Current Events > I should have never moved in with my girlfriend.

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Its not that living here itself is bad. Its just that now that I do my girlfriend is so comfortable its like she doesnt try. Like seriously I have to jump through hoops to get laid now.

Anybody else experience this? She begged me to move in forever now I did and its like I took a step backwards.
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wow you got played
this is why you don't date anyone for longer than 6 months
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MrDrMan posted...

Its not that living here itself is bad. Its just that now that I do my girlfriend is so comfortable its like she doesnt try. Like seriously I have to jump through hoops to get laid now.

Anybody else experience this? She begged me to move in forever now I did and its like I took a step backwards.

Tell her to start hoing or youll find a new one

That's the general progression of a relationship tbh.

Experienced this too

And thank god, I actually have time to do the shit I wanna do instead of getting fucking jumped upon every damn day.

Take up a hobby and enjoy the not-wasted time.
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R_Jackal posted...

That's the general progression of a relationship tbh.

I really hope not. This shit is depressing.
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Turtlebread posted...

wow you got played
this is why you don't date anyone for longer than 6 months

correction: ninety days
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you would think you'd fuck more when you live together but it's usually the opposite
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YonicBoom posted...

Experienced this too

And thank god, I actually have time to do the shit I wanna do instead of getting fucking jumped upon every damn day.

Take up a hobby and enjoy the not-wasted time.

I want to but my girlfriend isnt open to a lot of shit. However, at the same time shes the type to get jealous if I got a hobby and had new friends. Specifically female.

Its just kinda frustrating.
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ThyCorndog posted...

you would think you'd fuck more when you live together but it's usually the opposite

Completely. I dont know if this is usual or maybe her just not wanting to be with me anymore.

I dont get it. Were not that old. Shes 25.
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it's normal in my limited experience, but still weird cause you would think with the convenience there would be more of it happening
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It's backwards because you don't get laid? Lol. Are you sure there aren't more graver problems?
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Vita_Aeterna posted...

It's backwards because you don't get laid? Lol. Are you sure there aren't more graver problems?

Thats backwards to me. Its not realistic IMO to sustain a relationship without sex.

I honestly dont know. I feel like shes upset often and Im left confused like wtf did I do? I genuinely dont get it.
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MrDrMan posted...

However, at the same time shes the type to get jealous if I got a hobby and had new friends. Specifically female.

Its just kinda frustrating.

having one close female friend is a great way to keep your gf on her toes - but if her self esteem is low enough though, she may project fantasies of you together and act like she's not good enough in an attempt to guilt trip you or some stupid **** like that

with that said, gfs that get mad because you have hobbies or meaningful aspirations to focus on are perhaps the worst; last ex actually dumped me while i was in the middle of studying one evening like i didn't spend time with her multiple times each week
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MrDrMan posted...

Vita_Aeterna posted...

It's backwards because you don't get laid? Lol. Are you sure there aren't more graver problems?

Thats backwards to me. Its not realistic IMO to sustain a relationship without sex.

I honestly dont know. I feel like shes upset often and Im left confused like wtf did I do? I genuinely dont get it.

if she cannot communicate what is bothering her, it's probably not meant to be

also, if she tapers off the sex as the relationship progresses, but well after the honeymoon period where the decline is to be expected, that might be an overlooked red flag coming to fruition
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TheMikh posted...

MrDrMan posted...

Vita_Aeterna posted...

It's backwards because you don't get laid? Lol. Are you sure there aren't more graver problems?

Thats backwards to me. Its not realistic IMO to sustain a relationship without sex.

I honestly dont know. I feel like shes upset often and Im left confused like wtf did I do? I genuinely dont get it.

if she cannot communicate what is bothering her, it's probably not meant to be

also, if she tapers off the sex as the relationship progresses, but well after the honeymoon period where the decline is to be expected, that might be an overlooked red flag coming to fruition

Overlooked well flag such as what? Weve been together almost 3 years now.
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How long have yall been together

How long has she been there
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im not 13 posted...

How long have yall been together

How long has she been there

Weve been together 3 years. Shes been at this apartment like 1.5 years.
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If no sex, leave her. Like whats the point?

Y'all been dating for 3 years and just now moved in together?

Seems pretty typical as far as I can tell.
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Is this because of your chiefs/seahawks nflb topic?

That sucks.
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TennTux posted...

Y'all been dating for 3 years and just now moved in together?

I take shit slow man. Getting out of a lease isnt easy.

That was a big deal for me. I dont think thats weird.
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Cornmuffins posted...

Is this because of your chiefs/seahawks nflb topic?

That sucks.

No. She agreed the Seahawks would be bounced in the wild card round. We already ordered Chiefs SB champs gear.
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I think a lot of couples fuck up because they think of sex as a performance instead of... idk, mutual masturbation w/ someone you're comfortable with. So women are "done" when they're secure in the relationship cuz performing is too much work. Just a theory
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Bit of a side question not specific to TC...

When you start living with a girl you're dating you see her like poop and do other gross stuff right and does that effect your attraction to her?
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TommyG663513 posted...

Bit of a side question not specific to TC...

When you start living with a girl you're dating you see her like poop and do other gross stuff right and does that effect your attraction to her?

I don't think that's a problem being older than 15

You can't just expect sex when you are in a committed relationship. You have to do new and spontaneous **** to get her excited enough to put out.

When was the last time you guys went out? Had a meal together? Holiday?
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rikasa posted...

I think a lot of couples fuck up because they think of sex as a performance instead of... idk, mutual masturbation w/ someone you're comfortable with. So women are "done" when they're secure in the relationship cuz performing is too much work. Just a theory

I know exactly what youre saying. Im just like shit Im just trying to get off lmao. I dont beat off so shit like this is rough.

TommyG663513 posted...

Bit of a side question not specific to TC...

When you start living with a girl you're dating you see her like poop and do other gross stuff right and does that effect your attraction to her?

Ive never really seen her poop or anything like that. She farts in her sleep which I think is funny. I dont think so though. Ive been with her long enough to know what shes like.
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Nah I experienced the same thing. Sex tapered off hardcore, getting laid is a major achievement now

Doesn't seem to be a unique case as far as I can tell
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IDK if this will help at all but, try to seduce her after she showers (maybe she feels gross sitting after sitting around all day) and not right after she eats (it's hard to feel cute with a full stomach)
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im not 13 posted...

TommyG663513 posted...

Bit of a side question not specific to TC...

When you start living with a girl you're dating you see her like poop and do other gross stuff right and does that effect your attraction to her?

I don't think that's a problem being older than 15

You can't just expect sex when you are in a committed relationship. You have to do new and spontaneous **** to get her excited enough to put out.

When was the last time you guys went out? Had a meal together? Holiday?

She has 2 jobs, goes to school and a son. I try to get her to do shit but shes either busy or tired. My frustration is it seems like everything else she makes time.

Starting to feel like shell genuinely never have time for this which I get. Its whatever.
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stop with all these excuses to make tc feel good. youre ugly tc thats why no more sex for you because shes about to get what she wants and she wants your money, after she successfully marries your ass, and give her your spawn, she gets $$$ from alimony and child support. and no, dont even think that youre above people who are single because no one gives a fuck, especially in 2018. she WILL get your money.

MrDrMan posted...

R_Jackal posted...

That's the general progression of a relationship tbh.

I really hope not. This shit is depressing.

Yeah, but it is. When you "have" each other locked in, both sides generally stop trying. One side quicker than the other, which varies in a relationship to relationship basis.

Dude, that's how it always goes. First year is sex sex sex, then you she gets you to herself and you start living together it goes slow.
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weeb98 posted...

stop with all these excuses to make tc feel good. youre ugly tc thats why no more sex for you because shes about to get what she wants and she wants your money, after she successfully marries your ass, and give her your spawn, she gets $$$ from alimony and child support. and no, dont even think that youre above people who are single because no one gives a fuck, especially in 2018. she WILL get your money.

I genuinely laughed out loud at this.
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You have to sit her down and ask her to spend more quality time

I blame you for not forseing this tbh...sex is an emotional thing for women. If she spends most of her time on 2 jobs and her kid it will be extremely hard to get her in the frame of mind to relax and get intimate

Tell her to make time since it's effecting our relationship. If she doesn't then kick her to the curb
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Obviously you don't pleasure her enough during sex or else she would want it herself.