Poll of the Day > Are you an ONLY CHILD or do you have SIBLINGS???

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let's see who will this battle.

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I was an only child until I had siblings...
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Have an older half sister, an older half brother and a younger full on brother.

Oh and, not that this is a competition or anything, but people with siblings seem to be outnumbering those without siblings threefold in this poll so far. So, you know... in your faces...

I have siblings. 3 full blood(one is no longer with us), one half bro from my dads side who I've never met and at least one half sister from my mums side who I've never met(she was put into the system). My mum probably has had more since then.
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Where is the option for had two sisters but murdered then in their sleep?

Half older sister, half older brother.
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My younger sister died about a year ago.
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Only children already won bro. All the stuff and attention and love. No sharing with other stupid kids. Yuss
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I'm not an only child, but my only brother died.

I have SIBLINGS!!!

I have 4 biological siblings and 2 through my adoption. My mother didnt like them though so i wasnt allowed to have much to do with them after we moved away.
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I have a SISTER and a HALF SISTER.
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I have a younger brother and a younger sister. Trained them both to be my gamer apprentices, but my brother became a renegade.

I have five siblings.
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I'm actually the youngest of six; the three oldest are half brothers on my father's side. But I mainly grew up with my brother and sister.
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Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.
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Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?
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Rad_Chad posted...

Only children already won bro. All the stuff and attention and love. No sharing with other stupid kids. Yuss

Not necessarily true. A lot of times only children are only children because their parents were incapable of handling more, whether its financial reasons, drug addiction, mental issues, etc. Usually healthy, family oriented couples have more than one child

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?

Because it points to lack of social development from being an only child. It is very common among people who don't grow up around people their age. It is very possible there are other factors, but you can't deny that a big part of that is not having siblings to socialize with.

I have seen it dozens of times with the other people I know who grew up in similar situations.
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Dikitain posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?

Because it points to lack of social development from being an only child. It is very common among people who don't grow up around people their age. It is very possible there are other factors, but you can't deny that a big part of that is not having siblings to socialize with.

I have seen it dozens of times with the other people I know who grew up in similar situations.

Yeah, people with siblings really underestimate the importance of it. Luckily, I always had friends in my neighborhood I hung out with so I've grown up relatively socially well adjusted but it still wouldve been much better for me to have a sibling around instead of searching for that kind of bond outside of my immediate family when I was younger

Dikitain posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?

Because it points to lack of social development from being an only child. It is very common among people who don't grow up around people their age. It is very possible there are other factors, but you can't deny that a big part of that is not having siblings to socialize with.

I have seen it dozens of times with the other people I know who grew up in similar situations.

I grew up with a sibling close in age and still managed to be socially maladjusted.

A big part is you choosing not to integrate with your peers.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?

Because it points to lack of social development from being an only child. It is very common among people who don't grow up around people their age. It is very possible there are other factors, but you can't deny that a big part of that is not having siblings to socialize with.

I have seen it dozens of times with the other people I know who grew up in similar situations.

I grew up with a sibling close in age and still managed to be socially maladjusted.

A big part is you choosing not to integrate with your peers.

But is that choice not influenced by you not being familiar with people in your age bracket because you were never forced to due to being in the same family?

Saying something is a choice is not enough, you have to get down to WHY someone is making that choice in the first place, and that is heavily influenced by fear and uncertainty, both of which wouldn't be there if you were exposed to that early in your development.
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I have one sibling.
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Dikitain posted...

But is that choice not influenced by you not being familiar with people in your age bracket because you were never forced to due to being in the same family?

No, it just gives you a "safe space", you're still expected, as a human being, to mesh with your peers.

Dikitain posted...

Saying something is a choice is not enough, you have to get down to WHY someone is making that choice in the first place, and that is heavily influenced by fear and uncertainty, both of which wouldn't be there if you were exposed to that early in your development.

They wouldn't be there if your parents raised you not to pussy out of scary situations. A sibling is some free child rearing for your parents, your sibling is not a substitute for parenting.
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I have a sister.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

But is that choice not influenced by you not being familiar with people in your age bracket because you were never forced to due to being in the same family?

No, it just gives you a "safe space", you're still expected, as a human being, to mesh with your peers.

That is a deflection from my question, not an answer. What is expected and what is preferred are two separate things.

Dikitain posted...

Saying something is a choice is not enough, you have to get down to WHY someone is making that choice in the first place, and that is heavily influenced by fear and uncertainty, both of which wouldn't be there if you were exposed to that early in your development.

They wouldn't be there if your parents raised you not to pussy out of scary situations. A sibling is some free child rearing for your parents, your sibling is not a substitute for parenting.

And a big part of that parenting is making sure that you have siblings to associate with. You can't just tell a kid "don't be a pussy", you have to actually show them why they shouldn't be scared.
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Why are you bothering to argue with kyuubi? Lol he just likes arguing for the sake of arguing

I'm one of seven as far as I know. I have three siblings from my mom and step dad and three more from my dad and two women he knocked up. No full siblings.
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OhhhJa posted...

Why are you bothering to argue with kyuubi? Lol he just likes arguing for the sake of arguing

Boredom
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

I grew up with a sibling close in age and still managed to be socially maladjusted.

True that. Although I'd be a lot worse if it wasn't for my siblings.
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Dikitain posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?

Because it points to lack of social development from being an only child. It is very common among people who don't grow up around people their age. It is very possible there are other factors, but you can't deny that a big part of that is not having siblings to socialize with.

I have seen it dozens of times with the other people I know who grew up in similar situations.

Idk, sounds like BS to me. I was an only child for a nice chunk of my childhood and never had any of that before my brother was born.

VixYW posted...

I have a younger brother and a younger sister. Trained them both to be my gamer apprentices, but my brother became a renegade.

I did the same for my little brother and sister. My sister doesn't play as much. But my brother became a gamer...

VixYW posted...

Dikitain posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Only child. Nice in the sense you get all the attention, your own room, "spoiled" (although that varies from parent to parent). However the long term social issues more then make up for all the good. First time I ever associated with anyone in my age group (0 - 18 yrs old) was pre-school and to this day I have never had a "roommate" who wasn't at least 30 years older then me, including my parents. I have always said if I ever get married, god help the woman who gets conned into that.

How are your head issues indicative of problems with being an only child?

Because it points to lack of social development from being an only child. It is very common among people who don't grow up around people their age. It is very possible there are other factors, but you can't deny that a big part of that is not having siblings to socialize with.

I have seen it dozens of times with the other people I know who grew up in similar situations.

Idk, sounds like BS to me. I was an only child for a nice chunk of my childhood and never had any of that before my brother was born.

I agree with this. My brother is nine years younger and my sister is fourteens years younger. I still grew up fine. I just made friends. It wasn't hard. And had nothing to do with my siblings. I don't think having siblings to associate with really matter that much. I have many friends who are pretty similar even growing up very differently. Some have a bunch of siblings, and some are only children. Maybe it just affects everyone differently, but I don't think having or not having a sibling affects that much. Well, to the degree that is because discussed here...
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Dikitain posted...

That is a deflection from my question, not an answer. What is expected and what is preferred are two separate things.

And humans are expected to innately deal with their peers by communication. It's preferred that you grow adept swiftly, it is expected that you become adept eventually.

Dikitain posted...

And a big part of that parenting is making sure that you have siblings to associate with.

LOL Your mother is not obligated to birth you a plaything!

Dikitain posted...

You can't just tell a kid "don't be a pussy", you have to actually show them why they shouldn't be scared.

You make the kid do what they're scared of and see how simple and harmless it always was. Evidently you were allowed to avoid peers and not establish necessary skills.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Dikitain posted...

That is a deflection from my question, not an answer. What is expected and what is preferred are two separate things.

And humans are expected to innately deal with their peers by communication. It's preferred that you grow adept swiftly, it is expected that you become adept eventually.

Now I remember why I have you tagged as Donald Trump...

Dikitain posted...

And a big part of that parenting is making sure that you have siblings to associate with.

LOL Your mother is not obligated to birth you a plaything!

Parents are obligated to raise stable well adjusted kids, and part of that is making sure they have proper social interaction. Siblings are hardly "playthings", they are a requirement to being a well adjusted human.

Dikitain posted...

You can't just tell a kid "don't be a pussy", you have to actually show them why they shouldn't be scared.

You make the kid do what they're scared of and see how simple and harmless it always was. Evidently you were allowed to avoid peers and not establish necessary skills.

Yea that doesn't work if you haven't normalized it in the first place. I still remember my first day of pre-school as one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. A dozen kids running around a room, screaming. I was only like 4 years old but I still remember taking one look and running back to the car begging my mom to take me home. Even today the sounds of kids screaming make me want to run and hide over 30 years later.
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Dikitain posted...

part of that is making sure they have proper social interaction.

You don't need siblings for that. Especially if they aren't close in age. You could have cousin or other family members if you want social interaction. Or you can make friends. But you don't "need" siblings for that...

Dikitain posted...

they are a requirement to being a well adjusted human.

They are not. They could help for some people. But most people would be fine without siblings. I don't know why you think they are a requirement...

Dikitain posted...

A dozen kids running around a room, screaming. I was only like 4 years old but I still remember taking one look and running back to the car begging my mom to take me home. Even today the sounds of kids screaming make me want to run and hide over 30 years later.

That sounds like a probably that doesn't affect most people. I know people who didn't want to go to school, but that was because they wanted to stay with family. Like how some people don't want to move away for college or a job. But I rarely hear about kids not wanting to go to school because of the other kids. Sometimes, I hear that the other kids are the only reason they want to go, though...
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LinkPizza posted...

Dikitain posted...

part of that is making sure they have proper social interaction.

You don't need siblings for that. Especially if they aren't close in age. You could have cousin or other family members if you want social interaction. Or you can make friends. But you don't "need" siblings for that...

It is not a "want", it is a "need". You aren't going to want to make friends if you were never forced to interact with people your age (or in the most severe cases even be able to in the first place). Plus cousins might work, but how often do you actually see your cousins? Once a week? Once a month? Once a year? Siblings you are forced to see daily.

Dikitain posted...

they are a requirement to being a well adjusted human.

They are not. They could help for some people. But most people would be fine without siblings. I don't know why you think they are a requirement...

See above. Plus while there are exceptions, the majority of only children I have met are in similar situations to me. The biggest trait tends to be that they are more independent, but with that comes the social issues as well.

Dikitain posted...

A dozen kids running around a room, screaming. I was only like 4 years old but I still remember taking one look and running back to the car begging my mom to take me home. Even today the sounds of kids screaming make me want to run and hide over 30 years later.

That sounds like a probably that doesn't affect most people. I know people who didn't want to go to school, but that was because they wanted to stay with family. Like how some people don't want to move away for college or a job. But I rarely hear about kids not wanting to go to school because of the other kids. Sometimes, I hear that the other kids are the only reason they want to go, though...

Semi-unrelated, but you never heard of bullying? I would say "not wanting to get bullied" is a pretty good excuse for a kid not to want to go to school.

Back on topic, have you never heard about it because it is rare or have you never heard about it because people are too insulated/ashamed to talk about it?
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Older brother, younger sister.

As far as I'm concerned though, I don't have a brother.
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Dikitain posted...

It is not a "want", it is a "need". You aren't going to want to make friends if you were never forced to interact with people your age (or in the most severe cases even be able to in the first place). Plus cousins might work, but how often do you actually see your cousins? Once a week? Once a month? Once a year? Siblings you are forced to see daily.

That's not true. I was never forced to interact with people my age and made plenty of friends. But if you need to be forced to interact with people your age, then you do that at school. You do not NEED siblings to be able to interact with other people. You specifically may, but that's not normal for most people. Also, just because you have siblings doesn't mean they are close to you in age. My siblings are 9 and 14 years younger, so that wouldn't help much. Also, I went school with my cousins are different points in my life, so it was daily at times.

Dikitain posted...

See above. Plus while there are exceptions, the majority of only children I have met are in similar situations to me. The biggest trait tends to be that they are more independent, but with that comes the social issues as well.

Maybe on this site, but I don't see that in the real world much. And being in the military lets you see a variety of people with very different lives growing up...

Dikitain posted...

Semi-unrelated, but you never heard of bullying? I would say "not wanting to get bullied" is a pretty good excuse for a kid not to want to go to school. Back on topic, have you never heard about it because it is rare or have you never heard about it because people are too insulated/ashamed to talk about it?

Or maybe because lots of kids don't mind going to school to see their friends. Bullying sucks, sure. And some kids don't want to go to school because of that. You said you didn't want to go because other kids were there. Or, that's what it sounds like.

In the end, I know that you don't need siblings to grow up well adjusted. They can possibly help, but are not needed. That is a fact. I know plenty of well-adjusted humans who were only children. Just like I know plenty who have siblings and are a mess. Even on here, people talk about how messed up some of their siblings are. Some people on this site aren't very social, and have siblings. And it didn't help them much. You may have needed siblings in your life. I won't doubt that. But most people don't need siblings to grow up fine. Most can go to school and make friends easily...
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Dikitain posted...

Semi-unrelated, but you never heard of bullying? I would say "not wanting to get bullied" is a pretty good excuse for a kid not to want to go to school.

Honestly, I only remember getting worried about this when it first happened to people close to me (I was probably 11 at the time). Can't even imagine how a kid would be afraid of bullying without actually seeing it happening. It's too abstract for a kid to understand otherwise.

I might as well be an only child, I haven't seen my older brother since I was nine. And I don't remember him much.
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JimCarrysToe posted...

I might as well be an only child, I haven't seen my older brother since I was nine. And I don't remember him much.

That's a long time...
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4 half sisters, 1 half brother.