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Lost_All_Senses
12/29/19 10:29:29 PM
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Why not move out the way so she can find people who actually care?

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PleaseClap
12/29/19 11:04:51 PM
#103:


Lost_All_Senses posted...
Why not move out the way so she can find people who actually care?

She's the one that keeps crawling back to me
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Vyrulisse
12/30/19 12:29:58 AM
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PleaseClap
12/30/19 12:36:09 AM
#105:


Vyrulisse posted...
Troubling...

It's honestly exhausting at this point. I thought that I could get one single night off, but no, she just has to have me around and won't let me have a little bit of time to myself.
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Vyrulisse
12/30/19 12:37:14 AM
#106:


Oh I'm sure it is... and I'm sure you've never interrupted whatever she may be doing to meme on her in a cruel fashion either.

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Jabodie
12/30/19 12:39:36 AM
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I feel you TC. In the last year I cut somebody out of my life because they were just a toxic presence. Basically when it was clear that if they were ever going to change, I was not the one that could help make it happen and I was not longer interested in trying.

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Solid Snake07
12/30/19 12:41:06 AM
#108:


viewmaster_pi posted...
you don't tbh, she wants validation, not platitudes from the friend she's jealous of


Love when second posts nail it

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PleaseClap
12/30/19 12:49:00 AM
#109:


Jabodie posted...
I feel you TC. In the last year I cut somebody out of my life because they were just a toxic presence. Basically when it was clear that if they were ever going to change, I was not the one that could help make it happen and I was not longer interested in trying.

I want to stop enabling their toxic behavior. It's really hard to see somebody turn this bitter and jealous.

Solid Snake07 posted...


Love when second posts nail it

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The_Scarecrow
12/30/19 12:53:12 AM
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PleaseClap
12/30/19 12:56:53 AM
#111:


The_Scarecrow posted...
Where are the pics

PleaseClap posted...


I really dont want this topic to devolve into a bunch of people dunking on my friend

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Lost_All_Senses
12/30/19 12:59:51 AM
#112:


Just get drunk and fuck her aleddy

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The_Scarecrow
12/30/19 1:01:20 AM
#113:


PleaseClap, you already dunked on her plenty. What more could a bunch of strangers on a dying message board say?

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OpenlyGator
12/30/19 1:06:49 AM
#114:


Doesn't sound like she's a friend worth keeping if she's that irritating to be around.
If you honestly want to stop enabling someone else's toxic behavior, Step 1: stop being around to enable it...

If you don't have the guts to do that, you're willingly enabling your own torment. And there's no logical reason for us to sympathize with that.


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DezDroppedFreak
12/30/19 1:30:03 AM
#115:


tough scene

you hate to see it

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PleaseClap
12/30/19 1:49:16 AM
#116:


Lost_All_Senses posted...
Just get drunk and fuck her aleddy

I don't think that it's physically possible for someone to get that drunk

The_Scarecrow posted...
PleaseClap, you already dunked on her plenty.

I have not.

OpenlyGator posted...
Doesn't sound like she's a friend worth keeping if she's that irritating to be around.
If you honestly want to stop enabling someone else's toxic behavior, Step 1: stop being around to enable it...

If you don't have the guts to do that, you're willingly enabling your own torment. And there's no logical reason for us to sympathize with that.


I have no idea what she'll do if I try to cut contact with her. That could go really backfire.

DezDroppedFreak posted...
tough scene

you hate to see it

It's getting rough.
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The_Scarecrow
12/30/19 2:33:23 AM
#117:


PleaseClap, you called your friend "unfortunate looking" and said you would be looking for a long time to get a Chad to fuck her. You already dunked on your friend plenty. If you were looking out for her, you would not have made those comments assuming this topic isn't bait.

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PleaseClap
12/30/19 2:39:12 AM
#118:


The_Scarecrow posted...
PleaseClap, you called your friend "unfortunate looking" and said you would be looking for a long time to get a Chad to fuck her. You already dunked on your friend plenty. If you were looking out for her, you would not have made those comments assuming this topic isn't bait.

What else am I supposed to say, that it looks like someone set her face on fire and then tried to put it out with an ugly stick? Im trying to be nice here, Im not in the business of matchmaking.
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Kensaimage
12/30/19 2:45:10 AM
#119:


Sleep with her
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PleaseClap
12/30/19 2:47:44 AM
#121:


Conflict posted...


You could've just said she was average looking. Maybe a little below average

Its more than a little, my dude.
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OctilIery
12/30/19 2:48:47 AM
#122:


You shouldn't. If someone's bothered by something, trying to dismiss it doesn't help.

Instead, teach that attractiveness is less about physical features and more about personality and confidence. Practicing putting yourself out there, talking to people, and being a general friend to people does way more good than focusing on looks.
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The_Scarecrow
12/30/19 3:05:53 AM
#123:


PleaseClap posted...
What else am I supposed to say, that it looks like someone set her face on fire and then tried to put it out with an ugly stick? Im trying to be nice here, Im not in the business of matchmaking.

Just say she's below average or something. That could not be the case but I think most people here would understand and your question will still be answered.

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teepan95
12/30/19 8:58:55 AM
#124:


So here's what you do, TC:

1. Find an attractive person of her sexual orientation

2. Pay this person to ask her out and take her on her dream date

3. Wait until she says something like "I'm so happy"

4. Explain how she's so happy despite not being attractive, while gently telling her the truth about the attractive person

Her gratitude at you teaching her this life lesson will definitely outweigh the mild annoyance she may feel at having what was probably the best day of her life turn out to be a lie, plus you get brownie points for being a great friend!
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PleaseClap
12/30/19 12:11:55 PM
#126:


teepan95 posted...
So here's what you do, TC:

1. Find an attractive person of her sexual orientation

2. Pay this person to ask her out and take her on her dream date

3. Wait until she says something like "I'm so happy"

4. Explain how she's so happy despite not being attractive, while gently telling her the truth about the attractive person

Her gratitude at you teaching her this life lesson will definitely outweigh the mild annoyance she may feel at having what was probably the best day of her life turn out to be a lie, plus you get brownie points for being a great friend!

This is a great plan in theory, but I shudder to think about how much I would have to shell out to convince someone to bite the bullet and spend time with her

Conflict posted...


Well you're not really "trying" to be nice then

Im not trying to be nice, I am being nice
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teepan95
12/30/19 6:36:54 PM
#128:


PleaseClap posted...
This is a great plan in theory, but I shudder to think about how much I would have to shell out to convince someone to bite the bullet and spend time with her

Tell him to do it for the exposure. Everyone loves exposure
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008Zulu
12/30/19 7:24:49 PM
#129:


PleaseClap posted...
Ill just save you the time and say that they arent working with much
It's not about your confidence in her. It's about hers in herself.

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PleaseClap
12/30/19 7:28:22 PM
#130:


teepan95 posted...


Tell him to do it for the exposure. Everyone loves exposure

I don't think that anybody wants her to expose anything

008Zulu posted...

It's not about your confidence in her. It's about hers in herself.

She doesn't have a lot of confidence, for some reason

jeffhardyb0yz posted...
Tell her to get her butt in the gym. Even the least attractive people are that much more attractive when they start working out. Whenever someone comes to me with a depression, I tell them to get their butt in the gym right away.

She's always complaining about how she's not as young as she used to be and how everything hurts now
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008Zulu
12/31/19 12:10:55 AM
#131:


PleaseClap posted...


She doesn't have a lot of confidence, for some reason

Then make her get a haircut.

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Sad_Face
12/31/19 1:03:54 AM
#132:


PleaseClap posted...
I told her that maybe she should get a cat or something for companionship. She got all pissy about that for some reason

Of all things you said about your friend, this by far takes the cake LOLOLOL. Why would you tell her to start her transformation to become a lonely old crazy cat lady? You didn't say that, but I can guarantee she'll interpret it this way.

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Vyrulisse
12/31/19 1:27:45 AM
#133:


She probably did, it's a pretty insulting thing to say a woman struggling with her self-image.

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Trickfinger
12/31/19 1:37:44 AM
#134:


Johnny_Nutcase posted...
HAHAHA "but she is a little unfortunate looking"

To me in my mind that's worse than ugly.


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evil_zombie11
12/31/19 1:51:36 AM
#135:


linid0t posted...
I have this friend who's not exactly ugly, but she is a little unfortunate looking.

I might have to steal this

THIS is content

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PleaseClap
12/31/19 2:38:27 AM
#136:


Vyrulisse posted...
She probably did, it's a pretty insulting thing to say a woman struggling with her self-image.

I don't see how you can make that judgement call. You weren't there.Sad_Face posted...


Of all things you said about your friend, this by far takes the cake LOLOLOL. Why would you tell her to start her transformation to become a lonely old crazy cat lady? You didn't say that, but I can guarantee she'll interpret it this way.

She's always been rather sensitive. It was admittedly a mistake
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teepan95
12/31/19 3:40:53 AM
#137:


PleaseClap posted...
I don't think that anybody wants her to expose anything


hawt
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OneTruePlayer81
12/31/19 4:29:42 AM
#138:


Bring her to the UK, a night with me will make her feel a whole lot better

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Zodd3224
12/31/19 10:52:18 AM
#139:


This is about Vyrulisse isnt it

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PleaseClap
12/31/19 1:19:03 PM
#140:


Zodd3224 posted...
This is about Vyrulisse isnt it

It seems really uncool that this topic and the descriptions contained within it made you think of vyrulisse. Talk about dunking on someone
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PleaseClap
12/31/19 7:03:41 PM
#141:


OneTruePlayer81 posted...
Bring her to the UK, a night with me will make her feel a whole lot better

I don't think she's legally allowed to leave the country.
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Lorenzo_2003
12/31/19 7:08:24 PM
#142:


PleaseClap posted...
I mean, I keep telling her that attitude is more important than anything and I make sure to not talk about her looks negatively in front of her.

Attitude?

lol, thats not gonna attract people, unless its combined with big breasts and an ample rear. Long legs wouldnt hurt either. Does she have any of those?

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PleaseClap
12/31/19 7:11:18 PM
#143:


Lorenzo_2003 posted...


Attitude?

lol, thats not gonna attract people, unless its combined with big breasts and an ample rear. Long legs wouldnt hurt either. Does she have any of those?

She has a relatively normal amount of legs. That's about it.
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teepan95
12/31/19 7:17:29 PM
#144:


TC, you may have no other choice than to plug her into the Matrix... :/
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