Poll of the Day > Is it usually the Best Man who organizes the bachelor party?

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Or the Maiden of Honor organizing the bachelorette party. I've been a groomsman for two of my closest high school friend's wedding. For the first wedding, the Best Man was another one of my closest high school friend but as far as I can recall he didn't do much in regards to planning the bachelor party. Another groomsman, myself, and even the Groom himself planned it.

For the second wedding, the Best Man was the Groom's brother but when asked, I was told he wasn't planning anything so it fell to me and other close high school friends to plan it.

Being the closest friends I can agree we should be involved in the planning and give the groom a grand ol time. But I figure the Best Man would still be the one to spearheading the planning with the rest of us supporting and helping out.

Was this never a "tradition" of sort or it really just depends on the individual?

Comments and opinions are appreciated,

Thank you
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i don't know, but the father of the bride sure as fuck cheaped out on our wedding, ok?

guy basically paid for the first night of our hotel stay, and that's it.

Since marriage is a farce, as best man you should have talked your bro out of it and saved his soul.

Yes, but in my experience it never amounts to much. Which is honestly fine if you ask me.
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Smarkil posted...

Yes, but in my experience it never amounts to much. Which is honestly fine if you ask me.

I can agree a tamed bachelor party can be fine, especially if not everyone can spend $500-700 for a weekend at Las Vegas. Having a fun and memorable time together is more important than what is done. A former Scout leader wanted to go camping but he knows his friends do not like camping so instead they did dune-buggy for several hours in Las Vegas.
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Zangulus posted...

Its supposed to be the best man by tradition. But who gives a f*** about that.

Personally for me I would consider being Best Man an honor, or a curse, and would put in the extra effort to fulfill said position. I do wonder if any folks have turned down being Best Man/Maiden of Honor.

Zangulus posted...

Or a wedding...

f*** tradition. Right?

My cousin didn't have a traditional wedding either, they just did the civil ceremony. Their reasoning made sense though. Most weddings are bloody expensive and that money could be put to better use (i.e. down payment on a house).

I know some folks suggest the bride and groom makes back some money from gifts but I'm sure it is never enough to cover the entire wedding and not all guest give a generous gift. I always try and gift enough money to cover for my seat, food, drinks, etc. but I doubt everyone follows that rule-of-thumb.
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Probably depends on the people involved. Most of my friends and relatives who got married didn't really have bachelors parties -- or, at least, not the conventional kind -- although I *think* the best man helped to plan in some cases. For one of them, the groom just wanting to go on a camping trip with friends and family so he was actually doing the planning himself.

And I'm going to a wedding next month where I'm not even sure if the groom is having a bachelor party at all. Hell, I'm not even sure my cousin had a bachelor party before he got married. And one of my friends eloped without even telling his family and he was married for years before anybody even found out (but I think he was planning on staging a public wedding at some point).

InfestedAdam posted...

I do wonder if any folks have turned down being Best Man/Maiden of Honor.

Seems like a safe yes.
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Aculo posted...

i don't know, but the father of the bride sure as fuck cheaped out on our wedding, ok?

guy basically paid for the first night of our hotel stay, and that's it.

how dare the couple be expected to pay for things themselves!
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Krazy_Kirby posted...

Aculo posted...

i don't know, but the father of the bride sure as fuck cheaped out on our wedding, ok?

guy basically paid for the first night of our hotel stay, and that's it.

how dare the couple be expected to pay for things themselves!

oh, i paid for most of it, and i didn't necessarily expect help, but when my mother and father insisted on paying 10 times the amount he offered, aaaand for being someone who "respects tradition" as much as he claimed, he was mysteriously very absent whenever it was time to pay up, ok?

the bestestmench, yes
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InfestedAdam posted...

Is it usually the Best Man who organizes the bachelor party?

Yes.



InfestedAdam posted...

Or the Maiden of Honor organizing the bachelorette party.

Yes.



InfestedAdam posted...

Was this never a "tradition" of sort or it really just depends on the individual?

It's absolutely the tradition and the expectation. But obviously, some people won't want big pre-wedding parties, so they may tell their Best Man/Maid of Honor not to do anything. Or in some cases the Best Man/Maid of Honor may be too lazy or stupid to do it, and may defer to someone else in the wedding party, another family member, or just another friend who is willing to set it up. Or in some cases, the Best Man/Maid of Honor may know someone who is just SO much better at organizing and setting up parties that they just defer to that person because they know it will make for a way better party.

When I was Best Man for my friend, I had to organize everything, but I asked him in advance what he wanted to do so I could set stuff up for him, and not just assume what he wanted to do or do the usual Hollywood version where the groomsmen are kind of assholes and drag the somewhat unwilling groom off to a strip club or get him a hooker or something. We wound up doing a whole day trip thing, where we went golfing, went to a casino and gambled for a bit, and went to the obligatory strip club (and we rented a party limo bus for the day to road trip from place to place while we were drinking heavily in the back). But every groom (and bride) is going to have their own interests and expectations, so different people will do different things for parties.


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