Current Events > ever get depressed about money compared to those around u?

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i just got out of a conversation in which people my age were talking about casually dropping 10, 20, 30 grand, but they dont because they would "only" have 10k left over

i thought id mostly gotten over the envy and depressive response, its been a really long time since it happened. but for one reason or another it cropped up again today

wish i wasnt on phones right now so i could go for a walk

i'm just always depressed in general. being poor is only part of it

All the time. But I have a house and car. So I am doing better then most so I count my blessings.

Nah I get depressed about money compared to all these fucking bills I gotta pay.

I already know people richer than me exist and I already know there will always be people richer than me so no it couldn't possibly affect me in any way whatsoever.

I get upset about the expense of just everyday living. It's too damn high.

PoopPotato posted...

I get upset about the expense of just everyday living. It's too damn high.

tell me about it man

i quit smoking, so thats 100+ bucks a week saved. i couldnt even tell u where its going

every time i start doing well (for me, not compared to others) some emergency crops up. emergency trip to ER, 2k car repair bill

its like something out of a book on cliches. i definitely could stand to tighten my spending though too. i grocery shop at the dollar store now. i buy way fewer clothes. i dont buy coffee twice a day every day

still dont feel it. its only been a month or two (cigs not even a month) so ofc im not gonna feel it yet, but man

today just sucky in the air for some reason :/

im not rich but i have more money than i know what to do with. all my bills are paid, everything paid off, i use to stress about money, getting the best deal, that kind of thing but eventually i realized it literally doesnt matter. i will never spend all my money in my lifetime. and im not even rich (ill never be a homeowner probably i dunno) just enough to get by for emergencies and random stuff

id like to get to that point. i dont want to be rich or to live lavishly. i want enough to be financially independent and be able to take care of big emergency expensitures when they come up

i dont have any goals or ambitions other than to live in that relative peace, quiet, and comfort

lucky you.

Dungeater posted...

id like to get to that point. i dont want to be rich or to live lavishly. i want enough to be financially independent and be able to take care of big emergency expensitures when they come up

i dont have any goals or ambitions other than to live in that relative peace, quiet, and comfort

i had a really bizarre pandemic period where i saved up way more money than i usually do. a bunch of factors fell in line and i got "lucky" i suppose. my mental health was pretty bad during that time living completely quarantined and alone (i took quarantine pretty damn seriously for 2 years) and i came out of it with a pretty nice chunk of savings just doing nothing but working from home the entire time. i remember one day checking my bank statements and having some epiphany that i can finally stop stressing about money. i still stress though. still beat myself up when i buy something for $10 to later realize i couldve got it for $5. but i try to get over it.

it's like, these people had and have dreams. they knew what they wanted to do, they were passionate about things. animation, computers, whatever. started working towards it when they were teenagers, or in their early 20s. and now theyre there

i wish i could have had any direction at all back then. i was content doing nothing. eating, drinking, and playing video games

man.

alright at this point i am cognizant that im feeding into the depressiveness here, so imma take a break before it gets out of control. thanks for listening to me vent

i just wanna be a sugar baby
i have legit considering being a prostitute

Dungeater posted...

it's like, these people had and have dreams. they knew what they wanted to do, they were passionate about things. animation, computers, whatever. started working towards it when they were teenagers, or in their early 20s. and now theyre there

i wish i could have had any direction at all back then. i was content doing nothing. eating, drinking, and playing video games

man.

alright at this point i am cognizant that im feeding into the depressiveness here, so imma take a break before it gets out of control. thanks for listening to me vent

never too late all it takes is one or two years of self discipline and then suddenly youll be there before you know it. the weird thing about being chronically poor your whole life, once you get a decent revenue stream going it just kind of snowballs because youre used to living poor(thats how it was for me at least)

I really dont interact with many people nor care about their financial situation. With that being said Im very content with my life. My house is completely paid off which compared to the people at work is rare, vehicle paid off, I have absolutely zero debt and only have to pay required monthly bills which is pretty cheap for where I live in the Midwest.

At this point Im basically only working to have insurance coverage. I have more money than I need and Im looking to retire in about 10 years.

ArsGoetia posted...

i just wanna be a sugar baby
i have legit considering being a prostitute

ive been on and off with this too :(

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ive done a LOT of introspection and reflecting over the years. I've gotten really damn good at it. and I've had some extremely cogent and lucid thoughts and insights about myself - which is why I can comfortably say I don't have any interests career-wise. I don't have any passions, the only stuff I'm really really into is a couple of niche things like fuckin Dark Souls and shit haha

so this is good advice in general but it unfortunately doesnt apply to me

ok im gonna break for real now. gonna do a bout of mindful meditation

also having money is almost like the same thing like virgins feel about losing their vcard. it doesnt suddenly change you into a happy person. if anything mo money mo problems

No
I traded my youth for financial stability. Now I don't need to worry much about money if I live a middle class lifestyle

Yeah I work in a bank so Im surrounded by people and their money and how much better theyre doing than me despite them having terrible habits and zero min/maxing strategies. I can see peoples direct deposits and Im like wtf, I messed up somewhere not pulling a paycheck like that.

I tend to only care or worry about the things in my circle or control so no. And while I dont have tens of thousands in savings yet I can still enjoy most luxurys the wealthy so from time to time.

Just not in terms of cost.

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its sooo helpful. it fosters clarity even when youre doing really really badly. like, it keeps u lucid during depressive spells or other kinds of funks. u will notice being in a lot more control of your emotions in general

FelineCyborg posted...

also having money is almost like the same thing like virgins feel about losing their vcard. it doesnt suddenly change you into a happy person. if anything mo money mo problems

yeah but having *no* money is another matter

Just every day

Vokrent posted...

yeah but having *no* money is another matter

true

Money might be one of the only things I don't get depressed over.

I have two borderline minimum wage part time jobs. But I feel like I have more than enough to get by personally. And I like my work.

I have enough money, but I could always use more.

That pandemic saved my ass financially. I learned how to save money, pay off my bills, and avoid unnecessary bills. Its been a pretty lucrative four years.

Next year my student loans will be paid off too!

I can't give two shits about what other people make. I know I'm not rich or have a lot of money but I'm just worried about staying above water.

Depressed? No. Stressed? Yes. Couldnt give two shits about what other people make, how they live, etc.

Its weird. Im living comfortably, I have steady income. Ive got money in the bank / IRA / 401k, but I also realize Im not making enough. At the rate Im going, Ill never be able to afford a house. I dont mind renting, but I lucked into a good situation but if that were to change, Im fucked. If I have a major medical thing come up Im fucked.

I have no one to blame but myself, really. But I also didnt really have guidance. Back in high school, I knew that I didnt want to go to college right away because my family couldnt afford it (and I wasnt gonna play the loan game) but there was also literally nothing I wanted to go to college for. So my dumbass just took a job at a local grocery store. The pay was decent and the work was steady of course. Had great benefits, but it also wore me out mentally and physically. I wish I had realized I couldve at least done a few community college classes here and there to keep the costs reasonable while still getting an education.

The problem is, I still have no idea what to do with myself now at 35. From the two jobs Ive had in my life, I know what I dont want, but thats not enough. So Im stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I'm currently living it, I have missing teeth right now instead of implants because I don't have enough money for them, my bank account is 4 digits long and I own nothing to my name, no car, no house, nothing. The only thing I "own" are the medication I have to take every day or die. Worst yet, I lack the skill set or intelligence to do better, I'm gonna die a rat in a hole someday for sure at this rate and thinking about it always makes my already zero self worth plummet even more.