Current Events > Geez, why are like 75% of you in some type of inescapable pit of depression?

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Don't get me wrong, it's not just here. Lots of people I interact with in real life either already have a diagnosed mental condition like bi polar or depression, or they don't but are clearly unhappy most of the time.

But damn you guys are an especially sad bunch!

I see a lot of posts here like "happiness is just a pipe dream for me." "I'm destined to be alone." And just generally negative, bleak outlooks on life.

While I can't empathize I do sympathize. I can't even imagine how I would have gotten through some of the things I been through in my life if I was also wrestling with Depression or some other thing.

I wanna give you all a big hug

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I think part of it is cause our generation has tripled down on throwing lifestyles in people's faces that they will never have. It doesn't get to me personally, cause we've also seen time and time again that people with all the flash can still be miserable. But a lot of people focus on the flash and aim for it

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life is hard man.

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Because people that aren't are less likely to be wasting time on Gamefaqs message boards

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Its social media.

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Like attracts like. Internet allows for emotional gravity, and so enough sadsacks in one place will continue to gain more sadsacks.

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I think it's the american culture of work

I've lived in other countries that are "worse" than the US -- people meet in the town square, walk to each others' houses, take random days off cause they feel like it, and make just enough to spend time with family and friends

In the US I was literally told by a potential employer that I am lazy because I wanted to work less than 50 hours

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its not inescapable

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I have gazed into the void, hapless to the fact that it gazed into me. Damn, your mom is fat...

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Change your name to The Bill, so we can call you Bootstraps Bill. Also, cause it's a less dumb name than Trent.

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Good one?

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TheBlueMonk_ posted...

life is hard man.

This, if you get in a bad place it is crazy hard to get out of it.

Also I'd say a big factor for me is lack of pride or confidence plus social isolation that really sent me down this path. And at least the latter is going to be more typical in a community like this.

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The Trent posted...

This place is full of handwringers and depressives who avoid personal responsibility
It's kinda awesomely hilarious

Some people around here can be a little toxic sometimes, which doesn't cause depression, but certainly doesn't help things.

LUE/LL was a mischevious community which prided itself on viewing "the trinity" and other shock and edgy stuff, edgelordy-ness doesn't usually go along with being empathetic, compassionate, and supportive.

I'm not blaming anybody, but just an observation.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I think part of it is cause our generation has tripled down on throwing lifestyles in people's faces that they will never have. It doesn't get to me personally, cause we've also seen time and time again that people with all the flash can still be miserable. But a lot of people focus on the flash and aim for it

And not make the clique "its the internet's fault" but there maybe a tie in. It so easy to look into other people's lives via the internet because so many people are willing to put themselves out there. Especially when they feel they have something to brag about. Good looks, lots of money, cars, etc. and people are constantly perusing the internet and either conciously or unconciously comparing themselves or their lives to these people. So they think if I don't have a 10/10 instagram thot, a rolls royce and stacks of cash, nothing will make me happy. When in reality we all need to seek our own happiness. And that can only be found when you stop comparing yourselves to others.

I also think when it comes to relationships porn is a very dangerous slippery slope to men especially. Yeah I don't think any viewing of it's bad, but a lot of it I've come to notice is really detrimental to men's perception of women, sex, relationships, and what women really are looking for in a man/relationship.

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i wouldn't blame it all on social media but i could definitely see myself being more negative if i was on social media

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pauIie posted...

i wouldn't blame it all on social media but i could definitely see myself being more negative if i was on social media

Yeah I agree. Didnt mean to make it sound as if I was saying that. But I think its a fairly large factor in the difference 30 years ago keeping up with the Joneses than it is now because the ease of which to do so; the internet.

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We played video games instead of sports so we're fat, diabetic and lonely. Our parents are divorced or abusive so they didn't pay for us to go to college. We'll never pay back our student loans because we gotta work over 40 hours minimum wage for a one bedroom apartment. If we do get a better job we lose our foodstamps/medical/housing/welfare/etc so its not like we really make more money for working harder, so why even try? My insulin isn't going to pay for itself. May as well have a drink and beat our wives for getting pregnant in high school, if we didn't have to feed that crying pile of diapers we could pay the damn bills. Even if we get divorced we have to pay child support or alimony and our bastard child will repeat the cycle just as we did.

TLDR its a spiral of divorce because of obesity, the economy of student loans and medical bills.

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DoomSwell posted...

We played video games instead of sports so we're fat, diabetic and lonely. Our parents are divorced or abusive so they didn't pay for us to go to college. We'll never pay back our student loans because we gotta work over 40 hours minimum wage for a one bedroom apartment. If we do get a better job we lose our foodstamps/medical/housing/welfare/etc so its not like we really make more money for working harder, so why even try? My insulin isn't going to pay for itself. May as well have a drink and beat our wives for getting pregnant in high school, if we didn't have to feed that crying pile of diapers we could pay the damn bills. Even if we get divorced we have to pay child support or alimony and our bastard child will repeat the cycle just as we did.

TLDR its a spiral of divorce because of obesity, the economy of student loans and medical bills.

Jesus Christ this post almost gave me clinical depression

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I mean I don't have those problems RIP to those who do but I still have major depression & 'suicidal ideations' lol
just habbens

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Some of us are grieving though, myself included.

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Shit upbringing, shit prospects, why hope for anything when I started at the bottom and know that it will never get better?
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The-Apostle posted...

Some of us are grieving though, myself included.

Sorry to hear that, what are you grieving over?

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Evening_Dragon posted...

Like attracts like. Internet allows for emotional gravity, and so enough sadsacks in one place will continue to gain more sadsacks.

I don't disagree.

I've been hunting for a "happysack" forum for a while. There aren't many good internet forums out there.

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undefined posted...

life is hard man.

This, if you get in a bad place it is crazy hard to get out of it.

Also I'd say a big factor for me is lack of pride or confidence plus social isolation that really sent me down this path. And at least the latter is going to be more typical in a community like this.

Finally:

undefined posted...

This place is full of handwringers and depressives who avoid personal responsibility
It's kinda awesomely hilarious

Some people around here can be a little toxic sometimes, which doesn't cause depression, but certainly doesn't help things.

Many on the internet grew up being edgelords for attention. edgelordy-ness doesn't usually go along with being empathetic, compassionate, and supportive.

I'm not blaming anybody, but just an observation.

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joe40001 posted...

I don't disagree.

I've been hunting for a "happysack" forum for a while. There aren't many good internet forums out there.

The only ones I've seen either close knit, invitation types from the olden days of cjb boards, or, honestly, /fit/lit/tg/topical anons. The site as a whole has a bad rep that precedes individual sfw boards.

And, of course, the one gamefaqs seems to hate.

Reddit.

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Evening_Dragon posted...

The only ones I've seen either close knit, invitation types from the olden days of cjb boards, or, honestly, /fit/lit/tg/topical anons. The site as a whole has a bad rep that precedes individual sfw boards.

And, of course, the one gamefaqs seems to hate.

Reddit.

The problem with reddit is the structure. The tree is not how you have a conversation, you can't just express a thought in a topic title and have this kinda open forum discussion. It's all trying to be quippy for upvotes and no authentic conversation ever happens.

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One of the main causes of depression in modern day is social media. The vast majority of videos people watch usually involves something depressing, and or negativite in some way, shape, or form. From people talking about how depressed they are. Doing something depressing, something bad happening to them or another, hearing someone's tragic backstory, negative drama in general and so on.

People think it makes them feel realizing they arent the only ones miserable in this world. But if this is all the stuff you watch that's the only thing you will feel.


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Let's recap the last few years.

My ex found another man and moved out for him. Lived together seven years. That hurt. Happened in January of 2019, doing better, but still haven't dated a soul. Can't bring myself to.

The patch with her gone hurt financially and I got about 2k in credit card debts until I found a new job that paid better. That said;

I'm a bartender, and work a lot of hours that are unusual to boot. 4pm-2am five or six days a week is regular. Makes a social life tough, but I do have one.

I have numerous mental and physical health issues going untreated because I don't have HC options at my job, and can't afford public because of the three above aspects.

I live far away from family in a city I no longer have a desire to be in because she wanted to move here. I don't drive, so I miss a lot of engagements with them and miss them.

I'm depressed because life is challenging. It's climbing an icy hill and I don't even have goals, I'm just trying to survive. I can't afford or have the time to go back to school.

I could go on and on. Shit's tough right now.

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Because they weren't scouts

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joe40001 posted...

The problem with reddit is the structure. The tree is not how you have a conversation, you can't just express a thought in a topic title and have this kinda open forum discussion. It's all trying to be quippy for upvotes and no authentic conversation ever happens.

I suppose that might be the case for more open reddits, but topical boards aren't like that, to the extent that I can't say I've ever actually seen what you're talking about. I take it with some merit because it's so oft repeated, but that's just not been my case ever.

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Evening_Dragon posted...

I suppose that might be the case for more open reddits, but topical boards aren't like that, to the extent that I can't say I've ever actually seen what you're talking about. I take it with some merit because it's so oft repeated, but that's just not been my case ever.

Can you give me a good example of a CE equivalent topical board on reddit?

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joe40001 posted...

Can you give me a good example of a CE equivalent topical board on reddit?

I can't. That's why I emphasized topicality, but for free range discussion, I couldn't tell you.

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Evening_Dragon posted...

I can't. That's why I emphasized topicality, but for free range discussion, I couldn't tell you.

Yeah that's the problem. No general positive community forum.

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Hairistotle posted...

there are a ton of happy communities on reddit. so many, that i blacklisted all of them that i knew of because all of their posts just felt like them rubbing their great, rich lives and full, loving families in my face

damn dude you sound miserable
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I never saw Venice. :(
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Because donald trump exists
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The main source of my depression is the girl I love lives in Mexico. (she went to high school here) the big impasse is she loves her country and might not want to just live here.

Given laws and whatnot going back and forth is hard. So I'm depressed over that.

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This topic has me considering that sadness might lend itself to an open system, while people who get friendly enough, and want to keep their good times good, tend to go off and form private discords or board or whatnot.

Hm.

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Conflict posted...

This is a weird topic for you to make after you were trolling in mine

Huh? When did I ever troll you

I just looked at my active posts and I never even posted in one of your topics

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TheBlueMonk_ posted...

life is hard man.

Magnet Missiles.

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When I was born, I was born with a pretty rare heart disease. My doctors told my mom and dad I wouldn't live past the age of 17. Then, roughly around 27/28, I developed colon cancer that went diagnosed at the end stage.

I'm not saying I'm not grateful, because I am. I think it's beyond amazing that I've suffered through so much and I'm still standing. It helps that I'm an advocate of longsuffering, and I look to figures like Job and Christ as role models that endured painful convictions. I'm also an existentialist, too, so I look to Kierkegaard's writings as well as Nietzsche's to help balance out my perspective.

I will suffer until I am made to suffer no more. And, when it's finally over, I just hope I'm taken somewhere nice.

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I'm emotionally incapable of being happy for longer than a few weeks

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thronedfire2 posted...

I'm emotionally incapable of being happy for longer than a few weeks

A few weeks?! Lucky, I can't make it 3 days.

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Perpetual happiness is a myth, if you chase it you will never find it. It's more about becoming someone you can respect, whatever that is.

Americans today don't believe in anything greater than themselves so everything feels pointless or fake. People today generally don't do anything that brings them satisfaction or strengthens the bonds with friends and family... or just don't have anyone close to them to begin with.

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JimCarrysToe posted...

A few weeks?! Lucky, I can't make it 3 days.

I myself will not know for sure when I wake up if my mood will manic or depressed

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JimCarrysToe posted...

A few weeks?! Lucky, I can't make it 3 days.

I only say that because I was happy from like Thanksgiving until a couple weeks ago.

but it was the first time I've felt happy in like 15 years

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