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Wow this morning I went to get her from her crib when she woke up and she told me she pooped. She said poop poop and sure enough she had pooped in the night. I think its a sign shes getting closer to being ready for potty training.

Holy shit I finally put her to bed awake and she settled herself down with no crying. She was always a great sleeper but around 14-15 months she suddenly hated being put down in the crib. She would always scream at the top of her lungs and fight me as I put her in. Shed cry after I left the room, 1 minute tops before she went to sleep. My husband took over most of the bedtime routine because it was killing my back. But I finally did the routine tonight and put her down and she sat quietly as I left the room. Looked at the monitor and she went to sleep. Success!

TheGoldenEel posted...

We arent at full on temper tantrums but we are at him getting very upset if you take something he wants away from him, or if you dont give him cookies or peanut butter when he wants. At this stage its easy to distract him

starting to see him play pretend more, my wife got a little people house and hell take two people and move them around the house, its very fun to watch his development in real time (being a stay at home dad and all)

Yeah thats what she was like before. Very easy to redirect. It started to change around 18 months and the tantrums started to get more frequent, longer and a little harder to redirect. Still manageable and some days are better than others.

Cherish this time you have with him! The layoff is shitty but also a blessing in disguise. This time when theyre little is so short.

Shes having more moody days. Even the daycare teacher commented that shes been more sensitive than usual. Yesterday she had a meltdown because she ate a whole pack of raspberries and wanted more but we didnt have any. So we cut her up some strawberries and she wasnt having it. Just full on screaming and a look on her face like we told her the cats died or something. I usually try to explain things gently to her and then redirect her which usually works but lately I just need to let her cry some before I attempt that. Such a little girl trying to navigate big emotions.

After that though we all lied down together on the couch to unwind for the evening and she insisted on me and my husband being next to each other and kept cuddling and kissing us both. She is a sweet kid most of the time. I know these tantrums are developmentally normal even though they are a huge pain.

markconig posted...

While this looks simple, this one was one of the most in depth things I've made so far. It's just chicken sandwiches and fries, but way too complicated. I made just about everything from scratch. I made the buns, ground chicken breast combined with pork fat, made the mayo, added some stuff to the lettuce, breaded and fried some onions, and did other stuff like make bacon and melt the cheese with a kitchen torch.

The fries were a battered nacho cheese seasoned fry. I had to buy a pound of cheddar cheese powder off Amazon. I cut the potatoes, battered them, fried them, and added the seasoning of the cheddar powder plus other spices. And I made a nacho cheese sauce to go with it.

There are so many corners you could cut to make this faster, but on cooking day this all took me around 4 hours. But I will say, those chicken patties might be the best I've ever had, fries were above average, but not the best.

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Wow that looks amazing. Sounds like a crazy amount of effort!

I could never depend on a man that way

Im sorry to hear it was bad news. Sending positive thoughts her way and I hope she has a successful pregnancy soon.

She woke up in a mood today. Just screeching at me. Screamed at me the whole time I changed her diaper. Insisted on trying to dress herself today which I tried to give her the space to do. But we dont have all day. She was walking around with one arm in her sleeve and the other not. After a few minutes of gently showing her the other sleeve I just pushed her arm through and she screamed her head off and cried for several minutes like I just murdered her pet. My OBGYN yesterday told me terrible 2s are a lie and it really starts at 18 months. Its been so true for us.

dj1200 posted...

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dj1200 posted...

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Aww theyre beautiful. The younger one looks so much like you!

TheGoldenEel posted...

my Idea of clean enough, vs my wifes is very different haha

Lol this is true for us as well but I dont consider myself a neat freak either. I just need things to be tidy and put away. It doesnt have to be spotless. A messy house gives me anxiety. We have a house cleaner every other week for all the deep cleaning stuff. Im trying to arrange my morning schedule to give myself 30 minutes every day to tidy things up so they dont pile like they have been. Well see how it goes!

TheGoldenEel posted...

Were always playing music in our house, and its so funny seeing what he reacts to.

He loves some of the music from his kids toys, like he was headbanging to Old McDonald the other day

but he also seems to like higher energy rock music. This song came up in the shuffle today and he stopped what he was doing to dance to it. He bounces, bobs his head, and pounds his chest. Not what Id call a kids song but hes into it

https://youtu.be/GRv6kYSDNgI

another song he got really into was this one:

https://youtu.be/sI_PQZvz5js

Toddler dances are so freaking cute!! My girl is obsessed with the song Feel it still by Portugal the Man. Her version of dancing is to spin in circles for the whole song lol

Im so sorry. First trimester miscarriages are very common sadly. Shes not alone in this. I hope she gets some good news against all odds.

My husband took our girl on a hike again to give me a break. I appreciate the sentiment and trying not to nag but I dont know how I can take a break when the house is a mess, dirty pots in the sink since Friday, Sunday is laundry day, toys are everywhere, etc. Ive pretty much spent the last 5 hours doing laundry and cleaning. Im so exhausted. I want him to have some time with her though. So I just didnt say anything when he said he wanted to give me a break lol

We were in the middle of doing it today but the tax lady wasnt familiar with the EV credit laws of 2022 and needed to brush up on it. Were supposed to go back later today to finish it. Really annoying.

We tried to go to H&R Block to file taxes but we had to bring her with us and it was a huge pain. Hard to get her to sit that whole time. I took her out to walk around the little center. Several ladies stopped to gawk and say how cute she was though and one insisted I needed to sign her up for modeling.

Dat_Cracka_Jax posted...

We just had a gate up until we felt they could go up and down without help. May not be an option depending how your staircase is

Yeah we have a gate too. But shes 28 lbs now and its getting to be a lot for me to carry her up and down all the time. She can go up and down fine on her own (with us behind her to catch her in case). But she just refuses to go all the way and then wants to play on the staircase. She will often get to the last step and stop there and just stand around its annoying.

Small food success. I made beef bulgogi. At first she didnt want it even with her bbq sauce but then she ate it. And then she ate another portion without any bbq sauce. She loved it!

TheGoldenEel posted...

He cant get up the chairs yet but Im sure he will once hes big enough

we have this little end table shelf where we put his toys and he just figured out how to climb up and over the second level for all the good that does him

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Lol shes like that too. Hope he doesnt turn into a table climber like ours. Its a pain in the ass to manage.

Made beef bulgogi. I got a portable grill off Amazon and its been the best purchase

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TheGoldenEel posted...

Mine just loves climbing up and down anything

my wife got these little toddler chairs and he just climbs up on them, stands up and claps, climbs back down, back and forth. Makes me so nervous

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Haha she does the same with her chair too but shes fallen a few times and learned to stop.

Does he climb your dining table? We have to tie the chairs together because she pulls them out and gets on top of the table. We also had to stow our barstools in the garage because she was climbing those and getting to the kitchen counter.

The stairs are just annoying because I want to get somewhere and not stand around on the stairs for hours. She just stands there and refuses to go all the way up or down.

Any one else have a kid that messes around on stairs? Its been a struggle ever since she learned to crawl up. She just wants to hang around on the stairs and mess around. Refuses to go all the way up or all the way down. Just stops at the last step and wants to play. Which forces us to move her and causes a meltdown. We often just carry her all the way so as to avoid it but I want her to learn that stairs are to get you somewhere and not play around on. She also refuses to hold our hand while climbing up or down.

3 nieces, all my brothers. They are 6, 5 and 1.

I tried to see if shed like cheerios and nope. She asked me for an apple instead. She just refuses any iron rich food. Ive also never met a kid who didnt like things like cereal, pancakes, cookies, chocolate, etc. She only wants fruit and pasta. Or chicken slathered in bbq sauce. The only sweet she likes is ice cream which we give her on occasion. She acts totally crazy for ice cream. Oh and she loves chips lol. I cant eat chips around her or she screams for them.

TheGoldenEel posted...

Personally Im trying to walk the line of making enough that were comfortable and not having so much responsibility.

a job where I can generally get away with working fewer than 40 hours but also with a salary to pay the bills is the ideal and beyond that I have no interest in moving to management/more responsibilities

Im trying to be ok with this. I make as much money as some friends that are managers too. I shouldnt complain. But part of it is knowing I had the promotion and turned it down and missed out on developing new skills. Doing the same thing over and over again is burning me out. And at some point I need to climb somehow. Not a lot of recruiters past 50+ in this industry.

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That sounds delicious

Braised chicken thighs in gravy with carrots, onions, garlic, celery and mushrooms.

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Not now with Californias pay transparency laws but before it was never posted but a range had to be given when asked on a call. So I always got it early on in the process and proceeded from there.

WingsOfGood posted...

you work in HR?
do you tell people to not discuss their pay?

Im a recruiter so Im technically part of HR but I dont deal with employee relations or tell them such things. Im just tasked with bringing fresh blood in.

Its cyclical. Ask any older recruiter and theyll tell you theyve been through it before. Then the economy changes and were on top of the world again. I just need to be ready to build my own agency when that happens and protect myself.

emblem-man posted...

Similar feelings are what prompted me to ask about development.

I was talking to a friend and he told me about his recent promotion and new salary and man. I'm fucking happy for him, I know he's been working hard. But it's also been the kick in my ass to make me admit that I've been slacking these past couple years and just been in a rut with some bad career decisions.

I know how you feel. I keep trying to remind myself that my friends in higher positions deal with a ton of stress that I dont so there is that. But its hard not to compare sometimes or feel like I made wrong choices. Nothing I can do to change things now though.

Feeling a wave of depression these days. I turned down a promotion around the time my daughter was born (that was initially denied because I was pregnant and only given to me a month before my return date). And since then Ive taken more steps back career wise. Its for the best because Im just not up for taking charge of a team. But cant help but sometimes feel like a failure too. Im not where I want to be. But I know Im being irrational. Im well paid. Better than most. I shouldnt feel this way. But I keep seeing people advancing while I just dont and its depressing. I dont want to keep feeling so competitive about others. I wish I could just be happy with what I have and stop comparing. But its hard. I keep wondering if I made the wrong choice in turning down the promo and leaving the company.

emblem-man posted...

That's what I've thought about as well. It seems like the best transition. Digital design stuff, FPGAs, etc. Especially with chip manufacturing stuff ramping up.
Issue is I don't really know how to make that transition. In terms of home projects.

Feels like I need to get a job within my company in order to have the resources to learn. But I might be wrong there.

Yeah a lot of EEs find their way into development by going the firmware/embedded engineering route. One of the directors of engineering I used to hire for had done that. He was on client side engineering and making bank.

NeonTentacles posted...

How was season 3?

3 was a lot better but not as good as 1 imo.

Westworld
Raised by Wolves
Season 2 of True Detective

Shes still repeating 1-10 for fun but also attempting to count objects and its hilarious. She does sometimes count correctly but most of the time starts at a random number or keeps counting higher than the objects. The funniest is she tries to say what the object is after and its gibberish. Like shell count her balls and say Three, four, five, six. Six bladabu when there are only two balls and holds her hand up with her fingers out. Its adorable.

She did count how many strawberries were on her plate correctly today and said Five. Five stawbee. So I feel like maybe its starting to connect for her.

Yeah I tried Hello Fresh and it was a pain in the ass. I can make simpler, tasty meals for cheaper and less time.

Aww congrats! Glad baby is safe. I know its going to be hard with her in the NICU but you and mom got this.

kingdrake2 posted...

it's 1$ per pound atm at the local store, unfortunately not the best time for sale due to end of the month.
have enough food just not money till the start of each month.

Yeah its crazy. Were buying more red meat and just making kbbq at home (I have a little grill). Thankfully the drumsticks were like $1 each and I made them tasty with the sauce.

I made chicken teriyaki with veggie stir fry the other day. Nothing special but I made the sauce from scratch. I normally would have used chicken thighs but the chicken was cleaned out at the store and they only had drumsticks.

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TheGoldenEel posted...

we have the same with him having somewhat low iron which means dark greens and red meat. Fortunately one of his first and favorite snacks was quinoa puffs which have a ton of the nutrients he needs, but he cant always just fill up on those

he seems to like sausage and meatballs but those also arent particularly healthy. Red meat only if we add cheese and ketchup. broccoli, kale, and spinach if we add it to scrambled egg

but coming up with new and interesting foods for him every day is also tough because he gets bored of the same foods every day

he did absolutely love when we went out for tacos last week to this place two blocks from our house. I shared some of my pastor and he couldnt get enough of it. So maybe well have to do weekly tacos

I wish she liked eggs. Ive been trying since she was 6 months old and she tosses them every single time. Shes also a bit weird in she hates a lot of sweet things like pancakes, waffles and cookies. I got her to eat some of our Korean bbq meat yesterday (with regular bbq sauce of course). Ive made veggie fritters that she sometimes likes. She also stole my taco one day that I made and then when I tried to make it another time she refused it. Spaghetti and meat sauce is always a big hit. She also likes Thai chicken coconut curry (as long as I keep the spice down). Honestly though she can like one thing one day and hate it the next. She loved grilled cheese for the longest time and now she refuses it. Theyre just finicky at this age so I wouldnt stress too much over it.

Chicken. Chicken peanut satay for example

Lebronwon posted...

The wiki page is interesting. I had no idea Salma Hayek is technically Asian

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Asian_Academy_Award_winners_and_nominees

Shes half Lebanese and Lebanon is in Asia.

Cuticrusader09 posted...

Eczema can be a sign of a food allergy/intolerance. My sister had it for many years and was on prescriptions until she eliminated the foods my kids are allergic to. No more eczema.

I have been dealing with non stop sickness since Christmas. We didnt even go anywhere. Its a trade off each week on which kid will have a new cold.

I have some eczema and psoriasis so I dont think its allergy related and its only shown up recently with the weather getting colder.

Good luck getting through all of the sickness. We were nonstop sick for 2 months after she started daycare. Shit sucks.

TheGoldenEel posted...

Cant remember if Id said this in here before but an underrated challenge of parenting is figuring out what the hell to feed him every day

he definitely likes stuff thats bad for him, loves fruits, hates veggies, doesnt care for meat most of the time

its a real struggling making sure hes getting the right nutrients every day

Solidarity. She has low iron according to the pediatrician but I cant get her to eat anything with iron in it. She hates oatmeal, veggies, and doesnt like red meat much. Ive tried making fruit smoothies and hiding spinach but she wont drink much of it.

She would eat fruit and buttered noodles all day every day if she could but I try and add something else on her plate with her safe foods. Sometimes she will try it and sometimes she wont. I dont force it because I dont want her having negative associations with food.

The only way I can get her to eat meat is if I add bbq sauce to it lol. Oh and we went out for sushi the other day and got her chicken teriyaki with rice and she loved it. I made some yesterday just for her with teriyaki sauce from scratch. She refused it and I had to add bbq sauce instead. Like what? Even my husband said my sauce tasted just like the one at the restaurant sigh

My daughter has been getting mild eczema with the weather. I have a cream I apply and make sure to put some on her face since that gets the worst of it. She loves it. She likes to have me put some in her hands for her to rub in her face. My husband isnt the best at applying lotions and I try to remind him since he handles most bath times. But this morning as he was getting her ready for daycare she pointed to the bottle and said face please. So now he wont be forgetting anymore lol

Yeah gas is shooting up ridiculously in price. We hardly use it and our bill is $180. Were using space heaters since we have solar. Ive heard of homes in my neighborhood having to pay $300-400 in SoCal.

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I dont notice Im not asking questions back until after the conversation is over and feel bad thinking they probably thought I was being rude lol

Once I realized that, I also thought I just have been rude. Its making a conscious effort to try and ask one back. It feels forced at first but eventually becomes natural.

I do it for a living now. But I used to have major social anxiety until my mid twenties. It got better as I practiced at it and forced myself out of my comfort zone. I also used to not ask people questions back and worked on trying to. I got better over time.

Ahh I told her I love you and she said it back to me with a big hug and kiss. Im crying so much

emblem-man posted...

What did you end up doing?

I binged watched Squid Game lol. I had been wanting to watch it since it first came out but never got around to it.

My husband just left to take her on a hike with him and said he wanted to give me a break. I really appreciate that. Im so tired today. Getting her ready for daycare every morning, working a full day, cooking dinner almost every night, cleaning up and playing with her for hours every evening is so exhausting. He has a little toddler backpack he carries her in. Its adorable.

ETA: I dont even know what to do with myself. Im resisting the urge to clean and do chores.

Today she counted until 10. I was just trying to teach her to count until 3 and she just kept going to our surprise. She did it a few times. I dont think she quite understands the meaning yet though because if you ask her to count how many objects are in front of her she always says two

She also knows almost all her colors. Except brown and black which we havent really practiced. And she often confuses orange for red. But other than that shes really good at them.

Shes also taken to say Ready, set go! Which I think she learned from Ms Rachel. I cant stand the show but my girl loves it and has learned a lot from the episodes. So its been on a lot recently.

Shes a few days away from 21 months and its shocking how different she is from 3 months ago. Kinda crazy to imagine what shell be like at 2.

TheGoldenEel posted...

gotta say, its a pretty great time in my sons life to be unemployed.

i had, at certain times over the past year, considered just quitting my job anyway; my wife can pick up temp shifts easily and we have decent savings to get us by

now I get a severance and hes learning so much every day. Hes so fun, learning to play with things, take things apart and put them together (like duplos etc), hes constantly bringing over books to read, and then wanting to read them like 4 times in a row, hes always giving kisses to us and the cat

glad Im not missing it

Enjoy your time with your boy! Hes seriously adorable. This is time you dont get back. It sucks that you were laid off but hopefully youll line something up and you get to spend quality time with him until then. I sometimes stress about getting laid off but sometimes secretly hope they do and give me a fat severance.

KogaSteelfang posted...

I get that you guys are being supportive, and I appreciate that, but it doesn't change the fact. I've never been popular, or well liked much(occasionally at a job I'll be liked, but that's it). I've always been the outcast, the last one chosen, the one "accidentally" left out or forgotten.

Here I am, nearly 40 years old, still waiting for my first date. Literal teenagers are outclassing me. I've had nothing. Literal nothing in that area of my life.

Whens the last time you asked someone out on a date?