Current Events > What's the worst thing a girl has ever done to you?

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lies/manipulation/being mean/stringing along, things like that.

I'll start. I once had a girl "buy" me a bunch of cool clothes and then take cool pictures of us in them. Turns out, she was staging all these pictures as a way to make this guy jealous and told me I had no chance in hell of ever getting with her. She once came with me to an event as my "date" and disappeared for 20 minutes where she was found sucking off someone she just met in the bathroom. I left the event in shame and embarrasment and blocked her on everything. That's life but I still get so mad thinking about how I let myself be abused and strung along like that.

Used my money to buy drugs.
Throw things like plates and glasses at me.
Slap, kick, punch me.
Cheated.
Lying.

To name a few things

Dressed up fancy, when going out with "the girls".
Well, I soon put a stop to that shit.

This girl told me she wanted to party with me so she sent me to the store to get beer. When I got back she had another dude over and they took the beer I bought.

Timmyjinkle posted...

Dressed up fancy, when going out with "the girls".
Well, I soon put a stop to that shit.

i don't understand this.

bigtiggie23 posted...

This girl told me she wanted to party with me so she sent me to the store to get beer. When I got back she had another dude over and they took the beer I bought.

this is bad but you left right? Right???

Spent over a decade living together, bought a house together and all that jazz.

Then she told me that shed only ever been with me because she was insecure about being alone, and that while I had been good to her, she had never really cared about me in any meaningful way. Then she asked if we could still be friends.

Multiple cases of infidelity. Manipulation, lies, gaslighting. The usual stuff.

Timmyjinkle posted...

Dressed up fancy, when going out with "the girls".
Well, I soon put a stop to that shit.

Was she actually going out with the girls and you were just being insecure? Or did she genuinely cheat on you?

Virgalyssa posted...

Was she actually going out with the girls and you were just being insecure? Or did she genuinely cheat on you?

She don't need to dress up so fancy when going out with her girlfriends, a sweater is good enough. I explained it to her, and she got where I was coming from. I said it would be like if me and the boys were going to Las Vegas to the moonlite Bunny Ranch, she wouldn't like it.
So, we compromised like adults.

Glob posted...

Spent over a decade living together, bought a house together and all that jazz.

Then she told me that shed only ever been with me because she was insecure about being alone, and that while I had been good to her, she had never really cared about me in any meaningful way. Then she asked if we could still be friends.

Wow. How did you react? are you still friends? how long did it take you to move on?

She made me think I had a friend, but it was not even close.

Are you a legit virgin TC? Has to suck getting that close but not all the way

Bitter_Virgin posted...

this is bad but you left right? Right???

Nah I like to watch.

Bitter_Virgin posted...

Wow. How did you react? are you still friends? how long did it take you to move on?

We are not still friends.

Depends what you mean by move on. I was sleeping with other women a couple of weeks later. About 3 months after the break up I moved to the other side of the world. Went on a date the day my plane landed. The girl I went on the date with is my girlfriend now. Its been six months since I got here.

Date me

Bitter_Virgin posted...

this is bad but you left right? Right???

Yeah it was made clear my attendance was no longer required. I did get with her a couple times after that though.

Glob posted...

Spent over a decade living together, bought a house together and all that jazz.

Then she told me that shed only ever been with me because she was insecure about being alone, and that while I had been good to her, she had never really cared about me in any meaningful way. Then she asked if we could still be friends.

Da fuck

NeonTentacles posted...

Da fuck

That was my feeling at the time.

Kick me in the nuts

Timmyjinkle posted...

She don't need to dress up so fancy when going out with her girlfriends, a sweater is good enough. I explained it to her, and she got where I was coming from. I said it would be like if me and the boys were going to Las Vegas to the moonlite Bunny Ranch, she wouldn't like it.
So, we compromised like adults.

You sound toxic, insecure and jealous

I've never talked to one yet

I can't think of any isolated incident that is horrible, but my ex wife slowly destroyed my confidence and self esteem

Claimed I assaulted her, so I had the privilege of spending 10 hours in jail.

I got the last laugh though. Loaded up with a lawyer who normally handles murders and trafficking charges and he pretty much wiped his ass with her bullshit claims and her court appointed lawyers suit.

I don't think I should talk about it here. It makes me extremely emotional anyway and I wish I could forget it

Ghosted me after promising there'd be a second date. That's putting it simply, because I don't feel like being detailed about it again.

Made my dick bleed via a dry handjob, which embarassed her so much that I haven't seen her since.

Got pregnant with someone else's baby

Intro2Logic posted...

Made my dick bleed via a dry handjob, which embarassed her so much that I haven't seen her since.

I remember thhat lol

I met a girl on FFXIV and she showed interest in me and we talked on Skype and video chat and stuff but she was also doing this with other guys and I sorta knew that already but I felt special and she was hot. Then every time I'd tell her it was okay to be friends because I didn't like being strung along, she'd double down and make it like she was in love with me every time I'd back off and then pull me right back.

Found out later that this one guy who I was 'rivals' with was also in the same situation and we actually connected so there was at least something good that came out of it.

Glob posted...

Spent over a decade living together, bought a house together and all that jazz.

Then she told me that shed only ever been with me because she was insecure about being alone, and that while I had been good to her, she had never really cared about me in any meaningful way. Then she asked if we could still be friends.

I'm engaged, and this is my biggest fear

A lady I matched with on okcupid showed my profile all around to people she knew, till she found people that knew me. Then she dug up info on me, like where I live and worked. Then showed up unannounced at work with gifts.

Then proceeded to tell me how I wasn't good enough to be with, and that she would never be with a man like me. So, we agreed to not proceed any further.

Then she continued to show up at my job with gifts, and teasing me. Then started talking about how good of a match we were, that she'd love to have me father a child with her,band telling me dreams she had about us... Only to shoot me down again and proceed to tell me about the other guys she was sleeping with and how good they were, and that I could never live up to them.

I eventually just had to cut all ties with her. She was really shredding my mental health with every visit.

Drawing a bit of a blank tbh. Most of my bad experiences have been with men.

Only thing I can think of is a girl who stabbed me with a pencil back in elementary. But I then threatened to smack her with a chair so I feel like I was probably the villain of that story. Or most stories tbh, I can get surprisingly violent when injured.

Made up shit about me in middle school to bullies she liked just because she hated me. To date she is the worst person I have ever had the misfortune of meeting.

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This kind of happened to me, but now I think that she was going back and forth over whether she wanted to go through with it before ultimately deciding not to, rather than anything truly malicious or mean spirited.

Had no idea how to kiss and a second into it I realized that she tried to "suck" my tongue and instead ripped that thin layer of skin under it, got a nasty infection and it bled for like 5 minutes straight.

Another woman, lived with me for seven years totally happy, not a single argument or fight. Told me one day she was bored. The next day, our incredibly mutual friend circle (at the time) told me in like 0.1 seconds she hooked up with a friend of ours' dad. She bailed on rent, bills, and didn't come to collect her shit from the house in almost a year. Found out she's strung out on drugs and living with a 62 year old sugar daddy. This one is wild to me. She was a max GPA honor student, wanted to be married with kids and the picket fence, and changed overnight. Drugs, I suspect.

Had a crazy ex sneak into my apartment after being broken up for over a year and she killed my pet rats. Broke in, did that, left, never talked to me again. That was a decade ago.

C-zom posted...

Another woman, lived with me for seven years totally happy, not a single argument or fight. Told me one day she was bored. The next day, our incredibly mutual friend circle (at the time) told me in like 0.1 seconds she hooked up with a friend of ours' dad. She bailed on rent, bills, and didn't come to collect her shit from the house in almost a year. Found out she's strung out on drugs and living with a 62 year old sugar daddy. This one is wild to me. She was a max GPA honor student, wanted to be married with kids and the picket fence, and changed overnight. Drugs, I suspect.

She was totes cheating on you for MONTHS ahead of that day.

No doubt about it

My ex was horrible to me and I had to deal with it because she would throw BPD tantrums and threaten to kill herself in response to any perceived inconvenience. I was trapped and she knew it. She also had BDD and had a very disturbing view towards sexuality. I was pretty much sexually assaulted the first time we ever hung out and I couldn't do anything because she would have interpreted it as me not being attracted to her, which would trigger another tantrum. She would say the most cruel, evil things to me, while having zero empathy or sympathy for me. I would spend literal sleepless nights in a row trying to talk her down from doing drastic things, and the rare time I'd have a panic attack around her she'd mock me or just flat-out say "this is fucking stupid".

She ended up cheating on me with a heroin addict she worked with while blaming me for being "too boring". We remained semi-friends for a while before she threw a tantrum after realizing she didn't know how to use a computer despite being in her mid twenties, which resulted in her spamming my phone telling me to kill myself and telling me I was worthless.

The relationship completely destroyed my self-esteem, confidence and trust in other people. It ruined sex and intimacy for me to the point where I've regressed into this mindset of it being "dirty". And I've had to put up with a lot of people somehow blaming me for it, telling me "you shoulda left bro".

Gave me a handy in the car and then wiped it all over my brand new shirt

Why did you delete that @cron ?

Called me while I was deployed to Afghanistan and told me its over a month before I ended a year long deployment.

Atralis posted...

Called me while I was deployed to Afghanistan and told me its over a month before I ended a year long deployment.

While that would suck, it might be better than her pretending until you were back, then pretending a bit longer because she wants you to get settled

At least you knew.

C-zom posted...

Had no idea how to kiss and a second into it I realized that she tried to "suck" my tongue and instead ripped that thin layer of skin under it, got a nasty infection and it bled for like 5 minutes straight.

Another woman, lived with me for seven years totally happy, not a single argument or fight. Told me one day she was bored. The next day, our incredibly mutual friend circle (at the time) told me in like 0.1 seconds she hooked up with a friend of ours' dad. She bailed on rent, bills, and didn't come to collect her shit from the house in almost a year. Found out she's strung out on drugs and living with a 62 year old sugar daddy. This one is wild to me. She was a max GPA honor student, wanted to be married with kids and the picket fence, and changed overnight. Drugs, I suspect.

Had a crazy ex sneak into my apartment after being broken up for over a year and she killed my pet rats. Broke in, did that, left, never talked to me again. That was a decade ago.

As an addict I can tell you that drugs will fucking ruin you but you can't help it (getting and doing them) until you get help

Not defending her, just shedding light on addiction

Flauros posted...

Why did you delete that @cron ?

It made me feel really terrible typing it, and it brought up even worse memories of the relationship. I thought venting would help but no. I've been trying to not think about it lately but I was stupid enough to want to share, and now I feel worse.

I have no choice but to constantly dwell on it because due to the nature of how emotionally abusive it was, it's probably the last relationship I'll ever have, and there's a 100% chance I won't be able to find love again. I'm too damaged and too afraid.

Glob posted...

While that would suck, it might be better than her pretending until you were back, then pretending a bit longer because she wants you to get settled

At least you knew.

This is actually how my parents handled the dogs I grew up with dying while I was in the Army. I deployed twice and each time at the end they were like "Bad news before you come back home. Dog died." When I left the Army and came home for good I asked them before I got back "the dog is still alive?" even though it was a new pup and it was only about 3 years old at that point.

Mislead and abused my trust. We literally agreed to be exclusive(her idea) then she changed her mind later that night.. then changed back the next day before finally dumping me a couple of weeks later after a holiday where I drove her around everywhere. She would also make a big deal out of nothing (called me a yes man just because I would usually take her changes of mind as a granted without pushback, often I just didn't care to argue)

Fuck she ruined dating for me lol

In 6th grade this girl out the blue just said "nobody likes you" when we were waiting to go home.

Other than that I haven't had many bad experiences with women or girl when I was younger, at least not directly.