Current Events > Is there a single person on earth legitimately happier at 35 than 25?

(+) Yeah! (+)

Like at all?
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i was miserable at 25 but i dated some pretty cute girls and did fun things i guess

won't be 35 for a good 6-7 years though
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I am happier at 34 than I was at 24 for sure.
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I wasn't happy at 25
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22-26 were the worst years of my life.

I'm only 32 now, but I can almost guarantee that I'll be happier at 35 than any time in my mid-20's.
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Depends what makes you happy.
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I'm much more confident now (31) then I was when I was 25
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I'm more stable and financially secure and have much better perspective now at 35 than at 25 for sure, but I wouldn't say I'm happier. I'd be happiest with a mix of aspects from 35 y/o life and 25 y/o life tbh.
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Conflict posted...

This is a really bad question

Yeah, mainly b/c how much this board leans male.
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Yes. Life can get dramatically better for someone within those 10 years.
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Conflict posted...

No that's not the reason why

People at 25 are usually still looking for a career while people at 35 are usually well established in their careers and have families and what not

Sure, that fact may not do wonders for you if you're a depressed person in said mid-30s without either of those things I mentioned, but it'd be foolish to pretend to be unaware of that

Seems like a baby boomers life.
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Conflict posted...

No that's not the reason why

People at 25 are usually still looking for a career while people at 35 are usually well established in their careers and have families and what not

Sure, that fact may not do wonders for you if you're a depressed person in said mid-30s without either of those things I mentioned, but it'd be foolish to pretend to be unaware of that

I have none of those things... but I'm still somewhat happier at times. I might be getting depressed again though.
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Yes.

25 - rented an apartment, had low rung position in career, saw my girlfriend a couple times a week, not much in the way of hobbies, not much disposable income to do things like travel

35 - own house with wife, am now an office manager at work, lots of new hobbies and two new sports I never played before, lots of spare income to do cool experiences

I think the key to being happier when you're older is not feeling like you missed out on valuable/fun life experiences when you were younger. It's still possible to be happy if that's an issue for you, but it might nag you a little.

For instance, I wish I would have "sewn my wild oats" a bit more when I was younger. I feel like I've been with way less people than anyone else I've ever met, and especially for my age. At 32 you're pretty much past the point of casual hookups and partying. Most people have either settled down or are looking to settle down. Personally, I can't imagine hanging out at a club or the typical bar full of late teens/early twenty-somethings.. nor would I particularly want to.

So maybe going forward, I have to learn to just let that go and be satisfied with the experiences I did/do have. Then keep on improving and working on what I can change while chasing things that do make me happy now. I find the most peace/happiness when I'm out in nature. I'll drive out to the mountains and go for hikes and see some pretty amazing things. I'll probably keep going until I'm physically unable to do so.

Nobody likes getting older, Joe. Nostalgia is a bitch and it feels like your health, looks, and maybe even life in general just keep getting worse with every passing year. I sometimes feel like life is just for the young. When I'm out I see young people.. couples, friends, etc. They look so vibrant and just full of passion and real love for life. I can remember feeling like that before too, but I guess I let it slip away. I don't think that's a consequence of aging though, I think I just didn't handle it well.
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Nah, it's like my big brother said it's just more of the same except you're older. Idk though, he has a new job in his field and is married now, maybe his tune has changed.
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happier now, because can think better and know how to enjoy and fulfill life more.

joe40001 posted...

Is there a single person on earth legitimately happier at 35 than 25?

yeah

all the women who instinctively avoided you will be
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catboy0_0 posted...

I wasn't happy at 25

This, and I highly doubt that will change by the time I'm 35
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Was in prison when 25. 35 better.
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Depends on how you define happiness. 25 was better for me in terms of pure bliss. I didn't really worry about much, I was looking forward to finishing grad school and starting my first real job, and I played a lot of video games.

At 35, I worry about more things, have more responsibilities, but I'm happy because my life feels more satisfying. I've found the girl I will (probably) marry, I have a house, I have progressed in my career, and I still play a decent amount of video games.

I'm hoping that by 45 I will have a growing family to keep the evolution of happiness going.
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wouldn't this only apply to women who only have their appearance going for them?

You will be making way more money at 35 than 25...

I was on disability and could hardly do anything at 24. At 34, have a new heart and a full-time job. I'm much happier now than I was then.
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i'm happier at 31 than i was at 21.
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Age 35 was a tough year for me in that I went through a divorce. At 40 now I am much happier.
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Nowadays being in your 30s is like being in your 20s but with more money.

It's a tough call. I did a lot of fun stuff when I was 25, but also a lot of bad shit happened to me. Nowadays my life is much more consistently good, and I'd say my general happiness is a bit higher. Of course, at 25 my current situation wouldn't have made me happy
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I'll have much more money and freedom by the time I'm 35 then I did at 25.
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Im happier now at 28 than I was at 25 and I imagine 35 will look more like 28 than 25
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If you aren't happier then what happened? Must have failed at life.
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LyraTheUnicorn posted...

If you aren't happier then what happened? Must have failed at life.

thanks for the reminder
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I'm happier at 29 than I was at 19 or 25.
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TC you should probably talk to someone because youre always whining about how bad life is
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I'm glad for the amount of positivity in this topic, but I do fall more into the sentiments that @Ultima_Dragon says. Which is a bummer, because that "life is for the young" thing I think is intellectually dumb but emotionally I buy into it hard.

Which really sucks because I'd like to live now.
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My life improved every time I came to CE. Coincidence? I. THINK. NOT.
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ASithLord7 posted...

TC you should probably talk to someone because youre always whining about how bad life is

I am currently talking to people regularly, I have been for some time now.
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joe40001 posted...

ASithLord7 posted...

TC you should probably talk to someone because youre always whining about how bad life is

I am currently talking to people regularly, I have been for some time now.

maybe you're talking to the wrong people
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lol imagine being worse off at 35 than at 25
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let go of all your preconceive notions of how things should be and what should be
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MutantJohn posted...

lol imagine being worse off at 35 than at 25

I feel like a lot of people are, particularly those who have suffered hard from depression.
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catboy0_0 posted...

let go of all your preconceive notions of how things should be and what should be

It's hard, because it feels like that cements my fate of hopelessness.
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joe40001 posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

let go of all your preconceive notions of how things should be and what should be

It's hard, because it feels like that cements my fate of hopelessness.

I know. it's scary, but what you've built yourself up to be isn't who you really are
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btw this is alan
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catboy0_0 posted...

btw this is alan

I wish I remembered names and interactions better. My memory is very poor which I fear is part of this problem.

catboy0_0 posted...

joe40001 posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

let go of all your preconceive notions of how things should be and what should be

It's hard, because it feels like that cements my fate of hopelessness.

I know. it's scary, but what you've built yourself up to be isn't who you really are

What do you mean by this?
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I'm a LUEser lmfroa
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catboy0_0 posted...

I'm a LUEser lmfroa

I remembered that much, but I wished I remembered more specifics. I'm sure, like with most LUEsers, we've had many many conversations so I wish I had a more clear memory of what our interactions have been.

I know who I really am, but I fear it is too late to actually be that person. I really don't want it to be though.
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it's not too late. it's NEVER too late
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