Current Events > Honestly wish I were single some days

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I don't really want to throw away 2.5 years and lots of good memories, but if I'm being completely honest I haven't been truly happy with my relationship in a long time.

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Don't let it crash and burn if you aren't happy. Let your SO know how you feel.

Don't do what I did and cheat. I ended up inevitably getting caught and destroyed 3 years of trust.

We had to cancel our wedding and I was forced to leave my job so I could move back to the city which resulted in me being unemployed and homeless simultaneously.

I ruined a great friendship because I couldn't be honest with my self or with her either.

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Wii_Shaker posted...

Don't let it crash and burn if you aren't happy. Let your SO know how you feel.

Don't do what I did and cheat. I ended up inevitably getting caught and destroyed 3 years of trust.

We had to cancel our wedding and I was forced to leave my job so I could move back to the city which resulted in me being unemployed and homeless simultaneously.

I ruined a great friendship because I couldn't be honest with my self or with her either.

I would never cheat. Call me strange, but I consider it up there with murder on my list of abhorrent things. It's more that her negativity is dragging me down, I don't feel like she respects my boundaries, and every day it's something. I don't think we've finally more than a few days without a fight in the last month.

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*gone more than

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You not satisfied cuz you goin beastmode and your girl got fat. Saw your earlier topic where you were pussyfootin around now this . expected

"I believe in her, I love her" blah blah blah . 24 hours later - im not happy. Fakeass mf

Either stick with it or move on. I'm happily single by choice and enjoy it. Coming home from work feels great.

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Have you talked to her about how you feel?

She just broke up with me. Going to go buy a shit load of booze.

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Might as well see how drunk I can get.

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It's for the better.

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that was quick

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Yeah I was about to say, sounds like she is the one who is dissatisfied.

Dont drink too much. Is there anyone you can call or have come over?

FulminatedHydra posted...

She just broke up with me. Going to go buy a shit load of booze.

Wtf happened?

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Well, don't give up on the idea of being together with someone in general, this one time didn't work out, that's all.

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Me, I think I can't be a good SO.

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NeoShadowhen posted...

Yeah I was about to say, sounds like she is the one who is dissatisfied.

Dont drink too much. Is there anyone you can call or have come over?

FulminatedHydra posted...

She just broke up with me. Going to go buy a shit load of booze.

What happened? What lead to this? I read your previous posts but they seem to vague. Talk to us buddy we can try to help.


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FulminatedHydra posted...

She just broke up with me. Going to go buy a shit load of booze.

Well, wish granted I guess.

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FulminatedHydra posted...

She just broke up with me. Going to go buy a shit load of booze.

this is going to hurt bad now but believe me, it is for the best. my two cents based on my own experience:

i dated a girl for most of college and like one year after. in the beginning i was happy just to be there, but as we both began maturing we both began to grow apart in lifestyles, values, etc and i was very unhappy in the relationship (she prob was too).

but i never broke up with her because i thought, oh we've been dating for 3 years, I'm not going to throw away all of that just because i'm not happy at the moment, etc. the relationship ended up imploding and it was the best thing to ever happen to me in the long run. when we broke up i felt like i didnt know what to do anymore since our lives were so intermingled, didnt have a good idea of my self at that time, etc. but just keep going, make sure to hang out with friends maybe you have neglected since you met your ex, get back into hobbies and things you love, try new things, go out drinking, whatever.

for me this breakup was 7 years ago, since then i met a different girl, got married, and we have a baby together. hang in there dude

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One shot down. I don't even know what to feel. I just want to shoot up through the roof and into the atmosphere and never come down.

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El Mexicano Texano posted...

What happened? What lead to this? I read your previous posts but they seem to vague. Talk to us buddy we can try to help.

She wants kids I guess. Thought she could get over it but she says she can't.

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She also did a bunch of shady shit and my trust of her was at like a 70% didn't trust her with other guys and 30% did. Its probably better, but it hurts so fucking bad

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My ex wife and I ended it cause she wanted a 3rd kid. 7 years together almost. It hurts, but slowly time heals and you move on. We had issues together and I wasn't happy cause of her negative attitude and spending habits. Once you heal you realize it's for the better and there are people who are better out there once you are ready.

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Austin_Era_II posted...

My ex wife and I ended it cause she wanted a 3rd kid. 7 years together almost. It hurts, but slowly time heals and you move on. We had issues together and I wasn't happy cause of her negative attitude and spending habits. Once you heal you realize it's for the better and there are people who are better out there once you are ready.

I don't ever want a relationship again. Would like to hop right online and see if any of the girls that I know for a fact want my nuts might want to fuck. Just need to time it and be patient, don't want to seem desperate.

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FulminatedHydra posted...

I don't ever want a relationship again. Would like to hop right online and see if any of the girls that I know for a fact want my nuts might want to fuck. Just need to time it and be patient, don't want to seem desperate.

Sounds like youll be happy as a mfer in due time man, sounds like you needed out of there - sounds like you shouldve left first but what can ya do? Things seem to work themselves out apparently

Struggling atm. The more mature part of me wants to take it in stride and not throw my life away (metaphorically) because I've got ambitions and good things heading my way. The other part wants to down an entire bottle and just melt down and throw it all away.

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Being single is the best, every man should be in a relationship for 9 months minimum to see how bs it is

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Just need to get laid. Hoping someone hits me back up to talk and we can just hang out.

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Damn it. Girl on Tinder wants to meet up. Shouldn't have gotten buzzed at 11 AM lol.

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Damn you

You make me want to join Tinder

Im single tf am I doing >:(

I don't even know what I'm doing on there. I don't want a relationship again and I'm not savvy enough to be a pick-up artist. Yeah, I'm good looking and I work out and have a lot of qualities girls find attractive, but I'm slightly awkward and don't know how to use it necessarily.

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Just fuck around you are young.

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Austin_Era_II posted...

Just fuck around you are young.

Yeah. Honestly, and I know this is going to come across as douchey, but I know I can do better. I'm young, attractive, in good shape and athletic. I know if I work on myself mentally I could score women that are ten times hotter and that are into the same things I am.

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JustMyOpinion posted...

Your wish has been granted!

I have to say, the TT was quite prophetic.

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Austin_Era_II posted...

My ex wife and I ended it cause she wanted a 3rd kid. 7 years together almost. It hurts, but slowly time heals and you move on. We had issues together and I wasn't happy cause of her negative attitude and spending habits. Once you heal you realize it's for the better and there are people who are better out there once you are ready.

There has to be more to it than that. Has she gone ahead and had kid number 3 yet?

FulminatedHydra posted...

Yeah. Honestly, and I know this is going to come across as douchey, but I know I can do better. I'm young, attractive, in good shape and athletic. I know if I work on myself mentally I could score women that are ten times hotter and that are into the same things I am.

Many women feel the same. They don't want long term any time soon.

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NeoShadowhen posted...

There has to be more to it than that. Has she gone ahead and had kid number 3 yet?

No not yet. We officially separated 2 years ago. A month or 2 later she dated a guy who already has a kid. They moved in together that summer cause she had nowhere else to go. Even her own folks didn't want her to move back in with them for a short time. Now she's laid off work and if she does have another kid of her own it'll happen in the next 1-3 years I bet. It'll be her 3rd c-section. Her mom and I kinda roll our eyes at the whole situation. She had minor surgery done recently so she knew a 3rd kid won't happen soon.

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Tag

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I mean, I sing, draw, do MMA, love animals, have a lot of tattoos (despite what some people think, chicks dig em), know how to use what I've got. If nothing else I'm a fantastic lay, which is all I want at this point.

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JustMyOpinion posted...

Eh, I could believe it. My wife is having a hard time (although we're nowhere near a divorce) because she wants kids immediately whereas after much compromising on my part (but still not enough for her) I agreed to start trying by end of next year. I do want kids, just would have preferred to wait a little longer.

I feel like women will say they're alright with a compromise when they really aren't. Case in point it cost me my relationship.

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Best of luck dude

Hope you bounce back!
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Deep down personally I felt shortly after getting married and trying for our first child she wasn't that much interested in me anymore compared to early on in our relationship. I eventually after our 2nd child was leaning towards wanting a dog cause I never had one, but she was 100% against it. Her bf she started seeing had a dog and cat. I told her I'd compromise and we could look into adopting a 4 year old or older but she wants another one of her own. I don't wanna go through the 0-3 year old stage. Broken sleep and constantly changing diapers and making sure the house is pretty safe for the child is a lot of work. She'd whine we didn't do much stuff as a family shortly after our 2nd was born and I was like we do stuff, but I don't plan on doing big trips with a newborn cause it's not really a vacation. She flip flopped between wanting to do a bunch of stuff and not realizing by having a 3rd child it just keeps pushing us back instead of moving forward which was what I wanted to do so we could do more with the kids.

Her step dad said him and his ex broke up cause she wanted a "better life" but she works a bust job and has nothing much to show for. In the end it seems the person really just wanted out and makes all these bs excuses.

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FulminatedHydra posted...

I would never cheat. Call me strange, but I consider it up there with murder on my list of abhorrent things.

It's not strange. It's fucking insane lol

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RetsuZaiZen posted...

It's not strange. It's fucking insane lol

Fair enough. I've known for a while I'm in the vast minority on how I feel about cheating.

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JustMyOpinion posted...

Oh she's not happy with the compromise at all. That's been pretty obvious. My opinion is we both agreed we wanted kids but we never discussed a timeline so if it was that important to have them early on for her then she should have brought it up.

My ex and I discussed all this prior to marriage so the timeline to have 2 kids I was cool with it. We pretty much started trying shortly after marriage. IIRC she said 2 or 3 kids if she doesn't get a girl (which she didn't get) and I mentioned maybe a 3rd based on how things go. So it wasn't set in stone. I notice I'm more than willing to compromise and if things don't go my way I can shrug it off where as she gets moody and stuff. Not fun. Plus she likes to show off and gets envy/jealous which is annoying especially on social media. In the end I'm glad it ended it was bitter sweet. If things were like this early on in our relationship I wouldn't have gone further.

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I'm sorry you are suffering with heartbreak. I know it doesn't feel great but in a way you wanted this.

It sounds like you have a full life without your girl. If you want to start dating people, just be honest with them about where you are coming from.

I'm sure things will get better for you. Hopefully soon.

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Well... we're back together. She called my parents bawling this morning. I had her number blocked and was actually about 10 minutes away from a hookup....

I don't even really know what to think at this point. That was a damn emotional space shuttle, let alone roller coaster.

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Major whiplash tbh

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