Current Events > Critique my break up text that I'm sending

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We've been on two dates and I did kiss her on the first date, I thought there could be some potential but after the second date I was having second thoughts. Kinda found out we don't have the same interests really and our communication styles are very different, she loves to constantly text and I hate it.

But after I told her that we maybe shouldn't see each other again she kinda went off on me. Saying I was just like the rest of them (other men) and that I walked all over her heart. Thing is, she never really asked me any questions on the dates so she doesn't know who I am or what I've been through, and I've tried to include that into the text.

Anyway, one of the last questions she asked me was "don't you want to be in a relationship?!

I appreciate you being honest and vulnerable with me, I've tried to be the same to you too. I wasn't originally planning on telling anyone that I hadn't been on a date in over 5 years. That's pretty embarrassing.

Yes, I would like to be in a relationship. Hell, I've never really been in one. But I think I'm learning that I don't need one so if it's not a super good fit I'm not going to try and push things. I'm attracted to you so down the line if things got physical it could get worse and cause way more damage to each of us and for sure break someone's heart, and that's not what I'm trying to do.

She's with Chad now

Not even reading the first post because there's no break up text worth posting.

Do it in person, this isn't high school.

Weak

Does it count as breaking up if you guys weren't technically even a couple yet?

too long, especially if you've only been on two dates with her. that's the break up text you send to someone who you've dated long enough to give an explanation, but not long enough to warrant breaking up in person (like 3 weeks relationship)

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I guess break up was the wrong word. We've been on two dates over 3 weeks, that is not near long enough to warrant that.

Maybe I should just ghost at this point. I'm sure a lot of people would do that and not have to deal with any of this.

Umbreon posted...

Not even reading the first post because there's no break up text worth posting.

Do it in person, this isn't high school.

to be fair if TC only went on two dates, he doesnt really owe it to her to say it in person.

if you dont like the situation youre in bail. dont be in a relationship with someone youre uncomfortable being around or cant talk to especially if they dont reciprocate.

however, i will say one thing you gotta start texting TC. thats how it is, nobody talks unless its in-person. all of the information exchanged is better suited via text and followed-up in-person.

jediknight0056 posted...

Maybe I should just ghost at this point

poltergeist her.
it's like ghosting where you cut contact, but then you wait a few years then text her out of the blue saying that it won't work out and you're sorry but you have to stop things before the relationship gets any more serious.

jediknight0056 posted...

I guess break up was the wrong word. We've been on two dates over 3 weeks, that is not near long enough to warrant that.

Maybe I should just ghost at this point. I'm sure a lot of people would do that and not have to deal with any of this.

Bruh.

Also depends, if the shoe was on the other foot would you be fine with being ghosted?

WalkingPlague posted...

however, i will say one thing you gotta start texting TC. thats how it is, nobody talks unless its in-person. all of the information exchanged is better suited via text and followed-up in-person.

It's okay if it's sparse throughout the day, I can handle that. But holding conversations through it, no thanks. She would kinda freak out and ask if I'm still there when it's been an hour since I last responded. And I would try and put in some effort like, 'how's babysitting going?' and she just says "good", nothing else. That drives me crazy.

Umbreon posted...

Also depends, if the shoe was on the other foot would you be fine with being ghosted?

This would barely count as ghosting though, I've already told her that I don't think we should meet again. It just wouldn't be a formal goodbye.