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| Topic | My book finally got an angry review saying that it was 'too PC'. |
| Llarian 01/05/22 3:34:49 PM #16 | too pomp & circumstance Good to know that the non-straights exist only on the PC plane of existence and not alongside others in reality! /sarcasm --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Name a User and I'll Rate Them Out of 100 |
| Llarian 01/05/22 3:32:33 PM #37 | Tom_Bombadil --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Art / Design / Creative Projects Topic 2 - Let's draw this out a little longer |
| Llarian 01/05/22 3:31:03 PM #8 | Looking good, esp. use of light and color! --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Bi-yearly that only bad people use fireworks at home. |
| Llarian 01/05/22 3:30:31 PM #74 | Isquen posted... When I was a teenager my dog ran away on New Years precisely because of some dickhead doing fireworks, and we found her a day later dead on the side of the highway, about a mile from home.Sorry to hear about this. How awful. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | So, thinking of getting a divorce. |
| Llarian 12/28/21 3:20:03 PM #24 | INCEPTlON posted... My family doesnt have the best history of finding pleasure in others company. My mom and dad have admitted to staying with each other out of convenience. Grandparents before them were similar.On some level, this is what you're expecting from relationships, but theirs doesn't have to be yours. Since you have different interests, investing in your shared interests is a solid strategy, as is talking about your individual interests. The aim is to be able to be happy for each other, even if you have no clue what the other person is on about, or why they would find that subject interesting. Bolo likes strategy games and cute magical girls. I like old films and morbid historical horror stories. We have overlap, but we also have plenty of ways in which we couldn't be more different. You can learn more about what brings them joy and fulfillment, and help bring them even more of that satisfaction. "Hey, isn't this kinda like that thing you like" is an attempt. Even if you're wrong, it shows that you're trying to understand and connect - which is often more than acquaintances or even friends may try to do. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | So, thinking of getting a divorce. |
| Llarian 12/28/21 2:09:39 PM #15 | INCEPTlON posted... Each time, shes acknowledged what shes been doing, and has told me she will try to improve. I ask her if there is anything I can do for her, but she says I havent done anything wrong, which then makes me feel worse. Worth pointing out that people who are not doing well mentally are not always in the best place to delegate and tell you how they need help. As in conversation, avoiding simple yes/no questions may lead to more useful information - "can I do anything for you" will likely invite a quick no and a qualifier that you aren't doing anything wrong. "what can I do for you" or "what do you need/want right now" might invite an actual response, or you could offer stuff you know she likes. "Do you want a blanket or a cup of hot chocolate" or something. People who are depressed may not always take what's offered, but knowing that you're there offering makes a big difference to them. The rest of this post isn't specifically to you, OP. More of an educational moment to anyone else who reads this thread. The thing about being in a relationship with a depressed person that can be frustrating is you don't see an immediate, positive response to your efforts like you do with other things in life. The person you love doesn't magically bounce back once you bring them a sandwich or a blanket, once you give them a cool gift, or take them out someplace neat. You could have a fun day together, and the next day they could be shrimping at their computer like it never happened. They may feel a little better, even if they're still low energy by 'normal' standards. Your person won't be magically cured one day, no matter how hard you try. But that's not the goal - the goal is to build a relationship, to show the other person that they're valuable to you. They are your priority. You want to make life a little easier on them - after all, their own brain is beating on them in a way you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. That means doing the little things, no matter what response it gets or doesn't get. How do you dig a trench with a spoon? One spoonful at a time. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Did you play any games for the first time this year... |
| Llarian 12/28/21 1:48:15 PM #33 | I played The House in Fata Morgana: Requiem for Innocence [2018] and Ace Attorney: Dual Destinies [2013], really enjoyed both of them. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | What is your favorite Superhero movie of all time? |
| Llarian 12/28/21 1:43:31 PM #38 | Fantastic Four [2005] and Doctor Strange [2016]. They're just neat. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Almost just died |
| Llarian 12/28/21 1:38:39 PM #42 | So glad you're unhurt. That was a close one. Panthera posted... I've heard that cool guys don't look at explosions but I didn't know they also don't even listen to explosionsThe coolest guys also don't listen to explosions --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | So, thinking of getting a divorce. |
| Llarian 12/28/21 1:27:37 PM #2 | INCEPTlON posted... She never wants to do anything other than watch reruns of the same 3 shows, write in her journal all day, and just kind of sulk.Turn it around. How would she describe you and your behavior? If you "don't have a single bad thing to say about her", why is her description here so uncharitable? INCEPTlON posted... Unfortunately, things went immediately back to normal and she seems to act as if everything is fine.Have you readdressed this with her? I'm reading this as your interpretation of her behavior, as opposed to you checking in. INCEPTlON posted... Thankfully, shes at a good point in her career now where she could handle it.All other things being normal, sure. Going through a divorce could throw this in a tailspin, but I guess she'll have to figure that out. INCEPTlON posted... Im still unsure of what I truly want.This is the part that concerns me the most. What DO you want? Out of this relationship? Out of this thread? --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I can still ignore preferred pronouns if they are Fae/Faer right |
| Llarian 12/12/21 3:19:46 PM #273 | https://youtu.be/7tOkpntQtBM Ah, yes, "making it worse for everyone" rather than the clear overreaction of people in power to make an example of the most unrelatable members of a group, as an excuse to exercise a chokehold on the rest. Not to mention bad faith efforts to make people look bad, which ultimately deserve to backfire. https://youtu.be/rRHed_USdxA --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Does Grandma hold up? |
| Llarian 11/29/21 1:23:33 PM #6 | Both of mine dead so uh not too well. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Does Grandia hold up? |
| Llarian 11/29/21 1:23:06 PM #13 | I misread this as 'Does Grandma hold up?' Carry on. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Do you have impostor syndrome? |
| Llarian 11/29/21 1:22:28 PM #11 | For me, this gets weirdly intensified by people complimenting my work XD I often find myself overpreparing for tasks [taught a drawing class for teens at a local library and prepped like I was doing a TED Talk o_o]. But maybe that's just anxiety. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Do you prefer automatic or quartz watches? |
| Llarian 11/19/21 8:32:22 PM #7 | I have a Gruen badly in need of cleaning, but it's cute.  --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Happy 69th birthday to Shigeru Miyamoto |
| Llarian 11/18/21 3:22:58 PM #15 | Nice --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I need to stop eating cereal for breakfast (suggestions) |
| Llarian 11/18/21 1:45:09 PM #48 | I've found that eggs are annoying to crack when I'm still sleepy. Some nights I crack them into a container and just seal that and stick it in the fridge, make sure there's a clean pan on the stove. Then toast 2 pcs bread while you grease your pan, pour the pre-cracked eggs and whatever else you want in there, cook it up, then put it on the toast open face or as a big sandwich. Voila. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | What do you want for Christmas? |
| Llarian 11/18/21 1:40:52 PM #7 | Excited to see what art I'll get. We do an art swap every year where we commission people online, the art is digital so there's no storage of extra stuff involved. And then we fill stockings with snacks/treats/small toy doodads. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Asian Girl who told her BF to KILL HIMSELF wants Conviction TOSSED!! Should it?. |
| Llarian 11/16/21 10:14:02 AM #2 | |
| Topic | List every Pokemon that's been your favorite at one point |
| Llarian 11/16/21 10:08:12 AM #65 | Dratini Ninetales Ponyta Starmie Staryu ...can you tell my exposure to Pokemon was limited to 'cast off common cards from friends at school'? --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Just had two large packages (early Xmas presents) stolen |
| Llarian 11/16/21 10:04:14 AM #10 | If you have an Amazon locker in your area, it's a bit of extra work to pick it up on your end - but nothing compares to the disappointment and inconvenience created by porch pirates. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4T_LlK1VE4 A little something to boost your spirits. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | What should be our method of administering the death penalty? |
| Llarian 11/16/21 12:59:11 AM #8 | We so often neglect to stipulate that the lions should already be hungry. If they're not already hungry, it's going to get awkward for all parties involved. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Baby It's Cold Outside |
| Llarian 11/16/21 12:56:05 AM #6 | NFUN posted... You can't apply modern sensibility naively to a person in order to vilify them, but you can do so to their actual work which exemplifies the issues. FDR probably made a speech that supported segregation at some point, yet we still laud him; we just don't quote the speech as something to honor. The debate was never about whether... whoever wrote the song is a rapist who should be blacklisted, just the song is creepy as fuck and maybe there's other shitty christmas music we can listen to insteadHe doesn't have to go into detail, it's rehashed every holiday season for reasons I will never understand. The rest of your point is fair and well taken. I did not know it was written by a Tony award winning songwriter. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Loesser --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | What should be our method of administering the death penalty? |
| Llarian 11/16/21 12:29:44 AM #3 | CO2 asphyxiation. What are we, amateurs? --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Baby It's Cold Outside |
| Llarian 11/16/21 12:25:06 AM #2 | I'm taking the bait, I guess. The problem stems from applying modern sensibilities to a decidedly old song. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I miss the pokemon cookies. |
| Llarian 11/15/21 12:33:33 PM #15 | swirIdude posted... So glad to see the cookies make a comeback!Right? I am not gonna lie to you guys, I was feeling really down the day of the OP, and y'all pulled through. Thanks. :D --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | What are some of your favorite anime moments? (Spoilers) |
| Llarian 11/15/21 12:29:24 PM #20 | NBIceman posted... I'd also throw in I was definitely going to mention --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Is anyone here planning to participate in Nanowrimo this year? |
| Llarian 11/15/21 12:22:33 PM #34 | Bump --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Are you still wearing CLOTHES and SHOES that are 3+ YEARS AGO???? |
| Llarian 11/15/21 12:18:53 PM #17 | Full Throttle posted... but are you still wearing clothing passed that expiry date?...I'm confused. Are we talking about clothing, or sour cream? Or forgotten food in the back of the fridge?? Shoes should be replaced regularly because your feet need the proper support, which wears down over time. Clothes, however - if they are in good condition and still fit, continue to wear them! If they are in poor condition or in need of repair, repair them or relegate them to cleaning/painting clothes. You can upcycle old clothes into other things you can use. You can swap with your friends. You can shave pilling off your sweaters to make them look better. I literally own a Montreal 1976 souvenir sweater that's in lovely condition - to be fair it's acrylic and for many years was stored carefully in a bag. But clothes are STILL. GOOD. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7BdnsB4RTcU From about 9:20 to ~15:00 Bernadette Banner does a great job of explaining how practical older clothes are and what purpose they serve that modern, mass-produced clothing doesn't really do for us anymore. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Princess Mako has ARRIVED to AMERICA and will move into HELL'S KITCHEN!!!! |
| Llarian 11/15/21 12:06:13 PM #5 | Even if I could afford it, it's too big and I would have trouble cleaning it all. 'You wouldn't be cleaning it yourself if you could afford that apartment!' Yes I would. Not only would hiring a cleaning service drive me up a wall, but I'd be completely paranoid about someone having access to my home. I would want to spend more time at home. I feel bad that Mako's marriage was so looked down on, and that she was the first to not take the stipend because of it. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Any games you associate with each holiday? |
| Llarian 11/15/21 10:06:04 AM #23 | Don't forget DL-6. Between two holidays! --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Board 8 parents: how do you share your gaming collection with your kids? |
| Llarian 11/15/21 10:01:38 AM #13 | ChainLTTP posted... Like if my kid gets a PS6 for his birthday, is there an understanding that it's his to do what he wants with it? Or does it get added to all of my systems as well as one big shared family game room? Might be wise to introduce household gifts [consoles] in addition to individual gifts. That way, their games can be theirs and the console itself can belong to the family. This is, of course, open to negotiation once college/moving out enters the mix. You don't wanna have to revisit 'this is ____'s PS6' when/if you have additional children, or if you want to use it yourself. As a 90s kid, I compare it to the VHS player - that was understood to belong to the family, for the family's use. Each individual negotiated time on it, or we all watched together. Certain tapes were mine, certain tapes were my parents', and those that weren't super family friendly were stored elsewhere. Like, The Hunt for Red October wasn't right next to Disney's Aladdin. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I miss the pokemon cookies. |
| Llarian 11/15/21 9:52:20 AM #12 | I really appreciate the candy mustaches! I didn't notice those the first time around. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Is anyone here planning to participate in Nanowrimo this year? |
| Llarian 11/05/21 3:02:31 PM #27 | Mobilezoid posted... I'm over four days behind, but I'm poised to make some real progress now that I have a solid starting point. I'm going to dedicate Saturday to catching up no matter what.Go go go, I believe in you. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Do you have a will prepared? |
| Llarian 11/05/21 1:24:55 PM #14 | There are good resources online for this in case you want to and aren't sure where to start, including joincake and getyourshittogether. Caitlin Doughty/Ask a Mortician on YouTube has a whole series of end of life planning videos where you can pick up info/satisfy morbid curiosities in a more-entertaining-than-it-has-any-right-to-be format. I will admit that I don't have this together but am planning to by the end of next year. I find that Americans in particular are not comfortable with talking about/dealing with death, and that leaves you up a creek when you have to deal with it. You do not want to face that learning curve while on grief brain, so get into it sooner rather than later. Set yourself a concrete deadline [pardon the pun!]. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I miss the pokemon cookies. |
| Llarian 11/04/21 5:06:41 PM #4 | Yessss. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I miss the pokemon cookies. |
| Llarian 11/04/21 4:54:29 PM #1 | Those ones someone decorated and the thread was sticky for a while. It really made me laugh. Maybe they were cupcakes? Idk it was a homemade baked good batch of some kind. I could really use to see those pokemon cookies again right about now. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Anime & Manga Discussion Topic 280: One Step Closer to Heaven |
| Llarian 11/04/21 4:39:16 PM #397 | Maniac64 posted... I am finally watching Outlaw Star.It's my time to share the bizarre screenshot I have!  Very much agree. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Best song about Mondays? |
| Llarian 11/04/21 3:47:25 PM #8 | Ngl my first thought was 'Alchemy Mondays' by Voltaire, but ended up voting for the Mamas and the Papas. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Did you like Titanic more or Avatar? |
| Llarian 11/04/21 3:41:33 PM #3 | Have only seen clips of Avatar, but it would have to do a lot to beat Titanic. Even the silverware in the dining scenes, that you don't even really see, are stamped with the White Star Line logo. That's attention to detail, babeeeey! --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Do you expect an inheritance from your parents? |
| Llarian 11/04/21 3:36:56 PM #31 | Hey, it's inheritance vs care costs in the US, round 1, FIGHT!! Basically whatever would be left to me will likely be absorbed by costs to care for parents as they age/various health problems emerge. This would not happen if we didn't live in the most profit-based healthcare system imaginable. Welp. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Folding origami at work |
| Llarian 11/03/21 11:12:35 AM #1 | Weird or naw?
Vote
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| Topic | I ordered Wendys |
| Llarian 11/03/21 9:58:08 AM #52 | Underleveled posted... Go to Five Guys. They overflow the damn thing then dump like 2 more scoops directly into the bag.Man, Five Guys. It's been forever. I better go since this is the case. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Is it bad that I think of 40s and 50s music as as Fallout music |
| Llarian 11/03/21 9:54:35 AM #2 | Nah, that makes total sense. It's your primary reference point for that era of music. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | I ordered Wendys |
| Llarian 11/01/21 3:20:50 PM #37 | I'm much more into fries than anything else I will order, so I chose the underfilled fries here. If I'm ordering any size fry, I want that thing overflowing. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Did you get any TRICK or TREATERS this year???? |
| Llarian 11/01/21 2:32:09 PM #6 | Got a few dozen when visiting family. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Is anyone here planning to participate in Nanowrimo this year? |
| Llarian 11/01/21 2:26:43 PM #17 | I did this a couple years ago, got to 10-11k words and just dropped off. Pretty sure this was because I didn't write regularly outside of November, so it was steep and unsustainable for me. It was cool to have written that much. Mobilezoid posted... I'm tired of being a perfectionist who never actually gets anywhere. I'm finally going to spend the month and see what happens if I keep pushing forward.This is such a mood. I encourage you to do it! Tell your perfectionistic tendencies to shut up and watch closely. --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Who are the most universally-liked Pokemon? |
| Llarian 10/29/21 3:40:53 PM #47 | MoogleKupo141 posted... who doesnt like BulbasaurExactly! It's a little garlic that knows how to calm down a crying baby! It's happy and friend-shaped! --- Are you watching closely? |
| Topic | Movies you have watched more than 20 times? |
| Llarian 10/28/21 10:58:17 AM #31 | I love films!! Watching something 20x is quite a lot for me, though. #1 I have watched probably 10x at this point, the others are in an indeterminate 'more than once but less than 10x' category.
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| Topic | How faithful are you? |
| Llarian 10/28/21 10:40:05 AM #28 | 5 haha --- Are you watching closely? |
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