Poll of the Day > Just saw a woman refer to spending time with her son as a "date."

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Is that a thing people are doing now?

Isn't that like.. Sexualizing your relationship with your kid?

Kinda rubs me the wrong way.
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Women have been doing that forever. Desperate, single women that secretly want to bang the thing they gave birth to.

OK, so maybe not that last part, but women have been doing that for years now. Especially single women.
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I've heard of parents doing that. I don't believe it's common. And it's a certain kind of parent. But I don't believe it's sexual in any way to them. But I have heard of it.
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A date doesn't have to be sexualized. I don't think it's too common to use it otherwise but it does happen. My friend and I go on "study dates" but we are only friends. Though I don't think I'd use that term if it were one of my male friends. *shrug*

I've heard that many times.
How old are her kids? Or maybe she's married to Roy Moore?

GunslingerGunsl posted...

A date doesn't have to be sexualized. I don't think it's too common to use it otherwise but it does happen. My friend and I go on "study dates" but we are only friends. Though I don't think I'd use that term if it were one of my male friends. *shrug*

I guess for some people l, it can be weird based on genders, though I wouldn't mind either way. That being said, I guess it is also like how people set up play-dates for kids. Like toddlers or whatever is between infant and toddlers.
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Yeah, idk if you guys notice when you preface the word "date" with something else it can change the tone. This woman only said "date" which to me is a romantic event.

knivesX2004 posted...

I've heard that many times.
How old are her kids? Or maybe she's married to Roy Moore?

Lmao. Well I guess from the post her son was old enough to go to Home Depot with her and help her with a home improvement project. I'd bet he was at least 6-8 years old.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Xfv6iXvbJ4
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Never heard of play dates?
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I would say a parent could jokingly use the word "date" with their kids until they are going through puberty. I'm pretty sure my friends have said things like that with their kids.

Things like "Got a date with my daughter at Disney (land) tonight so I can't play games" aren't uncommon around socal.

Foppe posted...

Never heard of play dates?

Do you see the word you put in front of date that changes the entire phrase?

knivesX2004 posted...

I would say a parent could jokingly use the word "date" with their kids until they are going through puberty. I'm pretty sure my friends have said things like that with their kids.

Things like "Got a date with my daughter at Disney (land) tonight so I can't play games" aren't uncommon around socal.

Idk man it creeps me out >_>
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It's not common, but I've definitely heard it used in that context before. I kind of like it that way; I don't think the word should necessarily be reserved for romantic encounters.

Foppe posted...

Never heard of play dates?

Yes, six posts ago.
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my mom jokingly says "lets go on a date"

its just an embarassing mom term for "lets hang out"

Mead posted...

taken from r/oldpeoplefacebook

Lmao I saw that the other day
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It is usually the mom who says it in most cases.
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It's a mom date.

You are the one sexualizing it. You're so gross.
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LinkPizza posted...

It is usually the mom who says it in most cases.

Yeah I've never seen a dad say it now that you mention it.
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Either you guys have some repressed Oedipal complexes you need to work out on your own, or you've never actually socialized with people on anything but the most literal terms. She went on a "date" with her son in the same way you might "go to work" with one of your kids. Yea, they may take a tour around your office and hang out with you in the cafeteria, but no one is expecting him or her to file reports and attend meetings, and they didn't need to conduct a drug screening nor are they now on the company payroll. Having a "date" with your mom is the same as just you and her having a pleasant day/night out. Kinda like a "boys night" you might have with your dad, or a "girls day out" a mother might have with her daughter.

Jeez, the willingness some of you to feign outrage is starting to get insulting to your intelligence.
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i sent a screenshot of the facebook status to my friend who is the mother of a young son and she also said it was strange.

just seems to be a difference in opinion.

also no one is "outraged" lol

GeminiX7 posted...

Kinda like a "boys night" you might have with your dad, or a "girls day out" a mother might have with her daughter.

boys night out and girls night out don't have specific sexual/romantic connotations like the word "date." maybe it's regional but i've never heard anyone use the word "date" as just a non-romantic definition.
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GeminiX7 posted...

Either you guys have some repressed Oedipal complexes you need to work out on your own, or you've never actually socialized with people on anything but the most literal terms. She went on a "date" with her son in the same way you might "go to work" with one of your kids. Yea, they may take a tour around your office and hang out with you in the cafeteria, but no one is expecting him or her to file reports and attend meetings, and they didn't need to conduct a drug screening nor are they now on the company payroll. Having a "date" with your mom is the same as just you and her having a pleasant day/night out. Kinda like a "boys night" you might have with your dad, or a "girls day out" a mother might have with her daughter.

Jeez, the willingness some of you to feign outrage is starting to get insulting to your intelligence.

You're.
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I've heard of the word date being used for other than a romantic thing. Play date for kids. Sometimes my girlfriends and I will make plans and we'll say "so that's a date then". You can make dates for lunch.

I think it's just something scheduled.

Before you crawl down my ass, I was joking gemini.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

It's a mom date.

You are the one sexualizing it. You're so gross.

P much this.

Jen0125 posted...

i sent a screenshot of the facebook status to my friend who is the mother of a young son and she also said it was strange.

just seems to be a difference in opinion.

also no one is "outraged" lol

GeminiX7 posted...

Kinda like a "boys night" you might have with your dad, or a "girls day out" a mother might have with her daughter.

boys night out and girls night out don't have specific sexual/romantic connotations like the word "date." maybe it's regional but i've never heard anyone use the word "date" as just a non-romantic definition.

The word date is the English equivalent to the French word rendezvous, a word that means both a romantic engagement and an non-romantic engagement planned in advance. It's the reason people use the phrase "It's a date". As someone else stated, it's you implying sexual connotations. It's like hearing a parent telling a child to pull down thier pants while you are in a bathroom. The logical assumption is that it's a parent helping thier small child use the potty. If your first thought goes to sexual acts, it says much worse things about you than about anyone else involved.
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mipond posted...

I've heard of the word date being used for other than a romantic thing. Play date for kids. Sometimes my girlfriends and I will make plans and we'll say "so that's a date then". You can make dates for lunch.

I think it's just something scheduled.

the thing is you guys keep prefacing the word date with another word that changes the intent of the "date."

"play date" "mom date" those all change the meaning of the word "date" from the romantic sense.

just saying "i'm going on a date" is romantic. "i'm going on a date with my son/i was out on a date with my son" is weird contextually.
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GeminiX7 posted...

If your first thought goes to sexual acts, it says much worse things about you than about anyone else involved.

idk i know a lot of people that find that phrasing weird. this is actually the first place i've encountered people who don't find it strange outside the "mom groups" that use it casually.

i've actually seen women joke about how their son will marry them because no one will compare to their mommy.

it's fucking weeeeeeeeeeird
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Jen0125 posted...

GeminiX7 posted...

If your first thought goes to sexual acts, it says much worse things about you than about anyone else involved.

idk i know a lot of people that find that phrasing weird. this is actually the first place i've encountered people who don't find it strange outside the "mom groups" that use it casually.

Then it's still on you. Your vague "well lots of people don't think that" isn't really an excuse. Especially when people are literally explaining to you why it's not a wierd thing to hear.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

It's a mom date.

You are the one sexualizing it.

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GeminiX7 posted...

Then it's still on you. Your vague "well lots of people don't think that" isn't really an excuse. Especially when people are literally explaining to you why it's not a wierd thing to hear.

i don't need an excuse to be creeped out by something lmao

i'm just letting you know it's obviously not as cut and dry as you're trying to make it.
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1. Not all romantic dates end in sex
2. I have heard it multiple times, usually from overly protective mother types.

I am not saying its not weird, cause usually the boys that do this stuff grow up to be mommasboys and such and are kinda messed up, but it isnt at all sexual.
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Ogurisama posted...

1. Not all romantic dates end in sex

that has nothing to do with what i said. no one is saying she's going to have sex with her son.

Ogurisama posted...

I am not saying its not weird, cause usually the boys that do this stuff grow up to be mommasboys and such and are kinda messed up, but it isnt at all sexual.

if it isn't "at all sexual" or sexualized then why does it mess up kids to be "mommas boys?"
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ITT jenn doesnt get dates cause she wont let arv
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Jen0125 posted...

mipond posted...

I've heard of the word date being used for other than a romantic thing. Play date for kids. Sometimes my girlfriends and I will make plans and we'll say "so that's a date then". You can make dates for lunch.

I think it's just something scheduled.

the thing is you guys keep prefacing the word date with another word that changes the intent of the "date."

"play date" "mom date" those all change the meaning of the word "date" from the romantic sense.

just saying "i'm going on a date" is romantic. "i'm going on a date with my son/i was out on a date with my son" is weird contextually.

And you were told that the concept of a mother going on a "date" with thier son isn't anything sexual and just a different(but established) use of the word date. You're both trying to be too literal with the word "date" while also trying to act as if other meanings of the word don't exist.

In other words feigning outrage/ignorance. Use your brain for a moment. Which is more likely, that a mother is casually mentioning her plans for incest, or that she is playfully using the term "date" in the way she might refer to her son as "her little man" or a father might call thier son "man of the house" when he leaves for some kind of trip. Unless you honestly believe they both assume that the little boy would now be expected to pay bills and keep the mother romantically satisfied.

So again, Oedipal complex or lack of social skills?
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Jen0125 posted...

Ogurisama posted...

1. Not all romantic dates end in sex

that has nothing to do with what i said. no one is saying she's going to have sex with her son.

Ogurisama posted...

I am not saying its not weird, cause usually the boys that do this stuff grow up to be mommasboys and such and are kinda messed up, but it isnt at all sexual.

if it isn't "at all sexual" or sexualized then why does it mess up kids to be "mommas boys?"

Because momma's boy implies you are an immature child who still clings to thier mother for support/care rather than standing on your own two feet. That's unrelated to anything romantic.

Are you sure you aren't actually just an alien intercepting human conversations without context?
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GeminiX7 posted...

You're both trying to be too literal with the word "date" while also trying to act as if other meanings of the word don't exist.

i'm not trying to act like other meanings don't exist. that is what the prefacing word does - shift it from the romantic definition to the non-romantic definition.

GeminiX7 posted...

In other words feigning outrage/ignorance

again, no one is "outraged."

GeminiX7 posted...

Which is more likely, that a mother is casually mentioning her plans for incest, or that she is playfully using the term "date" in the way she might refer to her son as "her little man" or a father might call thier son "man of the house" when he leaves for some kind of trip. Unless you honestly believe they both assume that the little boy would now be expected to pay bills and keep the mother romantically satisfied.

you guys are the only ones mentioning incest or sex. sexualizing =/= having sex.

"her little man" and "man of the house" have no sexual meaning. "man" isn't sexual.
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GeminiX7 posted...

Because momma's boy implies you are an immature child who still clings to thier mother for support/care rather than standing on your own two feet. That's unrelated to anything romantic.

or.. perhaps.. words have different general context in different areas?

i've literally never heard anyone say they were going on a date with their son where i grew up or anywhere i've ever lived actually. i've never been in an area where that's apparently a common and innocent phrase.

i still think it's creepy.
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Nothing wrong with that.

It's cute if the son is a young child, but it can be weird if he's grown.

I use the word "date" as a joke when hanging out with my cat or my niece.
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I see people talk about 'dates' with their children pretty frequently. Though they usually go with the daddy-daughter 'date' rather than mother and son. At least around here.

Then they say shit like, "I want her to know how a lady is supposed to be treated" or something.
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I don't think the word "date" to mean exactly that. Parents use this word as a playful word; as if their child was a grown up. And children love to be fawned over; they like being told that they're on their way to being grown up; ready to take on responsibility, protect and cherish mum and his sisters etc etc.
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Smarkil posted...

I see people talk about 'dates' with their children pretty frequently. Though they usually go with the daddy-daughter 'date' rather than mother and son. At least around here.

Then they say shit like, "I want her to know how a lady is supposed to be treated" or something.

saying stuff like that is part of what creeps me out. like yeah, teach your daughter that she needs to be respected but saying that phrase is sexualizing your experience. (again sexualizing =/= having sex or incest)
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My grandmother said this on occasion

Also OP you dont even have kids your opinion is invalid

OmegaTomHank posted...

Also OP you dont even have kids your opinion is invalid

She also has a terrible relationship (non-sexual) with her parents.
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Wait a second

is sunny mad????????????????????????
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Mead posted...

Wait a second

is sunny mad????????????????????????

Grrrrrr..........grrrrrrr......so mad..........
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OmegaTomHank posted...

Also OP you dont even have kids your opinion is invalid

this is a cop out argument. you don't need to have personal experience with something to have an opinion on the matter.

i've never had an abortion and i have opinions on that. it's foolish to say things like that.
i've never smoked crack and i have an opinion on crack.

SunWuKung420 posted...

She also has a terrible relationship (non-sexual) with her parents.

terrible is an overstatement.
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Jen0125 posted...

i've never smoked crack and i have an opinion on crack.

lying wont get you anywhere
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Y'all are taking this way too serious. She figured it wasn't a real date. She was just asking if it was normally said like that.

But yeah it's normal I guess. I seen tv shows mention stuff like that. I am pretty sure I have heard it used like that before. Also I am sure the lady meant mom date and she probably assumed others would think the same.

But for me personally, I think it is weirder for family members to kiss on the lips then go on a date with each other.
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DirtBasedSoap posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

It's a mom date.

You are the one sexualizing it.

This. It's just a playful way of saying she and her son set some time to spend together.
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