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PleaseClap 12/29/19 1:13:30 AM #1:	So, I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking. Lately, she's been getting jealous of the attention that I've been receiving from people. She's been getting pretty bitter, and I'm starting to get worried about her. Snide little barbs, a lot of self-loathing, things like that. I hate to say it, but I don't think that she's due for a glow up anytime soon...How can I tell her that she shouldn't be comparing herself to Instagram models or camgirls if it makes her this miserable? How do you reach someone that's this self deprecating? I know that she'll eventually find someone if she just comes out of her bubble a little and has a little bit more confidence. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932184300] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>So, I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking. Lately, she's been getting jealous of the attention that I've been receiving from people. She's been getting pretty bitter, and I'm starting to get worried about her. Snide little barbs, a lot of self-loathing, things like that. I hate to say it, but I don't think that she's due for a glow up anytime soon...How can I tell her that she shouldn't be comparing herself to Instagram models or camgirls if it makes her this miserable? How do you reach someone that's this self deprecating? I know that she'll eventually find someone if she just comes out of her bubble a little and has a little bit more confidence.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 12/29/19 1:14:45 AM #2:	you don't tbh, she wants validation, not platitudes from the friend she's jealous of --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:932184334] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>you don't tbh, she wants validation, not platitudes from the friend she's jealous of </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Johnny_Nutcase 12/29/19 1:14:59 AM #3:	HAHAHA "but she is a little unfortunate looking" To me in my mind that's worse than ugly. --- I got a freakin muscle spasm in my back the gear slipped the air brakes were shot to hell. I mean there was nothing I could do, boom right into the post office <cite>Johnny_Nutcase posted [p:932184338] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>HAHAHA "but she is a little unfortunate looking" To me in my mind that's worse than ugly. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blackstar110 12/29/19 1:15:12 AM #4:	https://youtu.be/WejTV7r3tkU --- -Shred <cite>Blackstar110 posted [p:932184343] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>https://youtu.be/WejTV7r3tkU </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoolJerkY2Kane 12/29/19 1:15:27 AM #5:	Tell her u need her energy for gobbling up and realize you monster no biggie tho --- Afk ROLL EM AGAIN FIRECROTCH IS GETTIN IN A HURRY Please just sh scribble there thx MARGERA return <cite>CoolJerkY2Kane posted [p:932184350] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Tell her u need her energy for gobbling up and realize you monster no biggie tho </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 12/29/19 1:16:40 AM #6:	CoolJerkY2Kane posted... Tell her u need her energy for gobbling up and realize you monster no biggie tho well said --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:932184380] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>CoolJerkY2Kane posted... </cite> <quote>Tell her u need her energy for gobbling up and realize you monster no biggie tho</quote>well said </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 1:17:07 AM #7:	PleaseClap posted... not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking ???????????? --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. <cite>Gobstoppers12 posted [p:932184393] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote>not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking</quote>???????????? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sonic Cannon 12/29/19 1:17:11 AM #8:	This is pretty difficult, especially if it's wrapped up in depression. There's no guarantee you'll be able to get here to change her perspective. --- Keep it green. <cite>Sonic Cannon posted [p:932184395] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>This is pretty difficult, especially if it's wrapped up in depression. There's no guarantee you'll be able to get here to change her perspective. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Vyrulisse 12/29/19 1:17:49 AM #9:	Dot dot fucking dot --- https://imgur.com/6VeX04D https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N26N7lQHNW8 <cite>Vyrulisse posted [p:932184416] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Dot dot fucking dot </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
linid0t 12/29/19 1:18:07 AM #10:	I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, *but she is a little unfortunate looking.* I might have to steal this <cite>linid0t posted [p:932184422] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote> I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking. I might have to steal this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
unknownhombre 12/29/19 1:18:17 AM #11:	Sonic Cannon posted... This is pretty difficult, especially if it's wrapped up in depression. There's no guarantee you'll be able to get here to change her perspective. This. She may be depressed too. --- "Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, still exists." <cite>unknownhombre posted [p:932184427] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Sonic Cannon posted... </cite> <quote>This is pretty difficult, especially if it's wrapped up in depression. There's no guarantee you'll be able to get here to change her perspective.</quote> This. She may be depressed too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NotSoObvious 12/29/19 1:18:29 AM #12:	your friend cough --- Obviously <cite>NotSoObvious posted [p:932184434] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>your friend cough </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 1:22:39 AM #13:	viewmaster_pi posted... you don't tbh, she wants validation, not platitudes from the friend she's jealous of It's just so annoying that she's taking out this frustration on me. Sonic Cannon posted... This is pretty difficult, especially if it's wrapped up in depression. There's no guarantee you'll be able to get here to change her perspective. Yeah, I might not be qualified to take on that amount of emotional labor. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932184542] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>viewmaster_pi posted...</cite> <quote>you don't tbh, she wants validation, not platitudes from the friend she's jealous of </quote> It's just so annoying that she's taking out this frustration on me. Sonic Cannon posted...</cite> <quote>This is pretty difficult, especially if it's wrapped up in depression. There's no guarantee you'll be able to get here to change her perspective. </quote> Yeah, I might not be qualified to take on that amount of emotional labor.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Vyrulisse 12/29/19 1:23:38 AM #14:	I think you should probably tell her she's pretty and cool and stop pretending she isn't. It's not nice to insult someone for no reason especially if the stuff you may be telling her isn't true. --- https://imgur.com/6VeX04D https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N26N7lQHNW8 <cite>Vyrulisse posted [p:932184565] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>I think you should probably tell her she's pretty and cool and stop pretending she isn't. It's not nice to insult someone for no reason especially if the stuff you may be telling her isn't true. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 12/29/19 1:23:38 AM #15:	PleaseClap posted... It's just so annoying that she's taking out this frustration on me. that's really all you can tell her --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:932184566] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote>It's just so annoying that she's taking out this frustration on me.</quote>that's really all you can tell her </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 12/29/19 1:24:23 AM #16:	Vyrulisse posted... I think you should probably tell her she's pretty and cool and stop pretending she isn't. It's not nice to insult someone for no reason especially if the stuff you may be telling her isn't true. kind of a weird response, is there deeper lore? --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:932184583] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Vyrulisse posted... </cite> <quote>I think you should probably tell her she's pretty and cool and stop pretending she isn't. It's not nice to insult someone for no reason especially if the stuff you may be telling her isn't true.</quote>kind of a weird response, is there deeper lore? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 1:25:21 AM #17:	Vyrulisse posted... I think you should probably tell her she's pretty and cool and stop pretending she isn't. It's not nice to insult someone for no reason especially if the stuff you may be telling her isn't true. I mean, I keep telling her that attitude is more important than anything and I make sure to not talk about her looks negatively in front of her. CoolJerkY2Kane posted... Tell her u need her energy for gobbling up and realize you monster no biggie tho I never thought about that. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932184608] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Vyrulisse posted...</cite> <quote>I think you should probably tell her she's pretty and cool and stop pretending she isn't. It's not nice to insult someone for no reason especially if the stuff you may be telling her isn't true. </quote> I mean, I keep telling her that attitude is more important than anything and I make sure to not talk about her looks negatively in front of her. CoolJerkY2Kane posted...</cite> <quote>Tell her u need her energy for gobbling up and realize you monster no biggie tho </quote> I never thought about that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 1:27:53 AM #18:	PleaseClap posted... I keep telling her that attitude is more important than anything and I make sure to not talk about her looks negatively in front of her. Do you ever talk about her looks positively in front of her? --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. <cite>Gobstoppers12 posted [p:932184678] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote>I keep telling her that attitude is more important than anything and I make sure to not talk about her looks negatively in front of her.</quote>Do you ever talk about her looks positively in front of her? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 1:29:20 AM #19:	Gobstoppers12 posted... Do you ever talk about her looks positively in front of her? I think that it's important not to blatantly lie to her when she knows the reality of the situation. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, right? --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932184714] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Gobstoppers12 posted...</cite> <quote> Do you ever talk about her looks positively in front of her? </quote> I think that it's important not to blatantly lie to her when she knows the reality of the situation. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, right?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Vyrulisse 12/29/19 1:30:38 AM #20:	PleaseClap posted... I think that it's important not to blatantly lie to her when she knows the reality of the situation. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, right? Yeah but other people tell her she's attractive I'm sure, it only seems to be you that has issue with her appearance. Either they are lying or you are. --- https://imgur.com/6VeX04D https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N26N7lQHNW8 <cite>Vyrulisse posted [p:932184739] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote>I think that it's important not to blatantly lie to her when she knows the reality of the situation. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, right?</quote>Yeah but other people tell her she's attractive I'm sure, it only seems to be you that has issue with her appearance. Either they are lying or you are. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zodd3224 12/29/19 1:30:51 AM #21:	The only solution is to stop being so god damn sexy TC --- https://imgur.com/qAas5O2 https://youtu.be/GXkszF8Kq0Q <cite>Zodd3224 posted [p:932184745] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>The only solution is to stop being so god damn sexy TC </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002 12/29/19 1:31:39 AM #22:	For one, you can stop being self absorbed and actually acknowledge the fact that the attention you're getting for your looks is not necessarily the attention you need and that your friendship is worth more than guys who simply value you for your looks. Your friend isn't bitter that you're getting attention and she's not because she's ugly, she's bitter that you think, at least on a subconscious level, that your looks are enough to win over the guys who show interest in you without taking into consideration all the qualities besides her looks that she has over you. Your post is arrogant as hell and speaks volumes about the kind of friend you are, no wonder she's bitter, she has a totally inconsiderate person pretending to be her friend who's more than likely using her to make herself feel better about the way she looks and projecting all her bad personality traits onto her appearance. <cite>lincoln002 posted [p:932184761] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>For one, you can stop being self absorbed and actually acknowledge the fact that the attention you're getting for your looks is not necessarily the attention you need and that your friendship is worth more than guys who simply value you for your looks. Your friend isn't bitter that you're getting attention and she's not because she's ugly, she's bitter that you think, at least on a subconscious level, that your looks are enough to win over the guys who show interest in you without taking into consideration all the qualities besides her looks that she has over you. Your post is arrogant as hell and speaks volumes about the kind of friend you are, no wonder she's bitter, she has a totally inconsiderate person pretending to be her friend who's more than likely using her to make herself feel better about the way she looks and projecting all her bad personality traits onto her appearance. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kami_no_Kami 12/29/19 1:35:15 AM #24:	Lie. <cite>Kami_no_Kami posted [p:932184849] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Lie. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 1:35:34 AM #25:	Captain_Qwark posted... Find a chad that's willing to demolish that bitch I'll probably be looking for a very long time. lincoln002 posted... For one, you can stop being self absorbed and actually acknowledge the fact that the attention you're getting for your looks is not necessarily the attention you need and that your friendship is worth more than guys who simply value you for your looks. Your friend isn't bitter that you're getting attention and she's not because she's ugly, she's bitter that you think, at least on a subconscious level, that your looks are enough to win over the guys who show interest in you without taking into consideration all the qualities besides her looks that she has over you. Your post is arrogant as hell and speaks volumes about the kind of friend you are, no wonder she's bitter, she has a totally inconsiderate person pretending to be her friend who's more than likely using her to make herself feel better about the way she looks and projecting all her bad personality traits onto her appearance. I'm not doing anything wrong here. I'm not going to stop putting myself out there because it makes her feel bad about herself. Vyrulisse posted... Yeah but other people tell her she's attractive I'm sure, it only seems to be you that has issue with her appearance. Either they are lying or you are. You haven't seen the things that she's said about herself. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932184853] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Captain_Qwark posted...</cite> <quote>Find a chad that's willing to demolish that bitch </quote> I'll probably be looking for a very long time. lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote>For one, you can stop being self absorbed and actually acknowledge the fact that the attention you're getting for your looks is not necessarily the attention you need and that your friendship is worth more than guys who simply value you for your looks. Your friend isn't bitter that you're getting attention and she's not because she's ugly, she's bitter that you think, at least on a subconscious level, that your looks are enough to win over the guys who show interest in you without taking into consideration all the qualities besides her looks that she has over you. Your post is arrogant as hell and speaks volumes about the kind of friend you are, no wonder she's bitter, she has a totally inconsiderate person pretending to be her friend who's more than likely using her to make herself feel better about the way she looks and projecting all her bad personality traits onto her appearance. </quote> I'm not doing anything wrong here. I'm not going to stop putting myself out there because it makes her feel bad about herself. Vyrulisse posted...</cite> <quote> Yeah but other people tell her she's attractive I'm sure, it only seems to be you that has issue with her appearance. Either they are lying or you are. </quote> You haven't seen the things that she's said about herself.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Axiom 12/29/19 1:35:58 AM #26:	PleaseClap posted... I think that it's important not to blatantly lie to her when she knows the reality of the situation. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, right? Lol damn how ugly is this girl <cite>Axiom posted [p:932184863] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote>I think that it's important not to blatantly lie to her when she knows the reality of the situation. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, right?</quote>Lol damn how ugly is this girl </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 12/29/19 1:36:55 AM #27:	wow there is deepest lore --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:932184890] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>wow there is deepest lore </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gamer167 12/29/19 1:48:48 AM #28:	PleaseClap posted... So, I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking. Lately, *she's been getting jealous of the attention that I've been receiving from people.* She's been getting pretty bitter, and I'm starting to get worried about her. Low key Chad/Stacy brag topic. <cite>gamer167 posted [p:932185172] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> So, I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking. Lately, she's been getting jealous of the attention that I've been receiving from people. She's been getting pretty bitter, and I'm starting to get worried about her. Low key Chad/Stacy brag topic. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 1:50:18 AM #29:	PleaseClap posted... I'll probably be looking for a very long time. Holy shit this is actually the meanest fucking topic, Jesus Christ lmao --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. <cite>Gobstoppers12 posted [p:932185210] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote> I'll probably be looking for a very long time.</quote>Holy shit this is actually the meanest fucking topic, Jesus Christ lmao </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002 12/29/19 1:51:22 AM #30:	Ok, how's about using the information I gave you to make her feel better then, explain to her how much it sucks to have guys only hit on you based on your looks and how much of a piece of meat that makes you feel like, explain to her that even though those guys are showing you attention you have absolutely no clue whether they actually want to pursue anything actually romantic with you and how they are going to pressure you for sex instead of actually getting to know who you are and what makes you you. <cite>lincoln002 posted [p:932185235] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Ok, how's about using the information I gave you to make her feel better then, explain to her how much it sucks to have guys only hit on you based on your looks and how much of a piece of meat that makes you feel like, explain to her that even though those guys are showing you attention you have absolutely no clue whether they actually want to pursue anything actually romantic with you and how they are going to pressure you for sex instead of actually getting to know who you are and what makes you you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 1:56:53 AM #31:	Axiom posted... Lol damn how ugly is this girl She's not deformed or anything. lincoln002 posted... Ok, how's about using the information I gave you to make her feel better then, explain to her how much it sucks to have guys only hit on you based on your looks and how much of a piece of meat that makes you feel like, explain to her that even though those guys are showing you attention you have absolutely no clue whether they actually want to pursue anything actually romantic with you and how they are going to pressure you for sex instead of actually getting to know who you are and what makes you you. I don't think that'll work since I've talked to her how nice all of this attention is before. I don't think that she'll believe me if I suddenly do a 180. --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932185350] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Axiom posted...</cite> <quote> Lol damn how ugly is this girl </quote> She's not deformed or anything. lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote>Ok, how's about using the information I gave you to make her feel better then, explain to her how much it sucks to have guys only hit on you based on your looks and how much of a piece of meat that makes you feel like, explain to her that even though those guys are showing you attention you have absolutely no clue whether they actually want to pursue anything actually romantic with you and how they are going to pressure you for sex instead of actually getting to know who you are and what makes you you. </quote> I don't think that'll work since I've talked to her how nice all of this attention is before. I don't think that she'll believe me if I suddenly do a 180.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sonic Cannon 12/29/19 2:13:41 AM #32:	Pics? --- Keep it green. <cite>Sonic Cannon posted [p:932185742] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Pics? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 12/29/19 2:15:22 AM #33:	Sonic Cannon posted... Pics? p sure everyone involved is trans. if you're still interested, ask away- just letting you know --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:932185798] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Sonic Cannon posted... </cite> <quote>Pics?</quote>p sure everyone involved is trans. if you're still interested, ask away- just letting you know </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 2:19:26 AM #34:	Sonic Cannon posted... Pics? I really dont want this topic to devolve into a bunch of people dunking on my friend --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932185904] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Sonic Cannon posted...</cite> <quote>Pics? </quote> I really dont want this topic to devolve into a bunch of people dunking on my friend</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
cuttin_in_farm 12/29/19 2:20:20 AM #35:	The source of someones envy has practically zero chance of helping them overcome said envy. A bitter, loveless man wont listen to his buddy thats married for a decade about how happiness doesnt come from a woman. TC, your friend needs something to happen to prove her wrong. Third parties need to start complimenting her for example. --- A show of kindness may not do much help, but a show of cruelty may do much harm. <cite>cuttin_in_farm posted [p:932185923] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>The source of someones envy has practically zero chance of helping them overcome said envy. A bitter, loveless man wont listen to his buddy thats married for a decade about how happiness doesnt come from a woman. TC, your friend needs something to happen to prove her wrong. Third parties need to start complimenting her for example. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gobstoppers12 12/29/19 2:28:10 AM #37:	PleaseClap posted... I really dont want this topic to devolve into a bunch of people dunking on my friend Okay, I'm being serious right now. You're being extremely mean to this person who you say is your 'friend.' You should probably stop being so fucking mean. You haven't said a single nice thing about your friend's appearance in this entire topic, even after people have invited you to do so. These backhanded compliments had better not reflect the way you speak to her. That's basically emotional abuse, and I'm not joking. --- I write Naruto Fanfiction. But I am definitely not a furry. <cite>Gobstoppers12 posted [p:932186111] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>PleaseClap posted... </cite> <quote> I really dont want this topic to devolve into a bunch of people dunking on my friend</quote>Okay, I'm being serious right now. You're being extremely mean to this person who you say is your 'friend.' You should probably stop being so fucking mean. You haven't said a single nice thing about your friend's appearance in this entire topic, even after people have invited you to do so. These backhanded compliments had better not reflect the way you speak to her. That's basically emotional abuse, and I'm not joking. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
malenz 12/29/19 2:33:25 AM #38:	tell her youd be willing to clap cheeks u stud!! <cite>malenz posted [p:932186226] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>tell her youd be willing to clap cheeks u stud!! </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sonic Cannon 12/29/19 3:00:20 AM #39:	Gobstoppers12 posted... Okay, I'm being serious right now. You're being extremely mean to this person who you say is your 'friend.' You should probably stop being so fucking mean. You haven't said a single nice thing about your friend's appearance in this entire topic, even after people have invited you to do so. These backhanded compliments had better not reflect the way you speak to her. That's basically emotional abuse, and I'm not joking. This, to some extent. The attitude here is weirdly critical. The pics request isn't about "dunking on" anyone, it's about trying to get some perspective on what they are working with. --- Keep it green. <cite>Sonic Cannon posted [p:932186806] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Gobstoppers12 posted... </cite> <quote>Okay, I'm being serious right now. You're being extremely mean to this person who you say is your 'friend.' You should probably stop being so fucking mean. You haven't said a single nice thing about your friend's appearance in this entire topic, even after people have invited you to do so. These backhanded compliments had better not reflect the way you speak to her. That's basically emotional abuse, and I'm not joking.</quote>This, to some extent. The attitude here is weirdly critical. The pics request isn't about "dunking on" anyone, it's about trying to get some perspective on what they are working with. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
008Zulu 12/29/19 3:07:23 AM #40:	Be honest. And when I say honest, I mean brutal. Tell her that feeling sorry for herself won't make her any more attractive to people. Drag her ass, don't suggest or ask, drag her ass down to a hair stylist and make her get a new hairstyle, a style she would never go for (don't go bald, never go bald). Talk is cheap, it won't help her depression one iota. Show her what change can do for her. --- Time is a funny thing. There is always too much of it, except when you need it the most. Then there is never enough. <cite>008Zulu posted [p:932186903] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Be honest. And when I say honest, I mean brutal. Tell her that feeling sorry for herself won't make her any more attractive to people. Drag her ass, don't suggest or ask, drag her ass down to a hair stylist and make her get a new hairstyle, a style she would never go for (don't go bald, never go bald). Talk is cheap, it won't help her depression one iota. Show her what change can do for her. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
teepan95 12/29/19 3:24:33 AM #41:	I hear plastic surgery can do wonders --- Baby, I'm an engineer ;) I can calculate (within a reasonable margin of error) how this nut is gonna splash when it hits ya tiddies <cite>teepan95 posted [p:932187214] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>I hear plastic surgery can do wonders </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
malenz 12/29/19 3:25:01 AM #42:	:( <cite>malenz posted [p:932187224] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>:( </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Turtlebread 12/29/19 3:52:07 AM #43:	tc hasnt even said anything mean --- https://imgur.com/yCW15Zn <cite>Turtlebread posted [p:932187698] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>tc hasnt even said anything mean </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Vyrulisse 12/29/19 10:57:55 AM #44:	Did you figure out a solution, TC? --- https://imgur.com/6VeX04D https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N26N7lQHNW8 <cite>Vyrulisse posted [p:932193765] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Did you figure out a solution, TC? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blackstar110 12/29/19 11:14:22 AM #45:	This topic is pretty peak Mean Girl --- -Shred <cite>Blackstar110 posted [p:932194204] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>This topic is pretty peak Mean Girl </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zodd3224 12/29/19 11:15:43 AM #46:	Blackstar110 posted... This topic is pretty peak Mean Girl If you were as hot as TC you would be mean too --- https://imgur.com/qAas5O2 https://youtu.be/GXkszF8Kq0Q <cite>Zodd3224 posted [p:932194241] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Blackstar110 posted... </cite> <quote>This topic is pretty peak Mean Girl</quote> If you were as hot as TC you would be mean too </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 12/29/19 11:16:57 AM #47:	You don't, you tell them that it's their problem and if she wants to not be ugly then you can help because that's something you know how to do. Convincing is obviously not your strong suit since it hasn't worked so far. --- I'm in Chicago, I'm shaking my head. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:932194271] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>You don't, you tell them that it's their problem and if she wants to not be ugly then you can help because that's something you know how to do. Convincing is obviously not your strong suit since it hasn't worked so far. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
divot1338 12/29/19 11:20:18 AM #48:	Pete Davidson fucked Kate Beckinsale. That would make me pretty happy. --- Moustache twirling villian https://i.imgur.com/U3lt3H4.jpg- Kerbey <cite>divot1338 posted [p:932194362] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Pete Davidson fucked Kate Beckinsale. That would make me pretty happy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
smoke_break 12/29/19 11:21:17 AM #49:	I don't really believe this story but just tell her to make a dating app profile. Even if she is as unfortunate-looking as you say, she'll still get some attention. --- https://imgur.com/WTmIPt8 <cite>smoke_break posted [p:932194383] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>I don't really believe this story but just tell her to make a dating app profile. Even if she is as unfortunate-looking as you say, she'll still get some attention. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 11:37:36 AM #50:	malenz posted... tell her youd be willing to clap cheeks u stud!! I would absolutely not be willing to do that 008Zulu posted... Be honest. And when I say honest, I mean brutal. Tell her that feeling sorry for herself won't make her any more attractive to people. Drag her ass, don't suggest or ask, drag her ass down to a hair stylist and make her get a new hairstyle, a style she would never go for (don't go bald, never go bald). Talk is cheap, it won't help her depression one iota. Show her what change can do for her. teepan95 posted... I hear plastic surgery can do wonders I dont think that its possible to even spin this straw into like, aluminum Sonic Cannon posted... it's about trying to get some perspective on what they are working with. Ill just save you the time and say that they arent working with much --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932194827] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>malenz posted...</cite> <quote>tell her youd be willing to clap cheeks u stud!! </quote> I would absolutely not be willing to do that 008Zulu posted...</cite> <quote>Be honest. And when I say honest, I mean brutal. Tell her that feeling sorry for herself won't make her any more attractive to people. Drag her ass, don't suggest or ask, drag her ass down to a hair stylist and make her get a new hairstyle, a style she would never go for (don't go bald, never go bald). Talk is cheap, it won't help her depression one iota. Show her what change can do for her. </quote> teepan95 posted...</cite> <quote>I hear plastic surgery can do wonders </quote> I dont think that its possible to even spin this straw into like, aluminum Sonic Cannon posted...</cite> <quote>it's about trying to get some perspective on what they are working with.</quote> Ill just save you the time and say that they arent working with much</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PleaseClap 12/29/19 11:39:46 AM #51:	Vyrulisse posted... Did you figure out a solution, TC? I told her that maybe she should get a cat or something for companionship. She got all pissy about that for some reason --- she/her https://imgur.com/AmWcJjM <cite>PleaseClap posted [p:932194886] in How can I ... [t:78289720]...</cite> <quote>Vyrulisse posted...</cite> <quote>Did you figure out a solution, TC? </quote> I told her that maybe she should get a cat or something for companionship. She got all pissy about that for some reason</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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