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LightningAce11
05/24/23 5:03:02 PM
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My husband loves to travel and always either pays for, or gets an upgrade into, the first-class cabin. When we travel together with our children, he buys himself a ticket in first class and puts us in economy or economy plus. He even did this recently on an overnight flight to Paris. He justifies flying alone in first class because of the cost, and the fact that our kids (12 and 16) might feel alone if I were to travel in first with him and leave them in the rear cabin. I feel that this is unfair.

I don't think our kids would mind if they were in economy plus and my husband and I sat together in first class. Is that unfair of me to want? My husband has suggested traveling alone on a different flight ahead of us so that we don't feel badly about the disparity, but this does not really address or solve the problem of the inherent selfishness in his thinking. Am I wrong? We are happy to travel, and love going places together, but it is still very strange. Name Withheld

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/19/magazine/first-class-ethics.html

What do you think?

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YourBestFrenemy
05/24/23 5:04:05 PM
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Shit human being.

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Irony
05/24/23 5:04:10 PM
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I think she should divorce him and then use the money that she gets from alimony to fly first class

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Swagger_Dagger
05/24/23 5:04:21 PM
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He pays. He chooses. Is it douchey? Yes. Unfair? absolutely not.

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Sandalorn
05/24/23 5:04:43 PM
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YourBestFrenemy posted...
Shit human being.


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Cornmuffins
05/24/23 5:06:12 PM
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Sounds like she only really cares about her own comfort level

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andel
05/24/23 5:06:14 PM
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seems trashy as fuck. if he can't afford for the whole family to fly fc why is he wasting money on flying fc himself?

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itachi15243
05/24/23 5:06:49 PM
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What an asshole

But, she not exactly much better. I feel bad for the kids

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andel
05/24/23 5:07:53 PM
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itachi15243 posted...
What an asshole

But, she not exactly much better. I feel bad for the kids

this too. she seems like she also doesn't gaf about the kids

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AngelsNAirwav3s
05/24/23 5:08:36 PM
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If they are only getting 1 first class ticket then it should be a rotation between the whole family

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Swagger_Dagger
05/24/23 5:09:05 PM
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Why are people trashing the wife? Wtf it is fucking weird for the husband.

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Swagger_Dagger
05/24/23 5:09:47 PM
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AngelsNAirwav3s posted...
If they are only getting 1 first class ticket then it should be a rotation between the whole family
It should be whoever the person who is paying chooses. In this case, its the father.

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Solar_Crimson
05/24/23 5:10:36 PM
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Swagger_Dagger posted...
He pays. He chooses. Is it douchey? Yes. Unfair? absolutely not.
Swagger_Dagger posted...
Why are people trashing the wife? Wtf it is fucking weird for the husband.
Forget to switch alts?

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Swagger_Dagger
05/24/23 5:12:11 PM
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Solar_Crimson posted...
Forget to switch alts?
No. Its a pretty weird thing for a father to do and wife should feel like its weird. Not sure why people are coming for her. On the other hand, he is the one paying so its fair for him to do whatever the fuck he wants.

edit: wait wait I didnt read the part where she would do first class with him and leave the kids in economy. LOL what? The family is fucked.

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Anarchy_Juiblex
05/24/23 5:12:30 PM
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Swagger_Dagger posted...
He pays. He chooses. Is it douchey? Yes. Unfair? absolutely not.

This.

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garan
05/24/23 5:12:33 PM
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itachi15243 posted...
What an asshole

But, she not exactly much better. I feel bad for the kids


This.
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A_Good_Boy
05/24/23 5:13:41 PM
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I really don't get how people are finding any sort of fault with the wife in this situation. She's bad because she dares to complain that the father is being an asshole?

Nevermind, I somehow managed to miss the first sentence of the second paragraph. Yeah she definitely seems like an asshole too. She's only mad that she's being left behind and she's using her kids as a cudgel to attack the father.

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Agonized_rufous
05/24/23 5:14:25 PM
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She should be happy that she has opportunity to travel the world. My father bought first class tickets to the county hotel and traveled to strange womens houses

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buddhamonster
05/24/23 5:14:49 PM
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I was with the wife... until she reasoned that, she should also get to go to first class, but still leave the kids behind in coach.

She's perfectly willing to ditch her own kids behind so long as she gets a little comfort as well? And I'm supposed to view her as the better person in that scenario?

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BurmesePenguin
05/24/23 5:15:19 PM
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I'd divorce

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Sandalorn
05/24/23 5:15:54 PM
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A_Good_Boy posted...
I really don't get how people are finding any sort of fault with the wife in this situation. She's bad because she dares to complain that the father is being an asshole?


Read the article again...

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TheDurinator
05/24/23 5:17:38 PM
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They're both assholes and stories like this are why there are accelerationists.
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andel
05/24/23 5:18:57 PM
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buddhamonster posted...
I was with the wife... until she reasoned that, she should also get to go to first class, but still leave the kids behind in coach.

She's perfectly willing to ditch her own kids behind so long as she gets a little comfort as well? And I'm supposed to view her as the better person in that scenario?

this. the father is trashy af for getting fc tickets only for himself but the wife doesn't give a shit about the kids, she just wants to also be in fc. if he can't afford fc tickets for the entire family it is weird as hell he is buying one

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YourBestFrenemy
05/24/23 5:21:19 PM
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buddhamonster posted...
I was with the wife... until she reasoned that, she should also get to go to first class, but still leave the kids behind in coach.

She's perfectly willing to ditch her own kids behind so long as she gets a little comfort as well? And I'm supposed to view her as the better person in that scenario?

The kids aren't being ditched, they're all in a fucking tube. And who knows, the kids might actually think it would be neat to sit on their own.

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thronedfire2
05/24/23 5:22:34 PM
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Swagger_Dagger posted...
Why are people trashing the wife? Wtf it is fucking weird for the husband.

because she doesn't really care about the kids, she just wants to be in first class herself\

and this is probably fake anyway

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Pitlord_Special
05/24/23 5:24:51 PM
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Seems weird since Id rather sit next to my (hypothetical) wife than some rando regardless of what level of seat it was.

Also the kids are 12 and 16. I think they can handle being away from mommy for awhile (unless they had some sort of disorder)

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Irony
05/24/23 5:25:54 PM
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thronedfire2 posted...
because she doesn't really care about the kids, she just wants to be in first class herself\

and this is probably fake anyway
Are you telling me that someone on the internet would lie

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hyperpowder
05/24/23 5:31:53 PM
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If my wife made all the money and paid all the bills, I wouldnt give a flying fuck to sit in coach if she wants to be in first class. If I want to be in first class I would use my own money l.

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Prismsblade
05/24/23 5:36:45 PM
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If She wants first class then get a job and pay for it herself.

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ai123
05/24/23 5:42:29 PM
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People who are this much of a controlling selfish prick about one thing . . .

Well, it's never just one thing.

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LightningAce11
05/24/23 7:12:55 PM
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Reminds me of that bit from Seinfeld tbh.

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divot1338
05/24/23 7:19:00 PM
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So the other options being the mom or one of the kids gets upgraded to first class?

Because while Im sure the mom would prefer to stay with them, those kids are going to be a nightmare with dad in charge.

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ANort175
05/24/23 7:20:16 PM
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NoxObscuras
05/24/23 7:21:16 PM
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Wtf? I was on the wife's side until she suggested "I don't think our kids would mind if they were in economy plus and my husband and I sat together in first class"

It should be all or nothing. As in the whole family is in first class or the whole family is in economy.

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bladegash
05/24/23 7:33:39 PM
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My wife has no income aside from this incoming dick so I would either buy a first class ticket for all of us, or if finances were an issue then simply not buy a single first class ticket to begin with.

I can't imagine being in a marriage with someone where either of us prefer being separated when traveling with a group of possible kidnappers, rapists, murderers or even worse fundamentalist christians.

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Zikten
05/24/23 7:34:06 PM
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Irony posted...
I think she should divorce him and then use the money that she gets from alimony to fly first class
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Zikten
05/24/23 7:34:36 PM
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Swagger_Dagger posted...
He pays. He chooses. Is it douchey? Yes. Unfair? absolutely not.
She is paying too. Married couples share their funds. It's her money too
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Billyionaire
05/24/23 7:37:14 PM
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Holy smokes this is as first world as problems can get I think

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Cuticrusader09
05/24/23 7:42:21 PM
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Pitlord_Special posted...
Seems weird since Id rather sit next to my (hypothetical) wife than some rando regardless of what level of seat it was.

Also the kids are 12 and 16. I think they can handle being away from mommy for awhile (unless they had some sort of disorder)

There are fucking creeps everywhere. I would not leave my kids on a flight alone. I dont know if they would know how to handle someone touching them inappropriately or just freeze up.
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divot1338
05/24/23 7:42:26 PM
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Honey those miles are non-transferable. k byeeeeeee!

*closes curtain to first class*

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Smashingpmkns
05/24/23 7:42:54 PM
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Someone's gotta watch the kids I guess

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tremain07
05/24/23 7:44:46 PM
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This legit sounds like a "Only together for social benefits" marriage, one or both of them are definitely cheating on each other

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Zikten
05/24/23 7:46:56 PM
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Smashingpmkns posted...
Someone's gotta watch the kids I guess
Why can't the mom and dad take turns on who gets the first class seat?
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divot1338
05/24/23 7:48:06 PM
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Zikten posted...
Why can't the mom and dad take turns on who gets the first class seat?
Because the FAA.

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Glob
05/24/23 7:56:24 PM
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If Im going to go first class, which I do on longer flights, and my girlfriend is coming with me, I always pay for her to go first class too. She cant afford to fly first class really, but I like having her with me.
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Zikten
05/24/23 7:58:28 PM
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divot1338 posted...
Because the FAA.
I dont mean on the same flight. I mean on different flights

Family goes to Italy this summer? Mom gets first class

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DrizztLink
05/24/23 8:02:32 PM
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Yeah, fuck both of them.

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VampireCoyote
05/24/23 8:03:53 PM
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As long as whoever paid for it made the choice then I think thats fair


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divot1338
05/24/23 8:05:05 PM
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Wife flies coach.

Pay $50 per child and have them fly as checked luggage.

Steal everyones peanuts for myself.

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