Current Events > My roomate is gay, so has female friends. One of them knocked on my door and...

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Asked if I wanted to come out to the living room and hang out with them and maybe do shots. I said sure but I needed a few minutes to run to the gas station quick. (In my mind it was going to be a kinda party night or something so I thought I could pick up some hard leomonde to share just in case, maybe chips if my roommate wanted them). She wasn't into me but she was acting interested in interacting with me, if I were attractive I could see her behavior being possibly interpreted as interest. (But it definitely wasn't)

Roommate said they were going out to dinner soon, I said I'd be back super fast. I hurried back but they were already gone. I was down to hang out with them, but when they came back they all went to a side room and we never did shots. I was frankly excited to interact with a new person who was female. because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Now I'm kinda pissed off that I got involved at all, because ultimately it was just kinda a tease. Like I'm depressed enough to know girls can't like me, but then to bait me with "this girl wants to interact with you and might enjoy your company" just to have "nah, jk" on me was a big bummer.
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Wow, that reminds me of somethi g that happened a few weeks ago.

Asked if I wanted to come out to the living room and hang out with them and maybe do shots. I said sure but I needed a few minutes to run to the gas station quick. (In my mind it was going to be a kinda party night or something so I thought I could pick up some hard leomonde to share just in case, maybe chips if my roommate wanted them). She wasn't into me but she was acting interested in interacting with me, if I were attractive I could see her behavior being possibly interpreted as interest. (But it definitely wasn't)

Roommate said they were going out to dinner soon, I said I'd be back super fast. I hurried back but they were already gone. I was down to hang out with them, but when they came back they all went to a side room and we never did shots. I was frankly excited to interact with a new person who was female. because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Now I'm kinda pissed off that I got involved at all, because ultimately it was just kinda a tease. Like I'm depressed enough to know girls can't like me, but then to bait me with "this girl wants to interact with you and might enjoy your company" just to have "nah, jk" on me was a big bummer.
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Why the fuck would leave.
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joe40001 posted...

because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Is this a joke, or a serious post?
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This is such a CE topic.

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It wasn't a tease. You, for some reason, decided to go to the gas station to get hard lemonade instead of rolling with it. That's all on you.

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AwesomeToTheMAX posted...

It wasn't a tease. You, for some reason, decided to go to the gas station to get hard lemonade instead of rolling with it. That's all on you.

Why the fuck would you go to get lemonade and chips if they're going out to dinner and then taking shots. You were the one that came off as uninterested, not them.

I said I'd be right back, I wanted to just not be leaching off their stuff if I was drinking with them.

Orlando_Jordan posted...

joe40001 posted...

because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Is this a joke, or a serious post?

Serious post, I phrase it in a bit of a meme-y way though.
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I think you made it out to be a bigger deal than it was. I used to do the same thing.

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She wasn't into me but she was acting interested in interacting with me, if I were attractive I could see her behavior being possibly interpreted as interest. (But it definitely wasn't)

I was frankly excited to interact with a new person who was female. because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Like I'm depressed enough to know girls can't like me, but then to bait me with "this girl wants to interact with you and might enjoy your company"

Bro...
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Kitt posted...

She wasn't into me but she was acting interested in interacting with me, if I were attractive I could see her behavior being possibly interpreted as interest. (But it definitely wasn't)

I was frankly excited to interact with a new person who was female. because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Like I'm depressed enough to know girls can't like me, but then to bait me with "this girl wants to interact with you and might enjoy your company"

Bro...

Yeah?
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joe40001 posted...

I said I'd be right back, I wanted to just not be leaching off their stuff if I was drinking with them

Its not leeching if you are minding ya damn business in your room and someone asks you to join in drinking with them.

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MacDaMurderer posted...

Its not leeching if you are minding ya damn business in your room and someone asks you to join in drinking with them.

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joe40001 posted...

Kitt posted...

She wasn't into me but she was acting interested in interacting with me, if I were attractive I could see her behavior being possibly interpreted as interest. (But it definitely wasn't)

I was frankly excited to interact with a new person who was female. because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Like I'm depressed enough to know girls can't like me, but then to bait me with "this girl wants to interact with you and might enjoy your company"

Bro...

Yeah?

Those pieces make you come off as incredibly awkward, desperate and lacking, like, no self-confidence. I'd bail on you too.
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Kitt posted...

joe40001 posted...

Kitt posted...

She wasn't into me but she was acting interested in interacting with me, if I were attractive I could see her behavior being possibly interpreted as interest. (But it definitely wasn't)

I was frankly excited to interact with a new person who was female. because it has been many years since a female wanted to hang out with me in person in a social setting.

Like I'm depressed enough to know girls can't like me, but then to bait me with "this girl wants to interact with you and might enjoy your company"

Bro...

Yeah?

Those pieces make you come off as incredibly awkward, desperate and lacking, like, no self-confidence. I'd bail on you too.

I'm not that awkward, I'm not desperate, yes I do have very low self esteem.

You can't put this on me, I was asked to come out, I was very polite and nice when I did, but I had to run to the gas station quickly first.
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cjsdowg posted...

Why the fuck would leave.

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CEman topic
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TC sounds awkward af

joe40001 posted...

AwesomeToTheMAX posted...

It wasn't a tease. You, for some reason, decided to go to the gas station to get hard lemonade instead of rolling with it. That's all on you.

Why the fuck would you go to get lemonade and chips if they're going out to dinner and then taking shots. You were the one that came off as uninterested, not them.

I said I'd be right back, I wanted to just not be leaching off their stuff if I was drinking with them.

I get where you're coming from, but I'm afraid you made a fatal mistake in this common scenario. At least common for extroverted people.

From what you described, it sounds like the Party Boat sent you a free pass that was only valid if you jumped on RIGHT THEN...and you said "gimme 15 minutes, I'll be right back". Unfortunately, that was the wrong answer if you wanted to go. You might not realize that because you seem a bit introverted (which is not a bad thing). Usually when a bunch of outgoing social drinkers want to head out and party...they're not going to hit the pause button if it stands between them and their booze. If you want to tag along, you have to be ready to spontaneously move out as soon as THEY'RE ready. That's how it typically works...

I know because I dated my fair share of frat boys and hung out with party girls who loved to drink. It doesn't matter if you're best friends or they're dating you. It doesn't matter if you're smoking hot...they will still ditch you if you're slowing them down. Because the prospect of having fun and getting buzzed SOONER is more attractive to a group of people who want to do it pronto.

One of my past friends was a prime example. She looked like a photoshopped supermodel with supreme genes. However, her preparation needs were high maintenance and she sucked at doing anything spontaneously on the fly. Keep in mind this chick was gorgeous and had a great personality. She still got ditched because nobody wanted to wait for her to put on makeup and pick out a sexy outfit. They wanted to leave NOW.

After dating party guys for so long, I just learned to pack an regular-sized emergency backpack full of things I could need for a spontaneous fun time out and threw it in my trunk whenever we were going to be hanging out with anybody known for random changes in plans.

One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn.
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I think above poster is exactly right.

Even minimal social experience will tell you that what TC did is literally the worst thing you could possibly do. Especially the reason he did it.

If it was something that was absolutely necessary he had to grab from a nearby gas station, the right way to go about it would be for everyone to get in the car and you force them to go to a gas station. That way you get your thing, and everyone else can grab a snack or booze or whatever.

Well yeah, I have definitely very introverted, so I don't get lots of these rules for sure.

Still don't quite understand why they didn't seem to want to hang out the same way when they got back from getting food, but I'll keep in mind that normal social people are much more impulsive and spur of the moment.
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MacDaMurderer posted...

Its not leeching if you are minding ya damn business in your room and someone asks you to join in drinking with them.

Ya man I'm terrible with women and even I would have known better. Not hating, just saying. You shot yourself in the foot.

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OpenlyGator posted...

One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn.

you have a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be an extrovert or an introvert
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Lmfao yep this is a CE topic from a Sage alright
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mattnd2007 posted...

MacDaMurderer posted...

Its not leeching if you are minding ya damn business in your room and someone asks you to join in drinking with them.

Ya man I'm terrible with women and even I would have known better. Not hating, just saying. You shot yourself in the foot.

That's fine.

I don't take offense to those saying I'm clueless, because when it comes to social things I am. I just don't think of myself as awkward or unpleasant. Just very socially ignorant.
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averagejoel posted...

OpenlyGator posted...

One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn.

you have a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be an extrovert or an introvert

We're not going to agree on that, but it's okay. Different interpretations.

I'm just saying from my lengthy experience hanging out with extroverts addicted to partying: when they're dying to get buzzed, saying "hold on a minute" doesn't often work. And that's especially true when a "newbie" like TC gets invited to tag along and does exactly that. They were not invested much in him socially yet, so they were less likely to reason waiting for him when they were already set to go.

It's a tough break, but not an uncommon one. It happens to a lot of people, even those of us who know "the rules". TC is better off not taking it personally and just treat it as a life lesson. Now that he knows what to do, he might enjoy catching that boat next time.
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CE falls for this shit every time lmfao
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_MorningStar posted...

CE falls for this shit every time lmfao

What did I fall for?
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lmao

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CrimsonRage posted...

joe40001 posted...

You can't put this on me

yes we can

you should have just rolled with it

Sorry. That's fair.

What I should have said is "you can't put this on me being unpleasant to be around"
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OpenlyGator posted...

averagejoel posted...

OpenlyGator posted...

One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn.

you have a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be an extrovert or an introvert

We're not going to agree on that, but it's okay. Different interpretations.

I'm just saying from my lengthy experience hanging out with extroverts addicted to partying: when they're dying to get buzzed, saying "hold on a minute" doesn't often work. And that's especially true when a "newbie" like TC gets invited to tag along and does exactly that. They were not invested much in him socially yet, so they were less likely to reason waiting for him when they were already set to go.

It's a tough break, but not an uncommon one. It happens to a lot of people, even those of us who know "the rules". TC is better off not taking it personally and just treat it as a life lesson. Now that he knows what to do, he might enjoy catching that boat next time.

it's not a matter of agreeing or disagreeing. based on your posts itt, you do not know what "introverted" and "extroverted" mean

hint: it doesn't have anything to do with whether or not someone enjoys socializing
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Did you bust ass in secret

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heynongman posted...

Did you bust ass in secret

Heynongman
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Lol at confusing spontaneity with extroversion
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That sounds like something old me would have done to avoid the situation. Like a polite way of saying I wasn't interested. If you really just didn't know that was a bad move, they could have taken it as disinterest or avoidance as well.

IMO, whenever opportunity arises you have to just say "yes" and roll with it immediately. Don't waste time thinking about it. The worst thing that could possibly happen is never as bad as you think it is.
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So you didn't actually tell her why you were going to the gas station?

She probably interpreted that as you making a condom run, which means to her you interpreted her invitation for fun and drinks as an invitation to smash loins.

In other words, you're now a creep to her and all her friends. Grats.
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>refers to women as "females"

Wew lad.
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Chicken_Butt posted...

So you didn't actually tell her why you were going to the gas station?

She probably interpreted that as you making a condom run, which means to her you interpreted her invitation for fun and drinks as an invitation to smash loins.

In other words, you're now a creep to her and all her friends. Grats.

Fuck that, nobody would ever think that. Don't say stuff like that.

Ultima Dragon posted...

That sounds like something old me would have done to avoid the situation. Like a polite way of saying I wasn't interested. If you really just didn't know that was a bad move, they could have taken it as disinterest or avoidance as well.

IMO, whenever opportunity arises you have to just say "yes" and roll with it immediately. Don't waste time thinking about it. The worst thing that could possibly happen is never as bad as you think it is.

You are probably right, it would just feel weird to have like 1 shot of alcohol with people so I wanted to have extra. But I'm sure it looked bad.

Dammit all, fuck. I would've been better off isolating, this probably looked worse. Fuck
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Everyone: you kinda fucked it up
TC: you cant put this on me
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joe40001 posted...

Fuck that, nobody would ever think that. Don't say stuff like that.

Think about it. She asks you to come hang out, you randomly need to run to the gas station when before you were sitting in your room not even getting ready to head out or anything. Regardless of your actual intentions, that looks suspicious af. It's very common for guys to run to gas stations for condoms, that's why they have them right by the register in most gas stations. It's very common and she's probably used to it, so she would reach that conclusion before assuming you're going out to buy hard lemonades.
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MrResetti posted...

Lol at confusing spontaneity with extroversion

he didn't confuse spontaneity with being exclusively an extrovert thing or that they were the same thing
he basically implied extroverts are more likely to be socially spontaneous when goin out with friends, which is true...

it doesn't sound like TC gets these opportunities much which would probably sound like being an introvert to someone as extroverted as Gator
and i have to applaud him for doing it without insulting him lol
introverts can be cool too
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The Trent posted...

Everyone: you kinda fucked it up
TC: you cant put this on me

I did kinda fuck it up, I just didn't like the one guy who implied I had a shit personality.

Everybody else is basically on point.
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joe40001 posted...

The Trent posted...

Everyone: you kinda fucked it up
TC: you cant put this on me

I did kinda fuck it up, I just didn't like the one guy who implied I had a shit personality.

Everybody else is basically on point.

In the future, if you're invited to something at your own place then just attend, dont overthink it
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joe40001 posted...

The Trent posted...

Everyone: you kinda fucked it up
TC: you cant put this on me

I did kinda fuck it up, I just didn't like the one guy who implied I had a shit personality.

Everybody else is basically on point.

im actually a bit sympathetic for you on this

did not expect that to happen...
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Ya, shouldn't have left. No worries though, always next time.

Why didn't you just hit them up in that side room after
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Lol

*girl looks at tc*

"hey could you hold that look 15 minutes, I need to go buy condoms for later"

Dunno if shitpost, but yeah, that was completely on you. You should have just followed through instead of, perceivably, bailing on them.
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emblem boy posted...

Ya, shouldn't have left. No worries though, always next time.

Why didn't you just hit them up in that side room after

I wasn't invited to the side room.
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