Did your parents push you to be outgoing and join activities growing up?

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LeoRavus
05/05/2024
09:26 AM
#1
I was just thinking about things I did as a kid. All the after school and extracurricular stuff was because my best friend's mom pushed him and he just brought me along so he wouldn't have to do it by himself.

My mom seemed to be jealous of her because she was like a hardcore PTA stay-at-home supermom and had all these connections for her kid.
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Lvaneede
05/05/2024
09:27 AM
#2
a bit but not much
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ai123
05/05/2024
09:28 AM
#3
Yes.

I wasn't forced to do anything, and could stop if I wanted, but my parents wanted to give me the opportunity to try as many things as possible.
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R1masher
05/05/2024
09:29 AM
#4
No, youngest of 9 they were pretty much done trying to parent
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FolkenRawr
05/05/2024
09:35 AM
#5
No.
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wackyteen
05/05/2024
09:36 AM
#6
My mom tried and I did some stuff but I was never that interested.

I want to do my own thing.
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Evening_Dragon
05/05/2024
09:46 AM
#7
They put me in every ball sport against my will, so now I only like combat sports. Slowly gained an appreciation for football in my adult life.
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Dungeater
05/05/2024
09:49 AM
#8
yep, they forced me into a decade of baseball, football, soccer, bowling, karate, boy scouts

i hated it all. all of it. every last second of every last day. bowling was fine

but fuck, i do not get along with sports kids in the slightest. i made zero friends at any of these, meanwhile i made tons of friends in and out of school

plus i just fuckin hate sports
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specialkid8
05/05/2024
09:49 AM
#9
My mom made me do cub scouts and swimming but I quit swimming after two years because I didn't like it. She also tried to surprise me by just putting me in the van one night and taking me to join a basketball team. I told her to take me right home. I still don't know why she thought I wanted to play basketball. Got into sports on my own in middle school.
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Enderknight17
05/05/2024
09:51 AM
#10
Nah, not really. I was in Scouts, though. I enjoyed scouts a lot as we had a very active troop and I learned a ton of skills. Wish I would have gotten Eagle..
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Enclave
05/05/2024
09:52 AM
#11
They put me in various sports and I'd have to do one season then I could quit. Had to be in one sport though for the physical activity, I couldn't just be a lump.

The sport I stuck with the longest was various martial arts.

I do the same with my daughter and so far she's been sticking with Hapkido but I'm pretty sure she's going to drop it in the next year or so for competitive swimming as she seems to enjoy swimming far more than martial arts.
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XxKrazyChaosxX
05/05/2024
10:10 AM
#12
Baseball when I was 7 or 8, hated every second of it. It took 2 years of me showing absolutely no interest in it at all for them to pull me out midseason. I think it was after the coach that year probably said something to them too about it.

It always annoyed me looking back on it that my parents did that too. I never watched or talked about baseball when I was a kid and nor did my parents lol.
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LeCh0nk
05/05/2024
10:21 AM
#13
No... and now as an adult I really wish they would have. At least a couple.
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LeoRavus
05/05/2024
10:31 AM
#14
XxKrazyChaosxX posted...
Baseball when I was 7 or 8, hated every second of it. It took 2 years of me showing absolutely no interest in it at all for them to pull me out midseason. I think it was after the coach that year probably said something to them too about it.

It always annoyed me looking back on it that my parents did that too. I never watched or talked about baseball when I was a kid and nor did my parents lol.

I was forced into t-ball. I'm pretty sure my friend's mom set that up and my dad ended up being a coach, probably through her because he didn't know anyone. I sucked and could barely hit the ball off the t. Hated it and dad was an ass because I was horrible.
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DoesntMatter
05/05/2024
10:34 AM
#15
lol no, my parents didn't push me to do anything
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ToteAll
05/05/2024
10:34 AM
#16
Not at all, I did a bit, my parents are far more antisocial than I am though.
kirbymuncher
05/05/2024
10:35 AM
#17
A little bit, but not very hard and they stopped when it was clear I didn't like something (which was most of the time)

only one I really stuck with was learning piano
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wackyteen
05/05/2024
10:35 AM
#18
Unless a (single) parent is forcing their kid into a sport so they (the parent) have opportunities to uh... Mingle, I never understood forcing your kid into a sport they don't enjoy. At that point you're inconveniencing yaself.

Least, if they're dropping the kids off and abandoning them with some other adults and kids, you know they going off to get alone time with themselves or someone else.

Like I understand maybe forcing the issue for a few practices just to see if it catches their interest but the kid also should have at least exhibited an interest in whatever.

Though I guess if parents were even a modicum better parents on the whole we'd be a better society for it
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kind9
05/05/2024
10:37 AM
#19
They sure tried.
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tankboy
05/05/2024
10:38 AM
#20
I always had to do at least one sport until I was old enough to be on at least one school team. Once I got really into computers, I had to do outdoor day camps to "stay balanced". In upper school I had to either work or do something academic outside of school. Even though I would have preferred to sit around, all of the above were for the best, and I plan to do similar for my kid.

Edit: I was also forced to take an instrument of my choice, but I sucked so bad at it they they finally let me quit.
furb
05/05/2024
10:41 AM
#21
My parents never had any rules though about how much time I spent outside or how many sports/clubs I joined. I always wanted to be part of things so there was no need to push me.

I played baseball and basketball in elementary school, in the local youth league. I was a waterboy for the varsity football team 6th grade and full time manager for the middle school team that year. In 7th and 8th, I ran track, played basketball, and played on the middle school football team.

In high school, I ran varsity cross county and jv basketball for two years. I lost interest in the sports teams though by my junior year and stopped. I still played backyard and pickup sports a lot though.

I did cub scouts. We stopped having a troop and there was no local boy scouts. I was secretary of high school club two years and its president my senior year.

I still need lots of alone time and I loved video games. So I did phase out activities by the end of high school. It was too much and it ran my batteries down. I still like people and going out, but my energy and interests changed as an adult. I am less social and more independent now. Work and life stress and obligations make me not want to do things with my free time lol. It was easy to find time as a kid when I had no obligations and I had limitless energy.
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GrandConjuraton
05/05/2024
10:41 AM
#22
My parents are introverts and never found much value in letting me socialize, and it severely stunted my growth, :/
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Choco
05/05/2024
10:42 AM
#23
they signed me up for sports without telling me
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Jiek_Fafn
05/05/2024
11:20 AM
#24
Yes
I did not care for it. I stuck with various forms of baseball the longest since I was required to do very little beyond practices. I predominantly played third base, so not a lot of action over there.

That said, I did enjoy things like playing touch football with neighborhood kids. I just didn't enjoy any kind of commitment to a league. I just wanted to have fun and not have added pressure.

Beyond that, girls liked me from like 12 on up, so I preferred to socialize in an environment that included them.
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LonelyStoner
05/05/2024
11:24 AM
#25
My parents werent exactly the most supportive of me in terms of being social and making friends.

When I moved away and got a lift ops position in Colorado they were blown away that I became a decent snowboarder with several buddies.
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a-c-a-b
05/05/2024
11:43 AM
#27
I played baseball and hockey from age 5 to 15.

I wasn't really forced to do it though. I liked it although I started losing interest when I became a teenager and eventually quit.

In general I was a pretty active and social kid without needing to be pushed by my parents. I always had friends and loved doing stuff outside.
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coolcono
05/05/2024
11:45 AM
#28
I didn't have the coordination or competitiveness for sports, but my dad pushed me anyway.
I didn't have the energy for music lessons, but my mom pushed me anyway.
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gatorsPENSbucs
05/05/2024
11:46 AM
#29
Not really, I was pretty outgoing and wanted to do a bunch of activities myself and they were cool with it.
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DaxNovalis
05/05/2024
12:01 PM
#31
No, I never really joined up with anything. Just wasn't interested. I was outside playing all the time, anyway, so my parents weren't that concerned.
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05/05/2024
10:03 AM
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harley2280
05/05/2024
12:29 PM
#33
No in elementary/middle school. We lived in a very rural area where the majority of students were non-white. My parents are extremely racist. I wasn't even allowed to invite friends over, or talk about being friends with most other kids during that time.
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wackyteen
05/05/2024
01:27 PM
#34
totalnerdken posted...
Yes and no. They only put me in stuff they wanted me to learn, very few times was it something I expressed interest in.

I think for soccer, my dad deliberately put me on the most competitive coaches team he could find. This guy put me on the sidelines for a few games after I did not fake an injury in one of the games. He was super dissapointed and told me to fake it next time, when I said no, he got upset.
Ah yes continue to injure yourself for... A pointless youth soccer league
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EndOfDiscOne
05/05/2024
01:35 PM
#36
The activities were good for me, but my dad never understood why I couldnt just walk up to someone and start a conversation. The pressure to make me behave like a normal, outgoing person really fueled my social anxiety.
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Ratchetrockon
05/05/2024
01:45 PM
#37
they forced me to play basketball for a bit in elementary school. I hated it. They stopped caring about this stuff early on when they realized I did not have the passion for team sports. I was very passive while playing. They also wanted me to join the boy scouts but nah I'm not into that.

I did some extracurriculars in highschool during junior year because I wanted to experience them at least once. I did cheerleading for the first semester then did track 2nd semester (tho i quit early because I had a scare with my heart but I kept this a secret at the time). My parents were supportive of both ofc.
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