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52 and close to 115 lbs

Nope. Pretty happy having a lifetime partner, even with the downs we experience at times.

21WIVES_CHILL posted...

Offworlder1 posted...

That's fine in private, but something more conservative when we go outside is needed.

"You cant tell me what i can or cant wear, thats sexist"

Lol I would never say this. Id just find a man that was actually secure with himself and whod enjoy the eye candy.

SauI_Goodman posted...

I've gone with 2 different girlfriends.

With the first I choose a girl that looks exactly like my girlfriends do. Slim, pretty face, smaller breasts, long legs, brunette. My girl goes "she looks exactly like me! you're so boring."

So the 2nd girlfriend took me out and i really didn't want to go. So then I choose a girl that looks the complete opposite of what I normally go for. Thick thighs, thigh ass,, big breasts, a little meat on her but not fat. So then my girl goes "uhhh! if that's what you like why're you with me!?"

I'm never doing it again.

Solution - have your girlfriend pick

Ive gone with my husband in the past and we had a good time. He gets mad that the girls always want to dance on me instead of him though lol

Nope, you cant pay me enough to move. Ive turned down opportunities to interview with some of the most well known, highest paying companies, because I didnt want to relocate. Sure they pay more but my cost of living would also skyrocket so theres no benefit. I also own a home. Luckily my new company allows me to work from home instead of moving.

Smash bros with my nephews and kingdom hearts 2

Shablagoo posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Shablagoo posted...

Damn, after reading some of the comments, sorry OP. That sucks.

Thank you.

Its good your husband has your back. If anything hopefully thatll show her he cares more about you than giving her more grandchildren and shell change her ways.

Doubtful but you never know.

But I am very glad I didnt marry a mommas boy and that he stood up for me.

Shablagoo posted...

Damn, after reading some of the comments, sorry OP. That sucks.

Thank you.

DarthGravid posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Well luckily my brother in law left last night and we had him take my mother in law with him. We kept the nephews.

My mother in law and I used to have a good relationship but I guess as shes getting older shes losing her mind or something. She made a lot of comments that crossed lines with me. She was also upset because she also invited my other brother in law too but my husband said we were at capacity (we were), and also told her she cant just invite people to our house. She pulled me aside to complain about it for like an hour yesterday (and make more inappropriate comments, trying to stir drama with my husband and I). So my husband had her go. I guess she was super sad about it and my husband feels crappy about it. But she should learn to control her mouth.

The nephews have just been playing smash brothers and being nice kids. So at least now theres some peace in the house.

She doesn't like you. Simple as that. But at least he stood up for you. My mother-in-law moved in unannounced, and has interfered with every breath I've taken since. My wife won't do anything about it.

I guess she doesnt like me now that she knows I might not give her grandkids like her other sons (who have multiple kids with several baby mommas then abandon them). From what youve posted, youre going through much worse though. At least my husband had my back and it was only a few days. I couldnt imagine her living here permanently and not being able to do anything about it.

CyricZ posted...

I'm gonna call my spill response team because that's some toxic shit.

Lol indeed. Which was why my husband kicked her out.

Zodd3224 posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Zodd3224 posted...

My in laws are great.

My parents are the issue. My mother in particular doesnt respect my wife and it has lead to drama.

That sucks. What kind of things does your mom do?

For the most part, we each got on fine with each others in laws. But after this recent visit, I feel like I never want to see his mother again.

Questions our parenting constantly, treats my daughter better than my son, etc. She is a legit crazy person and if she wasnt blood someone I would never interact with.

Sounds like how my mother acts with my sister in law lol.

CyricZ posted...

That's some cold shit, if true.

Yup. She has never made comments about children before but my husband asked her not to discuss them with me. But she made comments several times anyway. Then made a comment about how Mexicans are so fertile and have so many kids, they dont understand those who cant. Then went on to talk about my husbands ex (who is Mexican and super religious) that Ive never heard about, and how she was sure they would get married, she was such a wonderful woman, goes to church all the time, blah blah blah. She said my husband must have never told me because it brings him pain (he says he didnt because she was never relevant). She showed me her Facebook and they are very close. This chick calls her her forever mom in law.

CyricZ posted...

This reminds me of a situation where the mother tries to reassert herself as the primary woman in her son's life. Does that track to this?

Also I forget. How long have you two been married?

Anyway, sorry you had to deal with that but I'm glad it's going okay for the most part.

Thanks Cyric. Weve been married for 5 years and together 8. It wasnt that she was inserting herself as the alpha woman, but I think her knowing Im infertile makes her wish my husband married someone else (specifically one of his exes).

Zodd3224 posted...

My in laws are great.

My parents are the issue. My mother in particular doesnt respect my wife and it has lead to drama.

That sucks. What kind of things does your mom do?

For the most part, we each got on fine with each others in laws. But after this recent visit, I feel like I never want to see his mother again.

Well luckily my brother in law left last night and we had him take my mother in law with him. We kept the nephews.

My mother in law and I used to have a good relationship but I guess as shes getting older shes losing her mind or something. She made a lot of comments that crossed lines with me. She was also upset because she also invited my other brother in law too but my husband said we were at capacity (we were), and also told her she cant just invite people to our house. She pulled me aside to complain about it for like an hour yesterday (and make more inappropriate comments, trying to stir drama with my husband and I). So my husband had her go. I guess she was super sad about it and my husband feels crappy about it. But she should learn to control her mouth.

The nephews have just been playing smash brothers and being nice kids. So at least now theres some peace in the house.

34 and have PCOS and endometriosis that cause infertility issues. Weve been trying for 3 years but no dice.

On the bright side, at least Im still rocking a fine body.

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

@Cleo_II

Chime in I think they're all a little fucked up.

Ive never seen chorizo look like that. I get the reddish ones that are like ground pork in the casings. I just remove the casings, add the chorizo to the pan, cook it up and break it apart. Ill add a few eggs when its close to fully cooked so I can make a scramble. Ive added hash browns at times too.

EternalDivide posted...

Well idk but I can tell you what the old fashioned mexican thing is that I've seen.
If someone is going to be invited somewhere (doesn't matter where, to who's house, to what event, etc) then everyone is invited too. It's taken that everyone should expect this sort of rudeness.

A cousin or nephew is invited over. That actually means any siblings, any friends of theirs that are over, the mom of dad are invited too. Food is expected.

It's some bs asinine culture thing. It's mostly the older generations (over 50) that I've noticed still do this. Or just simply the uncultured ones.

I would leave the comforter off and when asked I'd say well if you didn't put the cat in like I asked then you'd have one tonight.

This is spot on. My husband and his family are Mexican lol. I told my husband he will have to figure out what to feed them all because Im on vacation this week. I am sure as hell not feeding 7 people

And they are coming tonight.

My husband drove her and his brother to another town 3 hours away for his nephews graduation. They are driving back the same day. She asked me if she can bring back my husbands other nephew. Hes a good kid, quiet and keeps to himself, so I said yes. But said it would be better if my husband invited him himself. She agreed.

Well she ignored that and invited him AND his little brother. Then invited the other nephew who graduated. And I find out my husbands brother is also coming back with him to stay with us when I was initially told he was staying there. Theyre all staying until Monday.

My mother in law has also been a pain. She has been staying with us the last couple of days and she never respects the things we ask her to do. For example, our cats are not allowed in the guest bedroom she stays in. We asked her to be extremely careful in closing the door and not letting the cats in. Well she obviously hasn't and the cats have been going in. Worse even, she accidentally locked one of them in there for hours and he ended up peeing on the bed. He has never gone outside his box ever. Ive spent all day washing the sheets and down comforter (that shit takes forever to dry).

Whenever his family stays with us, it ultimately means something in our house will get destroyed because they dont respect our rules. And now I have a gaggle of them coming over. When this was supposed to be my one week off before starting a new job.

Why are in laws so awful?

Did any of her work ever get leaked to porn sites? Has anyone in her family or circle found out?

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Im going out of state next week for orientation for my new job. I rarely eat alone but its a fun city and lots of good restaurants so I will have to get out of my comfort zone and just do it.

I tried going to a sushi place during lunch break a few months back. I sat alone at the bar and of course the waiter asked me why I was all alone. Made it feel more awkward than it did already lol.

It's kind of a compliment. People usually don't ask if they think it's a depressing reason lol. I sure as hell don't. But if I think it's just an off moment for someone who looks obviously capable of being social I might throw a playful jab.

I had a feeling thats what he was doing but I still found it annoying. If Im sitting at a restaurant alone its because I want to eat good food in peace lol

Im going out of state next week for orientation for my new job. I rarely eat alone but its a fun city and lots of good restaurants so I will have to get out of my comfort zone and just do it.

I tried going to a sushi place during lunch break a few months back. I sat alone at the bar and of course the waiter asked me why I was all alone. Made it feel more awkward than it did already lol.

Im on a week break in between jobs. I hit the gym yesterday for the first time in a long while. I took my mom and my mother in law out for brunch too. Today Im meeting my friend for lunch. Probably going to try hitting the gym again tomorrow and get my stuff in order before my new job on Monday.

No. I dont eat enough to make buffets worth it and I have my reservations on the quality of the food and if they are kept at proper temperatures (they frequently arent). And then people sneeze and cough around all the food. Food just shouldnt sit out for hours like that. There are some higher end buffets in places like Vegas that sound more decent, but again, I just dont eat enough to justify the price.

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Maple frosted

Day:
Ole Henriksen Clean Truth cleanser
Sunday Riley Juno Oil
Ole Henriksen banana eye cream
Ole Henriksen vitamin C moisturizer

For night, I alternate

Night 1:
Ole Henriksen Wonderfeel Double Cleanser (helps with taking off makeup)
Sunday Riley A+ retinol
Sunday Riley Good Genes
Korres Wild Rose Vitamin C Brightening night cream

Night 2:
Ole Henriksen Wonderfeel Double Cleanser (helps with taking off makeup)
Sunday Riley Juno oil
Sunday Riley A+ retinol
Ole Henriksen Goodnight Glow Retin Alt Sleeping Crme

Theyre super pricey products but they last a while and at 34 my skin still looks great

Have you been counting your calories?

This Norwegian movie called Headhunters. The actor who plays Jaime Lannister is in it.

Shablagoo posted...

Zikten posted...

Shablagoo posted...

Zikten posted...

The article I posted is non biased towards any religion. Your article literally is a Muslim based website excuse me if I think mine has more credibility.

Is PBS unbiased enough for you?

https://www.pbs.org/empires/islam/faithpeople.html

That's just an explanation of Islam
I know what the teachings of Islam are. That doesn't change the fact that people in the middle East do a campaign of oppression towards non Muslims. They won't hire you you, they won't let their kids marry your kids. They won't let you rent an apartment. Or go to school. And if ISIS comes to the town they stand by and let things happen

Right, so if they arent following the teachings of the Quran, then are they really Muslims? If they are, should we really use them as an example by which to criticize Islam? That doesnt make sense to me.

Where is anyone criticizing Islam?

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2016/12/22/opinion/egypts-cruelty-to-christians.amp.html

Im sure its all just fake news though

I got Kingdom Hearts 3 since it was on sale. I also got The Story So Far. I had only played I and II and no side games. I just beat 1.5 Final Mix and am halfway through CoM. I remember not understanding shit when I played II so figured it would be good to understand things this time around.

Eat More Beef posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Eat More Beef posted...

A) What do you do?
B) You had a new job lined up previously to leaving, I imagine?
C) Did you leave for a better job/position? If so, what is it?
D) Did you get headhunted?
E) If yes to D, how fucking rad does that feel?

A) Tech sales
B) Yes I did
C) Its the same role and pay, but a more well known company. Having it on my resume will open a lot of doors. Theyre also much more stable financially, which gives me more opportunity to grow
D) Technically no but Ive been contacted by recruiting agencies about this company multiple times. I just went around them and applied directly
E) Considering that its very difficult to get into this company and they tend to hire through third party agencies, I feel pretty awesome that I got in without any help and they selected me out of hundreds of others

Nice! Good on you.

I gotta ask, how does it feel to be a woman in tech sales? My wife is in demand gen (horizontal) and has a bone to pick with how people treat her at trade shows a lot. She'll get like 1st or 2nd in leads, but always feels greasy afterward.

Also, what kind of tech? My wife works for Faro (they do 3d scanning for aerospace and shit in case you're not familiar with the company).

Ive done trade shows in the past and its always felt gross. Im in software sales now though and my clients are mostly software engineers and theyve been pretty respectful to me. Its more difficult to assert myself on the team though. Every meeting, all the men just talk over each other and interrupt. My boss used to say I needed to be more vocal in meetings and when I tried, hed interrupt and talk over me every time.

Im Coptic. My parents and their family mostly fled Egypt because of the persecution they faced in the country. Being spit on in the streets, being failed in class for wearing a cross, having opportunities denied because of their faith, etc.

They all voted Trump even though they disliked him, because they were terrified of the democrats bond with the Muslim Brotherhood. My mom used to love Obama until he invited them to the White House and supported Morsi.

Eat More Beef posted...

A) What do you do?
B) You had a new job lined up previously to leaving, I imagine?
C) Did you leave for a better job/position? If so, what is it?
D) Did you get headhunted?
E) If yes to D, how fucking rad does that feel?

A) Tech sales
B) Yes I did
C) Its the same role and pay, but a more well known company. Having it on my resume will open a lot of doors. Theyre also much more stable financially, which gives me more opportunity to grow
D) Technically no but Ive been contacted by recruiting agencies about this company multiple times. I just went around them and applied directly
E) Considering that its very difficult to get into this company and they tend to hire through third party agencies, I feel pretty awesome that I got in without any help and they selected me out of hundreds of others

Its kind of overwhelming. Theres been an outpouring of people telling me not to go, that Im the best person theyve worked with, asking me why, etc.

My team hosted a goodbye lunch for me and 20 people showed up. I was really moved by the amount of people that came by and wished me well. Ive never experienced that at any other company.

Despite my hangups recently, it was a good company to work for and a lot of great people. It makes me nervous about the next company because I hear its a lot more corporate and fast paced. It will be interesting to see how it goes. But I do worry about starting over after having built a great reputation here.

Its eye opening though that despite a super lean team and my teammates being completely overloaded, they arent even going to backfill me. They converted a contractor on the team and basically gave him all my work on top of his own. Kind of speaks to my fears of instability at the place.

Anyone ever leave a company they were happy with for a better opportunity? How did it go?

You never tell your employer youre interviewing

Its been a long time. I cant really remember the last time. It may have been at a company party a year and a half ago or so.

Didnt you guys break up?

I think Jon was the prince that was promised if you consider Dany being the real enemy.

Ive known the show has been going downhill for a few seasons now. I read the books and it was obvious that once they went past the source material, it wasnt going to be the same show. That said, I dont hate this season as much as others do. But I had low expectations going in. Its also one GRRM for not finishing his work in 8 years.

Kami_no_Kami posted...

Yeah, my first three cats were indoor/outdoor and none of them lived past 6 years. The third one actually contracted heart-worms, which I had to watch her struggle with for years. The former two just ran off one day, and I have no idea if they were killed or if they just ran off to hide. So, not only did they not live as long as the indoor cats ive had since then, I wasnt able to say goodbye to them and had to spend weeks hoping in vain that theyd come back home (one had left for a few days before).

The cats Ive had since switching to indoor-only have seemed just as happy as my outdoor cats, but lived to be 16, 17 and 13 (this last one had health problems and, based on the temperament she had when we rescued her, was most likely abused by her former owner) respectively.

Yeah not knowing what happened is a horrible feeling. When our second ran away, I was outside every day for about a week, looking for him and talking to neighbors to see if anyone saw him. It's heart wrenching. One dude was super suspicious too. He got real shifty eyed when I asked if he'd seen my cat. He claimed he did and fed him some of his granola bar and that was it. He seemed super nervous talking to me though. And the story was weird, who feeds cats granola bars? I always wondered if he took our cat, or if he harmed him. It still bothers me to this day.

CanuckCowboy posted...

SoraOwnsOctopus posted...

Yeah, like let them out to fight other cats, get run over by cars, get tons of ticks and rabies sounds real humane.

Yeah let your kid know outside to hurt themselves and get hit by cars and catch diseases. Real humane.

Ill keep my kid locked in the closet like a good parent.

Thats a bad analogy considering parents supervise their kids when they are let out. I dont see parents letting their kids out alone for all hours of the day to brave the elements, and fend for food and water.

voldothegr8 posted...

Cleo_II posted...

The average lifespan of an indoor cat is 12-18 years old. The average lifespan of an outdoor cat is 2-5 years old. So what do you think?

What about indoor/outdoor? I grew up with one that lived to be 22 and all the rest lived solid 10+ year lives.

That doesnt change the fact that youre exposing your cats to all sorts of dangers when letting them out, like wild animals, cars and cruel humans. Growing up, we had 2 cats that were indoor/outdoors. The first died at age 4 from feline leukemia (a very painful death that honestly traumatized me) and the second vanished when he was 1. My brother got another cat a few years ago that he mostly kept indoors. One day he let him out when he was 3 and the cat never came home. My husband also had two cats before he met me. He had them for about a year and they were also mostly indoors but hed let them out occasionally. One day they also never came home. My cousins cat was killed by coyotes when he was 7.

Yes there are plenty of cases of cats who were let out and lived long full lives but exceptions dont make the rules.

1 literally broke my controller.

Echoing the no contact advice. I get the need for closure but theres no such thing. Your need for closure is just stemming from your addiction to her. You want to find some reason to stay in contact with her. And thats normal. Breaking up with people is like breaking a habit. Youve spent 6 months with her, communicating every day. Its hard to cut things off abruptly but its the best way to move on from someone.

emblem boy posted...

Cleo_II posted...

The average lifespan of an indoor cat is 12-18 years old. The average lifespan of an outdoor cat is 2-5 years old. So what do you think?

Have you ever walked your cats before?

I tried with one of mine years ago (the one I had before my current boys). He was completely terrified and frozen in place. I do want to try with one of my current ones. Hes a lot more adventurous and I can see him really enjoying it. I just need to get a new harness and try. I know the other one would be terrified because he has no desire of going outside and is afraid of his own shadow.

Im glad that my husband is in IT so when he calls our ISP hes able to tell them exactly what he did to troubleshoot. A few months back we had terrible internet issues and they sent a technician. My husband showed them what he had worked on and the technician deduced from it that the issue was old cables outside that they replaced. We have super fast internet now.

Im happy for you TC, that guy was toxic. You dont see it now but given enough time you will be so glad this happened. And youll find a guy who will actually treat you the way you deserve to be treated.