Current Events > Gf (36) wants me (38) to pay for her college debt of $80,000.

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Says if I don't, our relationship is over. Should I just leave? I currently pay all the rent, utilities, food, cell phones, travel and entertainment. It didn't start this way.

When I moved in with my gf, she had just graduated with a masters in accounting and was working as a public accountant. I moved in after being with her for 2 weeks. At the time, I was coming out of a divorce and I was afraid of being alone. That's why I rushed in...
Before I moved in she told me about her $80,000 in debt. She was making $60,000 a year. I stepped up and said I would pay the rent and utilities so that she would have the extra money to pay her debt down.
Its 30 months later now. She quit her job 10 months ago because she didn't like the work load or the people she worked for. She wanted to get a CPA to make more money, she said, and she wanted to quit so that she could have time study for the exam. I supported her decision.
Then she did not study very hard, took one part, failed and decided to get a new job. She interviewed a few times. Then she decided to stop looking for work. Just told me one day... she doesn't want to work.
Now I'm told, as a man - I need to take care of all the money things. Her college debts are my problem now. She refuses to work, she might try to make some money sewing. She says I need to support her. She tells me it's only $1,000 a month more and that I don't know how to spend my money and that she should manage my cash flow.
She says her loan problem is a man's problem. I just need to make more money.
I'm feeling used - boundaries violated...
I think I should leave?
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I'd make her leave.
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Lease in your name? You need to kick her ass out yesterday.
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Is your gf worth $80K to you?
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r4X0r posted...

Lease in your name? You need to kick her ass out yesterday.

without reading past the first line, i'd say that kind of ultimatum is more than just a red flag and you should leave
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Where did you find this?

Yes that is a HUGE FUCKING RED FLAG!

Literally Give me eighty thousand dollars or we break up

Especially considering you already pay for essentially everything and she is clearly mooching and using you.

Dump the stupid fucking gold digging bitch ass ****

Literally do it right now. Kick her out of the house, change the locks, block her phone number etc.

If you dont do it now for whatever stupid fucking reason at the very least do it the moment she brings up life insurance. Given the way she has acted there is a good chance she will murder you/have you murdered when you do so.
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yoshirulezz1 posted...

Is your gf worth $80K to you?

LOL that $80,000 is just the start. She's going to cost him everything he earns. Succubus.
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Sounds fake.
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lol fake news.
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Annihilated posted...

Where did you find this?

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In your case you should leave.

If you had said you were together and coerced her to go to school then I'd say you should help het pay her loan

sounds fake
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How do you have 80K in debt obtaining a masters in accounting? Not only is she lazy she is horrible at the thing she spent so much time studying.

Back on topic, you need to leave ASAP. I'm not sure I've heard of a more one sided relationship. What do you even get out of it? You're literally her sugar daddy.
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Run not walk the hell away from this woman, kick her ass out or leave yourself, she is about to financially fuck you HARD.
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if you're dumb enough to agree with this you deserve her
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when the pussy is mwah!

You can't leave bro don't do it.

You'll never find another girl like her.
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if real, gtfo quick.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32s-q3H56qE

If you pay for it she'll give you a BEE JAY
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If you stay with her, you can consider your credit destroyed.

Ex-Kefiroth posted...

abandon ship

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Man invented shotguns for a reason.
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TheBiggerWiggle posted...

How do you have 80K in debt obtaining a masters in accounting? Not only is she lazy she is horrible at the thing she spent so much time studying.

Back on topic, you need to leave ASAP. I'm not sure I've heard of a more one sided relationship. What do you even get out of it? You're literally her sugar daddy.

Tuition, full room and board, meal plan, $900/semester in books, that's not unbelievable.
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are you independently wealthy and does she have a magic pussy that grants wishes or gives you eternal youth or something?

Unless the answer to both is yes, dump her.
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Spooking posted...

BF (38) dumps gf (36), leaving her on the street (Elms Wood) looking for some sucker (desperate man) to pay for her college debt ($80,000)

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Romulox28 posted...

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Monolith1676 posted...

I'd make her leave.

She's a mooch. Ditch her.

Monolith1676 posted...

I'd make her leave.

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This is an almost carbon copy of a post from a few months back where (the other topics) TC said his girlfriend asked him to sell his house to pay her student debt.

Except he had already dumped her before even making the topic.
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Didn't I read this exact same topic last year?

The OP might have been slightly differently worded but whatever.
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She sounds like a loser. Move on.
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to 500 you kno you want too
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literally zero replies from TC. move along everybody
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ChromaticAngel posted...

This is an almost carbon copy of a post from a few months back where (the other topics) TC said his girlfriend asked him to sell his house to pay her student debt.

Except he had already dumped her before even making the topic.

To play the Devil's Advocate, there's no shortage of gold diggers out there.
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Dump her

If this Is true, yes absolutely she is obviously with you for money and financial support

If this is trolling, which it is: fucking why even bother

Polycosm posted...

Annihilated posted...

Where did you find this?

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Oh it's true it's damn true!
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Everything you've written about the relationship just screams one thing:


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what about her sauce-less spaghetti
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Distant_Rainbow posted...

Didn't I read this exact same topic last year?

The OP might have been slightly differently worded but whatever.

Does seem familiar.
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MarkIngramTD posted...

Oh it's true, it's damn true!

*ques theme song*

Either kick her out or get out. Don't keep going, you're being used for your money-you had an agreement to pay the expenses while she got the debt down which she didn't do.
Worst case, she's going to get in more debt or best case just stay in debt and drag you down with her-bail out now buddy-it's not about "how much is she worth" or "you would if you love her", she's fiscally irresponsible and is using you and clearly doesn't care that you're being used and disrespected.
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In the unlikely scenario that this is real, dump her ass. This isn't about the $80,000. This is about what else she's going to ask of you.if she gets that. Who's to say she's not going to demand a $60,000 Ferrari before you've even paid the money off? She is going to destroy your wallet and your life. Get rid of her. Now. She is high-maintenance to a ridiculous extent and expects her hand to be held like in a Wii U-era Nintendo game. She is a burden and a manipulator.

But for reals, you do not look like someone asking for advice. If you want people to believe this is real, reply to posts in the topic and provide more information as required. If you want to make an opening post that's going to incite a war and just leave it there, make it something polarizing that's not about you.
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