Current Events > My sister to my mom: "You're only putting in ten [thousand dollars]?"

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for her wedding.

Spoiled, much?

slap her
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I hope your mom replied with "bitch now you get 10 dollars"
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Fuck people who have expensive weddings.
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Wow really.
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Lonestar2000 posted...

Fuck people who have expensive weddings.

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How much is she expecting her wedding to cost?
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Solar_Crimson posted...

How much is she expecting her wedding to cost?

avg wedding cost in my area is 30k

30k is also a down payment on a 150k house
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Heh.

Mrs. DevsBro and I had almost no help with ours. I think my dad secretly didn't use the chck we gave him to pay for our venue but I don't actually know how to confirm this. Was $650.

The whole thing was $3k, including honeymoon. In hindsight, we should have courthoused it, doubled the honeymoon fund and put the remaining $2k to student loan. Planning a wedding was one of the most stressful things ever, neither of us got most of what we wanted in the end, and in the end my mom-in-law was the bitchest bitch that ever bitched and ruined the whole of what was left of the thing.
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thinking about wedding in terms of ring/honeymoon/event costs makes me sad sometimes

like i'm well to do and so are both my and my wife's families

but it was a pretty huge waste of money we could have used on something more productive

6k on ring, 20k on wedding, 8k on honeymoon
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I never got the point of those big, lavish weddings. I don't find them particularly enjoyable to go to either.

TC's sister is probably the type of person to confront someone about their gift not making up the cost of their plate
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My god. Should tell everyone what kind of financial problems are in store for your lives when the woman is spending anywhere close to that amount on a damn one day thing.

Rent a cheap hall. There's one in my downtown that's advertised like $1500 with all decor included for whatever the event is. There has to be ones like that everywhere.
Find some cheap guy that will play non-offensive classical or jazz or something off some CDs. Or just find a stereo and tune into a similar radio station.
Don't go through the catholic church if you're a part of it. That'll save 6 months of classes and a few hundred bucks. Find a cheap minister. Or maybe you know someone who has one of those licenses off the internet.
Rent a tux or just use whatever suit you already have.
The woman needs to just stick to a standard dress off the rack at like Dress Barn. Ditch the white cliche. Who is anyone really fooling with that old representation anyway?
Find a caterer like Juan Pollo, a local mexican restaurant, or cheap local italian. You want food that's cheap and goes a long way.
Order your basic wedding cake at the grocery store.

All in all it should come in under $3k. And I still feel like that's splurging quite a bit.
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I really hope that, if I get married, that we have a small, inexpensive one.

The wedding is the main thing that scares me about getting married. Though part of that may be my social anxiety.
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her wedding should be about 35k, based on their estimates. her husband is giving 5k

Darkman124 posted...

Solar_Crimson posted...

How much is she expecting her wedding to cost?

avg wedding cost in my area is 30k

30k is also a down payment on a 150k house

So wedding where you live cost over 3 times the average here but houses are way less than half an average home cost here.

Weird.
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DevsBro posted...

In hindsight, we should have courthoused it, doubled the honeymoon fund and put the remaining $2k to student loan.

that's what I'm trying to convince my fiancée. her mom would kill us if we did that though
right now we're gonna do the court official marriage and us just have a small dinner with family, and I'm hoping that once that's done we can just push off the big wedding until no one remembers/cares

the problem is that she's latin and catholic, we'll have like 300 guests just from her side. still, her dad told me he has no problem paying for it all and already offered like $30k, but i'd rather they just pay off her student loans or give us a down payment on a house
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I'd kill for someone to gift me $10,000 for my wedding.

(Not literally mods - just covering my bases here)
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Fam_Fam posted...

her wedding should be about 35k, based on their estimates. her husband is giving 5k

this is only the start, sounds like you have a unemployed bum making mcdonalds wages marrying into the familia......goodluck!

theregister posted...

Fam_Fam posted...

her wedding should be about 35k, based on their estimates. her husband is giving 5k

this is only the start, sounds like you have a unemployed bum making mcdonalds wages marrying into the familia......goodluck!

Unemployed but earning a wage.

Also unemployed and or underemployed but has 5k in the bank. Super good post buds.
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My wife and I had a perfectly nice wedding for around $13-15k. It can be done.
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apolloooo posted...

Lonestar2000 posted...

Fuck people who have expensive weddings.

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"Here's $50 and directions to the county courthouse."

EternalDivide posted...

My god. Should tell everyone what kind of financial problems are in store for your lives when the woman is spending anywhere close to that amount on a damn one day thing.

Rent a cheap hall. There's one in my downtown that's advertised like $1500 with all decor included for whatever the event is. There has to be ones like that everywhere.
Find some cheap guy that will play non-offensive classical or jazz or something off some CDs. Or just find a stereo and tune into a similar radio station.
Don't go through the catholic church if you're a part of it. That'll save 6 months of classes and a few hundred bucks. Find a cheap minister. Or maybe you know someone who has one of those licenses off the internet.
Rent a tux or just use whatever suit you already have.
The woman needs to just stick to a standard dress off the rack at like Dress Barn. Ditch the white cliche. Who is anyone really fooling with that old representation anyway?
Find a caterer like Juan Pollo, a local mexican restaurant, or cheap local italian. You want food that's cheap and goes a long way.
Order your basic wedding cake at the grocery store.

All in all it should come in under $3k. And I still feel like that's splurging quite a bit.

I mean, I get your idea, but I have a hard time understanding the majority of women wanting to go along with this.

Trust me, I think weddings are one of the dumbest things ever, but women are just so damn obsessed with them. They are like conditioned from birth to have their lives culminate in this one event.

I just don't know how you can properly integrate the reality of weddings being so stupid with the reality that most women strongly disagree with my sentiment on the matter.

IDK, my friend got lucky and his wife was happy holding their wedding on her families farm and having some random pizza place cater it. I doubt it cost them more than a couple grand. They do plan to have a very nice honeymoon though, but that will be in a couple years when they are both done with school.
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TommyG663513 posted...

apolloooo posted...

Lonestar2000 posted...

Fuck people who have expensive weddings.

My reception was around 15 large, open bar and all. Deal with it haters.
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People are dumb enough to get married?

I don't remember the exact cost anymore, but I think our wedding was only a couple thousand? It was just at my wife's church so they didn't charge much of anything, and we just paid a few ladies there to bring in food. So it was nothing fancy but perfectly edible. Also had a friend that did the cake really cheap.

Sometimes I wish we'd gone even cheaper, but then I go to a big fancy wedding, and, I dunno, glad I don't have that stress in my life, but it would be sort of neat to have more of the cliche fancy wedding. Too late now, though!

Our honeymoon was also dirt cheap, lol. I do wish I'd spent more on that. Went to a touristy area off season so a decent hotel was under $40 a night, but should've stayed in a cabin or something if we were set on going to that region (Smokey Mountains).

A cousin of mine who has rich parents was given the choice of 20 or 30 grand for a wedding or to put towards a house (or a cheap wedding and the rest goes towards a house), she opted for the expensive wedding, and her parents paid the down payment on an expensive house for them anyway. :(
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Imagine picking a wedding over a house.


Hmmm one night of fun or 60+ years of having a property/asset.

HMMMM wonder which one I should pick here.
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Lonestar2000 posted...

Fuck people who have expensive weddings.

My wedding was expensive af but was a real banger
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Damn. My wedding is 4K at most including the honeymoon.

get married in Las Vegas

better than a courthouse wedding, honeymoon included
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JustMyOpinion posted...

Man, I'd love $10k towards the wedding. My gf balks at the idea of courthouse wedding, balks at moissanite rings, and she wants one of those pavè rings.

Run.

CanuckCowboy posted...

So wedding where you live cost over 3 times the average here but houses are way less than half an average home cost here.

Weird.

to be clear i was not stating 150k is a typical home price in my area

just that it's a home price somewhere
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My Mom's second wedding: justice of the peace and a family BBQ afterward.
Dad's second wedding: Minister in private home and a night out drinking afterward (yeah, Dad had problems)

Expensive weddings are nuts and just an excuse to show off how much you can waste.
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Vaati_Reborn posted...

I hope your mom replied with "bitch now you get 10 dollars"

Fucking this.
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