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--Zero- 01/23/23 8:25:02 AM #1:	The only time Im socializing is at work and Im good at talking about the job and can get by with really small talk. When I run into someone outside of work and they want to have a conversation I go blank pretty quick. If theres drinking involved I can hold my own just fine. When talking to people I noticed theyll ask me questions and I have like no interest in asking them anything back and usually just want to go on about my life as quickly as possible lol. I do alright with texting and communicating through chat. I have like 1 friend I talk to outside of my wife and I see that friend maybe once a month or longer and thats all the socializing I need before I need to refuel. --- Sig <cite>--Zero- posted [p:971034153] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>The only time Im socializing is at work and Im good at talking about the job and can get by with really small talk. When I run into someone outside of work and they want to have a conversation I go blank pretty quick. If theres drinking involved I can hold my own just fine. When talking to people I noticed theyll ask me questions and I have like no interest in asking them anything back and usually just want to go on about my life as quickly as possible lol. I do alright with texting and communicating through chat. I have like 1 friend I talk to outside of my wife and I see that friend maybe once a month or longer and thats all the socializing I need before I need to refuel. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MarthGoomba 01/23/23 9:31:29 AM #2:	I grew up with selective mutism which ruined any chance of me developing any social skills, on top of the severe social anxiety I'm so bad at it I don't even have any online friends --- https://i.imgur.com/m6Rgs8D.jpg https://i.imgur.com/qUMZhdW.jpg https://i.imgur.com/LACtH6q.jpg <cite>MarthGoomba posted [p:971035055] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I grew up with selective mutism which ruined any chance of me developing any social skills, on top of the severe social anxietyI'm so bad at it I don't even have any online friends</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Hoodroar 01/23/23 9:31:54 AM #3:	MarthGoomba posted... I grew up with selective mutism which ruined any chance of me developing any social skills, on top of the severe social anxiety I'm so bad at it I don't even have any online friends --- sigless user logic <cite>Hoodroar posted [p:971035063] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>MarthGoomba posted...</cite><quote>I grew up with selective mutism which ruined any chance of me developing any social skills, on top of the severe social anxietyI'm so bad at it I don't even have any online friends</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BuckVanHammer 01/23/23 9:41:35 AM #4:	I'd say I'm pretty good at it. Will say you're not that bad because you know your issues, most who really suck don't realize their mistakes or simply don't care. --- Minimal, yet feature rich. https://imgur.com/bphehs8 <cite>BuckVanHammer posted [p:971035213] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I'd say I'm pretty good at it. Will say you're not that bad because you know your issues, most who really suck don't realize their mistakes or simply don't care.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CableZL 01/23/23 9:42:40 AM #5:	I'm pretty bad at it. I have social anxiety, so I generally avoid going to places where socializing would happen. --- https://i.imgtc.com/d9Fc4Qq.gif https://i.imgtc.com/BKHTxYq.gif https://i.imgtc.com/vYYIuDx.jpg <cite>CableZL posted [p:971035229] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I'm pretty bad at it. I have social anxiety, so I generally avoid going to places where socializing would happen. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ratchetrockon 01/23/23 9:44:22 AM #6:	I'm not great at it. Takes me a few months or longer to open up to ppl. Not enough time in many cases outside of a work environment --- I'm a Taurus I like collecting headphones and iems. My fave game of all time is DMC 3 SE on PC w/ style switch mod. IMO it the best button masher on earth <cite>Ratchetrockon posted [p:971035256] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I'm not great at it. Takes me a few months or longer to open up to ppl. Not enough time in many cases outside of a work environment</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ThisIsAKnoife 01/23/23 9:45:03 AM #7:	--Zero- posted... The only time Im socializing is at work and Im good at talking about the job and can get by with really small talk. When I run into someone outside of work and they want to have a conversation I go blank pretty quick. If theres drinking involved I can hold my own just fine. When talking to people I noticed theyll ask me questions and I have like no interest in asking them anything back and usually just want to go on about my life as quickly as possible lol. I do alright with texting and communicating through chat. I have like 1 friend I talk to outside of my wife and I see that friend maybe once a month or longer and thats all the socializing I need before I need to refuel. Same bro. Same to pretty much all this except I have a RL friend group I talk to online every so often. Theyre always bouncing around different games and ideas to meet more though and Im just like ehh Ima go do my own thing now this has been enough contact cya --- AFK: Attack, fight, kill!! The healer is telling you to go pull mobs. Gigabyte RTX 4090 \|\| i9-12900k \|\| 32GB DDR4 3600 \|\| ROG Strix Z690-A <cite>ThisIsAKnoife posted [p:971035265] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>--Zero- posted... </cite><quote>The only time Im socializing is at work and Im good at talking about the job and can get by with really small talk. When I run into someone outside of work and they want to have a conversation I go blank pretty quick. If theres drinking involved I can hold my own just fine. When talking to people I noticed theyll ask me questions and I have like no interest in asking them anything back and usually just want to go on about my life as quickly as possible lol. I do alright with texting and communicating through chat. I have like 1 friend I talk to outside of my wife and I see that friend maybe once a month or longer and thats all the socializing I need before I need to refuel.</quote>Same bro. Same to pretty much all this except I have a RL friend group I talk to online every so often.Theyre always bouncing around different games and ideas to meet more though and Im just like ehh Ima go do my own thing now this has been enough contact cya</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CRON 01/23/23 9:47:26 AM #9:	It's ironic because I have no issues with socializing and making conversation. I'm just anxious about literally everything else that it makes these strengths irrelevant. Also I don't find having friends "fun" and don't understand the appeal. <cite>CRON posted [p:971035298] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>It's ironic because I have no issues with socializing and making conversation. I'm just anxious about literally everything else that it makes these strengths irrelevant. Also I don't find having friends "fun" and don't understand the appeal.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MacadamianNut3 01/23/23 9:51:43 AM #10:	Would say I'm pretty decent at it. Playing organized sports from pre-K to high school, being in a fraternity (not social but they had their own house) in undergrad, interacting with people from various countries and backgrounds in grad school, and dealing with people anywhere from younger than my little sister to older than my parents at work helps a lot But I don't like dealing with big groups. Trying to actively engage with more than 5 people is extremely tiring unless I know them pretty well. My best friend in a different state thinks it's kinda weird that sometimes I'm too tired to talk on voice chat but it's literally that and not just some excuse to duck him. --- Roll Tide & Go Irish <cite>MacadamianNut3 posted [p:971035364] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Would say I'm pretty decent at it. Playing organized sports from pre-K to high school, being in a fraternity (not social but they had their own house) in undergrad, interacting with people from various countries and backgrounds in grad school, and dealing with people anywhere from younger than my little sister to older than my parents at work helps a lotBut I don't like dealing with big groups. Trying to actively engage with more than 5 people is extremely tiring unless I know them pretty well. My best friend in a different state thinks it's kinda weird that sometimes I'm too tired to talk on voice chat but it's literally that and not just some excuse to duck him.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gna647 01/23/23 9:52:36 AM #11:	Im bad at keeping small talk going so, awkward silences here and there and I hate it <cite>gna647 posted [p:971035381] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Im bad at keeping small talk going so, awkward silences here and there and I hate it </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VampireCoyote 01/23/23 9:53:42 AM #12:	Im actually really good at it. Its so exhausting though because I cant stand a lot of people. --- She/her <cite>VampireCoyote posted [p:971035404] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Im actually really good at it. Its so exhausting though because I cant stand a lot of people.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 01/23/23 9:56:31 AM #14:	I do it for a living now. But I used to have major social anxiety until my mid twenties. It got better as I practiced at it and forced myself out of my comfort zone. I also used to not ask people questions back and worked on trying to. I got better over time. <cite>Cleo_II posted [p:971035457] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I do it for a living now. But I used to have major social anxiety until my mid twenties. It got better as I practiced at it and forced myself out of my comfort zone. I also used to not ask people questions back and worked on trying to. I got better over time. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Patchwork 01/23/23 9:56:41 AM #15:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] How are men poorly socialized growing up? --- The mind is its own place, and in itself Can make a heav'n of hell, a hell of heav'n. <cite>Patchwork posted [p:971035462] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> How are men poorly socialized growing up?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
--Zero- 01/23/23 9:57:21 AM #16:	Cleo_II posted... I do it for a living now. But I used to have major social anxiety until my mid twenties. It got better as I practiced at it and forced myself out of my comfort zone. I also used to not ask people questions back and worked on trying to. I got better over time. I dont notice Im not asking questions back until after the conversation is over and feel bad thinking they probably thought I was being rude lol --- Sig <cite>--Zero- posted [p:971035471] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Cleo_II posted... </cite><quote>I do it for a living now. But I used to have major social anxiety until my mid twenties. It got better as I practiced at it and forced myself out of my comfort zone. I also used to not ask people questions back and worked on trying to. I got better over time.</quote>I dont notice Im not asking questions back until after the conversation is over and feel bad thinking they probably thought I was being rude lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Master_Bass 01/23/23 9:57:33 AM #17:	Yes, I'm awful at it and avoid it as much as I can. Yes, that won't help me improve, but my social anxiety gets the best of me sometimes. --- Many Bothans died to bring you this post. <cite>Master_Bass posted [p:971035477] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Yes, I'm awful at it and avoid it as much as I can. Yes, that won't help me improve, but my social anxiety gets the best of me sometimes. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 01/23/23 10:29:36 AM #19:	--Zero- posted... I dont notice Im not asking questions back until after the conversation is over and feel bad thinking they probably thought I was being rude lol Once I realized that, I also thought I just have been rude. Its making a conscious effort to try and ask one back. It feels forced at first but eventually becomes natural. <cite>Cleo_II posted [p:971036126] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>--Zero- posted... </cite><quote>I dont notice Im not asking questions back until after the conversation is over and feel bad thinking they probably thought I was being rude lol</quote>Once I realized that, I also thought I just have been rude. Its making a conscious effort to try and ask one back. It feels forced at first but eventually becomes natural. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DBZAOTA482 01/23/23 10:35:27 AM #21:	Not really a social butterfly. If I don't know you, I won't talk unless I need something. I have anxiety but perfectly capable of socializing. --- I'm not a victim. <cite>DBZAOTA482 posted [p:971036248] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Not really a social butterfly. If I don't know you, I won't talk unless I need something.I have anxiety but perfectly capable of socializing.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Questionmarktarius 01/23/23 10:36:30 AM #22:	Reasonably competent at it. I just don't want to. <cite>Questionmarktarius posted [p:971036272] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Reasonably competent at it. I just don't want to.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HudGard 01/23/23 10:40:22 AM #23:	On paper Im bad at it but literally every job Ive had required me to be social, manage people, build rapport, and make sales. From an RPG perspective I offset my poor stats with class choices. The downside of that is I kind of tune that out in my personal life and have trouble making connections outside work. --- You haven't set a signature for the message boards yet <cite>HudGard posted [p:971036348] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>On paper Im bad at it but literally every job Ive had required me to be social, manage people, build rapport, and make sales. From an RPG perspective I offset my poor stats with class choices. The downside of that is I kind of tune that out in my personal life and have trouble making connections outside work.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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well-excuse-me 01/23/23 10:42:26 AM #25:	DBZAOTA482 posted... Not really a social butterfly. If I don't know you, I won't talk unless I need something. like confirmation of headcanon romantic fate? [LFAQs-redacted-quote] Awesome twitch name. Marin is bae <cite>well-excuse-me posted [p:971036391] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>DBZAOTA482 posted... </cite><quote>Not really a social butterfly. If I don't know you, I won't talk unless I need something.</quote>like confirmation of headcanon romantic fate?<cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Awesome twitch name. Marin is bae</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
--Zero- 01/23/23 10:45:29 AM #26:	Cleo_II posted... Once I realized that, I also thought I just have been rude. Its making a conscious effort to try and ask one back. It feels forced at first but eventually becomes natural. Yeah Ive started to realize that lately and am trying to be aware when I do in the future. [LFAQs-redacted-quote] Its weird for me like at work I travel to different medical facilities and have to interact a lot with patients and staff. I have no issues talking to them at work or making small talk. If I meet up with someone outside of work or run into a stranger who wants to talk Ill wont know what to talk about lol --- Sig <cite>--Zero- posted [p:971036460] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Cleo_II posted... </cite><quote>Once I realized that, I also thought I just have been rude. Its making a conscious effort to try and ask one back. It feels forced at first but eventually becomes natural.</quote>Yeah Ive started to realize that lately and am trying to be aware when I do in the future.<cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Its weird for me like at work I travel to different medical facilities and have to interact a lot with patients and staff. I have no issues talking to them at work or making small talk. If I meet up with someone outside of work or run into a stranger who wants to talk Ill wont know what to talk about lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SiO4 01/23/23 11:29:02 AM #27:	Not really I am actually very good at it. I can talk to all types at all ages. By todays standards, I am above average when it comes to people. And no, not with the saccharin fakeness I see in some. I've become one of those people who when I am in town with someone at some point they are like "Do you know everyone?" Funny because I live alone with a cat. --- "Whatever the reason you're on Mars, I'm glad you're there, and I wish I was with you." ~Carl Sagan. Currently playing: Flight Simulator X.~PC <cite>SiO4 posted [p:971037289] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Not really I am actually very good at it. I can talk to all types at all ages. By todays standards, I am above average when it comes to people. And no, not with the saccharin fakeness I see in some. I've become one of those people who when I am in town with someone at some point they are like "Do you know everyone?"Funny because I live alone with a cat.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VeggetaX 01/23/23 11:29:48 AM #28:	It's ez bro --- Don't like it? Don't watch it. It's that simple Dictator of Nice Guys <cite>VeggetaX posted [p:971037305] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>It's ez bro</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gainerama 01/23/23 11:57:13 AM #30:	I'm in the other side of things. I'm extreme introvert and hate making conversation. However, when I am forced to interact in conversation, I'm very good at making small talk and the usual water cooler conversations about anything except work. I refuse to talk about work cause I hate working. <cite>Gainerama posted [p:971037908] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I'm in the other side of things. I'm extreme introvert and hate making conversation. However, when I am forced to interact in conversation, I'm very good at making small talk and the usual water cooler conversations about anything except work. I refuse to talk about work cause I hate working.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Bleuets 01/23/23 11:57:55 AM #31:	Im kinda a social butterfly just ask people about themselves they love talking about their own lives. <cite>Bleuets posted [p:971037925] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Im kinda a social butterfly just ask people about themselves they love talking about their own lives. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dj1200 01/23/23 12:14:34 PM #33:	Bleuets posted... Im kinda a social butterfly just ask people about themselves they love talking about their own lives. exactly. if you run out of things to say, ask people about themselves. ask them what they do for fun, what they're good at, what kind of movies they like, etc. --- "It was so ridiculous and I have so many feelings about it." -Virtual Energies <cite>dj1200 posted [p:971038300] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>Bleuets posted... </cite><quote>Im kinda a social butterfly just ask people about themselves they love talking about their own lives.</quote>exactly. if you run out of things to say, ask people about themselves. ask them what they do for fun, what they're good at, what kind of movies they like, etc.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sansoldier 01/23/23 12:20:33 PM #34:	I'm fine with it once I'm in the situation, but I tend to avoid them for whatever reason. I think I don't like travelling to places and would rather just stay home. Trying to find a new place so I would host instead of travel myself. --- http://www.youtube.com/user/san3711 <cite>Sansoldier posted [p:971038410] in Anyone els... [t:80321563]...</cite> <quote>I'm fine with it once I'm in the situation, but I tend to avoid them for whatever reason. I think I don't like travelling to places and would rather just stay home.Trying to find a new place so I would host instead of travel myself.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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