Poll of the Day > If You Invite Someone Into Your House...

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You probably wouldnt kick your family out but the person you invited into your house probably wouldnt be allowed back.
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I guess it depends on the circumstances, but usually it does seem worse because it seems more preventable.
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No, to me it's the same thing.
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AllstarSniper32 posted...

No, to me it's the same thing.

You would evict your family even if theyre a dependent? Or you would invite the guest back? Yes or no to both.
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zebatov posted...

You would evict your family even if theyre a dependent? Or you would invite the guest back? Yes or no to both.

"Go to your room" still applies if their room is in a different house.
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Aaantlion posted...

I guess it depends on the circumstances, but usually it does seem worse because it seems more preventable.

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Usually when its people you know its easier to handle than someone you thought you could trust in your house who you dont have any relation to.
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"If You Invite Someone Into Your House... "

Big if. Probably wouldn't let it get to that point.
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zebatov posted...

You probably wouldnt kick your family out but the person you invited into your house probably wouldnt be allowed back.

I would. I've already disowned half of them. A couple more wouldn't hurt.

Granted, circumstances matter - there's a difference between a child doing something and an adult, there's a difference between a one-time mistake versus a pattern of behavior, and there's a difference between doing something accidentally and doing something maliciously.

There's also a difference between damaging something you didn't realize actually had value (especially if it was sentimental as opposed to financial), and breaking something you've been explicitly told has great value and the person who owns it would be very, very upset if they lost it.

But if the sole determining factor is whether or not they're related to me by blood or not, I don't give a single shit. I have plenty of assholes in my family who can straight fuck off.



zebatov posted...

You would evict your family even if theyre a dependent?

My parents threw my brother out when he was 16 for being a fuck-up. He had to go live with his grandmother in the middle of nowhere. Who was kind of a shitty person, so his life definitely took a turn for the worse because of it. He was kind of pissy about it for years, too.

Realistically, the only "dependents" you can't get rid of in some way are kids (at least not your own) who are took young to be emancipated or have nowhere else to go. And maybe older family (like parents) who get too old to take care of themselves (but that's what nursing homes are for). Other adult family members who are only "dependent" because they can't be bothered to support themselves in some way but still wind up being fuck ups can pretty much fuck right off.

Again, it depends on severity and a bunch of other factors, but if something happens where I'd throw a friend out and never let them come back, I'd be just as inclined to do the same for family as well. If anything, I hold most of my friends in higher regard than I do most of my family.
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zebatov posted...

Usually when its people you know its easier to handle than someone you thought you could trust in your house who you dont have any relation to.

I don't let strangers (or even mild acquaintances) into my house unless I absolutely have to (like a plumber, electrician, etc). If I'm letting you in for anything other than business, there is already a tacit level of trust and expectation on your part to not be an asshole. I can probably count on two hands the number of people I've invited into my house who weren't family. I can count on one hand the number I've invited in who ARE family.

Which is why, if you betray that trust, I'm more likely to have a much stronger negative response. You've basically proved that I can't trust you.

I'm not really counting business/contractor people in this equation, because when I let people into my house to do a job, I pretty much shadow them the entire time and actively prevent them from going anywhere or doing anything I don't want them doing anyway.
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zebatov posted...

You probably wouldnt kick your family out but the person you invited into your house probably wouldnt be allowed back.

Depends the family member. If it's close family I believe it would be worse as they should know better but I'd probably allow them back at some point as family comes before anyone. This doesn't mean I'll forget though. Some random stranger I'll kick out with no problem but then they are out of my life so it doesn't hurt as much and I'll move on easy enough.
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AllstarSniper32 posted...

No, to me it's the same thing.

I wouldn't invite someone to my house, family or otherwise.
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ParanoidObsessive posted...

I don't let strangers (or even mild acquaintances) into my house unless I absolutely have to (like a plumber, electrician, etc). If I'm letting you in for anything other than business, there is already a tacit level of trust and expectation on your part to not be an asshole. I can probably count on two hands the number of people I've invited into my house who weren't family. I can count on one hand the number I've invited in who ARE family.

Which is why, if you betray that trust, I'm more likely to have a much stronger negative response. You've basically proved that I can't trust you.

Thanks for the replies. For you it sounds like you dont trust or like people there in general.

wwinterj25 posted...

zebatov posted...

You probably wouldnt kick your family out but the person you invited into your house probably wouldnt be allowed back.

Depends the family member. If it's close family I believe it would be worse as they should know better but I'd probably allow them back at some point as family comes before anyone. This doesn't mean I'll forget though. Some random stranger I'll kick out with no problem but then they are out of my life so it doesn't hurt as much and I'll move on easy enough.

This is what I was expecting from most people.
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First I look at this house and ask myself, well, how did I get here?
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Entity13 posted...

First I look at this house and ask myself, well, how did I get here?

That is not your beautiful house.
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It doesn't matter who they are. A POS is a POS is a POS.

I consider a betrayal by someone that supposedly cares about me much worse than a betrayal by someone else. Maybe because I've been betrayed by so many people that supposedly care about me.
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Moonjay posted...

I consider a betrayal by someone that supposedly cares about me much worse than a betrayal by someone else. Maybe because I've been betrayed by so many people that supposedly care about me.

That's actually a really good point that I agree with. I'm on this side. Totally true.

No, because your family should be closer to you than an outsider and should be more trustworthy.
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ParanoidObsessive posted...

Entity13 posted...

First I look at this house and ask myself, well, how did I get here?

That is not your beautiful house.

And then I taste the wine.
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