If memory serves it was originally from Camp Hyrule - that silly Zelda-themed online summer camp that NoA did doe a few years.
yeah back in middle school on AIMOh yes I forgot to mention that for my online gf communication was primarily over AIM. What a moment in time that was.
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Can someone explain to me how someone can have a girlfriend they never met in person?
Can someone explain to me how someone can have a girlfriend they never met in person? I understand that these things sometimes end up with people meeting and then being successful (couple good examples above). But before you have actually met in person, how is she your girlfriend?Because you both agree to be a couple and be exclusive to each other.
Because you both agree to be a couple and be exclusive to each other.I get the process and it makes sense. But I think it is weird to use the term "girlfriend" for someone you have never met. A different word is needed IMO. Maybe I am just old lol
Obviously there was no physical intimacy, but the goal was to eventually meet in person, so we still treated each other like a boyfriend and girlfriend. We talked on the phone almost daily and talked about things we'd like to do together.
It's not the same as online dating where you're matching with multiple people and trying to meet up ASAP. You acknowledge that the distance will be a significant barrier, but you still want to try and make an exclusive relationship work.
Like in the case of my online girlfriend, she lived over 1,200 miles away. I wouldn't make the effort to meet someone that far away without committing to her first. I only bailed because her mood swings started making me feel like I was walking on eggshells because I never knew what new thing would set her off.
But I think it is weird to use the term "girlfriend" for someone you have never met.It's a case of semantics, honestly. Using the term is believing you've earned the right to use the term along with everyone else who uses the term, ie. people with relationships. It's that big social pressure to be someone who is in a relationship.
A different word is needed IMO. Maybe I am just old lolWell there's the adjective "online". I think that'd cover it.
Once. We met on an online 3rd person korean shooter. We'd have calls on skype and play together. I cut it after not too long realizing it wasn't going to work. I can remember her username but not her real name lol.
It's a case of semantics, honestly. Using the term is believing you've earned the right to use the term along with everyone else who uses the term, ie. people with relationships. It's that big social pressure to be someone who is in a relationship.I have seen a couple times where someone has said that they have had girlfriends (didn't say "online") and then also reveal that they have never kissed a girl. It's clearly not the same. It is like someone saying they have had a girlfriend before, only to find out it was in kindergarten and they just pushed each other over on the playground.
Well there's the adjective "online". I think that'd cover it.
GunZ? Surprised I still remember thatClose. S4 League. I don't think it was as known as GunZ was but it was similar in terms of the gameplay.
I have seen a couple times where someone has said that they have had girlfriends (didn't say "online") and then also reveal that they have never kissed a girl. It's clearly not the same. It is like someone saying they have had a girlfriend before, only to find out it was in kindergarten and they just pushed each other over on the playground.I wouldn't call it a solidly defined term to begin with. The way I figure, if you can say in public "I have a girlfriend" and she can say "I am their girlfriend" then you've got a girlfriend, and it doesn't need to be any more specific than that.
I know this sounds like I am making fun of it all, but I am not. There is nothing wrong with it, and sometimes it can lead to something in-person in time. But it IS different prior to actually meeting.Yeah I don't think anyone was suggesting it's not different.
So yeah, I am arguing semantics and probably sounding really condescending in the process.Maybe a little, but I'm just trying to explain it in terms of my own experience. It's less about kissing or sex or proximity as it is an intimacy between the two people involved. Being able to share things they wouldn't share with other friends.
I wouldn't call it a solidly defined term to begin with. The way I figure, if you can say in public "I have a girlfriend" and she can say "I am their girlfriend" then you've got a girlfriend, and it doesn't need to be any more specific than that.Thank you for the polite responses, because it would have been easy to snap at me.
Yeah I don't think anyone was suggesting it's not different.
Maybe a little, but I'm just trying to explain it in terms of my own experience. It's less about kissing or sex or proximity as it is an intimacy between the two people involved. Being able to share things they wouldn't share with other friends.
as it is an intimacy between the two people involved. Being able to share things they wouldn't share with other friends.
Good post. Ironically a lot of people who demean online relationships don't actually have the above in their IRL relationships.This is certainly true.
This is certainly true.
I hope it is clear I wasn't trying to be demeaning
This is certainly true.I feel like it was clear. And you're not usually the type to be demeaning anyway. I just wasn't sure how else to explain it, so I'm glad CyricZ gave more insight.
I hope it is clear I wasn't trying to be demeaning
I didn't take it that way.Cool
Cool
I think my "issue" is how much of a priority I put on physical touch in a relationship. I think it is #1 on my love language test. And I don't necessarily mean sex, as I am a big time cuddler and hand holder.
Yeah, about *12ish* years ago. That online relationship became an in-person one eventually and now we're married *for 10 years in July*.This with edits *