Current Events > Man: Men arent in relationships to play step daddy and take care of your kids...

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https://twitter.com/HBCUfessions/status/1196458049466179584
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Well that's a pretty selfish viewpoint.

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I think that if you want to be in a serious long term relationship with someone, you're not going to be able to "dodge" her kids forever.

But I also think that for casually dating/getting to know someone, it's unreasonable for them to expect you to make an investment in her children.
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Then you obviously have very different expectations for the relationship than the woman and if you're not going to be man enough to fill a role that she feels is needed, you can go date yourself.
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Uh, aren't you just basically saying you're only interested in a FWB or pump and dump if you present that attitude? It's not like the lady is going to abandon her child for this dude.

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Sometimes women just want dick and then go about their day too.
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Fair, Next. Child support was made for a reason. You knock up a woman you gotta support the child. If you dating a woman with kids not your job to support them. If you get married sure then you their step dad. But not if you dating.
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He's not wrong.

MisterPorn posted...

If you get married sure then you their step dad. But not if you dating.

But you have to date in order to get married?

This isn't some situation where some switch just magically gets flipped.
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coh posted...

He's not wrong.

This.
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Women aren't around to be our damn therapists, but here we are in this reality.

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Stop being selfish and step up, be a man and raise another mans children.
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That's why you only be FWBs with a single mom. Tear it up my dudes.
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i mean, when you date single mothers, that's technically part of the package long-term

not sure what he thought he was getting into
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If it's just casual dating I'm sure most women don't expect the guy to be stepdaddy from the start. If you're wanting a long term relationship, you're going to have to accept the fact that she has a child(ren).
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eh, some guys want that.

as long as the woman is up front about what she's looking for; its fine by me.
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RIP Man Men
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A man dates a woman to get to know her first and foremost, not her kids. The dude in the tweet probably wouldn't be complaining if the woman he was dating didn't immediately usher him into a father figure role instead of waiting until the relationship was going smoothly enough that it would be natural to start transitioning him into such a role.

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Sorry, if you're willingly dating a single mom, you have to expect to deal with her kid(s) too.
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Maybe if youre just fucking or if its casual. Dont expect serious or long term if you dont want the package
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Child free dating can be rough with so many single parents out dhere...
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Yeah women can just go and abandon their children if they want to have relationships with men that aren't the father of their children.

what an idiotic take

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Women on the first date: "I'm not looking for a daddy."
A few hours later... "When you gonna man up? We're a package deal."

Like clockwork.
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Lets turn the tables around:

Will a woman date a guy with kids?

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Orochi_ posted...

Lets turn the tables around:

Will a woman date a guy with kids?

Men with kids are actually more likely to get remarried than women with kids. After the remarriage they often put minimal effort into their former kids. One thing to keep in mind is women are far more likely to reproduce than men (varies by time and place, but it's never close to parity), this can only happen if some men are having kids with multiple partners more often than women.

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LMFAO!

Man up and be someone else's servant.

I love how people try to trick men into making bad decisions by challenging their masculinity.

Im in a relationship with someone who has kids, and Im fine with it,

If you are with someone who has kids, you kind of have that expectation that yeah, she has kids,
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hockeybub89 posted...

Yeah women can just go and abandon their children if they want to have relationships with men that aren't the father of their children.

what an idiotic take

Of course they can. Just dump the kids to the daddies who made them. If the mothers took the custody by choice to get those sweet child support and EBT money, then this ain't nobody's damn problem but the women's. They made their choice.

iPhone_7 posted...

Stop being selfish and step up, be a man and raise another mans children.

Lol

An alarming trend I've noticed among a very large amount of men in 2019 is that they possess almost none of the characteristics that have made men who they are for thousands of years. In fact, these creatures can only be considered "men" in the sense that they have aged the correct number of years to be considered adult males.

These men (most of who are liberals) tend to have an enormous sense of entitlement, shirk responsibility, fear commitment, and only opt to do things when it is directly rewarding to them. In a sense, they are not real men but rather adult children, with a narrow mindset and no capacity to look at the "big picture."

No area is this more evident in than when you will see many of these "men" (liberals) talk about how they refuse to date a woman simply because she is a single mom, and they don't want to "raise another man's kid."

This is disgusting. Not only are these men choosing loneliness and isolation over a healthy adult relationship because of a human life, but they are also depriving themselves of one of the greatest joys of life (fatherhood) simply because they did not contribute DNA to this child.

For the last 2 years, I have been dating a single mom, and it has been the most rewarding experience of my life. Aiden, Braiden, and Caiden are like my own children to me, and even though I do not share a DNA bond with them and they call me by my first name, I feel a powerful and immutable connection. It takes a big man to want to become a dad to these kids, to help a single mom in her noble quest, and to deal with the fathers of Aiden, Braiden, and Caiden, and I believe I am that man.

It is very disheartening to see so many young men fall into the trap of entitlement and selfishness - to avoid family life based on some silly preconceived notions, to feel they are entitled to have a family on THEIR terms, and to only have children when it provides some sense of satisfaction to them. To me, it personally fulfilling to watch Aiden, Braiden, and Caiden every other weekend (hearing them say "oh, hey Pete" when I come over is one of the most satisfying things in a "father's" life), and I don't need the satisfaction that I somehow contributed to the conception of these children.

What do you think, CE? Are you man enough to raise another man's child, or are you an emotional child yourself?
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What a shitty tweet. He might be right, depending on what he intended to say, but he worded it awfully. When you start dating someone you're dating them and not the kid, yes, but with the understanding that for it to get serious, you have to step into a step-dad role

Man: Men arent in relationships to play step daddy and take care of your kids...

Reality: Hold my beer.

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Solution: Stop dating women with kids
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Probably something that should be eased into. At first dude should have no responsibility towards the kids but as time passes should start being a part of their lives more and more.
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IShall_Run_Amok posted...

Man: Men arent in relationships to play step daddy and take care of your kids...

Reality: Hold my beer.

You cannot actually believe this.
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When you date someone with a kid that kid is part of the package. If you don't want anything to do with the kid then move on. It's not fair to the kid and it's not fair to the person you're dating.

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Anteaterking posted...

I think that if you want to be in a serious long term relationship with someone, you're not going to be able to "dodge" her kids forever.

But I also think that for casually dating/getting to know someone, it's unreasonable for them to expect you to make an investment in her children.

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My stepdad treated me like crap, but I blame my biological father for putting me through it.
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metallica846 posted...

Emotional child. Every time I see her kid, I think about the dad blowing his beans up in her guts while she begs for more and want the kid away from me asap.

That's just insecure
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KStateKing17 posted...

metallica846 posted...

Emotional child. Every time I see her kid, I think about the dad blowing his beans up in her guts while she begs for more and want the kid away from me asap.

That's just insecure

Or unstable. Holy shit.
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Rip man men dead loss money shot up 96 stepchildren
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metallica846 posted...

You guys are too easy sometimes, my god.

That's what she said.
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metallica846 posted...

You guys are too easy sometimes, my god.

After being on this site for half a decade I'm not quite sure about some of you.
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KStateKing17 posted...

metallica846 posted...

You guys are too easy sometimes, my god.

After being on this site for half a decade I'm not quite sure about some of you.

It's not like any of these people have actually been in a relationship with a single mom.
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So basically a man is considered to hit the jackpot if the single mother he's dating is completely fine if he's not down with the idea of taking care of her kid?
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lol, manchildren. If you wanna be in an actual relationship with a mother, her kids are kind of a package deal. Now if you just wanna smash/be FWB? Yeah, thats fine. Otherwise push on or find someone who doesn't have kids.
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