Current Events > Apparently DNA tests are exposing infidelity.

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https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-46600325

Holy shit these stories are kinda depressing but make me angry at the same time. Straight up lying to your significant other about cheating on them and making them raise kids that arent their own. How do you live with yourself all these years?
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I remember reading once that something like 10% of kids are from a different father. It's not an uncommon problem. I'll see if I can find the article.

EDIT: Here's the article, but I have no idea how legit the site is:
https://canadiancrc.com/Newspaper_Articles/Globe_and_Mail_Moms_Little_secret_14DEC02.aspx
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This has been Maury's cash cow for like 15 years.
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There are some very, very shitty people in this world, duder.

Actually, the shitty people seem to vastly outnumber the good ones. Like, it's not even close.

CableZL posted...

This has been Maury's cash cow for like 15 years.

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You are not the father!
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CableZL posted...

This has been Maury's cash cow for like 15 years.

This Maury has been talking about this since the late 90's
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I think infidelity is bad, but I think the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.
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This is why marriage is terrifying and love is a nightmare waiting to happen.
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Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.
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this often doesn't matter though. in some states in america, even if you find out its not your kid, they make you pay for it, if it's been a long enough time. I remember some guy was led to believe a woman had his baby. so he pays child support for years. then somehow they found out the real father......and the government said "you accepted fatherhood. keep paying, fuck you. we don't care about the dna test"

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?
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Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

No but I'd resent my spouse forever.

clearaflagrantj posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

No but I'd resent my spouse forever.

Well thats fine but Im just saying resenting the kid isnt.
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Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

It's a hard reality to come to and personally, if the person decided they wanted to continue being in the kids life I understand. But I could also totally understand looking at that kid everyday and it being hard to get over being lied to for so long. There is no easy answer here.
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Zikten posted...

this often doesn't matter though. in some states in america, even if you find out its not your kid, they make you pay for it, if it's been a long enough time. I remember some guy was led to believe a woman had his baby. so he pays child support for years. then somehow they found out the real father......and the government said "you accepted fatherhood. keep paying, fuck you. we don't care about the dna test"

The government doesn't care who is paying as long as it isn't them.
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Jennys Mom was a ho
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Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

The people who kept that a secret are still horrible people for doing that and most of these stories are people who are fully grown and finding out their dad isnt their real dad and the kids feel just as shitty.

It's horrible that they cheat, get knocked up from cheating, and keep it a secret and not face any consequences for it. It's just extra that they put up a show and let their spouses raise a kid that's not theres when they full well know it's not.
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Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.
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I'd say anyone who raised a kid, taught them to ride a bike/learn to drive, took them to their favorite places growing up, was there for them when they had their first breakup, taught them how to be a functioning member of society, etc. and every other thing a parent does, but then suddenly hates them because they don't share genetic material is a piece of shit who deserved to be cheated on
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Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do
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Her body, her choice. If you raised a kid their whole life, who cares what their genes are?
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Chicken_Butt posted...

There are some very, very shitty people in this world, duder.

Actually, the shitty people seem to vastly outnumber the good ones. Like, it's not even close.

A little test that has worked for me over the years is this: if she likes to drink beer and/or is willing to do anal, she is more likely to cheat than not.
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EndOfDiscOne posted...

Her body, her choice. If you raised a kid their whole life, who cares what their genes are?

Itd be nice to not be lied to your whole life about something as big as this and like I said before, when the kids find out they're just as distraught as the dad is.

Maybe stop forcing people to unknowingly raise kids that arent their own, or tell them beforehand that it's not theirs. A whole lotta victim blaming going on ITT
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Men need a birth control pill. Amazing how the prospect of the male pill makes some feminists angry.
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tennisdude818 posted...

Men need a birth control pill. Amazing how the prospect of the male pill makes some feminists angry.

Really? Women have gotten mad at a proposed pill for men? When?

As a side note, isn't there something called Vaselgel or something like that that was supposed to come out for men? Anybody know what I'm talking about.
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The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Funny you call that shitty, but have no comment on the people who cheat on their spouse and lie to their spouse and their child(ren).

I'd say that's more shitty, like your post.

Twin3Turbo posted...

As a side note, isn't there something called Vaselgel or something like that that was supposed to come out for men? Anybody know what I'm talking about.

yeah but's been a 'thing' for years
I remember talking about it on CE 10 years ago, it's never coming out
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tennisdude818 posted...

Men need a birth control pill. Amazing how the prospect of the male pill makes some feminists angry.

I've never heard of that happening. I assume you have proof and aren't just making up shit you want to be true?
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Typhon posted...

The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Funny you call that shitty, but have no comment on the people who cheat on their spouse and lie to their spouse and their child(ren).

I'd say that's more shitty, like your post.

That's a fucking horrible thing as well and that person also sucks. These aren't mutually exclusive.
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prince_leo posted...

Twin3Turbo posted...

As a side note, isn't there something called Vaselgel or something like that that was supposed to come out for men? Anybody know what I'm talking about.

yeah but's been a 'thing' for years
I remember talking about it on CE 10 years ago, it's never coming out

Ah well that's disappointing. I could have sworn the last time I had heard someone speak of it (like maybe 2 or 3 years ago) it was supposed to be very close to coming out.
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Typhon posted...

The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Funny you call that shitty, but have no comment on the people who cheat on their spouse and lie to their spouse and their child(ren).

I'd say that's more shitty, like your post.

Yes, the wife is a lying piece of crap. The child however is innocent. Treating them like some sort of stranger isnt fair to them at best and is monstrously cruel at worst. They didn't ask to be born like they were, they had no choice in their parentage. Running out on them, the only father they ever knew, is just as shitty as the cheating wife. Maybe more so.
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Duncanwii posted...

Typhon posted...

The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Funny you call that shitty, but have no comment on the people who cheat on their spouse and lie to their spouse and their child(ren).

I'd say that's more shitty, like your post.

Yes, the wife is a lying piece of crap. The child however is innocent. Treating them like some sort of stranger isnt fair to them at best and is monstrously cruel at worst. They didn't ask to be born like they were, they had no choice in their parentage. Running out on them, the only father they ever knew, is just as shitty as the cheating wife. Maybe more so.

It also sucks that a guy is expected to be financially responsible for something he otherwise wouldn't have been financially responsible for. Everyone's taking a hit here, regardless of which route either party takes.
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I just don't understand cheating. Why not just tell the person you're with that you don't love them anymore, then go be a slut? Either way they're gonna get hurt, but at least if you cut things off before sleeping around, you won't risk bringing some STD home and not only breaking their heart but ruining their life as well.

Idk, maybe I'm just not a shitty person.
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WaterLink posted...

EndOfDiscOne posted...

Her body, her choice. If you raised a kid their whole life, who cares what their genes are?

Itd be nice to not be lied to your whole life about something as big as this and like I said before, when the kids find out they're just as distraught as the dad is.

Maybe stop forcing people to unknowingly raise kids that arent their own, or tell them beforehand that it's not theirs. A whole lotta victim blaming going on ITT

Like is this about your wife cheating on you or is it more than that?
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littlebro07 posted...

I just don't understand cheating. Why not just tell the person you're with that you don't love them anymore, then go be a slut? Either way they're gonna get hurt, but at least if you cut things off before sleeping around, you won't risk bringing some STD home and not only breaking their heart but ruining their life as well.

I feel the same way.
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Twin3Turbo posted...

It also sucks that a guy is expected to be financially responsible for something he otherwise wouldn't have been financially responsible for. Everyone's taking a hit here, regardless of which route either party takes.

Not everything in life is about money. You could remove the financial obligation entirely and I'd still think it's a shitty thing to do to a child who has only ever known you as their parents.
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Duncanwii posted...

Typhon posted...

The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Funny you call that shitty, but have no comment on the people who cheat on their spouse and lie to their spouse and their child(ren).

I'd say that's more shitty, like your post.

Yes, the wife is a lying piece of crap. The child however is innocent. Treating them like some sort of stranger isnt fair to them at best and is monstrously cruel at worst. They didn't ask to be born like they were, they had no choice in their parentage. Running out on them, the only father they ever knew, is just as shitty as the cheating wife. Maybe more so.

And whose fault is it that this situation is even happening? I'm sorry but after knowing the truth it would be hard to look at my child the same way ever again and not be reminded of what happened and you cant blame anyone for feeling that way. This could have all been avoided if someone wasnt a manipulative lying cheat.

If it was me I'd probably stay for the child. But I'd definitely pull them aside and tell her the truth, and that I'm divorcing their whore of a mother, but also make sure they know it's not the child's fault and I'll still try to love them the same
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The Great Muta 22 posted...

Twin3Turbo posted...

It also sucks that a guy is expected to be financially responsible for something he otherwise wouldn't have been financially responsible for. Everyone's taking a hit here, regardless of which route either party takes.

Not everything in life is about money. You could remove the financial obligation entirely and I'd still think it's a shitty thing to do to a child who has only ever known you as their parents.

I had a feeling that someone was going to bring that up.

Regardless of how you feel about money, it's important. And I could add other things to like emotional and physical and time element of raising a kid, that you otherwise wouldn't have been responsible for. I'm not about to tell someone how they should feel about that.

It sucks for the kid and it sucks for the guy. Why are his feeling virtually being ignored? He's just as much a victim.
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The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Having an affair and tricking a man that you pretend to love into raising a child that isn't his is leagues worse. It's unfortunate that leaving would disadvantage the child, but the mother should have thought of that before her betrayal. It's her fault and her responsibility.

Expecting men to just lay down and let a woman continue to take advantage of him in one of the worst ways possible is a shitty thing to do.
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Duncanwii posted...

Typhon posted...

The Great Muta 22 posted...

Esrac posted...

Evolician posted...

AzureAnihilator posted...

Anteaterking posted...

I think infidelity is bad, but I don't understand the idea that the person you raised for X years is somehow a waste to you because they don't share your DNA is really dumb.

Well if this ain't shitpost of the year I don't know what is. I've seen some fucking garbage here over the years, but damn. This post right here.

So if you raised and loved a kid for ten years only to find out hes not really your kid, youd abandon them and never look back?

Without a second thought.

Well, maybe that's a little harsh to say it like that, but I absolutely don't think I could stand to be a part of their life anymore.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do

Funny you call that shitty, but have no comment on the people who cheat on their spouse and lie to their spouse and their child(ren).

I'd say that's more shitty, like your post.

Yes, the wife is a lying piece of crap. The child however is innocent. Treating them like some sort of stranger isnt fair to them at best and is monstrously cruel at worst. They didn't ask to be born like they were, they had no choice in their parentage. Running out on them, the only father they ever knew, is just as shitty as the cheating wife. Maybe more so.

I strongly disagree. She is the one responsible for the situation.

If she hadn't cheated, the situation wouldn't exist.

If she hadn't lied, the situation wouldn't exist.

If she told dude from the start that it isn't, or might not be, his child - he could leave then, before the child has a chance to know him, or he could decide to stay anyway.

If he does leave, or even if he decides to stay, the mother could (should) introduce the child to its real father.

Anteaterking posted...

WaterLink posted...

EndOfDiscOne posted...

Her body, her choice. If you raised a kid their whole life, who cares what their genes are?

Itd be nice to not be lied to your whole life about something as big as this and like I said before, when the kids find out they're just as distraught as the dad is.

Maybe stop forcing people to unknowingly raise kids that arent their own, or tell them beforehand that it's not theirs. A whole lotta victim blaming going on ITT

Like is this about your wife cheating on you or is it more than that?

I've been cheated on before. Pretty easy to just dump them afterwards. Kinda hard to do that when you get manipulated into something without you knowing and only find out about it far into the ordeal, and that's not the dad's fault. Maybe dont do shitty things and this situation wouldn't come about.
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Esrac posted...

Expecting men to just lay down and let a woman continue to take advantage of him in one of the worst ways possible is a shitty thing to do.

This is actually the thing about this proposed situation that is most annoying to me. It's just another time where a man is expected to sacrifice himself, despite being just as much a victim in this situation as anyone else, ultimately to the benefit of the child which is selfless, but just as much to the mother as well. And I could totally see someone having a hard time coming to grips with that.
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littlebro07 posted...

I just don't understand cheating. Why not just tell the person you're with that you don't love them anymore, then go be a slut? Either way they're gonna get hurt, but at least if you cut things off before sleeping around, you won't risk bringing some STD home and not only breaking their heart but ruining their life as well.

Idk, maybe I'm just not a shitty person.

A lot of cheating happens because Person A isn't getting something from their relationship with Person B that they want, and they think by cheating that they can get that from Person C without sacrificing the parts of their relationship with Person B that they want. So breaking up with B and replacing them with C isn't a better situation for them.
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The Great Muta 22 posted...

tennisdude818 posted...

Men need a birth control pill. Amazing how the prospect of the male pill makes some feminists angry.

I've never heard of that happening. I assume you have proof and aren't just making up shit you want to be true?

After a quick Google search, just checking the first two pages, the closest thing I found was some MGTOWs claiming feminists were protesting it because women want to keep total control over when women have children.

So, take it with a grain of salt.
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littlebro07 posted...

I just don't understand cheating. Why not just tell the person you're with that you don't love them anymore, then go be a slut? Either way they're gonna get hurt, but at least if you cut things off before sleeping around, you won't risk bringing some STD home and not only breaking their heart but ruining their life as well.

Idk, maybe I'm just not a shitty person.

Have you ever been in a long term relationship
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Horrible old cheating grannies
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EndOfDiscOne posted...

Her body, her choice. If you raised a kid their whole life, who cares what their genes are?

This reads as a troll post. But on the off chance you're serious, I'd wager most men care that the child they've raised is actually theirs. I mean, there was a practical reason why historically men wanted to marry virgin brides. They wanted their property, titles, etc to be passed on to their children.
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