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Is it just me or does it smell like shit in here?

Are the same people to argue against investments towards better public transportation and more walkable cities.

Curious.

Honestly, it'd kinda be weird if the entire species talked like that for no reason. Makes more sense for it to be a Yoda-specific quirk (while also keeping his speech pattern unique to him)

Being a democratic voter in Texas feels damn near hopeless

Also, I'd say another aspect to it is that it's just much easier to tell character-focused dramas on TV. It's obvious when you consider that serialized TV dramas started getting insanely popular right around the time the comic book movie craze really took off.

I'll respect James Cameron's work, but he can't just sit here and say all this as if the original Avatar was some great character study itself and not just some shallow visual spectacle

Fetterman is going through an actual disability though.

DeSantis is just a lying dumbass

I mean I'm sure 80s music was everywhere in the 80s

Punished_Blinx posted...

Yeah but they were bad people in power who were purposefully making lives around them worse (along with one person who willingly wanted it changed). Even then there were questions if it was the right thing overall.

The issue was it just isn't going to work on a grand scale. His logic was that no one should experience hardship, disappointment and suffering but sometimes people need to go through those things to reach their full potential and make us who we are.

What he created was a house of cards illusion with no substance behind it.

If he stuck with using it as a therapy treatment then yeah maybe that would have been a better path.

And then we saw that guys like Goro (and even Joker) rejected the reality, because there's a big difference between what Maruki thinks is best for everyone, and what actually is.

AloneIBreak posted...

Ive never watched. Does she not get huge like regular hulk?

Nope. The biggest she gets is when she's in Savage mode, but she never really gets Hulk-size.

Crimsoness posted...

Some dude at Marvel had a muscle fetish, that's why She-Hulk exists lol

Actually, funny story. The whole reason She-Hulk exists is because Marvel wanted to beat the 80s Hulk TV show to the punch of creating a female Hulk, so they would still be able to own the character fully

Dakimakura posted...

Literally dies in the first 10 minutes in The Other Guys

Lol forgot about this

I thought the show was legit funny throughout. Really enjoyed it.

People take this shit way too seriously

hexa posted...

Roseanne Barr lost a lot of things because she made a racist remark

Tbf, Roseanne Barr had a much lower height to fall from

Wtf Keanu Reeves is like one of the least hateable guys in Hollywood

Choco posted...

wild how we changed the subject but i respect the point

It's not changing the subject lol

Choco posted...

it's not a done deal yet genius
there's still a lot of shit standing in the way

how many american states have legalized weed? i'm pretty sure it's more than german states at fucking zero

It's already been medicinally legal in Germany since 2017, genius

Choco posted...

as opposed to germany where it's not just half lol

That's why they're legalizing it.

And the U.S. likely won't anytime soon

So we just gonna ignore Bucciarati + Giorno vs Cioccolata huh

Choco posted...

...he said while talking about a subject where the US is ahead of germany by a lot, but ok

Not when half the country can still get thrown in prison for weed

https://www.reuters.com/world/europe/germany-legalize-cannabis-use-recreational-purposes-2022-10-26/

Yet another area where the U.S. is behind

C'mon bruh

Grand Theft Auto

So basically Killmonger

LotsOfHorror posted...

Any other studio is better for the show, considering the series is just about the most anti-capitalism gaming series out there.

Ehhhh....Cyberpunk 2077 is probably the most aggressively anti-capitalist game rn.

But I def see your point

I'm inclined to agree.

Maybe with the exception of Daredevil

DespondentDeity posted...

I feel like I didnt really start being alive in any real way until I was 30. I read your posts tho and I see someone who is not only filled with interesting ideas, but the intellect and drive to accomplish anything. You also just have such a good heart and noble intentions, I cant even count how many times Ive seen you stand up for vulnerable people of all types. Plus even looking at this situation, and how you respected yourself enough to put that boundary up, and stuck with that conviction knowing that its going to be difficult and painful.

Its gonna take time to recover, as it always will, but I sincerely believe that youre a capable enough person to create a really fulfilling life for yourself and I also think that youre the type of person who is enriching to know. I dont know the full specifics of your situation but I think shes lost sight of what really makes you a uniquely wonderful person, and youre worth too much to let yourself be taken for granted.

Thank you.....I really needed to hear all of this. Not gonna lie, it brought me to tears.

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Thank you. Honestly, I've probably needed to talk to a therapist for a long time and this just seals the deal.

CARRRNE_ASADA posted...

15 minutes of pleasure is not worth having mental health problems over someone like her.

Yeah. And I already had my fair share of baggage going in that I never fully processed (or even realized was there). Being in this probably didn't help at all.

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I try to be. There's a couple of times where I've been insensitive about it, but I don't do it intentionally and I certainly don't do it to brag. I just have a habit of rambling about some of the happy memories I've had when I get too deep into a conversation.

divot1338 posted...

Guaranteed thats the kind of behavior that will only get worse over time. Use that as inspiration to be more selective the next time.

For sure. Tbh, there were small red flags when we first started dating. If I saw some of the same things with someone else, I'd probably be much less hesitant to cut it off right then and there. Or at least stand up for myself more.

NoxObscuras posted...

I meant to comment on this earlier. Don't dwell on that part of it too much. Starting fresh at 28 is no biggie.

My ex and I were together for 10 years and we have a kid. Now I'm 33 and actively dating again. And it's been great meeting so many amazing women. I don't consider my 20's wasted, because at least I still grew through that time. And I can better identify what I do and don't want in my next partner.

Same for you. You now have a much better idea of what you don't want. Build on that and you'll find someone that makes you much much happier.

That's definitely a good way to look at it. Tbh, I've always felt so far behind my peers and I've been trying to claw my way back up. It felt like I stagnated for a while but again...nothing to really lose anymore.

TheoryzC posted...

Has there ever been a period of working it through and you saying your piece and maybe you and her coming to an understanding until things went to shit again?

Several times. But much of the time, our arguments usually involved me just apologizing for whatever she felt I did wrong and then us being cool again. Sometimes, she'd get mad at me and I'd ask her what's wrong and she wanted me to "figure it out". I'd always point out that the whole reason I'm asking is because I don't actually know what I did that bothers her and that I'm not a mind reader.

_____Cait posted...

She sounds traumatized and has a major fear of failure, and takes it out on you.

She's pretty much explicitly made it clear that due to her upbringing, she didn't have nearly as much as I did growing up and that part of her resents me for getting to have the things that I wanted. And it's like yeah, I get that, but I'm just trying to chill and enjoy my life and I've never denied my privilege.

doesntcare posted...

Im still stuck on $400 a month im curious do you go through the complex or is it a separate energy provider? Im in Tx in a house and mine was less than $300 during "peak" summer months and now its under $200.

Separate provider. The apartment complex had their own recommended energy provider, but that likely would have ended up even worse for us, so we went with something cheaper.

Timmyjinkle posted...

My advice:
Never sign a joint-tenancy/new tenancy when you've just moving in together in a relationship, you can't afford by yourself.

Great fucking advice. Definitely not doing that again.

_____Cait posted...

Oh she did the man enough thing.

Yes, you should make sure your partner feels validated.

No, you shouldnt have to do things because she wont.

And if she pulls that man enough card, that implies a lot of yikes.

It's like, no offense, but you tell me all the time about how your dad fucked over your family financially and emotionally before he died, and there's not really many other men in your life. So don't tell me what a "real man" is supposed to be.

DespondentDeity posted...

Damn so youre single now? WYD

;)

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Thank you. Really needed to hear this.

Just now she just sat right next to me on the couch and didn't say anything. I just continue to browse the computer. I don't know if she was expecting me to strike up a conversation with her or what. She eventually went back into the room. I went in to ask if she needed to talk to me, but she nodded no so I left. I've also been typing these long-ass essays in this topic so she probably (correctly) assumed it was about her and was trying to snoop in and see what I was saying. I changed tabs lol

She wasn't all bad; deep down a good person and part of me wants to make it work but I know it probably never will. I just don't know if I have the strength to say "no" if she comes running back.

Cleo_II posted...

Yeah sounds like your expectations for a relationship werent aligned. I dont think either of you are wrong. Just not a good match for each other. Instead of her accepting that and cutting ties, sounds like she was toxic in trying to change you.

She did try to break it off several times, but we always ended up talking and then everything would be fine. Rinse and repeat.

At least now, I can end up with someone who doesn't absolutely detest when I talk about Marvel movies or anime lol

The other thing I've realized too is that being in a relationship for so long with someone who needed to have their way all the time is that I've become so much of a pushover. I was just always afraid to say "no" out of fear of how she'll take it. I let her go way too long with disrespecting my boundaries and no matter how much I tried to claw my self-respect back, I'd always just fall back into place to keep the relationship alive.

Not gonna do that anymore now that I have nothing to lose.

KaZooo posted...

Dont feel bad TC. who needs her?

I think relationships are shit when politics kicks in, and it's not about fault or correctness. It's just clearly both sides are bringing in friction and it doesn't work.

Thanks. The main part that's gonna suck is that so much of our lives were tied into each other and now I'll have to figure out how to go about my life completely solo now.

Tbh, might be a blessing in disguise. I've wanted to leave Texas for a very long time, so maybe now that will be easier to do without worrying about how I'll bring my girlfriend along. I think I really just want a fresh start in a totally different environment.

Cleo_II posted...

I mean groceries were probably more than $350 a month so she had a point. Did neither of you sit down and budget and decide on the split of bills before leasing the apartment? Sounds like you had extra fun money and she didnt. Why the reluctance to help?

Nope, and that was a mistake we made.

But I also did chip in when it was necessary. Hell, when her car got repo'd, I gave her my severance money from Best Buy so she could get it back. She owes me like $2000.

NoxObscuras posted...

Damn, sorry to hear that. Breakups hurt, but it will get better once you're able to move past it.

Oh yeah, that's a yikes. It should be an equal partnership. You make each other's lives easier, not just a one sided thing.

Agreed.

And I want to be perfectly honest too, I'm not 100% in the right. There's times where I've fucked up and not stepped up when I should have.

But at a certain point, I just got so tired of the disrespect and being talked down to all of the time. Being called out of name whenever she got mad. Or showing passion for some of my hobbies, only to be met by her annoyance at me talking about them because she doesn't care about them.

I'll admit I lost my passion for the relationship because it just felt like a constant ball of negativity hovering over me.

inloveanddeath0 posted...

She wasn't real anyway

Lol at this point, I wish

Smashingpmkns posted...

She shouldn't expect you to work 2 jobs. Should have just sat and worked on a budget for both of you and maybe dialed back your guys' lifestyle a little bit. That would have been reasonable.

She's one of those people that feels like because she's willing to do that, I should be willing to too.

MrMallard posted...

You made the right choice. It'll probably sting a lot less in about a year and a half.

Yeah. The main part that sucks is we had 4 years together. Pretty much wasted my entire mid-20s on this girl when I could have been figuring my life out and doing things on my terms. Now I'm 28 years old and I gotta start fresh.

silverpine posted...

did you have any second thoughts when you were signing the lease and going through that process initially? or were you 100% trusting that you'd be together for a long time?

To be honest, it's a long story.

Her mom is disabled (and her dad passed several years) and the mom decided to move in with a friend waaaay out in rural Texas and brought her kids with her. My girlfriend didn't really like the area, how far it was from her school nor did she get along with the homeowner, so she told me she wanted to get an apartment so she wouldn't have to deal with it. Me being a stupid, love-stricken idiot went along with it. But in the back of my mind, I knew it was way too soon and that we weren't financially, mentally or emotionally prepared for it. I just didn't speak up because I wanted her to have what she wanted.

But that's the last time I ever make a decision like that.

g0ldie posted...

sorry, man.

but yea, that sounds pretty toxic on her part.

from the outside, it's not something I see working if she's not willing to work with you on stuff like bills and other expenses.

Her thing is that if she's struggling, if I cared about her, I would do everything in my power to keep us afloat.

And honestly, I feel like it should have happened ages ago, but being forced to live together forced us to work it out.

silverpine posted...

if she wants a "second stream of income" so much she should just do tiktoks or onlyfans since that's where she heard that crap from in the first place

I will say that she does get financial aid so there's that. Except she wasn't able to enroll in classes for this semester (she recently tried to change community colleges because one school wasn't providing her with the classes she needed).

thronedfire2 posted...

any particular reason she doesn't think rent should be 50/50?

and is that $400 for one month? that's crazy, my roomate and I had 3 ACs running all day in August and ours was only 150

Yup $400 for one month. Again, thanks Texas lol. And basically what I said before, she feels like in a relationship, I should be "man enough" to step up to alleviate some financial stress off of her.

BakiHanma462 posted...

Does she have a job or is in school?

She works at Target and attends classes at community college.

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Her argument is that she still covers groceries, plus she has other expenses that I don't necessarily have to worry about (such as her car note and gas, since I work from home).

Admittedly, I've had poor spending habits when it comes to my hobbies (something I've been steadily working on), but I still make absolutely sure I'm at least able to cover our bills.

NeoShadowhen posted...

How long are you stuck living together?

I believe our lease is until July, but we'll likely see if we can break it before then. Which fucking sucks.

BLooD_WoLf posted...

definitely move if you're able to. you need to get in the right headspace after a breakup and your current situation with her around doesn't help matters. keep your head up buddy.

Thanks man.

VampireCoyote posted...

enjoy it, being single rocks

you can do whatever the heck you want now

Yeah, I guess now I've got more time to do the things I want to do, so there's that.