not easy feeling like a friend has dropped you out of the blue, but at the end of the day it's their decision to make and they don't owe anyone an explanation. It sucks, especially if it's someone you were close with, but you're better off without people who don't want you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Raddest_Chad 01/04/21 1:09:49 AM #4:	Yeah, the other posters are right. It's not worth it. If they wanted to be your friend anymore this wouldn't be happening. You didn't do anything wrong. Just let it go. It's their problem, not yours. <cite>Raddest_Chad posted [p:949079684] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, the other posters are right. It's not worth it. If they wanted to be your friend anymore this wouldn't be happening. You didn't do anything wrong. Just let it go. It's their problem, not yours. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 01/04/21 1:12:58 AM #5:	JigsawTDC posted... but at the end of the day it's their decision to make and they don't owe anyone an explanation. They kinda do owe an explanation, they were friends. What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour? --- Doctor Foxx posted... The demonizing of soy has a lot to do with xenophobic ideas. <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:949079746] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>JigsawTDC posted...</cite> <quote>but at the end of the day it's their decision to make and they don't owe anyone an explanation. </quote> They kinda do owe an explanation, they were friends. What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JoanOfArcade 01/04/21 1:21:32 AM #6:	Kyuubi4269 posted... They kinda do owe an explanation, they were friends. What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour? No one is owed anything in this life --- Official most positive poster on PotD <cite>JoanOfArcade posted [p:949079931] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Kyuubi4269 posted... </cite> <quote>They kinda do owe an explanation, they were friends. What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour?</quote>No one is owed anything in this life </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 01/04/21 1:23:56 AM #7:	JoanOfArcade posted... No one is owed anything in this life Legally people are owed lots, and morally people are owed explanations from people they are supposedly close to. --- Doctor Foxx posted... The demonizing of soy has a lot to do with xenophobic ideas. <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:949079972] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>JoanOfArcade posted...</cite> <quote> No one is owed anything in this life </quote> Legally people are owed lots, and morally people are owed explanations from people they are supposedly close to.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
dedbus 01/04/21 1:43:34 AM #8:	Idk if they feel scorned by that you can explain yourselves. I'm not sure if reaching out just means "Hey" or "Hey sorry we've been distant because we believed you needed your space." <cite>dedbus posted [p:949080296] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Idk if they feel scorned by that you can explain yourselves. I'm not sure if reaching out just means "Hey" or "Hey sorry we've been distant because we believed you needed your space." </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus 01/04/21 2:15:58 AM #9:	JoanOfArcade posted... No one is owed anything in this life When you see somebody you know and they say hello, do you tell them "I don't owe you a hello"? =p --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| There are precious few at ease / With moral ambiguities / So we act as though they don't exist. <cite>Zeus posted [p:949080790] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>JoanOfArcade posted... </cite> <quote>No one is owed anything in this life</quote> When you see somebody you know and they say hello, do you tell them "I don't owe you a hello"? =p </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DirtBasedSoap 01/04/21 2:40:20 AM #11:	Kyuubi4269 posted... What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour? damn you really tried with that one --- hoes mad <cite>DirtBasedSoap posted [p:949081196] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Kyuubi4269 posted... </cite> <quote>What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour?</quote>damn you really tried with that one </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FatBecky 01/04/21 3:44:48 AM #12:	He/she mustve cut the toxic people out of their life --- . <cite>FatBecky posted [p:949082030] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>He/she mustve cut the toxic people out of their life </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kimbos_Egg 01/04/21 5:11:22 AM #13:	You shouldn't have sold your switch I'm coming for the rest of them. --- You think you've Got problems? https://imgur.com/Khu5iBF <cite>Kimbos_Egg posted [p:949082915] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>You shouldn't have sold your switch I'm coming for the rest of them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PK_Spam 01/04/21 5:39:58 AM #14:	This is just something that happens to everyone. Sometimes people just have shit going on and have priorities outside of you. I used to have a friend I called/texted at least twice a month, but last May I got tired of being the one always initiating contact, and I havent heard from him since. It sucks, but its things like this that make your understand your role in their life. I will never text him again, nor can I! I deleted his number! --- "You're not a good person, you'll never be one, you'll never even convince anyone to mistakenly believe you to be one." -HCE to me <cite>PK_Spam posted [p:949083191] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>This is just something that happens to everyone. Sometimes people just have shit going on and have priorities outside of you. I used to have a friend I called/texted at least twice a month, but last May I got tired of being the one always initiating contact, and I havent heard from him since. It sucks, but its things like this that make your understand your role in their life. I will never text him again, nor can I! I deleted his number! </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 01/04/21 9:41:23 AM #15:	Kyuubi4269 posted... They kinda do owe an explanation, they were friends. What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour? They are owed nothing when it comes to relationships. I'd have the common decency to let said friend know it's not working out between us and we should start seeing other people all while caressing their leg but that's because I'm a nice guy. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/YvP6isz <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:949086998] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Kyuubi4269 posted... </cite> <quote>They kinda do owe an explanation, they were friends. What is with Americans absolving all responsibility for shitty behaviour?</quote>They are owed nothing when it comes to relationships. I'd have the common decency to let said friend know it's not working out between us and we should start seeing other people all while caressing their leg but that's because I'm a nice guy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 01/04/21 9:54:20 AM #16:	Keep reaching out. What if he thinks no one cares? --- For what it's worth I was the one that made up the scenario that she posted on Facebook about him beating her lmao. Cacciato 11/12/2020 <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:949087303] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Keep reaching out. What if he thinks no one cares? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 01/04/21 12:38:59 PM #17:	Kimbos_Egg posted... You shouldn't have sold your switch I'm coming for the rest of them. Lmao --- Official Former King of Black People(Lost to Joe Biden) http://imgur.com/a/yNvXsJe <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:949092154] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Kimbos_Egg posted... </cite> <quote>You shouldn't have sold your switch I'm coming for the rest of them.</quote>Lmao </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 01/04/21 12:41:16 PM #18:	wwinterj25 posted... They are owed nothing when it comes to relationships. I'd have the common decency to let said friend know it's not working out between us and we should start seeing other people all while caressing their leg but that's because I'm a nice guy. Imagine patting yourself on the back for the bare minimum. If you don't owe eachother common decency, you're not friends, you're complete strangers. --- Doctor Foxx posted... The demonizing of soy has a lot to do with xenophobic ideas. <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:949092238] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>wwinterj25 posted...</cite> <quote>They are owed nothing when it comes to relationships. I'd have the common decency to let said friend know it's not working out between us and we should start seeing other people all while caressing their leg but that's because I'm a nice guy. </quote> Imagine patting yourself on the back for the bare minimum. If you don't owe eachother common decency, you're not friends, you're complete strangers.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 01/04/21 12:42:20 PM #19:	Kyuubi4269 posted... Imagine patting yourself on the back for the bare minimum. If you don't owe eachother common decency, you're not friends, you're complete strangers. Dude, you owe strangers common decency as well. --- Official Former King of Black People(Lost to Joe Biden) http://imgur.com/a/yNvXsJe <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:949092266] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Kyuubi4269 posted... </cite> <quote>Imagine patting yourself on the back for the bare minimum. If you don't owe eachother common decency, you're not friends, you're complete strangers.</quote>Dude, you owe strangers common decency as well. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 01/04/21 12:42:56 PM #20:	EvilMegas posted... Dude, you owe strangers common decency as well. He won't understand. --- For what it's worth I was the one that made up the scenario that she posted on Facebook about him beating her lmao. Cacciato 11/12/2020 <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:949092289] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>EvilMegas posted... </cite> <quote>Dude, you owe strangers common decency as well.</quote>He won't understand. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 01/04/21 12:44:54 PM #21:	EvilMegas posted... Dude, you owe strangers common decency as well. You don't, since you're strangers, but you can choose to give it. This sort of offer is typically the basis to become acquaintances. --- Doctor Foxx posted... The demonizing of soy has a lot to do with xenophobic ideas. <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:949092365] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>EvilMegas posted...</cite> <quote>Dude, you owe strangers common decency as well.</quote> You don't, since you're strangers, but you can choose to give it. This sort of offer is typically the basis to become acquaintances.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 01/04/21 12:51:48 PM #22:	Lol its common decency. Not particular decency. Of course you wouldn't get it. --- Official Former King of Black People(Lost to Joe Biden) http://imgur.com/a/yNvXsJe <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:949092616] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Lol its common decency. Not particular decency. Of course you wouldn't get it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 01/04/21 1:01:40 PM #23:	EvilMegas posted... Lol its common decency. Not particular decency. Of course you wouldn't get it. He is only nice if it rewards himself. --- For what it's worth I was the one that made up the scenario that she posted on Facebook about him beating her lmao. Cacciato 11/12/2020 <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:949092968] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>EvilMegas posted... </cite> <quote>Lol its common decency. Not particular decency. Of course you wouldn't get it.</quote> He is only nice if it rewards himself. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 01/04/21 2:02:48 PM #24:	Kyuubi4269 posted... Imagine patting yourself on the back for the bare minimum. I admit I could go further. It takes more effort though. If you don't owe eachother common decency, you're not friends, you're complete strangers. Probably. I'd like to think friends would have more respect for each other. However You're not owed anything. Nobody is when it comes to relationships. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/YvP6isz <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:949095009] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Kyuubi4269 posted... </cite> <quote>Imagine patting yourself on the back for the bare minimum.</quote> I admit I could go further. It takes more effort though. <quote>If you don't owe eachother common decency, you're not friends, you're complete strangers.</quote> Probably. I'd like to think friends would have more respect for each other. However You're not owed anything. Nobody is when it comes to relationships. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FatalAccident 01/04/21 2:06:27 PM #25:	Yeah I'll just leave him be sadly. If he's holding a grudge for some reason he's the type of guy to not let it go, but we're two of his closest friends that he's known for nearly 15 years so I don't see why he'd freeze us out. No point ruminating over this though, neither of us can get in touch with him and our mutual friends can't seem to get him to open up about the way he's acting towards us, when they bring it up he just dismisses it and kicks the can down the road. I'll just leave him --- walks away <cite>FatalAccident posted [p:949095130] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Yeah I'll just leave him be sadly. If he's holding a grudge for some reason he's the type of guy to not let it go, but we're two of his closest friends that he's known for nearly 15 years so I don't see why he'd freeze us out. No point ruminating over this though, neither of us can get in touch with him and our mutual friends can't seem to get him to open up about the way he's acting towards us, when they bring it up he just dismisses it and kicks the can down the road. I'll just leave him </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
xcrimx 01/04/21 2:11:43 PM #26:	Pretend that you're gonna gift him a ps5 and see how he reacts. Say that it was supposed to be a christmas present but you can't get a hold of him <cite>xcrimx posted [p:949095306] in It's a yea... [t:79217234]...</cite> <quote>Pretend that you're gonna gift him a ps5 and see how he reacts. Say that it was supposed to be a christmas present but you can't get a hold of him </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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