Current Events > Serious question, is anybody happy, like at all?

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I can't even imagine it these days. Like literally I don't remember what it felt like. It's been so many years.

It's been a few years since I could even convince myself it was possible I could become happy again.

Is anybody out there actually ok?

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Yes I get happy when I go to work
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oh for sure just look outside the internet.
my gf seems truly bubbly and happy but theres a lot of ignorance attached to that. her friends seem the same but idk what they are like in private.

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Happy overall or happy moments?

I have happy moments all the time. But overall I gotta do some work.

I had a very bad few years in my 20s where I'd really relate tho. Every laugh was forced and every conversation was work. Not cool. BUT, it wasn't forever no matter how much it wanted to convince me it was. So stay in there and try to focus on the day by day. Fake a more happy attitude and one day it might click back into place. But also, come back to earth and talk out your problems when you need too.

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Im not.

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Back_Stabbath posted...

oh for sure just look outside the internet.
my gf seems truly bubbly and happy but theres a lot of ignorance attached to that. her friends seem the same but idk what they are like in private.

God I'd love to have bubbly and happy friends. Or just friends with hope. Or just friends like I used to.

I miss all that I had long ago, even though it was bad, there was light in the world and I could see it. I try so hard to see the light but I really struggle.

And yes, I pretty much hang out on the internet and everybody seems as miserable as me.

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Yes

requesting clarification of the term "happy"

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Yeah. Sometimes it sucks tho.

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not here, it's not about becoming happy, it's about making other people more unhappy

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Happy overall or happy moments?

I have happy moments all the time. But overall I gotta do some work.

I had a very bad few years in my 20s where I'd really relate tho. Every laugh was forced and every conversation was work. Not cool. BUT, it wasn't forever no matter how much it wanted to convince me it was. So stay in there and try to focus on the day by day. Fake a more happy attitude and one day it might click back into place. But also, come back to earth and talk out your problems when you need too.

For me it has been a growing forever. I wish I had more people I could talk to, I only get my therapist once every two weeks and that's way too little.

I wish people in the past wouldn't have told me to just "tough it out, it will get better" because I clung to that hope, and I did tough it outand when things only got much worse I couldn't go back and do anything different.

I have so much wasted life trying and waiting for the storm to pass, but it has only grown.

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Im usually feeling pretty content.

Right now not so much since there are like 3 massive issues going on with my work. Im having to put in significant overtime just to not get buried so Im eating and sleeping like crap at the same time.

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if lifestyle situation stays the same yes.
not so happy with the world in general :(. not due to ps5 shortages that's the least of my problem.

have to worry about those stupid trumpers sharing the african variant coroni virus.
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im doing pretty good

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ArchfiendZoma posted...

requesting clarification of the term "happy"

It's like when you were 15 and played any video game, or when you were a kid and just smiled waking up in the morning some days excited for school or life or anything.

Waking up and being excited about anything, wanting to get up in the morning because there was something you wanted to do ever.

Wanting or hoping for anything and not being crushed by the knowledge that such hopes are a cruel delusion.

Not being so hurt that you now miss the delusion.

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I had a period recently where I didn't see a future with me in it. I knew it existed, and that one day I'll look back and put my life since then into perspective - but knowing I'm going to be around in the future and a part of people's lives for years to come doesn't alleviate my feeling of dread, of being able to imagine a future for everyone else where I'm not there.

I'm starting to come around on sobriety, but I miss drinking and I dream about it. I'm using my words and my brain to try and work my shit out, sure, but the amount of stress I shoulder feels ten times heavier than it did when I was getting shitfaced.

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joe40001 posted...

Wanting or hoping for anything and not being crushed by the knowledge that such hopes are a cruel delusion.

Are you somebody who believes in being too smart to be happy? Cause that's not how it works. You can be aware of that possiblility and be able to control your mind well enough to not let it control you.

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That's exactly how it works. I lost brain cells from abusing alcohol for a decade and I'm much happier now.

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MrMallard posted...

I had a period recently where I didn't see a future with me in it. I knew it existed, and that one day I'll look back and put my life since then into perspective - but knowing I'm going to be around in the future and a part of people's lives for years to come doesn't alleviate my feeling of dread, of being able to imagine a future for everyone else where I'm not there.

I'm starting to come around on sobriety, but I miss drinking and I dream about it. I'm using my words and my brain to try and work my shit out, sure, but the amount of stress I shoulder feels ten times heavier than it did when I was getting shitfaced.

smoke weed instead

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nfearurspecimn posted...

That's exactly how it works. I lost brain cells from abusing alcohol for a decade and I'm much happier now.

Your way =\= only way

Gotta make your mind your bitch and not be your mind's bitch

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joe40001 posted...

It's like when you were 15 and played any video game, or when you were a kid and just smiled waking up in the morning some days excited for school or life or anything.

Waking up and being excited about anything, wanting to get up in the morning because there was something you wanted to do ever.

Wanting or hoping for anything and not being crushed by the knowledge that such hopes are a cruel delusion.

Not being so hurt that you now miss the delusion.

I see... Im afraid its a no for me... Id ask for suggestions to remedy it, but with this crowd...

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Happiness is like...a caffeine rush. You get it for a little bit when you need the energy but spend the rest of your day without it

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badwinkles posted...

smoke weed instead

The reason I'm sober rn is because I damaged my liver. Whether I'm smoking or ingesting THC, that shit's going through my liver.

Also, I'm just not a fan of smoking personally.

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It's also easier to become happy again when you don't project your depression onto others. The more you believe that everyone is fake smiling with you, the further you get away from the reality that not everything is hopeless. A lot of stuff is, sure. But not everything. So you just focus on whatever is in the not everything section. Eventually it feels like the dumb thing to do is think yourself into depression and you realize logically you should just choose to focus on the upside so that you can make the most out of your time. And that's where the ability to control your mind plays into it. Just figure out how to choose your channel. Most channels suck, but all you need is a couple to be good.

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