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masterbarf 02/22/24 6:53:35 PM #51:	hitokoriX posted... Man I swear lol. There is nothing wrong with engaging in conversation with people in public. If she don't wanna talk, move on. If the situation above actually happened, there has to be more to it. --- https://i.imgur.com/SJyzEFW.png by SmidgeIsntBack <cite>masterbarf posted [p:978988519] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>hitokoriX posted... </cite><quote>Man I swear lol. There is nothing wrong with engaging in conversation with people in public. If she don't wanna talk, move on. If the situation above actually happened, there has to be more to it.</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 6:55:53 PM #52:	bigblu89 posted... The tweet literally says that she was OK with the interaction. Fair enough. I stand corrected. I only read what was visible in the first post. I dont ever click on Twitter links. However, I do feel that my point in general terms still stands. Its not that men cant approach women. The problem is that so many of them do it wrong and then blame other people for their failings. <cite>Glob posted [p:978988553] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>bigblu89 posted... </cite><quote>The tweet literally says that she was OK with the interaction.</quote>Fair enough. I stand corrected. I only read what was visible in the first post. I dont ever click on Twitter links.However, I do feel that my point in general terms still stands. Its not that men cant approach women. The problem is that so many of them do it wrong and then blame other people for their failings.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
xGhostchantx 02/22/24 6:57:37 PM #53:	Glob posted... I only read what was visible in the first post You and everyone else, lol. That's not an indictment of you, specifically, just that generally people don't bother to read whole articles much of the time these days. Bit sad. --- Tiw - Min scild, min sweord Woden - Se ALLFAEDER he is, naes hwitra manna anra <cite>xGhostchantx posted [p:978988576] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Glob posted... </cite><quote>I only read what was visible in the first post</quote>You and everyone else, lol. That's not an indictment of you, specifically, just that generally people don't bother to read whole articles much of the time these days. Bit sad. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cruciferous 02/22/24 6:58:09 PM #54:	Hinakuluiau posted... People should be allowed to exist in public spaces without having to indulge in strangers desires to interact. The last thing I want to do while grocery shopping is discuss my favorite brand of chips people say this but studies show most people appreciate small convo during commutes and such --- everything is going to b o k <cite>Cruciferous posted [p:978988585] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Hinakuluiau posted... </cite><quote>People should be allowed to exist in public spaces without having to indulge in strangers desires to interact. The last thing I want to do while grocery shopping is discuss my favorite brand of chips</quote>people say this but studies show most people appreciate small convo during commutes and such </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 6:58:28 PM #55:	xGhostchantx posted... You and everyone else, lol. That's not an indictment of you, specifically, just that generally people don't bother to read whole articles much of the time these days. Bit sad. In fairness, if it wasnt a twitter link, I probably would have. <cite>Glob posted [p:978988595] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>xGhostchantx posted... </cite><quote>You and everyone else, lol. That's not an indictment of you, specifically, just that generally people don't bother to read whole articles much of the time these days. Bit sad.</quote>In fairness, if it wasnt a twitter link, I probably would have.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
action52 02/22/24 7:00:35 PM #56:	Tenlaar posted... They were wrong. The tweet very strongly implies they weren't wrong, and that the daughter was very grateful to the staff. --- "It's tootsin' time." Dustin Hoffman, Tootsie, 1982 <cite>action52 posted [p:978988631] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Tenlaar posted... </cite><quote>They were wrong.</quote>The tweet very strongly implies they weren't wrong, and that the daughter was very grateful to the staff. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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luigi33 02/22/24 7:03:27 PM #57:	bigblu89 posted... Topics like this make me thank god that Im married. For sure. Jesus I'm happy I don't have to deal with the terrible nightmare that is modern dating. --- RTX 3070, Ryzen 7 5700x,16GB DDR4, 700WGold PSU Switch FC: SW-3966-2111-8902, Proud Steam Deck Owner <cite>luigi33 posted [p:978988694] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>bigblu89 posted... </cite><quote>Topics like this make me thank god that Im married.</quote>For sure. Jesus I'm happy I don't have to deal with the terrible nightmare that is modern dating. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 7:07:21 PM #58:	luigi33 posted... For sure. Jesus I'm happy I don't have to deal with the terrible nightmare that is modern dating. I thought that and then was thrust into it again a couple of years ago. It really wasnt bad at all. I think the big difference is that all the people who would have previously sucked at it now have online soapboxes on which to blame everybody but themselves for their lack of success, so they suck the same amount as before but are louder about it. <cite>Glob posted [p:978988767] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>luigi33 posted... </cite><quote>For sure. Jesus I'm happy I don't have to deal with the terrible nightmare that is modern dating.</quote>I thought that and then was thrust into it again a couple of years ago. It really wasnt bad at all. I think the big difference is that all the people who would have previously sucked at it now have online soapboxes on which to blame everybody but themselves for their lack of success, so they suck the same amount as before but are louder about it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Tenlaar 02/22/24 7:08:46 PM #59:	action52 posted... The tweet very strongly implies they weren't wrong, and that the daughter was very grateful to the staff. The tweet flat out states that they were wrong, no implications about it. <cite>Tenlaar posted [p:978988791] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>action52 posted... </cite><quote>The tweet very strongly implies they weren't wrong, and that the daughter was very grateful to the staff.</quote>The tweet flat out states that they were wrong, no implications about it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RiKuToTheMiGhtY 02/22/24 7:11:55 PM #60:	Men really do need to stop approaching women, the average guy is just seen as a creep and the hassle of having the cops called on you or being publicly kicked out just for talking to a woman is not worth the trouble. --- doa-plus.com - We Press Forward. . . By Pressing Back. <cite>RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted [p:978988866] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Men really do need to stop approaching women, the average guy is just seen as a creep and the hassle of having the cops called on you or being publicly kicked out just for talking to a woman is not worth the trouble. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 7:15:12 PM #61:	RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted... Men really do need to stop approaching women, the average guy is just seen as a creep and the hassle of having the cops called on you or being publicly kicked out just for talking to a woman is not worth the trouble. If people are calling the cops because you tried to initiate a conversation with a woman, you did something wrong. <cite>Glob posted [p:978988941] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted... </cite><quote>Men really do need to stop approaching women, the average guy is just seen as a creep and the hassle of having the cops called on you or being publicly kicked out just for talking to a woman is not worth the trouble.</quote>If people are calling the cops because you tried to initiate a conversation with a woman, you did something wrong.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cruciferous 02/22/24 7:18:39 PM #63:	Glob posted... I thought that and then was thrust into it again a couple of years ago. It really wasnt bad at all. I think the big difference is that all the people who would have previously sucked at it now have online soapboxes on which to blame everybody but themselves for their lack of success, so they suck the same amount as before but are louder about it. lol too on the nose. nobody will accept this. --- everything is going to b o k <cite>Cruciferous posted [p:978989011] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Glob posted... </cite><quote>I thought that and then was thrust into it again a couple of years ago. It really wasnt bad at all. I think the big difference is that all the people who would have previously sucked at it now have online soapboxes on which to blame everybody but themselves for their lack of success, so they suck the same amount as before but are louder about it.</quote>lol too on the nose. nobody will accept this. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RiKuToTheMiGhtY 02/22/24 7:20:26 PM #64:	No has not happened to me but I have heard a few news reports of it happening. --- doa-plus.com - We Press Forward. . . By Pressing Back. <cite>RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted [p:978989048] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>No has not happened to me but I have heard a few news reports of it happening. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 7:22:05 PM #65:	Cruciferous posted... lol too on the nose. nobody will accept this. They dont need to. Doesnt change its validity. <cite>Glob posted [p:978989079] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Cruciferous posted... </cite><quote>lol too on the nose. nobody will accept this.</quote>They dont need to. Doesnt change its validity.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cruciferous 02/22/24 7:23:10 PM #66:	Glob posted... They dont need to. Doesnt change its validity. Sure, but it's a little sad. I wish I could personally befriend some CEmen to show them the error of their ways. --- everything is going to b o k <cite>Cruciferous posted [p:978989098] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Glob posted... </cite><quote>They dont need to. Doesnt change its validity.</quote>Sure, but it's a little sad. I wish I could personally befriend some CEmen to show them the error of their ways. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dark_Arbron 02/22/24 7:49:23 PM #69:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Heck, just once even. Glob posted... If people are calling the cops because you tried to initiate a conversation with a woman, you did something wrong. This. Also lets not forget who TC is. I dont even need to read the link to know theres likely some bullshit going on here. --- Calling out stupid or reckless decision-making is not "victim blaming." <cite>Dark_Arbron posted [p:978989621] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Heck, just once even.Glob posted... </cite><quote>If people are calling the cops because you tried to initiate a conversation with a woman, you did something wrong.</quote>This.Also lets not forget who TC is. I dont even need to read the link to know theres likely some bullshit going on here. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 7:53:29 PM #70:	Cruciferous posted... Sure, but it's a little sad. I wish I could personally befriend some CEmen to show them the error of their ways. When it comes to stuff like this, you can only help people who are open to it. Many arent because it means accepting that their problems come from them and its easier to blame an external force, such as societal expectations, chads or literally everybody with a vagina. <cite>Glob posted [p:978989697] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Cruciferous posted... </cite><quote>Sure, but it's a little sad. I wish I could personally befriend some CEmen to show them the error of their ways.</quote>When it comes to stuff like this, you can only help people who are open to it. Many arent because it means accepting that their problems come from them and its easier to blame an external force, such as societal expectations, chads or literally everybody with a vagina.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pojr 02/22/24 7:55:24 PM #71:	hitokoriX posted... Man I swear lol. There is nothing wrong with engaging in conversation with people in public. If she don't wanna talk, move on. If the situation above actually happened, there has to be more to it. I think the problem is poor social queues The girl doesn't want to say no because it seems rude to her, and the guy is missing all the signals that she's not interested --- pojr I summon it. You spell it. <cite>pojr posted [p:978989730] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>hitokoriX posted... </cite><quote>Man I swear lol. There is nothing wrong with engaging in conversation with people in public. If she don't wanna talk, move on. If the situation above actually happened, there has to be more to it.</quote>I think the problem is poor social queuesThe girl doesn't want to say no because it seems rude to her, and the guy is missing all the signals that she's not interested </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bigblu89 02/22/24 7:55:28 PM #72:	action52 posted... The tweet very strongly implies they weren't wrong, and that the daughter was very grateful to the staff. The tweet literally states the opposite. Side note: She felt safe and did not remove the lid, but let them know. So the guy wasnt creeping her out and she didnt need saving. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:978989734] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>action52 posted... </cite><quote>The tweet very strongly implies they weren't wrong, and that the daughter was very grateful to the staff.</quote>The tweet literally states the opposite. <quote>Side note: She felt safe and did not remove the lid, but let them know.</quote>So the guy wasnt creeping her out and she didnt need saving. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
action52 02/22/24 7:57:43 PM #73:	Tenlaar posted... The tweet flat out states that they were wrong, no implications about it. If the girl or her mother thought the staff was out of line, the tweet would have said so. This guy didn't put her in danger, but the tweet was praising the staff for looking out for her rather than complaining they should mind their own business. This implies that the girl was at the very least uncomfortable and grateful that the staff had her back in case he tried to escalate things. And maybe them giving her an extra extra drink to pretend she was waiting for someone is what made this (unwelcome) guy back off. --- "It's tootsin' time." Dustin Hoffman, Tootsie, 1982 <cite>action52 posted [p:978989775] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Tenlaar posted... </cite><quote>The tweet flat out states that they were wrong, no implications about it.</quote>If the girl or her mother thought the staff was out of line, the tweet would have said so. This guy didn't put her in danger, but the tweet was praising the staff for looking out for her rather than complaining they should mind their own business. This implies that the girl was at the very least uncomfortable and grateful that the staff had her back in case he tried to escalate things. And maybe them giving her an extra extra drink to pretend she was waiting for someone is what made this (unwelcome) guy back off. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tenlaar 02/22/24 7:59:29 PM #75:	action52 posted... This implies that the girl was at the very least uncomfortable It does not remotely imply that. <cite>Tenlaar posted [p:978989815] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>action52 posted... </cite><quote>This implies that the girl was at the very least uncomfortable</quote>It does not remotely imply that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pojr 02/22/24 8:00:15 PM #76:	To answer the question of the topic, I don't think coffee shops are an appropriate place to approach women. People are not there to socialize, they're there to meet with existing friends or to use their Wi-Fi. --- pojr I summon it. You spell it. <cite>pojr posted [p:978989829] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>To answer the question of the topic, I don't think coffee shops are an appropriate place to approach women. People are not there to socialize, they're there to meet with existing friends or to use their Wi-Fi. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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action52 02/22/24 8:05:50 PM #78:	Tenlaar posted... It does not remotely imply that. If she wasn't glad that the staff did that for her, why was the tweet lavishing praise on the staff and thanking them for it? How does that not imply she thought they were doing a good thing? --- "It's tootsin' time." Dustin Hoffman, Tootsie, 1982 <cite>action52 posted [p:978989925] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Tenlaar posted... </cite><quote>It does not remotely imply that.</quote>If she wasn't glad that the staff did that for her, why was the tweet lavishing praise on the staff and thanking them for it? How does that not imply she thought they were doing a good thing? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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VideoboysaysCube 02/22/24 8:19:55 PM #83:	The tweet says the guy started "talking" to her. Is that the baseline for predatory behavior now? Well, better lock me up because I went beyond saying hello to the hostess when picking up my food the other day. I asked her how her day was going! I sure hope I didn't make her feel endangered in any way. --- This sentence has five words. This sentence has eight words. Only one sentence in this signature is true. <cite>VideoboysaysCube posted [p:978990179] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>The tweet says the guy started "talking" to her. Is that the baseline for predatory behavior now? Well, better lock me up because I went beyond saying hello to the hostess when picking up my food the other day. I asked her how her day was going! I sure hope I didn't make her feel endangered in any way. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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action52 02/22/24 8:23:18 PM #85:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Even then, though, the staff still made the right call. Tenlaar literally said the staff was wrong. --- "It's tootsin' time." Dustin Hoffman, Tootsie, 1982 <cite>action52 posted [p:978990231] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Even then, though, the staff still made the right call.Tenlaar literally said the staff was wrong. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Antiyonder 02/22/24 8:31:22 PM #87:	I'd say a lot of the victim blaming or lack of sympathy for the proven victims in the 2010s makes such caution understandable. Think about it. If a woman is cautious you tell her to lighten up, but if she is assaulted the you suddenly tell her not to be so sexy or easy. --- Amalgam Universe resident Born in 82. <cite>Antiyonder posted [p:978990353] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>I'd say a lot of the victim blaming or lack of sympathy for the proven victims in the 2010s makes such caution understandable.Think about it. If a woman is cautious you tell her to lighten up, but if she is assaulted the you suddenly tell her not to be so sexy or easy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_____Cait 02/22/24 8:33:39 PM #88:	Dont take dating advice from CE. A lot the people on here post creepy stories about their stalking, about how they abuse their gfs, or if they are wrong for doing all kinds of dumb things. If it feels wrong, and the girl doesnt want to be approached, dont do it, Not surprised by the board who wonders why girls dont like them, while also saying things that girls actively try to avoid, --- ORAS secret base: http://imgur.com/V9nAVrd 3DS friend code: 0173-1465-1236 <cite>_____Cait posted [p:978990383] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Dont take dating advice from CE.A lot the people on here post creepy stories about their stalking, about how they abuse their gfs, or if they are wrong for doing all kinds of dumb things. If it feels wrong, and the girl doesnt want to be approached, dont do it,Not surprised by the board who wonders why girls dont like them, while also saying things that girls actively try to avoid, </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ClayGuida 02/22/24 8:35:58 PM #90:	We don't know how the interaction went. --- lolAmerica <cite>ClayGuida posted [p:978990438] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>We don't know how the interaction went. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Antiyonder 02/22/24 8:37:50 PM #91:	@_____Cait A lot the people on here post creepy stories about their stalking, about how they abuse their gfs, or if they are wrong for doing all kinds of dumb things. If it feels wrong, and the girl doesnt want to be approached, dont do it, Not surprised by the board who wonders why girls dont like them, while also saying things that girls actively try to avoid, This, but all too often it's like with any complaints people have with sensitivity. They seem to think it's enough not to be well in this case predatory, but seem fine sticking up for those who don't have such restraints. --- Amalgam Universe resident Born in 82. <cite>Antiyonder posted [p:978990470] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>@_____Cait<quote>A lot the people on here post creepy stories about their stalking, about how they abuse their gfs, or if they are wrong for doing all kinds of dumb things. If it feels wrong, and the girl doesnt want to be approached, dont do it,Not surprised by the board who wonders why girls dont like them, while also saying things that girls actively try to avoid,</quote>This, but all too often it's like with any complaints people have with sensitivity. They seem to think it's enough not to be well in this case predatory, but seem fine sticking up for those who don't have such restraints. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Noname13 02/22/24 8:44:39 PM #92:	Tbh, you know if you have the rizz to pull off asking a girl out at a coffee shop and you know if you don t --- Dp45 <cite>Noname13 posted [p:978990549] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Tbh, you know if you have the rizz to pull off asking a girl out at a coffee shop and you know if you don t </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Prototypic 02/22/24 8:49:15 PM #93:	I don't think there's anything wrong with incidental conversations with people who happen to be around when you're going about your day, but some people take it too far, being pushy or failing to pick up on signs the other person isn't interested. I'm fairly introverted and not at all interested in talking to random strangers and so I get that it can be annoying being approached in public, but I also don't think a society where we forbid any kind of social interaction by strangers in public places is the right approach. --- Thus I became a madman. <cite>Prototypic posted [p:978990612] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>I don't think there's anything wrong with incidental conversations with people who happen to be around when you're going about your day, but some people take it too far, being pushy or failing to pick up on signs the other person isn't interested. I'm fairly introverted and not at all interested in talking to random strangers and so I get that it can be annoying being approached in public, but I also don't think a society where we forbid any kind of social interaction by strangers in public places is the right approach. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Naysaspace 02/22/24 8:57:07 PM #94:	Coming in cold like a creep is weird but if you catch a glance and use some judgement and do it above board, no problem. I did that the other day. Didnt get a number but we chatted about Ontario for 15 mins before i left. That being said, it was my exs sisters friend, we'd met once before and recognised one another --- leafs rule <cite>Naysaspace posted [p:978990743] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Coming in cold like a creep is weird but if you catch a glance and use some judgement and do it above board, no problem.I did that the other day. Didnt get a number but we chatted about Ontario for 15 mins before i left. That being said, it was my exs sisters friend, we'd met once before and recognised one another </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 02/22/24 9:02:57 PM #95:	As long as youre hot! Tee hee --- I'll trade with anyone that has a jacuuuuzziiiii <cite>rexcrk posted [p:978990847] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>As long as youre hot! Tee hee </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LightningThief 02/22/24 9:24:32 PM #96:	I didn't read the tweet or OP. I'm just answering the initial question. Yes. Nothing wrong with approaching a fully grown, legal, adult woman at a coffee shop Just be respectful, and understand to back off if she voices she is not interested. <cite>LightningThief posted [p:978991216] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>I didn't read the tweet or OP.I'm just answering the initial question. Yes. Nothing wrong with approaching a fully grown, legal, adult woman at a coffee shop Just be respectful, and understand to back off if she voices she is not interested.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
mehmeh1 02/22/24 9:31:30 PM #97:	TheShadowViper posted... A lot of people not only go to coffee shops to people watch, but to engage with others. tbh I genuinely don't understand this. Maybe because when something is food related I like to focus on, well, the food, so to me going to a coffee shop or a caf on your own is just to eat/drink, nothing more (and this goes for both men and women) --- FC: 3840-6927-7945, have OR/Y/SM4SH/PSMD/S/US I'm a youtuber, here is my link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRj1lj8EWzRtw3jp3HUXCxQ? .I play games <cite>mehmeh1 posted [p:978991329] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>TheShadowViper posted... </cite><quote>A lot of people not only go to coffee shops to people watch, but to engage with others.</quote>tbh I genuinely don't understand this. Maybe because when something is food related I like to focus on, well, the food, so to me going to a coffee shop or a caf on your own is just to eat/drink, nothing more (and this goes for both men and women) </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
luigi33 02/22/24 9:37:58 PM #98:	Glob posted... I thought that and then was thrust into it again a couple of years ago. It really wasnt bad at all. I think the big difference is that all the people who would have previously sucked at it now have online soapboxes on which to blame everybody but themselves for their lack of success, so they suck the same amount as before but are louder about it. I don't think thats all of it though. Something systemic is going on and it isn't just "bootstraps". Like I'm not saying the people you mention don't exist. They've existed before too. But its just a -LOT- more of them at a much greater rat nowadays compared to even mid-late Millennial generation let alone Boomers/GenX. --- RTX 3070, Ryzen 7 5700x,16GB DDR4, 700WGold PSU Switch FC: SW-3966-2111-8902, Proud Steam Deck Owner <cite>luigi33 posted [p:978991424] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>Glob posted... </cite><quote>I thought that and then was thrust into it again a couple of years ago. It really wasnt bad at all. I think the big difference is that all the people who would have previously sucked at it now have online soapboxes on which to blame everybody but themselves for their lack of success, so they suck the same amount as before but are louder about it.</quote>I don't think thats all of it though. Something systemic is going on and it isn't just "bootstraps".Like I'm not saying the people you mention don't exist. They've existed before too. But its just a -LOT- more of them at a much greater rat nowadays compared to even mid-late Millennial generation let alone Boomers/GenX. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 9:49:09 PM #99:	luigi33 posted... I don't think thats all of it though. Something systemic is going on and it isn't just "bootstraps". Like I'm not saying the people you mention don't exist. They've existed before too. But its just a -LOT- more of them at a much greater rat nowadays compared to even mid-late Millennial generation let alone Boomers/GenX. Yes, peoples social skills and situational awareness seem to be decreasing, but thats down to individuals to address. If people avoid social interaction then its not surprising that they dont pick up those skills. Thats not really the dating game changing though, so much as people lacking in social skills in greater numbers. <cite>Glob posted [p:978991609] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>luigi33 posted... </cite><quote>I don't think thats all of it though. Something systemic is going on and it isn't just "bootstraps".Like I'm not saying the people you mention don't exist. They've existed before too. But its just a -LOT- more of them at a much greater rat nowadays compared to even mid-late Millennial generation let alone Boomers/GenX.</quote>Yes, peoples social skills and situational awareness seem to be decreasing, but thats down to individuals to address. If people avoid social interaction then its not surprising that they dont pick up those skills.Thats not really the dating game changing though, so much as people lacking in social skills in greater numbers.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/22/24 9:50:13 PM #100:	BoomerKuwanger posted... Yeah but it's kinda different cause this post implies you had prior dating experience. That doesn't change the dating pool at all for you, but definitely affects your confidence and approach. Being a grown adult who knows little or nothing about dating makes it a pretty humiliating experience. I can definitely relate to wanting it to be easier, and it would be naive not to act like dating dynamics have changed, but agree that looking for external factors to blame won't ever get you anywhere Of course I had prior experience; I was 35 at the time. <cite>Glob posted [p:978991621] in Is it acce... [t:80703454]...</cite> <quote>BoomerKuwanger posted... </cite><quote>Yeah but it's kinda different cause this post implies you had prior dating experience. That doesn't change the dating pool at all for you, but definitely affects your confidence and approach.Being a grown adult who knows little or nothing about dating makes it a pretty humiliating experience. I can definitely relate to wanting it to be easier, and it would be naive not to act like dating dynamics have changed, but agree that looking for external factors to blame won't ever get you anywhere</quote>Of course I had prior experience; I was 35 at the time.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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