Current Events > Should I end it between me and this girl?

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Pau_Gasol_Trade 10/05/22 12:05:58 AM #1:	So quick background: Around July of this year, I found out that this girl at work had a crush on me, which I found strange because I never really interacted with her at work other than good morning and see you tomorrow Im 33 and shes 28. Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. I never really had any interest in her in the beginning because of major red flags. But my co workers, even my boss, encouraged me to give her a shot. Upon hearing this I consulted with my best friends and my sister how I should approach this. They all said its not worth it but I didnt listen. So I decided to give her a shot and we got to know each other more and more. Weve been going out a few times a week, but never during the weekends due to her having to be with her kids. She got into my hobbies (going to the gym) and I got into her hobbies (watching anime) so I thought we had a connection going. Every time we would go out, Id cover everything. I genuinely thought that we were getting along great due to how much we have in common. Fast forward to last Friday. We were suppose to go out after work but she said she wanted to go shopping with one of our female co workers but would meet up in a few hours. She calls me around the time we were suppose to go out to cancel and she apologized and said we can go out on Saturday or Sunday. Which never happened. Monday comes and I overhear that a group of co workers, including her, all went drinking after work on the Friday we were supposed to go out. I heard from my manager (who wasnt there) that they were all taking ** about me and she was bragging telling them that she only used me for my money. On top of that I heard that shes a compulsive liar and is crazy. My gut tells me that its true but part of me wants to give her the benefit of the doubt. Does it sound like its time for me to stop going out with her? <cite>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted [p:968498035] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>So quick background:Around July of this year, I found out that this girl at work had a crush on me, which I found strange because I never really interacted with her at work other than good morning and see you tomorrow Im 33 and shes 28. Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. I never really had any interest in her in the beginning because of major red flags. But my co workers, even my boss, encouraged me to give her a shot. Upon hearing this I consulted with my best friends and my sister how I should approach this. They all said its not worth it but I didnt listen. So I decided to give her a shot and we got to know each other more and more. Weve been going out a few times a week, but never during the weekends due to her having to be with her kids. She got into my hobbies (going to the gym) and I got into her hobbies (watching anime) so I thought we had a connection going. Every time we would go out, Id cover everything. I genuinely thought that we were getting along great due to how much we have in common. Fast forward to last Friday. We were suppose to go out after work but she said she wanted to go shopping with one of our female co workers but would meet up in a few hours. She calls me around the time we were suppose to go out to cancel and she apologized and said we can go out on Saturday or Sunday. Which never happened. Monday comes and I overhear that a group of co workers, including her, all went drinking after work on the Friday we were supposed to go out. I heard from my manager (who wasnt there) that they were all taking ** about me and she was bragging telling them that she only used me for my money. On top of that I heard that shes a compulsive liar and is crazy. My gut tells me that its true but part of me wants to give her the benefit of the doubt. Does it sound like its time for me to stop going out with her? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
itachi15243 10/05/22 12:07:51 AM #2:	Yeah dump her ass --- I do drawings and stuff https://www.fiverr.com/blueblitz <cite>itachi15243 posted [p:968498061] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Yeah dump her ass</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/05/22 12:08:30 AM #3:	Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it. --- Name checks out "I don't wanna be the toughest, I just keep it 100 and think nothin of it"- Black Thought <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:968498077] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IfGodCouldDie 10/05/22 12:09:03 AM #4:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... Does it sound like its time for me to stop going out with her? 100% --- All posters and events depicted in this post are entirely fictitious. Any similarity to actual events or posters, living or dead, is purely coincidental. <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted [p:968498087] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>Does it sound like its time for me to stop going out with her?</quote>100%</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chicken 10/05/22 12:12:25 AM #5:	Make plans to go to a really fancy dinner and then ghost her and block her number and social media etc. Go back to talking to her like shes a normal coworker after. --- May contain bones https://youtu.be/jGbI0P4hh3o <cite>Chicken posted [p:968498132] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Make plans to go to a really fancy dinner and then ghost her and block her number and social media etc. Go back to talking to her like shes a normal coworker after. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/05/22 12:12:58 AM #6:	Chicken posted... Make plans to go to a really fancy dinner and then ghost her and block her number and social media etc. Go back to talking to her like shes a normal coworker after. Over gossip tho? --- Name checks out "I don't wanna be the toughest, I just keep it 100 and think nothin of it"- Black Thought <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:968498141] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Chicken posted... </cite><quote>Make plans to go to a really fancy dinner and then ghost her and block her number and social media etc. Go back to talking to her like shes a normal coworker after.</quote>Over gossip tho?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GuerrillaSoldier 10/05/22 12:18:23 AM #7:	i'd be the type to confront her but that's because i'd feel left out and lied to. not cool with me. some people don't care though. but i see no reason why she would need to lie about where she was. how much do you really care? if you like her and want things to work anyway, then just hang out with her without anything money-related. if you care about being lied to? well then confront her, or better yet, just move on. your choice man. --- Disclaimer: There's a good chance the above post could be sarcasm. Die-hard Oakland A's fan --- Keep the A's in Oakland! <cite>GuerrillaSoldier posted [p:968498215] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>i'd be the type to confront her but that's because i'd feel left out and lied to. not cool with me. some people don't care though. but i see no reason why she would need to lie about where she was.how much do you really care? if you like her and want things to work anyway, then just hang out with her without anything money-related.if you care about being lied to? well then confront her, or better yet, just move on. your choice man.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoolMaskGuy 10/05/22 12:26:05 AM #8:	Lost_All_Senses posted... Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it. Yeah, if you actually like her I would try this. If she continues to flake, then you have your answer. Personally if I were you I wouldn't confront her about what she possibly said, because it's work and I wouldn't want issues to crop up there. If I somehow found out she did say that, I would probably just start ignoring her aside from the bare minimum required to still work with her if needed. And if I didn't need to work directly with her I would probably just never initiate interaction with her again. <cite>CoolMaskGuy posted [p:968498334] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted... </cite><quote>Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it.</quote>Yeah, if you actually like her I would try this. If she continues to flake, then you have your answer.Personally if I were you I wouldn't confront her about what she possibly said, because it's work and I wouldn't want issues to crop up there. If I somehow found out she did say that, I would probably just start ignoring her aside from the bare minimum required to still work with her if needed. And if I didn't need to work directly with her I would probably just never initiate interaction with her again.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kan-Wan 10/05/22 12:26:53 AM #9:	Well, why would someone even make such a claim? <cite>Kan-Wan posted [p:968498347] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Well, why would someone even make such a claim? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CountDog 10/05/22 12:27:43 AM #10:	Really wouldn't doubt your manager would make something up like that. I'd be done with her. I wouldn't even bother talking to her. If she insisted on a conversation. I'd tell her Id heard enough already and Im not interested in continuing any relationship outside of being co workers. Wish her the best and move on. --- http://kinomania.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/gran-torino-clint-eastwood.jpg <cite>CountDog posted [p:968498353] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Really wouldn't doubt your manager would make something up like that. I'd be done with her. I wouldn't even bother talking to her. If she insisted on a conversation. I'd tell her Id heard enough already and Im not interested in continuing any relationship outside of being co workers. Wish her the best and move on. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Agonized_rufous 10/05/22 12:33:23 AM #11:	You getting what you want out of it? Sex is expensive- I mean, dating is expensive --- "All I have is my balls and my word, and I don't break them for anyone!"-Tony Montana <cite>Agonized_rufous posted [p:968498430] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>You getting what you want out of it? Sex is expensive- I mean, dating is expensive</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mia_K97 10/05/22 12:37:37 AM #12:	How is this even topic worthy? Dump....OMG people on this site actually encouraging OP to stay with this girl? <cite>Mia_K97 posted [p:968498484] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>How is this even topic worthy? Dump....OMG people on this site actually encouraging OP to stay with this girl?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/05/22 12:43:51 AM #13:	Mia_K97 posted... How is this even topic worthy? Dump....OMG people on this site actually encouraging OP to stay with this girl? Who? Me? Im encouraging him to test gossip instead of blindly believe it. Rather you dismiss or believe gossip, you can become the fool. You can use gossip without letting it completely run your life. It's strategic instead of emotional --- Name checks out "I don't wanna be the toughest, I just keep it 100 and think nothin of it"- Black Thought <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:968498555] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Mia_K97 posted... </cite><quote>How is this even topic worthy? Dump....OMG people on this site actually encouraging OP to stay with this girl?</quote>Who? Me?Im encouraging him to test gossip instead of blindly believe it. Rather you dismiss or believe gossip, you can become the fool. You can use gossip without letting it completely run your life. It's strategic instead of emotional </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mia_K97 10/05/22 12:46:21 AM #14:	Lost_All_Senses posted... Who? Me? Im encouraging him to test gossip instead of blindly believe it. Rather you dismiss or believe gossip, you can become the fool. You can use gossip without letting it completely run your life. It's strategic instead of emotional She flaked on Op and then again on the following weekend. That's enough justification. <cite>Mia_K97 posted [p:968498585] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted... </cite><quote>Who? Me?Im encouraging him to test gossip instead of blindly believe it. Rather you dismiss or believe gossip, you can become the fool. You can use gossip without letting it completely run your life. It's strategic instead of emotional</quote>She flaked on Op and then again on the following weekend. That's enough justification.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 10/05/22 12:47:48 AM #15:	Mia_K97 posted... She flaked on Op and then again on the following weekend. That's enough justification. Lol. True. I forgot about that part. Id still see what's up tho. Flakey people aren't immediately the devil to me --- Name checks out "I don't wanna be the toughest, I just keep it 100 and think nothin of it"- Black Thought <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:968498603] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Mia_K97 posted... </cite><quote>She flaked on Op and then again on the following weekend. That's enough justification.</quote>Lol. True. I forgot about that part. Id still see what's up tho. Flakey people aren't immediately the devil to me</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Smashingpmkns 10/05/22 1:09:20 AM #17:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... Shes a single mother Ew --- http://i.imgur.com/x04tPRZ.jpg http://i.imgur.com/t7T392I.jpg <cite>Smashingpmkns posted [p:968498841] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>Shes a single mother</quote>Ew</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 10/05/22 1:10:36 AM #18:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/0/6/2/AAdMiTAADvwu.jpg <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:968498857] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. </quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/0/6/2/AAdMiTAADvwu.jpg </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pau_Gasol_Trade 10/05/22 3:14:03 PM #19:	GuerrillaSoldier posted... i'd be the type to confront her but that's because i'd feel left out and lied to. not cool with me. some people don't care though. but i see no reason why she would need to lie about where she was. how much do you really care? if you like her and want things to work anyway, then just hang out with her without anything money-related. if you care about being lied to? well then confront her, or better yet, just move on. your choice man. what I care most about is 1. Being blatantly lied to and 2. Having our personal business being made public. Nobody else had a right to know what goes on in our personal lives. <cite>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted [p:968509977] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>GuerrillaSoldier posted... </cite><quote>i'd be the type to confront her but that's because i'd feel left out and lied to. not cool with me. some people don't care though. but i see no reason why she would need to lie about where she was.how much do you really care? if you like her and want things to work anyway, then just hang out with her without anything money-related.if you care about being lied to? well then confront her, or better yet, just move on. your choice man.</quote>what I care most about is 1. Being blatantly lied to and 2. Having our personal business being made public. Nobody else had a right to know what goes on in our personal lives. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AeroFlash15 10/05/22 3:16:29 PM #20:	Lost_All_Senses posted... Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it. CoolMaskGuy posted... Yeah, if you actually like her I would try this. If she continues to flake, then you have your answer. --- Never stop <cite>AeroFlash15 posted [p:968510035] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted... </cite><quote>Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it.</quote>CoolMaskGuy posted... </cite><quote>Yeah, if you actually like her I would try this. If she continues to flake, then you have your answer.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dan_Haren- 10/05/22 3:17:45 PM #21:	Yea breka it up bro. Plenty of fish in the sea. <cite>Dan_Haren- posted [p:968510067] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Yea breka it up bro.Plenty of fish in the sea.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AP3Brain 10/05/22 3:19:45 PM #22:	Lost_All_Senses posted... Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it. I agree. Don't spend A DIME. Maybe get a few lays in before dumping her ass. <cite>AP3Brain posted [p:968510112] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted... </cite><quote>Damn. Just start doing stuff that doesn't involve spending decent money and see how she reacts to it.</quote>I agree. Don't spend A DIME. Maybe get a few lays in before dumping her ass.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TaylorHeinicke 10/05/22 3:24:17 PM #23:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... what I care most about is 1. Being blatantly lied to and 2. Having our personal business being made public. Nobody else had a right to know what goes on in our personal lives. you shat where you ate. you knew this was a possibility. --- St. Louis Battlehawks (1-1) <cite>TaylorHeinicke posted [p:968510212] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>what I care most about is 1. Being blatantly lied to and 2. Having our personal business being made public. Nobody else had a right to know what goes on in our personal lives.</quote>you shat where you ate. you knew this was a possibility.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SauI_Goodman 10/05/22 3:33:09 PM #24:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. --- Italian, French, German. <cite>SauI_Goodman posted [p:968510400] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. </quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cocytus 10/05/22 3:33:39 PM #25:	Yes <cite>Cocytus posted [p:968510417] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Yes</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jupiter 10/05/22 3:46:13 PM #28:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... Monday comes and I overhear that a group of co workers, including her, all went drinking after work on the Friday we were supposed to go out. Even if you were to try to give her the benefit of the doubt (I wouldn't), how would people have known that you were supposed to go out with her on Friday night but she flaked and then created this lie? Seems very unlikely that someone lied about that. I would just break it off. Flaked on you twice. --- Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/kid_prodigy23 <cite>Jupiter posted [p:968510686] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>Monday comes and I overhear that a group of co workers, including her, all went drinking after work on the Friday we were supposed to go out.</quote>Even if you were to try to give her the benefit of the doubt (I wouldn't), how would people have known that you were supposed to go out with her on Friday night but she flaked and then created this lie? Seems very unlikely that someone lied about that. I would just break it off. Flaked on you twice.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 10/05/22 3:48:48 PM #29:	People like TC are why us men get such a bad rep. Stop settling for scraps. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:968510748] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>People like TC are why us men get such a bad rep. Stop settling for scraps.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Master_Kazuya 10/05/22 3:51:04 PM #30:	End it. It's already bad. Protect your job. Anyone you have to force yourself to give the benefit of the doubt to isn't good --- 1 Like 0 Comments <cite>Master_Kazuya posted [p:968510797] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>End it. It's already bad. Protect your job. Anyone you have to force yourself to give the benefit of the doubt to isn't good</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RenescoStCewl 10/05/22 4:16:47 PM #31:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... what I care most about is 1. Being blatantly lied to and 2. Having our personal business being made public. Nobody else had a right to know what goes on in our personal lives. You don't care she's using you for money? That seems way worse. --- He/him <cite>RenescoStCewl posted [p:968511323] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>what I care most about is 1. Being blatantly lied to and 2. Having our personal business being made public. Nobody else had a right to know what goes on in our personal lives.</quote>You don't care she's using you for money? That seems way worse.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheMikh 10/05/22 4:19:53 PM #32:	Flockaveli posted... my thoughts exactly --- http://i.imgur.com/A0TAfek.png <cite>TheMikh posted [p:968511401] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Flockaveli posted... </cite>my thoughts exactly</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CRON 10/05/22 4:33:04 PM #34:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. That alone is more than a good enough reason to cut ties and move on. <cite>CRON posted [p:968511677] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies.</quote>That alone is more than a good enough reason to cut ties and move on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NoxObscuras 10/05/22 4:36:14 PM #35:	RenescoStCewl posted... You don't care she's using you for money? That seems way worse. This. TC you absolutely should not be covering every date. That's a bad sign in and of itself, even if the rest of this never happened. --- PSN - NoxObscuras Z490 \| i9-10900K \| EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra \| 32GB DDR4 3600 \| 4TB SSD <cite>NoxObscuras posted [p:968511732] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>RenescoStCewl posted... </cite><quote>You don't care she's using you for money? That seems way worse.</quote>This. TC you absolutely should not be covering every date. That's a bad sign in and of itself, even if the rest of this never happened. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ArchNemo 10/05/22 4:50:10 PM #36:	How did you find out she had a crush on you? I also find it odd your boss was encouraging you to have a relationship with a co-worker. Either way, your topic is basically "I had reservations about this girl and situation, which my friends and family agreed with and are now seemingly confirmed. Should I keep going?" --- Down with the Signess. <cite>ArchNemo posted [p:968511977] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>How did you find out she had a crush on you? I also find it odd your boss was encouraging you to have a relationship with a co-worker.Either way, your topic is basically "I had reservations about this girl and situation, which my friends and family agreed with and are now seemingly confirmed. Should I keep going?"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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rexcrk 10/05/22 4:59:41 PM #38:	Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... So quick background: Around July of this year, I found out that this girl at work had a crush on me, which I found strange because I never really interacted with her at work other than good morning and see you tomorrow Im 33 and shes 28. Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. I feel like no good can come from this. --- Fifty years from now when you're looking back on your life, don't you want to say you had the guts to get in the car? <cite>rexcrk posted [p:968512164] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Pau_Gasol_Trade posted... </cite><quote>So quick background:Around July of this year, I found out that this girl at work had a crush on me, which I found strange because I never really interacted with her at work other than good morning and see you tomorrow Im 33 and shes 28. Shes a single mother with 2 different baby daddies. </quote>I feel like no good can come from this. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Suolevram 10/05/22 5:00:01 PM #39:	Ask her if she went out drinking with co workers. Don't be shy. Be upfront and clear so there is no misunderstanding. Say what you mean. Stand your ground. --- fay ce que vouldras <cite>Suolevram posted [p:968512169] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>Ask her if she went out drinking with co workers. Don't be shy. Be upfront and clear so there is no misunderstanding. Say what you mean. Stand your ground.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DCinGA 10/05/22 5:21:50 PM #40:	* She LIED to you = hard pass - end it immediately. It will only get worse. That is all you need to know, end of discussion. Don't be a Chump. <cite>DCinGA posted [p:968512595] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote>* She LIED to you = hard pass - end it immediately. It will only get worse.That is all you need to know, end of discussion. Don't be a Chump.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Admiral_Zero 10/05/22 10:51:52 PM #41:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] libro is one of my favorite users on that board. Im glad Im not the only one who understands that reference. --- [[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[ \|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\|\| ]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]] <cite>Admiral_Zero posted [p:968519377] in Should I e... [t:80187879]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> libro is one of my favorite users on that board. Im glad Im not the only one who understands that reference. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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