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I am poised to level up in friendship with all 3 of you today. Best friends with Stifled and Ultra friends with Spike and Scare.

Would any of you like to coordinate lucky eggs?

I was thinking around 3 PM PST (6PM EST), but I'm flexible. I would want to activate a lucky egg at the hour and then open gifts around 10 minutes after to give everyone time to get the egg started.

But let me know if you want to and if there is a better time that can work for everyone.

(P.S. I already have the pending gift from each of you so the preparations are already made)
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It's been a "busy" week.

If you know what I mean <_<

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But seriously the bouts of sadness are already coming much less frequently. I've been very encouraged by how things are going right now.
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Up
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You can get 5 sinnoh stones during the next community day at least?
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Se7enthrust posted...

Not to get weird on you

Nah that want to weird. Looking through things about concerning I've come across many similar suggestions so that just comes with the territory.

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BlAcK TuRtLe posted...

Sad to hear that. My wife is 5 months along and we've had a couple scary moments early on so I can somewhat relate to the anxiety you feel waiting for those results. Don't let this dissuade you

Yeah, we're hopefully about the next one and we hope it won't take almost a year to get it going.

Good luck and good health for the rest of your pregnancy

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ScareChan posted...

Bump

For that pump in dat trunk

Yup, now it's weird

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And thanks for the bumps, GTM. I switched this week from a night shift (300-1130pm) to the morning shift (600am-230pm) which means my schedule will line up better with my wife's, but it's been a tough adjustment to make over a couple days.
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Every tome think to myself that it's about time to bump the topic I come and see someone recently took care of it. I am feeling the love

And in good news things have settled down physically with regard to the after effects my wife had been experiencing. We should be good to start trying again in a matter of days.
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Yes please. Though if you don't I'll still attempt to. I'm any case when I get home tonight I sound save a copy of the topic in case it purges. It's a very helpful read anytime I get down.
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Se7enthrust posted...

One thing I will say though is never give up. If it's a child you want, you gotta keep focused. Obviously it'll be your job to help her relieve her stress. The less stress she has the more friendly her body will be to an embryo despite all other potential complications. There are some vitamins that she can take to promote uterus health.

Iron. ...
Folic Acid. ...
Vitamin B12. ...
Omega-3 Fatty Acids. ...
Vitamin D. ...
Calcium & Magneisum

All of these are essential in reproductive health. Do your research though if that is something you might be interested in. Sometimes a specific diet could make all of the difference.

Yeah she's on a prenatal vitamin. I'll have to double check what's in it, but we adjusted our diet over 6 months ago to follow some various recommendations for helping conception. It's not something we know to much about though.
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Up
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Meow1000 posted...

Wait what happened is everything ok

Post 65 explains it best.

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Llarian posted...

Forceful_Dragon posted...

We decided to spend a night at the coast after church today just to get out of town. I think it's been really helpful and another day tomorrow exploring tiny beach towns sounds nice.

Glad you decided to get some different scenery. How was tiny beach town exploration?

It was really nice! Spent some time in in about half a dozen different little towns in the Santa Cruz area (while avoiding the overtly popular places because we're hipster like that). We explored bluffs, beaches, piers and caves and then looked at some of the little shops.

There was a cave in particular that had me very nervous to go inside. We were probably 60 or so feet into it, and then turned back after I nearly dropped my phone. We might have another adventure some day just to go back to that cave. We were getting to the point where you couldn't even see the light from the cave entrance so we were using our phones. If we go back we'll bring flashlights and waterproof phone backs and such to see if we can reach the back of it. I'm really nervous about things like going in caves or standing on the edge of a bluff (etc), but she likes adventure so I have to push myself sometimes.
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We decided to spend a night at the coast after church today just to get out of town. I think it's been really helpful and another day tomorrow exploring tiny beach towns sounds nice.
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ScareChan posted...

I would say dont let this topic purge right away

your situation wont just go away so something like this may actual help the healing, and when it does end up purging hopefully it comes at a time where you are in a better stage of healing as well

little things go a long way in situations like this

still sending prayers and energy to you brother, any extra love you need I know myself and others are happy to give it

Yeah, I've read the topic several times now and it puts me in a better mood when I'm getting too much in my own head about it.

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Se7enthrust posted...

Just finally read your update FD.

I feel for you and your wife man.

My wife had 2 miscarriages and was told by the doctor that she'd likely never have a kid because she was diagnosed with PCOS. But then one day she could and we had 3 kids in a row.

I don't know if it was just chance or some sort of miracle but when the time was right it happened. It's very well possible it can happen for you too.

Stay positive and keep your chin up dude.

That must have been really discouraging after the second one too keep pressing on, but then it's very encouraging to hear that it went so well after that. Though if you don't mind me asking, how old were you both?
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Each day gets a bit better.

We told her family yesterday and most of mine today. It has felt a bit like scheduled sadness, but sharing is helpful.

She is still experiencing bleeding and cramping though and after looking into it, it might continue for a couple weeks..
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neonreaper posted...

Hey man thats a tough thing

Youre gonna have some tough days ahead dealing with this

Hormones are going to make it especially tough on her

But every day is a new day and you will wake up and move forward, even the days you feel like its a struggle not to fall backward

Hope all goes well moving forward.

Thank you for the words and advice. I don't expect it to be quick or easy, but I know we will get through this.
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Waluigi1 posted...

Can't you just refuse to work or something? How can you legally be made to go to work for no pay?

TSA agents and the like have been doing it for over 3 weeks now, that's just how it goes when the government isn't funded but certain jobs still need to get done. And we *will* be paid at some point once those in power decide to do their job and vote on things.
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Still feeling pretty numb today. I don't think either of us sleep very much or well.

Oh and I got a call from my boss letting me know that I've been deemed "essential" aka selected to work without pay starting Thursday. So the one personal perk of the govt shutdown is ending.
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ChaosTonyV4 posted...

Sorry to hear that, man.

My wife had a miscarriage with our first child at 8 weeks, and it was the most fucked up experience. My heart aches for you and your wife, because I know how much it hurts.

Take care of yourself, and especially your wife, because even though she had no control, shes probably feeling all sorts of added guilt.

Be strong.

Thanks, Tony (and everyone else) for the kind words.

And you're right, I'm already seeing signs of her feeling added guilt even though we were explicitly told that this is no one's fault. Unfortunately it is one of her traits to feel personally responsible, even when something is not her fault.

I really hope for both or sakes that it takes much less time to get pregnant again because we have a rough time ahead of us.
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Thanks again everyone.

We got the verdict and it was not the good news we wanted. We have been trying to conceive for just about a year now. We got our first positive pregnancy test result last week. And then took another the next day just to be sure which was also positive. But with that said we were still worried, there had been issues with her cycle the previous month and so things didn't seem right. But we were waiting to see a doctor until we got our new health cards in I got a new job last year and it was supposed to be kicking into effect this month. But because I'm a federal employee and because of the shut down it seems like my application has not been processed yet.aa

Cue yesterday. She starts experiencing bleeding and cramping, and we're not doctor's, but we know it's a bad sign. I spend hours on the phone trying to find out how we're even supposed to be seen by a doctor while we're in this insurance limbo caused by the shutdown. Eventually it gets sorted out and we're assigned temporary information which is good enough to get an appointment scheduled for q today.

And for one glorious and excited week we were so happy about the test and what it meant for us. And today they confirmed that she experienced an early stage miscarriage.

The director was very nice and explained that these kinds of things are more common than you might think, but that still doesn't really soften the blow. They said that we shouldn't be concerned about what this means for our chances to have kids yet either. I guess it's not a major concern until you've had more than one. But it will still be another month for her body to back in the normal swing of things so we can try again. And so we are both feeling pretty crushed right now.

We haven't even told anyone that it seemed like we were pregnant yet and now we aren't sure if or what to say to our families. So if you know me or her through Facebook please don't bring this up, we'll figure out how we want to proceed in our own time with regard to telling the people in our lives.

This has been incredibly heart wrenching, but the support you have all expressed in this topic means a lot.
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Thanks again everyone. We should have our result in another few hours and your support means so much right now.
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Thanks again everyone. I can't even express how much this actually means.
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Thanks, you guys.

It really helps just knowing that there are other people pulling for us right now.
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I can't explain why just yet, but if you are the praying sort, please pray for us, and even if you aren't please keep us in mind over the next 24 hours.

We are awaiting news that could either be elating or absolutely crushing and right now it seems like it's leaning towards the latter.

Thanks.
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Congrats vcharon and genny. I hope you both make each other very happy and continue to do so through good times and bad. The rest of your life is a long time, but with a good foundation as friends and as a couple im sure you have what it takes to go the distance with each other.


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