Poll of the Day > What's your take on telling a straight friend you are into them?

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Is it more selfish to tell them that you are into them just to get it off your chest or is it more selfish to hide the reason you choose to hang out with them almost everyday even if it's just reading a book while they play a game as you joke around?

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or, you could try NOT hanging out with someone just because you're secretly attracted to them when you know they won't reciprocate?

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I personally have a lot of regrets not telling people I'm into them whether they were straight or not.

Not telling them will most likely lead to more heartbreak honestly.

I'd think it's selfish to pretend to be friends with someone only so you can be around them due to your crush on them. In that case it's best to tell them how you feel then move on. If you actually want to be their friend and enjoy been around them due to that then I'd still say tell them. It may make things a little awkward but I'd assume real friends would be understanding.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I personally have a lot of regrets not telling people I'm into them whether they were straight or not.

I've never confessed how I feel about the two major crushes I've had in my life. In insight it's best to let folk know these things otherwise you'll probably be always asking yourself "what if?" and that's much more worse than been rejected. Now that ship has sailed.

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Clench281 posted...

or, you could try NOT hanging out with someone just because you're secretly attracted to them when you know they won't reciprocate?

Honestly, I never had a crush like this on a guy before. I only just realized it was a crush like a week ago. I have known him for 25 years and we have been roommates, coworkers, and best friends for most of that. People have been telling us they thought we were brothers or gay for years and we always just laughed it off. It wasn't hanging out with him just because of a crush. I don't even know when the crush started, I just know I am crushing now.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I personally have a lot of regrets not telling people I'm into them whether they were straight or not.

Not telling them will most likely lead to more heartbreak honestly.

Either way will end that way, but I don't want to ruin a long term friendship over a little crush. I just also don't want the awkwardness that I felt while hanging out with him today.

wwinterj25 posted...

If you actually want to be their friend and enjoy been around them due to that then I'd still say tell them. It may make things a little awkward but I'd assume real friends would be understanding.

I am 99% sure they wouldn't end the friendship over it or anything, but there is also nothing that can be gained by telling them except feeling a little better about myself. But I feel putting him in that position just to make myself feel a little better isn't fair to him.

It is not like my behavior has changed drastically or anything. We are just as close as we always have been. Slinging jokes, hanging at each other's houses, buying each other meals, going shopping together, he gave me a computer when my last one broke, I gave him a car when his brother needed one. The only thing that changed is now I have realized just how much I want to cuddle and hug him.

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slacker03150 posted...

I am 99% sure they wouldn't end the friendship over it or anything, but there is also nothing that can be gained by telling them except feeling a little better about myself. But I feel putting him in that position just to make myself feel a little better isn't fair to him.

So the solution is nothing changes? You'll keep your crush to yourself and let these feels eat up at you? Fair enough.


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I think it would be like a female views a male that has an undesirable secret crush on them. They'd rather you not exist or gay.

Best thing is to talk them about it I think and just be honest to see how they react to it. Thing is though that youve got to respect whatever that reaction is and it could mean the end of the friendship.

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> What's your take on telling a straight friend you are into them?

If you're in them they probably know

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lmfao

Life aint a romance movie. Go watch porn or go get laid and youll come to your senses.

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You should probably:

1. Tell him, he's into it. Good luck.
2. Tell him, he's not into it. Good luck.
3. Don't tell him, pine around forever. Good luck.
4. Don't tell him, find a new love interest. Good luck.

Being honest is the best route but if you know he wouldn't be into it, then moving on without a word is the best course of action. You can't force an attraction that isn't there.

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Up to you. I have straight friends who know I think theyre cute or hot. We just fake flirt. I already knew I would get with them. But it wasnt too bad telling them. But you know youre friend better than we do...
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Kinda depends on the level of feelings I'd think. A crush on someone you've known 25 years might fade as soon as you find someone else interesting and then whats the point of making things weird over that. If it's not gonna go away, you'll probably be better off telling them sooner rather than later.

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Sit down and watch gay porn with him while caressing his leg. If he rejects your advances then just go back to watching him while he sleeps.

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