Poll of the Day > do you think once you are an adult you don't deserve anything for xmas?

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NightMareBunny
11/08/17 3:20:57 AM
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should adults still get gifts for xmas?


was wondering where this whole board stood on this question

do you believe the idea of gift giving and getting gifts is only something that can be appreciated by children and so is a childish concept? or do you believe giving gifts and getting gifts isn't something that gets locked away from you just beccause you aren't a child anymore
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Sarcasthma
11/08/17 3:25:22 AM
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should adults still get gifts for xmas?

Only the ones who contribute to society.
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Mead
11/08/17 3:26:54 AM
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No, because you don't deserve anything when you're a kid either.
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Alexandra_Trent
11/08/17 3:40:44 AM
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No. The word "deserve" is relative.

No one deserves anything by default.

Anyone who ever deserves anything does so from their hard work and contribution.

Children don't deserve gifts either; no one is obligated to give them these extra things. Rather, they are given these gifts by people who love and care for them with the intention to make their lives enriched and to fill it with good memories. But when it comes down to it, gifts are a bit of a superfluity that almost everyone indulges in; not that there's anything wrong in it.
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Zeus
11/08/17 3:57:19 AM
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"Deserve" is definitely the wrong word. It's more of an "entitlement" when it's for kids, because parents are supposed to provide for their children. However, nobody -- excluding a domestic partner -- is under any obligation to provide anything to you as an adult.
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MacrossSpecial
11/08/17 4:08:47 AM
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Christmas gifts stopped for me at age twelve.

It is a family togetherness gathering in my family - presents are for the children, the happiness that comes with having all your family under one roof for a day is for the adults.

It has been that way for so long for me that I now find it weird to see families that give money and such to each other.
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mooreandrew58
11/08/17 4:32:51 AM
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deserve? no. but I wouldn't say its wrong for them to get one. just they ain't entitled to it.
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FolkenRawr
11/08/17 4:49:48 AM
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Zeus posted...
"Deserve" is definitely the wrong word. It's more of an "entitlement" when it's for kids, because parents are supposed to provide for their children. However, nobody -- excluding a domestic partner -- is under any obligation to provide anything to you as an adult.


Pretty much this.

Not to be all bah humbug about it, but I've always hated gifts. For one I never was the type to get excited for birthdays or whatever. I If I want something I just buy it myself. Further more, I am terrible at buying gifts for people and hate feeling obligated to do so.
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mooreandrew58
11/08/17 5:01:04 AM
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FolkenRawr posted...
Zeus posted...
"Deserve" is definitely the wrong word. It's more of an "entitlement" when it's for kids, because parents are supposed to provide for their children. However, nobody -- excluding a domestic partner -- is under any obligation to provide anything to you as an adult.


Pretty much this.

Not to be all bah humbug about it, but I've always hated gifts. For one I never was the type to get excited for birthdays or whatever. I If I want something I just buy it myself. Further more, I am terrible at buying gifts for people and hate feeling obligated to do so.


same here, and to add I just dislike "surprises" as in I don't know what the gift will be, I dread having to pretend to be happy about something when i'm really not. if you insist on getting me a gift. do one of three things, two of which will make me happy, the other maybe not so much but i'll at least appreciate it. give me the money, let me pick something out after giving me a price limit, or buy me something you know I need.

also to add though I also accept hand made things just as a gesture of they where thinking of me. I actill still got a few pieces of artwork my step sister drew for me on various birthdays.
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TheCyborgNinja
11/08/17 5:08:35 AM
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We buy my parents, in laws, and nephew presents, but thats it. I dont see why not. My dad is impossible to shop for though because he just buys everything he needs, so we have to get creative. It usually ends up being funny/offensive tin signs for his garage walls.
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mooreandrew58
11/08/17 5:13:20 AM
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TheCyborgNinja posted...
We buy my parents, in laws, and nephew presents, but thats it. I dont see why not. My dad is impossible to shop for though because he just buys everything he needs, so we have to get creative. It usually ends up being funny/offensive tin signs for his garage walls.


my grandfather was the same way, can't remember the gift now but I only ever remember him actually being noticeably happy about one gift he got. and watching him unwrap a gift was a chore in itself as he refused to rip into it, he'd take out a pocket knife and carefully cut each piece of tape. claimed it was how he was raised because his parents would re use wrapping paper (poor and 7 kids)

edit: what made things more difficult was other than watching football he had no hobbies really. and he didn't care for sports merchandise other than a hat he already owned. he didn't even listen to music.
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AllstarSniper32
11/08/17 5:15:36 AM
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Yes, adults should still get gifts. The idea of Christmas is supposed to be about giving and not thinking that things like age matters.

Are you still in this person's life? Are you not a jerk to them? Then yeah, you deserve a gift if it's given.

If any of the people in here saying people don't deserve gifts and they have a significant other, remember to not get them anything for xmas. Not from them asking for it, just from wanting to show your appreciation and giving them something for being a positive in your life. Yes, that person deserves that gift.

People seem to be confusing "deserving" with "asking for", "demanding", or "obligated".

And I don't even like Christmas!!!
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rexcrk
11/08/17 5:17:54 AM
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Sarcasthma posted...
should adults still get gifts for xmas?

Only the ones who contribute to society.

Heh
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mooreandrew58
11/08/17 5:21:53 AM
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AllstarSniper32 posted...
Yes, adults should still get gifts. The idea of Christmas is supposed to be about giving and not thinking that things like age matters.

Are you still in this person's life? Are you not a jerk to them? Then yeah, you deserve a gift if it's given.

If any of the people in here saying people don't deserve gifts and they have a significant other, remember to not get them anything for xmas. Not from them asking for it, just from wanting to show your appreciation and giving them something for being a positive in your life. Yes, that person deserves that gift.

People seem to be confusing "deserving" with "asking for", "demanding", or "obligated".

And I don't even like Christmas!!!


I guess just coming from a relatively poor family growing up, I just have this kids come first mentality. and I don't even have kids. but as far as my family goes i'll still buy my niece a present quicker than anyone else in the family. adults are more understanding you might not have the finances to get them something. or much of anything at least. kids not so much.

hell my niece recently lost a tooth and she left a letter for the tooth fairy asking for 20 bucks and about 20 bucks worth of toys.

it was kind of comical cause they where over visiting and staying the night, it happened at night, he didn't have any cash on him, I ended up spotting him 5 bucks and giving him the advice he should tell her the tooth fairly simply can't get toys on such short notice.
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NovicePro
11/08/17 5:51:26 AM
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mooreandrew58 posted...
deserve? no. but I wouldn't say its wrong for them to get one. just they ain't entitled to it.
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LoneCourier2281
11/08/17 6:04:03 AM
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You shouldn't expecr gifts are get upset if you didn't get any, same for birthdays, but I see nothing wrong with getting a friend or family member a gift.
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Veedrock-
11/08/17 6:42:15 AM
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Damn NMB it's not even Thanksgiving yet and you're running christmas topics? The hypocrisy.
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SunWuKung420
11/08/17 7:57:57 AM
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Yes but but not you. You only deserve coal.
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mipond
11/08/17 9:04:48 AM
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I like getting Christmas presents .. and yes, Santa comes to my house!
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Dikitain
11/08/17 9:07:58 AM
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The mystique of getting gifts stopped for me when everyone just started asking what I want and I got exactly what I asked for. Now I just tell people not to bother or get me something I hate shopping for myself like clothes. If I want something I will just go buy it for myself.
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Dynalo
11/08/17 9:10:16 AM
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The thing is, unless something is quite expensive, if I want it... I just buy it.

I still enjoy unique gifts of things I wouldn't necessarily buy for myself, but I don't really care whether I get a gift or not because I don't need anything.

Nowadays my family is so fucking fractured and broken that Christmas is more of a chore than anything.
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mipond
11/08/17 9:15:15 AM
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I don't have the money to buy just anything I want (teacher on teacher's pay). I appreciate little things though, a picture frame or speciality coffee, I love burning scented candles so I love getting them as gifts as that is not something I would buy for myself.

With that being said, I love giving gifts as well. The gifts I give might not be real expensive but they are definitely well thought out.
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adjl
11/08/17 10:47:48 AM
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Zeus posted...
However, nobody -- excluding a domestic partner -- is under any obligation to provide anything to you as an adult.


A domestic partner isn't under any obligation to provide anything to you either. Such a partnership usually involves defining commitments and responsibilities, and a responsible adult will honour those, but nothing about such an arrangement is obligatory.
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Susanowo
11/08/17 11:20:15 AM
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Zeus posted...
"Deserve" is definitely the wrong word. It's more of an "entitlement" when it's for kids, because parents are supposed to provide for their children. However, nobody -- excluding a domestic partner -- is under any obligation to provide anything to you as an adult.


You are a kid until you are married is what some people say.

In that case, I want a teddy bear!!! xD
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OmegaM
11/08/17 11:44:17 AM
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I'd be happy not receiving things if it meant I wouldn't have to get anybody else anything.
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BADoglick
11/08/17 2:11:23 PM
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My parents sent me an SNES Classic this year as an early gift. I'm 30, and it's the first time in sixteen years I got something besides socks and sneakers from them. My gf usually just takes me to a hockey shop and asks me which of my pieces of equipment most badly needs replaced at the time and buys it for me. So Christmas is not quite the same as an adult, but I still expect something.
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UT1999
11/08/17 2:18:40 PM
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Sarcasthma posted...
should adults still get gifts for xmas?

Only the ones who contribute to society.

why is this? And poor choice of words tc, no one "deserves" anything for xmas
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Questionmarktarius
11/08/17 2:29:38 PM
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Once you're an adult, "presents days" are pretty meaningless.
Want something, buy that thing. That's the miracle of gainful employment.
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gravy
11/08/17 2:31:10 PM
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No, I think you're an adult once you stop expecting anything from anyone for any reason. Do nice things for others just for the sake of being nice.
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Mead
11/08/17 5:00:31 PM
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Grown man NMB no longer receives the benefits of childhood

This is somehow unfair
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WarGreymon77
11/08/17 8:21:28 PM
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Hell no. I don't have a job. I need gifts!
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GanonsSpirit
11/08/17 8:56:12 PM
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Veedrock- posted...
Damn NMB it's not even Thanksgiving yet and you're running christmas topics? The hypocrisy.

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mooreandrew58
11/09/17 5:19:03 AM
#34:


Questionmarktarius posted...
Once you're an adult, "presents days" are pretty meaningless.
Want something, buy that thing. That's the miracle of gainful employment.


yeah part of why I don't care for the idea. when I know i'm getting gifts I feel obliged to do the same for them. or at least I feel bad if I don't. so why not the both of us just buy ourselves what we want and just enjoy each other's company if we actually care about each other? now if I was married or in a serious relationship, that person probably would be an exception.

and my mother is an exception too. but shes done a lot more for me in life than I feel I deserved so yeah.

my brother and I though. we've never really exchanged gifts. one time he gave me his old xbox 360 for christmas but only because he had bought the newer model

my best friend and I? we might buy the other some booze on birthdays, but christmas we don't do anything for each other.
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Yellow
11/09/17 5:31:31 AM
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do you think once you are an adult you don't deserve anything for xmas?
should adults still get gifts for xmas?


You asked two different questions.
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LoneCourier2281
11/09/17 6:12:53 AM
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Yellow posted...
do you think once you are an adult you don't deserve anything for xmas?
should adults still get gifts for xmas?


You asked two different questions.

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Bugmeat
11/09/17 4:02:56 PM
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I enjoy giving gifts. I'm pretty good at picking out awesome gifts too.
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